Doll Wedding/Marriage?

As much as I am bonded to the character of my dolls, they are inanimate objects. Their characters form relationships in my own realm of thought, true enough, but I don't think I would go so far as to legitimately marry my resin objects to each other.

Then again, it does raise a good question about cultural standards. In one of my university classes, a history of pre-modern Japan, (just setting up an example here), we learned of two enormous boulders resting in the sea, which were--through Shinto ceremony--married to each other. It seems strange on one level, because many cultures do not consider rocks to be capable of feeling; they lack a soul. Yet in other cultures, inanimate objects have a life of their own. These two boulders, by the way, were said to house the spirits of two lovers who commited suicide near them. So does that really mean the rocks were married to each other, or the souls of two humans married to each other after death, since they couldn't be married in life?

Perhaps this topic is better suited to the Dolly Debate section?

As humans, we attach our thoughts and sentiments to objects to a point where they indeed seem to have lives all their own. However, for myself, I don't think I would consider grandoise ceremony and pomp for marriages or unions between my actual dolls.

 

I don't have a doll of my own, but this sounds just as crazy as when people get thier DOGS married. I....... don't think so............ it just sounds WAY TOO CRAZY. Maybe if it was with really close friends and other BJD owners, but inviting people who's friends and family members who don't know or have much interest in BJD......................................... that just seems a little too extreme. But that's just me..............

 

My first reaction was "um... no." But really, if it was an important part of two characters stories for them to get married, and you were doing photostories of them, it wouldn't make sense to leave that chapter out! And doing it as a meet-up would provide the necessary guests (unless the wedding was intended to be super-small) and be a fun thing to do with other owners. I personally don't see myself doing something like that, and if I did I'd keep the costs to a minimum, but if someone locally needed to do a wedding photostory I'd be thrilled to have my crew be guests if they wanted, and help out if I could.

And really, any excuse to eat cake...

 

i don't own any dolls yet, but i would sooo get my future couples married. well i'd have to see if they'd be willing to get married though. can't force them into marriage

 

My boys prefer to live in sin Yep, showing my age there!

And now that I'm diabetic, no cake for me so no weddings.

 

Its a cute idea. I have a couple that is engaged and other then the on going photo story and props that I have gotten for them I never thought about having a full on wedding /meet up. Probably because I live in an area were there are not really to many bbd owners.

 

I want a wedding for my dolls.

 

i think the idea is extremely cute, but i wouldn't go so far as to rent a chapel or buy an expensive cake just for my dolls. i'd at least just dress them up and take pictures and just say they're married XD

 

Yeah. If I had two doll whose relationship in stories had become close enough for them to marry, then I would be all over that. Yes, I would make a little white dress and a little tux. My other dolls would probably be the only guests, none of my human friends are as crazy as I am, so they would all think it was kind of hoakey. I would make a little cake too....
I just think it would make an adorable photostory.

 

I think just planning the wedding would be fun. The place, gowns, tuxes, cake, reception, and all of the trimmings! I'd love to do it just for the planning part. LOL

 

It sounds adorable. But I'm gonna echo everyone here and say that if the characters got married, then a small photoshoot of the dolls doing it would be kinda cute. Not go all out, but it could give me excuse to bake cupcakes for a wedding cake.. xD;

 

Eh, I think that's way too much for me. Most of my friends are non-dolly friends, so they think I'm crazy when I go on a doll tangent, so I think I'd definitely drive them away if I did something like this XD

 

lol wow, that seems wayyy over the top to me. if anything i'd just dress them up in wedding outfits and take a few pictures, haha, no gatherings or cake or anything like that. it seems a bit silly to me.

 

I have a doll wedding story planned, but it would just be a cute little photostory. I wouldn't send out invitations or anything like that. Probably just them in fancy clothes standing in front of some kind of alter in the living room or something. .^^ Maybe a few pics of them cutting a cake. But there's no way I'd try to emulate a real wedding for them - just a story episode.

 

I think weddings for real people are already overdone and silly and mostly pointless.

If someone had a wedding themed meet-up, that would be kind of a neat idea, but if it focuses entirely on two dolls "getting married" it's sort of crazy.

Having two characters get married is fine, if that's their character and what not, but really, an actual wedding? That's taking weddings to an extreme.

 

If you actually play with your dolls--teaparties and such--why not play wedding?
I set up a scene of two of my dolls participating in the San San Kudo, Japanese sake ceremony, after my daughter gave me a miniature set of bowls and pitcher as a memento of her own wedding:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/bentwhisker/3773600656/in/set-72157614787081691

 

I like that idea of having dolls dressed up for a wedding... But getting married themselves is kinda O__o to me.

 

Many moons ago, before BJDs, my grandmother (maysherestinpeace) bought a Ken doll to go with one of my mother's Barbies. This was the 1960's and Grandma was a good, traditional Catholic lady from the Caribbean and was not going to allow dolls to "live in sin" in the doll house. So, she planned a wedding for them and made a party out of it. They invited over all the other servicemen's kids and had cake and everything.

I think I might do something similar, though not for the same reasons (heck, my husband and I lived together for two years before we did the paperwork)! I'm even considering making a business out of "BJD wedding planning", i.e. selling a box with a dress, tux, flowers, fake cake, etc. in your choice of colors and religious affiliation and such.

 

Would you have gathering of close friends? or just your dolls?
I would treat the occasion like any other consecutive meet. No one (minus the dolls) is to come in formal wear, or do anything particularly 'special'.

Would you get a little marriage certificate?
Probably not. If I was doing a doll wedding, why would I really need that?

Would your dolls have a reception?
For photography's sake? Probably. Would there be actual music or anything? Like I said before, it would be nothing short of a regular meet.

A priest?
Unless a doll owner I knew also happened to be an ordained minister, and thought it would be funny to ordain the dolls, then no. That would be too strange for me... unless we had a doll posing as such.

A little cake?
I'd try to make something nice out of Sculpty.

Send out invitations?
No. If I knew that I was planning my two doll's characters to get married, people would know about it way in advance. I'd actually want to have the wedding during the usual meet, that way no one has to make special plans to see two non-moving dolls look like they're getting married.

Have it in a rented hall or outside in a park?
That depends, I guess. If I wanted to insinuate that a wedding had taken place, I'd do a bunch of wedding couple shoots in a local park. Otherwise, if I wanted something more dramatic, more structured, I'd probably have it at someone's home with enough space. I'd also have that person help me make a little isle and set-up.

Buy dresses and suits for the wedding party and bride and groom?
I'd buy the suits (I can't sew men's wear), but I'd try my hand at the bride's dress and bridesmaids outfits. It makes it more personal, and you can tailor them to the doll's characters.

flowers?
Fake ones, doll-sized. I might make little bouquets for the isles, and as general decorations - as well as the bridal bouquet and bridesmaids' bouquets.

party favors?
No, company is enough

wine/champagne?
Maybe for the mock doll reception; not the people. It's not a real wedding, so there's no need for it.

what kind of ceremony would dolls have?
I think it would be traditional. I don't think either of my dolls are

the ring?
Nothing special; probably one of those jewelry rings people use for chain mail. The bridal one might have a bead or something.

I think it goes without saying that I'd do this if the people I had with me were doll people. Otherwise, I gather as many things as I can to make it look like a wedding took place, and do the photos alone.

 

None of my dolls will be in a relationship with each other, and I don't see getting them a significant other. At least it's not in the plans right now. I really, really can't see myself putting together a dolly wedding, but if I did, it would probably just be a small photoshoot. This would mean I would need a dress and a tux for the dolls and a backdrop. This is the furthest it would go, and I can't see myself spending $100+ on each doll for outfits for ONE photoshoot or section of the story. But I would have to have cake. Or cupcakes. Just because I love a reason to celebrate with food ^_^