Do you seek comfort from your dolls over friends?

I dont.

A doll cant comfort me back when I need it or can correct my actions or thoughts because its not always so that I am right when I do something. My friends are my guide-lines.I dont always agree with their standards and visa versa.

If you say that in dolls is the only thing you can trust in, there is something seriously wrong and I advice you to seek counseling.

 

How many of you would prefer to speak to your dolls when you're having a hard time than speak to, say, a friend of boyfriend?

If no one was around, I would. Plus, there's certain topics I'd rather not talk with other people about, because it's too sensitive a topic for me and I hate the possibility of breaking down in front of someone. If someone was right in front of me and ready to offer comfort, though, I would never run right past them to confide in my doll. That would be very rude

 

They are great for if you get overstimulated too. I don't handle conventions well but love to go to them. I get anxious because of all of the people (social anxiety) and go into sensory over load from the lights, sounds and constant crush of people around me (SPD). I will just get so over stimulated that I have to get away and while hugging is nice when hundreds of people who I don't know have just bumped and bushed against me I just don't want another human being to touch me. I found that rubbing that nice smooth, cool resin does wonders to keep me from slipping over the edge of over stimulation and keep my sanity about me. But at the con I was at this weekend I did finally push myself to far. I retreated to the dark of the bar, curled into a ball on the chair, turned on my MP3 player and rubbed my boy's hands while my hubby's DOI boy was sprawled across my body. I don't usually even handle Faust but for that moment he was amazingly comforting. They have weight and fulfill the desire to touch without being "human touch". I am sure I looked totally nuts but I immediately felt better.

 

I'd never confide in my dolls. If I want to talk to myself, I'll just talk to myself. I see no point in pouring my heart out to an inanimate object when I could either not bother with anything or confide in a living. Even speaking to an animal if one is available can be comforting, but with a doll there is absolutely no reciprocation, so I see no point. Like I said, I'll sit in my room and cry alone, muttering an insult every once in awhile, or confide in a friend or family member. A doll though, is no comfort whatsoever. It's like crying to an expensive purse or a TV.

 

How many of you would prefer to speak to your dolls when you're having a hard time than speak to, say, a friend of boyfriend?
The only problem is, dolls don't talk back (mine don't at least lol) so if it's a REAL
problem that I need help in figuring out or dealing with I would always go to my
Mom or someone else. Doll are nice, but I'd confide in my cat sooner than one of
them.

Does this affect your relationship with those people?

Obviously not. Dolls for me are pretty things to look at. Not my friends.
I'll watch movies/Tv shows with one next to me, but they'll never replace
friends & family.

That's pretty funny about the FML post though.....

 

How many of you would prefer to speak to your dolls when you're having a hard time than speak to, say, a friend of boyfriend?

I would prefer to talk to a human, someone who can talk back and actively offer me comfort and advice.
Does this affect your relationship with those people?

Not applicable to me, but I would imagine, yes. Once you start cutting off important interpersonal communications between yourself and the people around you, in any way at all, you run the risk of affecting relationships.

 

I have...issues... when it comes to friends. They NEVER last, which is sad, because I don't just make friends with anybody. I get really attached to people and then I never see them again. I've become detached fom the world, and dolls are the only consistent thing in my life. They will always be with me. They won't leave me, and I won't leave them.

Human behaivor is so unpredictable!

 

I have the same problem. I get attached and then they either move\change jobs\die. And then you never see them again despite them promising, "Oh, we'll hang out still!" I'm always available. They never call. When I try to make plans or randomly wander over I always seemed so imposing that I hated doing it. Then there was the time I was called to meet and there was no parking and she wouldn't answer her phone till an hour later. And it's just...

...sad. Because they disappear no matter what you do. Like sand through fingers.

Dolls can't disappear. They can't leave. They can never run away. But they can't love, either.

I wrote a fic on that once. "Dolls can't leave. But they cannot love."

[sigh]

 

No, never >< I could never choose a resin doll over my flesh and blood friends, that's just awful.

 

How many of you would prefer to speak to your dolls when you're having a hard time than speak to, say, a friend of boyfriend?

Hard to say, cause i do talk to my Adrianne and Anne about my problems sometime too. Yes, i do talk to my family, friends and boyfriend if i do have a problem or dealing a hard time. Probably the fact im too shy to talk with people sometime i tend to talk to adrianne and anne often too. But still, i prefer talking to a living thing.

Does this affect your relationship with those people?

Actually it does. Cause, by portraying this kind of behavior make people think you're crazy. Well not crazy, but just lonely. People wont able to come near that person because of that. I do have a friend last time who seem to talk only to her teddy bear (a child) none other than her teddy bear. Nobody wants to be friends with her for all i know. Not sure what happen after then.


But that Fmylife

I pity the girl.. Cause she try to distract her sad heart from getting more hurt. If me. I would just cry on the spot.

 

Heh, you know, when I sometimes feel like I don't want to talk to my friends or that they might not understand me, I like to look at my doll for some company. It's not that I feel she really is doing anything, it's more that just looking at her makes me happy. So I'm not really sure what to call that. There are times when any social interaction with people or even pets just don't feel like something I'm in the mood to deal with. Maybe I'm having a bad day, or I'm not happy about something, I don't want to bother my friends or maybe they are part of my mood. But the doll just sits there. She won't judge or... say anything. She's just there to help put a smile on my face.

 

I do. Sometimes talking to a person doesn't always go the way you want it to, or you just don't have the words. Personally, I seek comfort from my dolls on a regular basis because in my family, feelings aren't the best things to express. Sometimes they just don't entirely understand, or they do understand, and they say or do something that makes it worse. "Confiding" in my dolls is easier because I can project whatever emotions I want onto them and I will always "hear" from them what I want to hear to feel better. I also don't have to worry about being judged. I do find that I(as well as most people) do need to seek comfort from the world outside their dolls, otherwise I end up building a shell around myself.

 

I find comfort in my girl. Sure I'll talk to friends when I can or my mum but sometimes they can't be reached or talking to someone just won't fit. It can be something very personal or a trouble I'm having with a loved one and I'll go to my girl. Playing with her a bit, fixing up her hair or changing her outfit can be helpful to calm my frustrations. Now, if I had my best friend standing next to my dolls, that he gets weirded out by but pokes at them none the less, I'd totally lean on him and vent.

Recently, I was very depressed. My mum was away on holiday, friends were all at work and it was the middle of the night. Unable to find my cat to force into a impromptu cuddle session, I went to my doll and just played with her a little while. It was a half hour later and I was feeling better and Navi was sporting a different dress and newly styled hair. It's a bit of busy work for your hands to keep you mind off things and it was very welcomed.

TL;DR. I would go to my dolls if it was personal or no one else was there for me to talk to.

 

When I want to be alone and away from people I like the dolls being around.
But nothing replaces human contact when I truly need comfort.

 

How many of you would prefer to speak to your dolls when you're having a hard time than speak to, say, a friend of boyfriend?

I would prefer to speak with my doll. It sounds kinda crazy...but my friends would all say the same thing. "It's ok. You are too good for *insert persons name here* anyways! You deserve better!" And I don't want to hear 10 different people say the same thing. I want one person (or doll) to listen because for me, silence and understanding is usually the best medicine. And yes, I know...my doll can't actually hear or understand me. I'm not crazy. I just pretend I am. :P

Does this affect your relationship with those people?

Sadly, it does. my mom is always sad about me never talking to her. She doesn't know I would rather talk to my doll. *thank god. She would probably cry* I feel really bad about not talking to her, but some things are better left unsaid..she would be ashamed of me. My friends aren't affected though. I don't see them much anymore anyways, due to the fact that I have no classes with them and I work all week and every weekend to keep up with tuition and what not. Well, I digress...I have drifted away from the subject so I'll shut up now.. ^_^;;;

 

How many of you would prefer to speak to your dolls when you're having a hard time than speak to, say, a friend of boyfriend?

I do speak to my doll but not my boys:/ I have a really small plush toy ,she's about my palm sized.
I got her since 13years ago :X...So whenever I got scolded or feeling unhappy I'll talk to her


Does this affect your relationship with those people?

Nope :X I just speak whatever comes to my mind -_-...so I still managed to build relationship with my friends and family

 

i don't "speak" to my dolls about problems, or things i've been burying but it does help if i'm having a particularly bad day to sit down and make them something or set up a nice photo shoot to get my mind in a different place. I happen to be bi polar so hoenstly, confiding in people doesn't help, it's up to me to bounce out of low moods.
Although, confiding in dolls won't do much because they can't comfort me or offer advice on what to do/how to handle a problem or situation.

Ontop of that, there are very few people that i trust enough to be vulnerable around, it's one of the feelings i detest most. And on more than one occasion, trusting someone for comfort has bitten me in the ass by them talking to someone else about the situation and said person trying to give me advice on a situation that is NONE of their business.

I'd rather just enjoy the time i spend with my friends, and my dolls.

as to how i act effecting my relationships with the people around me, i don't think so. Alot of those that know me well know what i usually need is a good distraction to perk back up, and them pressuring me for details on whats bothering me just tends to irritate me and doesn't make me more willing to confide in them and often makes my mood and affection for that person get worse.
If something is -really- bothering me, i will find someone i trust to confide in.

 

I kinda have too. No friend of mine, the few and far between live close enough. All are at least nearly an hour away, so when I need comfort, I'll pick one up and hold it. I don't talk about my problems cause I learned early on no one cares or if they did, they quickly got tired of hearing it, so I keep things bottled up. I know I'm severely depressed, but I can't afford the help. Ah well, it won't matter in the end. I'm just waiting on death anyhow and trying to enjoy the dolls now.

 

How many of you would prefer to speak to your dolls when you're having a hard time than speak to, say, a friend of boyfriend?


Aside from maybe one person, I don't like talking to people about my problems. It's easier for me to confide in something that won't say anything in response. A pet or a doll is perfect for that, dolls especially. :3

Does this affect your relationship with those people?

No, because I've always been the same way. People expect it of me.

 

While I'll always pick a honest to god flesh and blood person over the dolls to talk to I've had occasions when no one else was around that I'll end up talking things through with my dolls. Mind you, I'm the sort of person who talks to thin air and random household objects all the time, so maybe thats not so odd.

When I'm *really* upset, I'll usually grab one of my dolls to cuddle even if I've got someone to talk to. They're no substitute for proper human contact, but that doesn't mean they aren't comforting to have around.