Do you feel that you should pretend to love dolls that you don’t?

Before you say anything, I know that people can not always express their ideas in a tactful way (I used to be like that). Tact is absolutely everything!

I think most people here will agree that just because (general *you*) don't lsomething, it doesn't mean you're insulting me. I think I used this before, but if I say I don't like chocolate, am I saying you shouldn't like it, either?

And like I said, some people don't have the tact to express their belief in why they prefer doll X over doll Y. Maybe there are a few people within the hobby who DO mean "If I don't like chocolate, neither should you", but those numbers are very minute.

I've had people say they're not crazy about my doll's sculpt, but the first thing I feel isn't anger, or insult. Actually, I kind of feel I need to convert them . At the same time, though, if my "covert conversion" doesn't happen, that's totally fine with me. There was also another doll sculpt that had a very pronounced nose. I'm not one for pronounced noses - on doll or human. A couple of people said they liked the sculpt that I didn't. I didn't go getting mad, or felt they were 'wrong'. I'm just not going to buy that doll.

 

-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?

Of course. It's what discussion is for: open talk about dolls, "good" or "bad".

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.

-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)

I wouldn't mind if someone said that one of my dolls weren't their cup of tea. That's what makes these dolls so cool: they bring out so much individuality. I'd be happy to continue to talk to them about BJDs.

-Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?

I can understand why people get defensive over them - our dolls are our babies! It's like someone saying your art/child/etc wasn't likeable. And since BJD is such an obscure hobby, it happens a lot. I just make sure I bite my tongue when I feel it coming, and then switch topics so that nothing happens.

-If you are someone who does get defensive do you feel totally justified when you are mad? If so why?

Unless those people are being totally rude, it's not justifiable. Now, it's different when you're the one mad instead of someone else, and that's something you always have to balance, but still - not ok.

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?

No. It won't change our lives at all whether or not I convince them, and I might ruin a friendly relationship, so no. I would just shrug it off and keep the doll around. Maybe one day the person will change their minds, but it shouldn't affect me.

 

Personally, I don't think it's a problem to have an opinion about a certain sculpt, as long as you're not being rude about it. You cannot love every doll out there it would simply not be realistic. And, besides, tastes are like a**es, everybody has one

I normally like or am neutral to sculpts, but there's actually a certain one that I strongly dislike. I've seen a few examples of that one in real life, and I can still say I don't like it. Although a friend of mine has one, and her doll is kinda cute despite being my disliked one, so I'm not lying when I tell her that I like her doll. I did tell her I wasn't into a different one (which she loves, by the way) when we were looking some sites on the net, and I'm afraid I was bluntly honest. She took it well, but I felt guilty ^^;;;;;;

 

I've seen dozens of instances of people saying "whew, I'm safe, he/she does nothing for me." I don't find anything wrong with that at all, and most people seem to take it really well. When it's someone's personal doll, things get a bit more dicey, because some of us get extremely invested in our dolls (emotionally, I mean -- we ALL are extremely invested financially!) As Shikatani just said, you can have really strong aversion to a particular sculpt, or brand in general, and still really like what a specific owner does with his/her doll -- I think the more important thing to focus on is how appealing that particular treatment of the doll is to you, rather than bringing up the "I don't like that sculpt but..." part.

Would I try to convince someone my doll is beautiful? Heck no. I gave up on that with my big clunky, quirky, beloved Dollzone guys. They simply are not everyone's cup of tea, and never will be, and that's just fine. I admit to trying, early on, but really what's the point? They're not beautiful in the same way some other dolls are, and there's nothing wrong with that, either.

As always I think the key is to treat other people as you would prefer to be treated. Unless you happen to be a masochist who loves being told you and your things are disgusting -- in that case keep it to yourself, 'k?

 

I have done face-ups that aren't very nice at all, and while I'm much better by comparison now, I know from experience that it's tougher to swallow all those "wow! so cute!" remarks when your doll looks crappy, your photography is crappy, and you know it. I'm kind of embarrassed to have to say 'thank you!' when people are obviously commenting to be nice. I can look at my handiwork now and know that I probably should never have posted it because it wasn't anywhere near the caliber of what I wanted to present. Luckily, it was old work, more than two years old- but people are still posting "that's sweet!" on it when it's clear that it's not, and I do better work now.

That said, I have an extremely hard time saying things like "well, that doesn't completely work, but xyz would make it look more like what you wanted" because I've been attacked before for trying to get my point across. Still, I need to be braver- I would appreciate it in others, so there's no reason why I shouldn't put it forward myself.

And now I wish I hadn't posted this- because it's possible I've gotten the topic all misinterpreted. (Apologies!)

 

-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?
I think you can be tactful and say that this part of the sculpt doesn't appeal to you, or that you have trouble with posing x part. (Unless someone from a doll company comes and hits you over the head with a doll part, I don't see why anyone would "hate" a doll company! )

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.

I understand why someone would be sensitive about their own doll, and I think it's possible to generically not be interested in a sculpt but still appreciate an individual doll. I see a lot of sculpts that I wouldn't buy myself that the owners have worked pure magic on and made them very special...so I appreciate that individual doll!

-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board? I don’t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone’s thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.

Exactly. Generically I can say that the NotADoll sculpts are for the very, very specialized collector, and not my cup o tea. Or that Leeke heads are really large compared to their bodies. That doesn't mean I haven't seen an utterly charming NaD doll on the boards, or that there aren't some Leeke heads that are quite smexy, as well as huge.

-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)

haha, I have had people actually do that. People are strange about dolls. I just say that I enjoy them and leave it at that. When it's family members we have come to an accomodation, because it's a small house and it there is a "creepy" doll that no one else likes, I'm willing to swap it for a less objectionable one. But I am not overly attached to them as "people", they are more art objects/projects for me, and I do reshell characters.

As for people not liking sculpts I own generically, I'm ok with that--I happen to like DollZones, which are unfashionable right now, and some of the odder sculpts (I love bargains, so I go for the unfashionable ones). Everyone has a "style" they are looking for, and my style is not really the norm.

-Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?

Not really. People have their own issues. I have mine, but dolls don't fall into my Must Argue category.

-Have you ever thought that you over reacted in the forum to someone expressing dislike of a doll you happen to own? If so what was it that made you so mad?

I guess I have been lucky!

-If you are someone who does get defensive do you feel totally justified when you are mad? If so why?
See above!

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?
Nah, waste of time. We go do lunch instead.

 

-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?

Depends on how you do it. What I mean is, is that it's perfectly okay to express your dislike of a doll/company. Just don't be rude or offensive about it. "I don't like company XYZ", "That mold is ugly in my opinion", etc. It when you start saying things like, "Only an idiot would buy a doll like that." etc etc. Just keep it respectful, and I think it's okay.

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.

Absolutely, people are definitely overly sensitive about their dolls. Not all people, but when you put a lot of time an energy into something, you're going to feel that way. I think anyway. When you care strongly for something, you know. But that doesn't mean people should feel like they have to censor themselves. The important thing is how you react after someone criticizes your doll.


-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board?

Yes, if it was thread, but that doesn't mean I would. Like if several people have already pointed out the things I don't like about a company or mold, well what I am really going to add? Generally, I don't because I feel like it's no necessary to the discussion. But if we were discussing something, and it came up, I'd have no trouble admitting no I don't like...

-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own?

Considering the majority of my friends are creeped out by dolls in general, yeah no problem. As I said, it's how you react afterward. Besides which, I hope every doll lover isn't into the exact same thing I am. It'd get boring fast. But it also does depend on how that person expressed their dislike. As I said before, if they were rude, I'd be a little upset, but at their behavior not their opinion.

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?

No, they clearly have different tastes than me. There's really nothing you can do to change that. They've probably got their minds made up. Although, if they say, that they've never seen a picture of a particular mold they liked, I might mention a lot does depend on how the doll is painted. *but* I wouldn't push, you aren't going to make people change their tastes.

 

I think it's all in the eye of the beholder, as pretty much ANYTHING on the world, there are some people ho find it beautiful and some other utterly disgusting, the real question is, "should we tell in a bad way to the doll owner we think her/his doll it's ugly to our eyes??", and I think here I should apply something my mother told me once, "if you don't have anything good or constructive to say about something, don't say anything at all.", but let's go back to the questions:
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-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?

*Answer: It is as long as you are polite, you can enter a bar ans say to the bar tender "sir, I don't really like the beer you serve here" and the guy possibly won't get offended by your true opinion, but, if you kick off the door of the bar and scream "your f***ng beer it's God d*m ugly!!!" the bar tender will strongly kick you off the bar... And the point is, you are basically saying the same, but in a different way...and that makes the difference. I think the DoA discussion forums where made for polite debate, not insult, or at very least I believe that was the primary intention...

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.

*Answer: I think there is a little bit of work on the 2 parts involved, some owners are over sensitive about their dolls, I still remember here, somewhere on DoA, a user ho claimed she didn't wanted to go to the doll-meets because she only had BBB dolls and RS dolls and the other people will make fun of her cheap dolls, despite than I think if you are happy with your doll that should be enough, if someone rudely says something bad about anything you own or care it's obviously it will provoke you to answer in a bad way, this doesn't excuse the owners with "hyper-sensibility", cases where you say "I think I wouldn't buy this doll but it's nice" and you get a reply full of insults its also a problem...

-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board? I don’t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone’s thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.

*Answer: Personally, If I don't have anything good (or at very least constructive) to say about something I keep my mouth shout...but a few years, when I was younger, it's absolutely possible.

-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)

*Answer: I have being told than some face-ups are ugly, specially when I do them to fit a certain character, but I understand than if I'm happy with my doll, there will be always people ho doesn't like them, and accepting that it's a part of life, as long as I'm happy with my doll, the rest of the world can say whatever likes about it...

-Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?

*Answer: Honestly, I don't care, I feel pity for the people ho puts too much energy into something like that in stand of doing something more constructive, but that's about it.

-Have you ever thought that you over reacted in the forum to someone expressing dislike of a doll you happen to own? If so what was it that made you so mad?

*Answer: Like I said, when I was younger, sure, we where all teens once...and teens tend to have a short fuse for critics.

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?

*Answer: I simply tells them than it's nice for me and that enough, if they don't like the doll they don't have an obligation to, they can buy their own dolls and maybe the dolls they find beautiful are ugly for me...

 

I dont get defensive if someone doesnt like a mould i have, or company...but if someone were to tell me MY doll is ugly or looks weird or something then that is a direct negative and hurtful thing. however, there are PLENTY of dolls that i dont care for...i dont usually express it but i wouldnt be afraid to if it came up!

 

On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?
Yes. I feel safe and would love to express my idea to peop. If I do not like a certain doll, I do think I will just shout it out. I respect other people's choice and decision. People have different tastes that I think one can dislike one anothe's doll but still have to respect one another.

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.
I have not discover that yet. However, I think everyone can have their own opinion about their doll as long as no one gets offended. We should all respect one another.

-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board? I don’t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone’s thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.
I personally would not do anything like that. I respect others' taste and choices. Why should we judge one another and hurt others' feeling? There is no right and wrong and pretty and ugly.

-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)
I would not mind though. I do really care what other people think about my doll. As long as I like my dolls and have great time with them. I am fine with that.

-Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?
No. We should all be open minded. let people judge so there can have some improvement.

-Have you ever thought that you over reacted in the forum to someone expressing dislike of a doll you happen to own? If so what was it that made you so mad?
no, I think I am pretty calm. If I feel ofended , I will leave.

-If you are someone who does get defensive do you feel totally justified when you are mad? If so why?
I think most people would get a little mad, and it is normal.

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?
No, I will not convince them because I do not want to overwhelm myself. Some people just find BJDs unattractive.

 

I'm an artist too and over the years I've got critics of any kind... But I've got more "mature" about it and chill out, and don't take it too personal. Same with dolls... I've actually not gotten any "your doll is ugly" comment, but more like "I'm not into that mold" or "Your doll is creepy" - which is fine, specially if the last one comes from non-doll people.
Now if I dislike someone's mold, I just don't say it. At least don't post it on the web. I mean, art is subjective, so is this hobby. I may like molds that others don't, and vice-versa. So just like I wouldn't like someone saying "I don't like your doll because it's ugly" I won't do the same thing (well, not with those words exactly, but you get the point). So you're not being hypocrite when you don't say anything, right? ^^
Another thing is that I've learnt to see the good thing about a doll I mostly don't like... Maybe the body? the posing? the resin quality? Maybe it comes from a good company? You don't have to see everything black or white all the time ^^

 

I wanted to add to this, since I recently saw a thread in the tinies subforum saying, pretty much, that if someone posts a picture in the thread then they should get comments on it. To me, that's going WAY over the line and saying that even if you don't have anything to say, make up something nice. Instead of being able to skip over a picture if someone didn't have a compliment, that thread pushes for comments, which can't really be negative in a discussion thread. So... Yes. More than ever, I feel like on this forum you're being pushed to pretend to like a doll even if you don't.

 

I think that it's a matter of opinion. x3; Is my opinion. For instance, I can barely stand how most dolls are so FROWNY FACE. Even the Dollmore Kara Klum that I bought, after a while, his angsty expression got too much. =.=
Then I came across Angell-Studio's Leira and it was just like. BOOM. D: Her smile was so cute, the expression just FIT. I had to have her. Eff you college books! xD;
I like dolls with cute smiles and eyeshapes. :3
My friend likes dolls that have sleepy-eyes.
Another friend wants to make sure her doll's faceup will have freckles after she's finally saved up enough to order her.
I can't stand those droopy eyes and mouths. So depressing. =.=;

 

My rule of thumb in life, not just this hobby, is to not offer opinions that are not asked for. Good or bad. If a discussion about the aesthetics of a sculpt is being held, and I have an opinion, I may add my thoughts in a respectful manner. If someone specifically asks for a critique I will offer as well considered a response as I can. But I would never presume to interject my opinions on a sculpt, doll, or faceup where it has not been specifically and directly asked for.

 

Sometimes I do feel pressure to compliment dolls I don't like, especially when the person who owns the doll posts a comment relating to how their photos never get any responses. I feel like sometimes there is subtle (and not so subtle!) guilt-tripping on DOA, partially out of the desire to make everyone feel included and happy.

 

-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?
I dont know,.. but I guess so, why not?

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.
It depends. Its a big forum and ppl need to have the right to express themself.. but if you're sensitive, and post in a very open place your doll, just dont. If I didn't like a doll that someone showed, I would NEVER EVER say anything bad against it. Because I know how it feels to be just, put down.. and its not good for anything. Just evil.

-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board? I don’t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone’s thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.
Not if the thread was posted by someone that owned the doll!

-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)
No. I wouldn't mind.. I think?

-Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?
No.. But I feel sad, if I ask for an opinion, and it feels like they dont dare to say they like hate my doll, if I honestly ask someone, I like dont give a fuck and don't get offended, more offended if they feel still scared of hurting me, when I already told them that I really dont give a fuck..~

-Have you ever thought that you over reacted in the forum to someone expressing dislike of a doll you happen to own? If so what was it that made you so mad?
That never happend to me on a forum.

-If you are someone who does get defensive do you feel totally justified when you are mad? If so why?
I stay out of fights. If there are haters I wont let them see my dolls. buhu for them haha. They have to try some else stratedgy to pic up a fight with me.. like.. gtf they can try

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?
No!!! haha.

 

I think it's fine to express dislike of a doll, as long as it is done in a respectful way. I don't think it would bother me if somebody said they did not like the mold of my doll as long as they are not rude to me about it.

 

On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Wjat appears to be very beautiful or superior to you may not be so for other people.

Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive

Not sure. There are some very nice people on this forum who are not sensitive but there are those who are.

-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board?

No, I will just keep quiet or say "it's unsuitable for me". Some of these dolls are very beautiful but not every beautiful doll is suitable for me. So, it's a safe statement.

do you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own?

This is ok with me. Like what I just said, I also may not be into the kinds of dolls they have but their dolls are beautiful.

Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own?

Yes, but this incident did not happen in the DOA forums. My colleagues, friends and some family members have commented on my FCS F38 from Volks negatively in such a way that I feel hurt. I had to explain the whole FCS process and it's very hard for people to understand. I stopped taking him out where he will meet people. I agree with the many criticisms heaped on him. It's very hurtful.

Have you ever thought that you over reacted in the forum to someone expressing dislike of a doll you happen to own? If so what was it that made you so mad?

Not happened before.

If you are someone who does get defensive do you feel totally justified when you are mad? If so why?

No unless the criticism is not justified and is in effect a criticism of the company's general artwork or resin quality. All my dolls are full set with original company faceup. I won't allow any artist to work on the faces of my dolls unless they are from the company that made the doll. Like what I've said "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

A special note: Actually I responded to this thread because of another experience with a non BJD which I think I should mention here. My late father went on a business trip to Japan around 1981. He bought me a 24" boy doll from Tokyo. I did not like the doll but I had to pretend to love him because my dad did not know how to buy girl's toys. I never had a present from him before. I pretended and pretended to love the doll. Finally, I stuffed the doll away and forgot about him untill a few years ago when I found him. Although I still don't love him, I'm glad I pretended to love him because my dad is no longer with us. I put the doll's photo up on Flickr hoping to find owners of this type of doll and I found a flickr group for 1970s Sekiguchi Printemps dolls. My point is, it is ok to pretend to love a doll, sometimes, you don't have a choice.

 

-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company? I suppose it is, I wouldn't ever say that I didn't like a doll though just outright. There have been plenty of dolls I.. dislike, but there are plenty of otehr people who like the particular sculpt. If a doll company, however, has problems you think other people should know before they order a doll... You'd best let others know.

-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls. If someone doesn't like someone else's doll they should just shut their mouth because it's a personal preferance and if you don't like it, point out a good thing about it and not say anything about things you don't like(unless it's to help better their skills) or leave Just because it's the internet doesn't mean you can hide behind your computer screen

-Are you willing to admit that you don’t like a doll on the DOA board? I don’t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. .... Perhaps if I sugar coat but again it's personal preferance.

-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? I'd ask them why to see if I can see why they don't like it but again... it's the over used phrase I've used in the answers before x)

-Do you find that you can’t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why? It depends on how harshly they put it.... And that just because no one wants to get attacked by a forum troll..

-Have you ever thought that you over reacted in the forum to someone expressing dislike of a doll you happen to own? If so what was it that made you so mad? No, but I've been overly angery with what people have said about other dolls- just because they have no right to be over(not just normal critics) critical and hurt someone else's feelings.

-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why? Everything is beautiful in their own unique way. Even if it's just their eyes or lips or hair.... or hands.

 

-On the DOA boards where discussion and debates are the norm, do you feel that it is acceptable and safe to express dislike for a doll or doll company?
For me, absolutley. I agree that outright saying something like 'That doll is horrible, ugly, etc' is not in any way acceptable, but to say that the doll isn't what floats your boat, or that you personally wouldn't want to own a doll from that company is fine. I have had people say that to me before, and I understand that everyone's tastes are different.
-Do you find that DOA members are overly sensitive to someone not liking their doll? Or do you totally understand the offended party and think people should only say good things on DOA about all dolls.
I don't think that, in general, anyone on DOA are overy sensitive. I get that they would be offended if someone was rude about it, or put the doll they owned personally down, but people who have any hobby where others are involved should be ready to take a little, albeit polite, critisism.
-Are you willing to admit that you don�t like a doll on the DOA board? I don�t mean in a thread where someone is showing off their particular doll. More like in a thread where people are discussing companies or aesthetics. It would be awkward to drop into someone�s thread just to tell them their doll was not to your liking wow.
Well, just dropping in to admit you didn't like a doll or model would be, to me, taken as a little odd, but if it's a conversation of the whole company, or general looks, then I think that should be ok. Again, dont be rude about it, but just saying the specific type, or look isn't ideal to you should be ok.
-Would you mind if someone said they were not into a doll you happened to own? (please, I am not looking for examples of one weirdo telling you to your face that your doll was horrible, anyone would hate that!)
I don't think I would mind, as I have had that happen, and I don't take offense. Like, let's say someone said, 'Oh, well, your (Insert random sculpt here) isn't a type of doll I would buy for myself,' then fine. I like knowing what others think! But I can say again and again, at least be polite about it.
-Do you find that you can�t help but feel offended/attacked/defensive when someone does not approve of a doll you happen to own? If so why?
Well... I have 2 types of 'Approval' in mind, general public approval, and others involved in the hobby approval. Both I have dealt with, and usually it has been nice, although many times the general public is a lot, lot, lot less open minded and more sneering and cuthroat putdowns from what Ive gotten, and if so, then I would of course feel attacked and offended. Someone saying, however, something like 'I don't and never will understand why you would get a doll like that,' in or out of the hobby, wouldn't bug me too much. I may be a little irked, but over-all, I wouldn't bite someone's head off.
-Have you ever thought that you over reacted in the forum to someone expressing dislike of a doll you happen to own? If so what was it that made you so mad?
Because of the fact I don't post very often, I can't say I have..
-If you are someone who does get defensive do you feel totally justified when you are mad? If so why?
I would feel justified if it was, you know, a constant topic of how someone had an issue with my doll. I have raged before and I would do it again, although that was more of a out of the hobby issue than in hobby, but either way. I mean, I wouldn't feel right if it was a simple pass-by statement, or I had asked, 'Well, what do you think?', but again, its situational. I only get defensive if it seems neccesary to me, but it rarely happens and I do feel justified when those rare moments happen because, more or less it will only happen when someone is trying to pick a verbal fight with me.
-If someone dislikes a doll you happen to own do you try to convince that person that the doll is beautiful! If so why?
I would probably list a few reasons I personally loved the doll, but I'm not out to start a cult or anything. I also have relatives who have told me, slightly seriously and slightly joking, that my dolls were 'Too pretty, girly, etc.' I dont mind, I take it with stride that I am unique im my undying love for them
I feel like I talked so much.....