does anyone feel like they've spent too much money?

I often feel bad when i spend a lot of money for dolls. In my mind in that moment a lot of things which i can buy on this money and i need them. But also i feel bad when i don't spend money for dolls. I think that i bought them for nothing and they lack of attention.

 

I feel like I have spent to much on one of my dolls. The moment I bought it it was way over $400 a short while after the price dropped under $300. I thought it was pretty painful. I love the doll very much, but if I would ever want to sell it. It basically lost it's value. I doubt i'll sell it though.

 

It's not exactly that I feel like I've spent too much money. The money I've spent on dolls has been the money I otherwise would've spent on other pursuits of fun, so my "guilty" moments come more from looking at my collection sometimes and thinking, "...dang. For what I spent on these guys I could've ___ instead."

Usually for me the blank gets filled in with "taken a few decent vacations"; for example, before bjds I used to fly down to Disney World for a few days once a year. I haven't been now since 2005, and it makes me swoon a bit when I realise that the price of just one or two of my dolls equals the price of a Disney trip. I miss those trips a lot, but my dolls are really important to me, too. Both are things that make me happy, so it comes down to me having to make tough choices on what to end up spending my limited fun money on. So it's not "spent too much money", it's "what other fun could I have had had I not gotten into bjds?".

But generally I try not to think too much about the money aspect of the hobby. I love my dolls and although I might sometimes think longingly about other things I may have done with the money it took to aquire them I don't regret them at all (although if I found myself in a situation like KibKain's I'd probably feel regretful for a little while; that's happened to me more than once on non-doll-related purchases and it's definately discouraging).

 

Guilty! I spent more moneys on my dolls then on me or my family, sad case.

 

I only think that about shoes and other stuff like eyes or so, when it doesn't fit. Then I think "I could have bought XYZ for that, now it will possibly rot in the drawers." ^^;
Other than that I only think that about faulty or unfinished dolls.

 

Definitely. I'm probably spending a lot more money on doll clothing and accessories than I need to on college stuff, which I shouldn't.

 

I feel that way all of the time. I ask myself "What in the WORLD are you doing!" But then I know I got something I want so I stop thinking about it after a while.

 

Yeah I have definately felt that... im still a beginner and so far ive spent about 440 on a doll and her clothes and recently bought an outfit from luts that totaled 73$ so i have taken a break from buying her anything else until she gets here then ill probably go right on a head and spend another $200. the only thing i need to get her anyway is one more wig and a pair shoes. that shouldnt be too much :3

 

I do occasionally look at all of the money I've spent on my dolls and I do feel a little guilty. But, like others have said, then I think about how much comfort the dolls have given me. It's worth it, especially since I rarely spend money otherwise and haven't made any stupid mistakes yet.

 

I only wished I had the money to spend more! LOL!! Then I would'nt feel that I spend too much on them!

 

I wouldn't feel as bad if my mom didn't rub it in my face that I'm spending money on them. I've set up my limits and I know what I can and can't do.. and if I can't do, I step back and see if there's something I can sell that's doll-related so I am not putting out savings money. It's 'doll money' as I put it.

I do feel bad occasionally, but I guess it's just human nature to feel that way. But in the end, as long as I'm keeping a good track on my expenditures it doesn't bother me too much to get doll stuff. Its like anything else... some people spend their money on concerts, clothing, etc., I spend my money on dolls.

 

I feel bad when I spend lots of money on my dolls, but I try to not spend so much. But sometimes it's impossible because two of my dolls are 70cm and 62cm and their clothes and shoes are expensives.
For this reason, I want to do their customs without many fails. I think a lot how I see my characters, and then I start with their customs.
Anyway, I know my limits ^^

 

I didn't used to feel bad about what I spent on my dolls. I had someone tell me that my JID was a waste of money the day I opened her though and that kinda messed up my bonding. :/ Other than that, I've been feeling pretty ok about my dolly purchases.

 

This, basically. BJDs are kind of lose/lose when it comes to money...but I love them enough that I can squash down the guilt. They make me happy, and happiness doesn't have a price.

 

Do I feel like I have spent too much money? Yes. But do I regret my purchases? No. I love my dolls so much, I know exactly what I like, and I won't be getting any more any time soon. I rationalize to myself that I don't spend money on clothes, makeup, or other things like that, and I only spend my holiday money. The money I work for goes to college stuff.

 

Oh, I always feel so bad about how much I spend. I am still paying for mayumi but am buying her a sister next week. In a single week I ordered boots, a coat and dress from nine9style, wig from leekeworld, and I had one on the way through ebay. Even though I kinda feel bad about it now I still keep looking at more stuff.

 

Yep, for sure. If I had a job and lived on my own, I wouldn't feel a pinch guilty, but I live with my parents and they support me a lot, so I do agonize a lot over what I spend 'my' money on. They're really generous, and since I got into this hobby I feel like I've comparatively managed to limit myself well, and it's hard to know when to tell myself no and when it seems like, okay, this is worth it and I won't regret... Because while I do live with them and all, it's not like I'll never spend or buy any fun or frivolous things like video games or such, anyway.

I almost never get out the house, except for family dinners or the occasional movie or outing with my mother, I've never been into expensive brands and almost never get new clothes or shoes or similar things unless the stuff I have is unusable, and I don't spend money on things like drinking or smoking or other common vices. Everyone I know has at least one pricey hobby and usually more, like 40K, smoking, drinking, video games, photography, or music. I do still wish I could put a tighter lid on my materialism, because there are other hobbies I think I indulge a bit too much like video games and art supplies. For anyone who's watched Lucky Star, a line from Kagami that I think frames my spending habits well is someone who "splurges on their hobbies and is stingy with everything else", hah.

It's a bit funny, but when I think about it's not the actual doll-buying that's probably the problem with my spending, but the other stuff like wigs and clothes. I put many months of research and thought into getting my first doll, explained it to my father that this was something I really wanted, and he was really understanding and I still love her to bits. One of my dolls was a gift so she was completely free. Two more were so cheap individually, about $100 each with shipping, that I've seen many doll outfits out there that cost more. And the last two, the most expensive, I got most of the money by quickly selling a bunch of my own stuff online, and in the end I decided they didn't suit my collection so I'm selling them anyway -sigh- ! But I've bought so many wigs to try out, plus when I see shoes and outfits I'm so much more prone to impulse buy or get a bunch of things in one order to save on shipping, and it kind of grows on itself... I always planned to keep my doll collection small, but their wardrobes are another story entirely. That plus my indecisiveness and my fear of certain outfits or shoes going out of sale, and that's when I most often feel guilty and/or regretful of a doll-related purchase. Especially when, oftentimes, a wig just doesn't work out or a piece of clothing doesn't fit or some other problem, and trying to make back what I lost in small $10 or $20 sales in the MP is tedious.

What helps me is that I think of it like I'm getting these items for my dolls in place of getting it for myself. From when I first got into BJDs, I was attracted to how they could work as proxies for me to wear the fashions that I didn't think I could pull off, or afford, or bother to go out in public in. For example, I love lolita, but it's expensive, you can't wear it in most situations, you have to be careful because you don't want it dirty, and if you only get one outfit, you usually feel the need to expand it. But a doll has almost none of those problems. The same logic applies to stylish shoes and funky wigs. So if it's okay for my sister to collect so many stylish shoes and purses that she can have two cardboard boxes full of them sitting in a basement for years unused, and brand- and genuine- this and that, I feel like getting the occasional outfit or wigs for my dolls isn't too horrible.

ali

 

almyki -Gosh, that is exactly my situation!!!

 

Last I bought a event head of fairyland on a convention. When I walked further I saw the same event head which was like 10 euro's cheaper. Damm what a bummer.

I also bought first a pair of eyes for like 12 euro. Then I saw another pair of eyes for like 4 euro and I also bought them.
Geuss wich eyes my doll always wears. Yes the 4 euro's eyes.

I still have difficulty when I see something pretty I think I will look good on my doll. But In reallity it doesn't need to be. So when I bought something that isn't right I think I spent to much money.

 

Sometimes I think I spend too much, yes. Especially since my boyfriend makes it possible for me to spend most of my money on dolls. But I work hard for my money and I don't smoke or drink and I am not into fashion so I think that's ok. Collecting BJDs is something I share with my boyfriend and it makes us both happy so I think I couldn't spend my money any better