Do you feel that ABJD's compensate for something you don't have IRL?

~ Do you feel that you 'and/or' others around you are using ABJD's to compensate for something you don't have IRL?

Inspiration. And I guess as an artist Inspiration means Motivation.

 

My doll compensates a lot: the beautiful boy I could never have as a friend or a mate (although I'm married and perfectly happy with my husband),the fairy-like looks I could never achieve, not even with all the make-up in the world. And most of all, he compensates for never meeting Michael Jackson in person (my doll is a DIM Minimee Michael Jackson). As I could never have the chance to meet the man and talk to him, I have this doll at home and I can change his looks and clothes, and restyle him, and communicate with him to my heart's content as wicked as it sounds...

 

Do you feel that ABJD's compensate for something you don't have IRL?

This is an interesting question... I am quite sure they are for me the personification of a "fantasy world" I have always loved in books and in my novels but that could not be real in any form except for the wrote one.
So every character I have created in my novels (mostly novels I have never published and I will never do) has achieved a new life in a doll form and they are not only an idea, they are real, they exsist in the space, as a phisic presence.
They are not alive, of course, as living beings, even if they are very alive in my imagination
Oh well and they are the perfect models for photos, so....

 

Nooope. I'm long past being emo over things I'll never have (boyfriend/husband, friends, adventure, blah blah etc), and I always thought attaching those feelings to my BJDs would make me sort of melancholy whenever I look at them. I want to be happy playing with them, looking at them, so I don't think of them that way. They're my characters in my story, "fleshed" out in resin, and my most precious possessions. It's a hobby, my favorite hobby, but not anything more emotional than that.

 

I am compensating for the friends that I didn't have when I was the age of my dolls (which is anywhere from 8-16) Sad huh? Hahaha, I was always the loner by choice, but I think somewhere later in life I realized on how much I had missed out on... and I bought my dolls with none of that in mind, but after some thought the past year it's sorta hit me that the main character of my story "Glass Children" (the muse is my Chiwoo, Huntyre) is exactly what I would have liked to have been when I was younger.

 

I think that the doll compensates for self hatred of my own image. Yet at the same time, it makes me love the talent I have to create something so beautiful. The dolls are made of resin- and unless you get clothes and makeup readymade when you order them they STAY resin- Though, I create clothing and I could do faceups...I can bring that hunk of resin to life.

They are more forms of creativity than compensation.

 

My first doll hasn't actually arrived yet, but I think I can answer this none the less.

I do think my doll is compensating for something. I talk to myself often. Not the back-and-forth type of conversation but I make comments on things, like yelling at characters in a movie even though I know they can't hear me. :P It makes me feel better to have something to tell these comments to, rather than the wall.

However, I do have a reason for wanting one that doesn't have to do with compensation. I love cute or beautiful things. I live art that's aesthetically pleasing and the dolls are that and you can interact with them.

 

I knew the moment I bought my first one what it ment to me.
I had just been informed that I might never be able to have kids of my own, and it nearly broke my heart.
I had been looking at ABJD for a while, and I really really did like them, I wanted one but wasnt sure I would be able to afford it. After I found out though it took me two weeks before I bought my first ABJD.
My lovely Dollmore special noir asha. I figured since I have always had such a huge mothers instinct and since I would need to channel it somehow that I would get a ABJD and just pour all my affection into her.
The doctor later told me the outlook wasnt quite as bleak as he first though, I will probably one day have my own kids, its just gona be abit harder then for other people, but I dont regret getting my dolls. My first doll saved me from utter desperation. Its not that I think of them as my kids at all, its more that I needed something to be able to fuss over and get pretty dresses for and just sit there and enjoy having the "company" of one.
I bought my first doll because I lacked something. All my other ones are because now I enjoy the hobby. My first ABJD is still very special to me, in a way I am glad for having had the push to get into ABJD because now I wouldnt be without them.

Anyway thats was my compensation, but now, I just enjoy them. At this time in my life I dont think they compensate for anything anymore, I am content with my life and the way it is looking.

 

Sadly yes. Before I got Loric it use to be that when I got angry I couldn't really do anything but stew in my feelings but now that Loric is here I vent to him. He can't stop me and tell me I'm too emotional or wimpy or he just doesn't care, he just listens.

Also there is a great possibility that I may not be able to have children of my own. Something that I've looked forward to ever since I was very little. So in a way my dolls are my children that I get to dress up, name, and take care of....


All of this makes me sound crazy. ^^;

 

I think my dolls stand for how I'd like to dress, most of all. Especially one girl I have planned in particular. I -can- pull off the stuff she wears, it's just all so bloody expensive. Making clothes for dolls is easier than making clothes for humans, that's for sure.

In regards to the emotional level, the characters I've bestowed on these dolls have traits and characteristics that I wish I could have, but alas~..

 

I don't think I live vicariously threw my dolls but I do believe each of my dolls have part of my personality within them. Isshi is my more romantic, spiritual and cultured side while Harrison is my more dark, creative and artistic side.

 

well I had to think hard about this one...but I'd have to say tatoo's and piercings...why you ask?

well it's simple.I have some really religious ppl in my family so out of respect I don't have any of the sort, I mean unless I want my family to disown me!
( which isn't a bad idea now that i think about it...lol)

 

Not only is Laika most gorgeous, he's the only one I'm not afraid to tell all my crazy story ideas too.

 

I don't think I'm compensating for anything in my life by having a BJD. The main reason I want one is because the people I want to create with them are people I greatly love from my favorite anime, at least at this point in my life. I want to be able to hold them and talk to them and...have them do all kinds of...yaoi-type things I can take pics of and show to my friends! ^_^

I guess I'm a perv and I want to have my BJDs do pervy things for me and my friends to enjoy!

Ryuichi

 

I can only speak for myself, but I know that my dolls take on different sides of my personality. I had been 100% emerged in the goth scene since high school and throughout my life until I reached around 30. That is when I decided that working at HotTopic and record stores simply didn't give me the lifestyle I wanted, so I took out (most of) my piercings, axed the dreads and zipped the eyeliner into my makeup bag for a while.
That gave me a chance to get a good paying job which in turn allowed me to afford more expensive dolls.
Now I dress them up in the way I used to dress or would dress now if age and McDonalds hadn't given me this lovely Budda belly.

 

I feel the urge to say
Duh

>.> ima needy person so i suck up all
the attention/love i can get even if its
from an inadimite(sp) object
I'm constantly looking for a bond with
people or things

 

I totally agree with this!

 

The best freind that has never been with me constantly...Ive been really alone since 8th grade. I have one person that I really connect with (we're talking braintwin), but she moved. Shes only a half an hour away and I see her frequently and work where she lives, but my heart's been broken since I stopped being able to see her every day. Im a very co-dependent person. My doll makes me feel like I have someone else there that doesnt judge me and I can really trust. Ill admit that a doll compensates for a lot for me >_> and im not ashamed of it xD If I want to keep an imaginary person in a little resin body then ill do it damn it D< lolz

 

I never really had any deep thoughts myself lol. I just saw one, was like "dude they are so awsome 0.0" and saved to buy one. I have always identified with guys better than girls so maybe thats why i have all guy dolls but besides that, nothing psychological going on there lol!But a good question ^_^ I've enjoyed reading the posts.

I do think all out psycological peculiarities go into how we dress and create our doll characters, but that is as it is with everything else in our lives. Our psychological state affects how we interact, what clothes we buy ect. And its different fo everyone. One person may buy themselves a corset because they think they look drop dead gorgeous in it, another may be trying to use their body to make up for character flaws or shyness thinking people will like them if they are sexier.

 

I don't want a doll to make up for the fact that I'm not perfect. I'm five-foot even and weight 135 pounds, I actually have had a girl ask me if I was pregnant (Yes, all my weight is at my stomach). But I don't think a doll can change that so yea.

But I can see people having a doll like you were saying for fantasy reasons. Like maybe you wish you had elf ears so you got an elf doll. That however is very different...

My opinion...