Do you feel that you should pretend to love dolls that you don’t?

On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?

I think everyone has to be polite to each other.
Also, i don't like snobism in any life area. So some dislikes are unjustified for me, but that, i keep to myself.

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.

Maybe, that's why sometimes is better not to say anything. I hate to say nice thing about a doll i dislike , but i won't say bad ones either
-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board? I don’t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone’s thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.

If I am asked personally it's ok. But there are nice ways to say that you would not buy that doll at all...

-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)

I expect people to be respectful, that's all. I don't expect them to have the same taste as me .

-Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?

haha. Not at all. I choose, not them, and i am busy with many more things to have someone ruin my mood by not liking or O__O approving (lol) my choices

-Have you ever thought that you over reacted in the forum to someone expressing dislike of a doll you happen to own? If so what was it that made you so mad?

No. that has never happened to me, to over reat for such thing

-If you are someone who does get defensive do you feel totally justified when you are mad? If so why?

i don't get defensive an i don't think there's justification for being mad and loosing temper in public. I actually could go on and on about what i think of that, in general, but that would be boring maybe LOL

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?

hahaha, not at all, i like it, you don't , fine! some people like the sun and some the rain, all is fine if we are respectful and our likes and dislikes don't hurt anyone

 

In a general discussion thread for dolls in general, and if asked about an opinion regarding maybe four or five different sculpts from different companies, I'd honestly give my opinion. I'd never go to say a gallery thread an post about not liking the dolls in question.

Now, I will say that there are doll molds I do not like, in fact there are a decent number that trigger my phobia and I would have to hit the [back] button the moment a large picture of one popped up on my screen. Now, that said I'm not going to insult people who own those particular sorts of dolls. I know that everyone has a right to their opinion, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Gosh, once a friend of mine wanted to suggest what she thought was the ugliest BJD ever. I took one look at it, and said that he was actually a nice sculpt. Yeah, he was grumpy, but when I looked at him, he looked like David Bowie to me, so not really ugly so much as grumpy. ( By the way, that particular doll was Unidoll Ark, and yes he's a grumpy sculpt, but sometimes grumpy is great for certain dolls/ After all, not everyone can be cute and happy all the time, right?)

 

It's a discussion board, so no, I don't think anyone should have to pretend that they like any doll sculpt for any reason. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I do think that it's how you word that opinion that you should be wary of, especially on a forum like DoA. Many of the users on this forum can be rather sensitive, so I try to just keep my negative opinions to myself unless I'm being asked about them. However if someone dislikes the type of dolls I own, I'm cool with that. I don't even mind if they say it to my face. I'd never get angry over something like that. Different doll sculpts and styles appeal to different people. I think I'd be more offended if someone was pretending that they liked my dolls when they actually thought they were ugly. I'd rather they just come out and tell me that they don't much care for them, as it would also spare them from having to look at the things every time I uploaded a picture of them or took them to a meet.

But as far as stating my own opinions on a certain sculpt or brand of doll, it would depend on whether or not I was being asked. While I'd never flat-out go; "OMG, that doll is hideous lololol!", I'd generally try to be as polite as possible about it, but I'll be honest as well. It's only fair.

 

I don't think you should pretend something you don't feel, but that it's better to use discretion and judgement if your opinion is sought. If the person doesn't mind blunt responses, go for it. I wouldn't mind if someone didn't like the March sculpt and said so. What I *would** take offense to is if they were rude about it.

 

I tend to be really blunt whenever I state a personal option. I try not to hurt your feelings and be nice about how I come over across it but I refuse to hide my opinions about something. But I have one rule of thumb for everything: if I didn't ask for an opinion, don't expect me to be nice about it. But, if I don't like a doll, I will just keep my mouth shut instead and not say anything.

 

I think it's fine to say, in an appropriate thread, that you don't like a particular type of doll (like certain sculpts/ companies/ sizes/ whatever). It'd be a bit rude to go post in an anthro discussion thread that you just don't like animal dolls, but in a more general discussion it would be okay to express your opinion. Where I think people have to be more careful is in saying negative things about a particular doll belonging to someone. For example, I've had people in the hobby tell me pink eyed dolls look scary upon seeing my albino puki. Unless opinions are requested, that sort of thing is usually best left unsaid, or at least said more nicely. I tend to say something positive before offering critisism, like "It's really cute but not my style" or "The mods look very realistic, but it's a bit too gory for me." You just have to remember that someone is likely very attached to the thing you're talking about, so be nice about it.

 

As you say, dropping in on a conversation about someone's particular doll where I would assume they're probably proud and showing off just to say it's icky would be pointless and tactless. If theres a conversation (ala debate) about a company or a mold that's honestly a conversation about it I don't see that you're doing anything wrong about stating your opinion, so long as it's respectful and mindful that others do enjoy it.
I don't.. have a doll! So this is speculator opinion totally. I was trying to relate it to something I do have though and I thought of dogs. I love big dogs, I have a huge drooling disgusting adorable dog right next to me and I generally don't like small breed dogs all that much for various reasons. I appreciate them and respect them for being an animal and I can plainly see how happy they make other people and how much they love them, so when I see someone with a little dog and for whatever reason we're in a conversation I smile and pet their dog and say hes cute (and he is, cause he's so precious to his owner and despite my preferences he's still a dog) and go about my way. I don't get mad when I happen upon discussions and someone mentions how much they dislike big dogs. They aren't for everyone, and they often have different personalities than smaller dogs and those small dog personalities suit other people. If you were to equate this to not liking a particular doll, you are welcome to not be fond of a doll for yourself, but I imagine as long as you're still appreciating the fondness someone else has for said doll and how much they like it, you can't really go wrong. You're surely allowed to have a discussion though and if someone were to get their feathers ruffled over an open, non personal discussion about doll molds, or dog sizes, or whatever, when someone was giving a respectful but preference filled reply, that's their sensitivity and ridiculous expectations. You can't make everyone agree with you about something that can vary so widely as art preferences.

I've already come to discover the molds I'm fond of don't seem to be very popular here on DOA, which in a way I almost like. It would make it that much easier to make them unique, huh? I especially have an odd fondness for peculiar lips (fish lips, I read someone calling one doll I like, which I.. think was an insult but I think I find it endearing!) and I found it kind of amusing. I do wonder if you all know something I don't know given my lack of experience and I went back and tried to reconsider the doll but I still find myself liking her/them. Maybe I'm a lost cause or doomed for a rude awakening, but regardless. Yay for people being proud of their individuality and embracing that of others?!

 

I feel that it was wrong to show your dislike for someones doll. I know I have a few dolls and companies over all that I just flat out feel should be thrown out, but do I say that? No, and not to their face either. People might think my dolls are ugly, but that is them. I think they are beautiful, I got them costume face-ups and clothes that were the way I wanted them. It is how you feel they should be, not the other people. I have never had someone say that they dislike my dolls, but one of them doesn't have a face-up at the moment so im sure most people would freak out. I think I would fight back if someone did say my doll was ugly, but only to say it was not there happiness I was trying to gain, but my own. It's like saying to a mother that her childen are ugly and should be thrown away, not so nice is it? Just keep it to yourself or suck it up, b/c its not for you to decide.

 

If the area is in the discussion threads and not the galleries, then of course. I would do it respectfully, saying that a doll doesn't
fit to my tastes or so on. I would never approach it in such a manner were I called it "penis-nosed" (Quoting that from a comment on the SOOM site) or such. I have the right to announce that "Yeah, this dolls isn't for me. It isn't to my tastes, and that's that."
I am assuming this is under the galleries, and if that is indeed the right assumption, then I would want to know why someone would be posting about how they dislike their doll. There is no way I would be okay with someone coming into my gallery thread just to tell me that my doll is ugly, and there is no reason one should ever do that. I don't think it's being overly sensitive, because I know that my dolls aren't appealing to all, but it would be simply rude. I doubt I would blow up about it though either. I'd just find it unnecessary. This is a case about where you are posting it. If you were in the DoA gallery threads and going through telling people that their dolls are ugly, then I want to know why you post at all. It's not like the dislike of a single doll should actually power you up enough to post in a place where you should be fully capable of realizing that that is inappropriate. There is another forum where you can do that after all, you can join there then. :P
I wouldn't care. It's my doll, why should I care if someone dislikes it? It's just like asking the question if I should mind if someone disapproves of my hobby. Why should I care, it's my hobby. I do admit I enjoy ones personal opinion, but if it's a negative one it'll just register and then disappear. :3 If someone said something personal about my dolls being ugly, I think I'd just say a sarcastic thank you or something. I can't imagine getting angry over it... I'm too lazy for that. :P

 

On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?

I think it should be. It's different if the person is taking it as far as questioning the doll owner's taste (example: "Why would you want THAT sculpt? It's so ugly!") or making fun of the doll in response to the owner's photos or in a place where they are showing it off. That kind of behavior is what I consider rude and unacceptable.

I don't see what's so rude about simply saying that you don't care for a sculpt in a discussion topic. If your being respectful to those who own or like the doll, I don't see why it's such a big deal.

I hate when people fake enthusiasm for something just to humor me. I'd rather they just be honest and tell me how they really feel.

Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.

I haven't been here that long so I can't really answer the first question, but I do understand why someone might feel offended if another user told them they didn't like their doll. I've felt that way before so I know what it's like.

Despite this, I still don't believe people should hide their negative opinions. If people only said good things about the dolls, we'd never be able to tell what they actually like. It'd be really boring and really fake. I like to know what people like and dislike. Even if I don't feel the same way, it helps me get to know that person. Makes things more interesting too.

Are you willing to admit that you don't like a doll on the DOA board? I don�t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone's thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.

I plan to. If we're discussing aesthetics than why shouldn't we talk about what appeals to us and what doesn't? Isn't that the point? I don't mean mindless bashing, I'm talking about constructive criticism. That's how companies improve their products and how people in general improve their skills.

I really don't like when people use the phrase "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all" to mean "never say anything negative." To me that phrase means don't be needlessly cruel or insensitive, not that people shouldn't express what their feelings about what they don't like.

Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)

I might feel a little offended, it depends on what they said, but I think I'd get over it. I read the old news thread comments about the doll I'm getting. Most negative comments were simply that she is too boring or generically pretty as opposed to the other doll that was being released alongside it. Some people also mentioned that they didn't like her joints. I didn't mind it that much.

Do you find that you can�t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?

I haven't so far, but I think that it might bother me after I get my first doll and become more attached to her because it's happened in the past with other things I like. If I grew up with something or grew attached to something, it does annoy me when people insult it. I know that I shouldn't feel that way, but I often can't help it.

If you are someone who does get defensive do you feel totally justified when you are mad? If so why?

Depends. If I felt it was ignorant or outright stupid, then yes. (if a person is treating their opinion as if it were fact). In most cases, no. If they simply dislike it for understandable or justifiable reasons, I don't believe I shouldn't feel that way. Not everyone is going to like what I like and I just have to get used to that.

If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?

I might explain why it appeals to me in hopes that they might see it in a different way, but I wouldn't harass them about it.

 

No, I don't think you should have to pretend to like a certain doll sculpt or company, but I also don't think you need to go out of your way to express your dislike of them. That's just sort-of rude. D:
I mean, fair enough, if someone asks for your opinion then by all means give it to them straight (although I wouldn't recommend being overly rude about it or anything) but if someone says, "Oh, I love this doll!" and you go "Ew, it's horrible" then it's a bit out of order, really. D:
I suppose doing so could be alright if the person you were saying this to was a friend and that's just how you communicate with each other, but in all other circumstances I wouldn't do so as I know how people get offended about things like that.

As for myself, I don't get offended unless someone specifically targets me and / or my dolls. (which no one has ever done, thankfully)
I've seen people say things like, "Oh, I don't really like the Bory sculpt - too many people have it!" and I completely understand their sentiments, even though I have a Bory, I absolutely adore him and I think he is just about the cutest ever. A lot of people do have Borys and I'm certainly not going to take offense at a true statement, especially if it's not being directed towards me. Of course, if someone speaks to you unprovoked about how they dislike something you own, that's a different story, but not too many people do things like that.

 

In my opinion a better style of communication would then be:

"I find that dolls from XCompany have hands that lack detail, and I am attracted to dolls with detailed and expressive hands."

That way you can still respect that part of the populace that doesn't care if dolls have detailed hands or not and maybe love Xcompany's dolls for its huge eyes, or what not.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and i am a firm believer in the adage that " If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all," if it's no life or death matter. Simply because there is so much negativity going around in the world as it is. I come to a hobby place to feel joy in my own collection and share in the joy of others. And look for the positives. Even in hypothetical "Company X's" evaluation. Because what does it matter really if I'd never buy a product of theirs because I don't like their hands? I am glad some one else adores their eyes and is made happy by it! We need FAR more happy in the world. Far more.

If that makes sense. Sorry for rambling.

 

-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?

I suppose it is. I don't like DM Pados for the most part, and I've said that here. No one's gone in my face and became extremely rude: "You don't like DM Pados...well I don't like you!" - never had that issue. Maybe because I haven't gone to people who own that sculpt and stuck my dislike in their faces. No one's ever reacted to it, either. Sometimes you say your piece, and don't expect people to say anything, but they do, and it's unfriendly; sometimes it's the reverse. I think if you just have to avoid making it seem personal.

I know the mods really want to focus on the positives of the hobby (which is why they constantly delete threads asking about sculpts we dislike), but I think if we don't discuss the negatives of being in this hobby - or any hobby - then we're doing a disservice to ourselves. I believe, as long as we don't nitpick particular people's dolls that belong to certain sculpts, then I think we should have the right to say what we don't particularly like about some sculpts. Maybe the eyes tend to be too closed for our taste no matter what we do? Or maybe the mouth is too big, or shaped a way we're not crazy about? We can't say that?

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls. If people only said good, positive things, we'd be doing a disservice to everything that really mattered - dolls aren't that important. So what if you don't like my doll? You have your reasons, and I have my reasons. I do think you shouldn't be set in your opinions, because they're so customizable. One might surprise you.

But, if you want to be outright rude, like saying "Ewww - your doll's picking his nose! He's so gross!!!", then we don't need *that* on DoA.

-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board? I don’t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone’s thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.

As I've said, I've done this - but I didn't go around, looking for a thread where I could say I disliked the doll. That would be weird of me, and a little bit of a troll-move on my part.


-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own?
Not at all, really. I mean a lot of people might say that, and then get really hurt or annoyed. But I really wouldn't care. I don't care if you don't like my doll - it's not your doll.

(Ok... I've deleted three questions here because things seem to be getting a tad repetitive)

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful? If so why?

Maybe I'd try...but it wouldn't make my day any more complete or fulfilling to convince you that my doll is cool. I love my doll, and isn't that what matters?

 

-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?
It's acceptable. But why ruin other people's fun? No point to it.
-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.
I could imagine people being overly sensitive. *frowns* I know far too many like that and don't doubt there are many in the dolly subculture who have that issue. But once again, why say bad things?
-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board? I don’t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone’s thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.
Perhaps. If I had particular dislike for an element of it. But I doubt I would. Can you tell I like ignoring more than commenting on dislike yet?
-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)
I'd probably snarl at them and make a snark about their dolls, whether I liked them or not. It's rude to say you don't like a particular doll.
-Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?
If they outright disapprove? Of course. What right do they have to say "I hate that doll" within my earshot? That's ridiculous and crass. Compare it to disapproving of a child, pet, or the person themself.
-Have you ever thought that you over reacted in the forum to someone expressing dislike of a doll you happen to own? If so what was it that made you so mad?
Nope, never had the displeasure of dealing with such crude people.
-If you are someone who does get defensive do you feel totally justified when you are mad? If so why?
I would be, as they had caused an offense to me.
-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?
No. They have the right to their opinions. Just not to shoving them at me.

 

These answers, to be honest, trigger my "...really?" reflex hard enough that I had to comment. I have to ask -- how is it rude to comment that someone doesn't like a particular sculpt, but somehow acceptable to snark on them personally in response to them stating their opinion? (Especially when, as noted in the question, it's not someone getting in your face about your particular doll in an aggressive manner, but generally about a company or sculpt.)

I'm going to be very blunt here: those are behavioral responses I would expect to see from a very immature and oversensitive individual. It's 'someone said something I don't like and I think it was rude, so I'm going to use that as justification to deliberately attempt to cause them harm'. No matter how you slice it, that is not an attitude to be lauded or emulated in my book.

 

-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?
I believe it is okay to express dislike for a mold or a company's brand of dolls; however, I consider it extremely rude to express dislike for someone's specific doll. I go by the rule "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." I believe that critiques are absolutely fine if the doll owner asks for one; but it is generally a good habit when writing a critique to find something good no matter how many points for improvement you see.

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.
I haven't seen very many cases where this question would be applicable. But, if someone just came out and said "I don't like your doll" then I would completely understand the owner getting offended. I think someone should only point out what they don't like if they're willing to give advise on how to improve, and even then if they word it tactfully.

-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board? I don’t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone’s thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.
I think expressing that you don't like a mold is fine, but I would find if weird if someone's only comment in that discussion is "I don't like X doll from X company" and didn't actually contribute to the discussion.
For instance, I have no problem saying that I am not a big fan of the MNF-Shiwoo mold, but I definitely would not simply drop into a discussion on that particular mold and mention it especially since it is an extremely popular mold in the doll community. Instead, I would find it more tasteful to find a general MNF or fairyland discussion and contribute to an honest discussion where I say why I don't particularly care for the mold but may also mention other fairyland molds I to like.
-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)
Honestly, no. If it came up in conversation and someone just happened to mention it then I do not see a problem. Again, there's a large difference between "I don't care for that mold" and "I don't care for your doll."

-Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?
If someone just said to me "I don't like Gabriel" (my doll) instead of "I don't care for your pictures of Gabriel" or "I don't really like the AS-Leira mold", then I would be a little offended. The reason for this is that I love my doll; I put a lot of time and money into building her character, buying her, dressing her, and playing with her. If that person does not explain why they don't like my doll and what they think I could do to 'improve' (ex: stating that her eyes/wig don't seem to go well with her skin tone and that she might look better with a different one) then I may consider their comment to be a bit rude and possibly malicious.

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?
I personally wouldn't. Liking or disliking art (which BJD's are to an extent) is an example of aesthetic preference. There is no logic that will make me think something is beautiful; likewise, you I believe it would prove difficult, to say the least, to make a logical argument that will change someone's preferences in this area.

 

Frankly I think to each their own, and I do like hearing others opinions. I don't feel obligated to like anyone else's doll as I don't feel they should be obligated to like those that I do. The world would be pretty boring if we all liked the same things.

I do, however, like a bit of tact when people are expressing their opinions. If you're in a forum for a specific doll brand, for example, it's rather uncouth to enter into a discussion there just saying things you dislike about that brand or blanket statements like "oh, those are good beginner dolls. If you're starting out I'd get one of those, but I wouldn't buy one once you know what you're doing. There's so much nicer dolls for just a little bit more money." Something was said very similar once and I didn't much care for it. Didn't reply since I'm not one for confrontations and it didn't bother me that much. I'm not sure they even knew that it sounded as bad as I felt it did.

Perhaps if it were more "It's really a matter of preference and while I enjoy brands/models that are more expensive this might be a great start for you. They're less costly and many people really seem to enjoy that brand/model." Really it's just the way a person phrases things, I think, in a way that keeps other people's feelings in mind while they're typing.

As for me there's plenty of types I wouldn't get myself. I like the more realistic looking figures myself and stay away from the Blythe look. I also like BJDs with some sort of strangeness to them... like a large nose, a low brow, an interesting expression, or perhaps some interesting gruff hands. I realize that these features might put other people off, but they're my dolls, not other peoples. Hence, I like what I like.

 

-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?
I think DoA (to be absolutely honest) restricts total honesty in the expression of feelings that are inclinced to negativity. Even though if it's just your plain, honest opinion. I guess the rule of "their playground, their rules" apply here. So that would be a no for negative responses, and yes for "Omg I love it!"s.

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.
I have to agree with you on the whole defensive thing because after being around the forum, I do see people expressing their honest opinion and then BAM, defensive people just jump on the wagon to attack this member - who was just being honest. (Re: "Do you bring dolls to work?" thread) I honestly don't see why there is a need to feel that 'negative sentiments' are directed specifically to them, as though its a personal thing. So, on the note of being overly sensitive, yea, I will have to agree. But I'm not generalizing every DoA member or the entire community for that matter. I'm just saying, some members ARE a little oversensitive.

-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board? I don’t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone’s thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.
Yeah I would. I don't see why anyone shouldn't actually. Different things work for different people. And the beauty of an online community is that you get to hear what works for who from around the world. Plus, it does get a little boring if all you're hearing is just praises being sung. Some variety would be nice.

-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)
Nope. Like I said, different things work for different people. I'd understand.

-Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?
This depends on the context of how the form of disapproval comes, really. If someone says plainly "Oh, I'm not really into Volks." I'd be completely okay with that. But if the person goes a overboard and starts bashing then I think thats where you draw the line. There's a fine line between expressing your opinion and insulting someone's preference.

-If you are someone who does get defensive do you feel totally justified when you are mad? If so why?
Then it becomes a matter of his/her words against yours. I don't think it justifies anything. Aesthetics are subjective.

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?
I won't convince this party. I would however, tell them about why I love my doll. I not gonna start converting people, I think that's a little childish.