dolls just for lonely people?

Sure, dolls can help with lonliness but I don't think that I'm getting one to replace human interaction. I am kind of anti-social but I'm not lonely at all. I have quite a few friends and we get together quite a bit so I'm almost never lonely(atleast as far as I know). Even when I'm not with them I'm talking to them so...yeah. I believe that I'm getting dolls for creative purposes and for the general enjoyment of having something that beautiful.

 

I'm never lonely. I have way too many friends, a job, and a boyfriend. I collect dolls for the art aspect and they are fun to hold. x3

 

I have to say this post kind of freaked me out. I am definitely lonely. I'm extremely shy. My life is my work. I am at the age (32) when most -okay all of my friends are married, have kids, or are married with kids. We basically live in different universes. But I got to thinking if having a doll around makes me a little less lonely and also gets my creative juices flowing, which in turn make me feel more alive and vivacious I'm pretty sure there is no harm in enjoying the hobby.

 

I'm not lonely at all. I have a long time boyfriend, a very close family, and have tons of friends. I'm actually happy to be alone once in a while... I like dolls because I think they're pretty and I like making clothing for them.

 

I have heard (meaning I read it somewhere, not that I know it for fact or believe it) that Ball Joint Dolls are called Resin Children because they exist to ease the pain of childless mothers. Perhaps this is so in Japan. I have not idea. Where I am from, though, they most often seem to be owned by persons who are not ready, old enough, or desiring children yet, i.e. a younger set of people. I've noticed a lot of BJD enthusiasts are college students. I think it is an interesting idea about having a resin child to spoil and sew for and dote on as a way to ease the pain of not having children, but I have no idea if it is true.

As for dolls being for lonely people in general, I think this is very judgmental. There are so many hobbies that used to have stigmata in the past and are now becoming so much more socially acceptable. Comic books, video games, even computer programming is no longer considered to be something only "geeks" do. I've had many people who have seen my Pullips think that THEY are creepy, but never have they seemed to think that I am creepy for modifying them, in fact, they seem in awe that such a specialized hobby exists. My Ball Joint Doll, however, is a different ball of wax. The realism of a BJD is not for everyone, and many people are unsettled by inanimate objects that appear to be alive. I'm getting off subject here, but if Angelina Jolie and Halle Berry have both played computer specialists in the movies without having to first don coke-bottle glasses and fake acne, then clearly perceptions are changing. Perhaps doll culture will evolve in this way as well.

 

Well I'll admit it..I am antisocial. I really don't like to be around people and I prefer to be home, doing something artsy or staring at something pretty. I'm not lonely by any stretch, I just really truly like to be alone. Dolls are like little people...except they don't nag you and they seem to know when to let you be. :P

 

I wonder if it may be the case hobbies likes BJDs are the kind that attract more introverted people. And in the Western world, where extraversion is seen as the right way to be, people who choose to do things by themselves are looked at askance.

I can see how easily "doing something alone by choice" mistranslates in "must be lonely".

 

Most of the time I have to lie and say I have chores or that I'm grounded just to get AWAY from my friends for one night! I love my friends and I have a huge group of them but sometimes I just need some me-time. So to answer your question, I am not a lonely person but I love dolls.

 

Considering that I live with my best friend and also have a boyfriend, I'm not lonely. In fact sometimes, I crave time alone. But that is mainly to do arty things.

The two dolls I have were brought for personal emotional reasons. One is a representation of a friend who is gone and the other is to do with my personal faith. There are more I would like but it is for artistic reasons, the fun of creating characters and all the art projects, such as making clothes, that go with that.

It certainly isn't due to wanting children as I don't and never have.

 

Well, I got my first doll right after I got the diagnosis that I had a chronical illness, and I did feel very lonely at the time, despite my family and friends. At the time, it was stressful to be around other people, as they either expressed pity or tried to give me cheerful peptalks, which I couldn't cope with. So I distanced myself some from other people for a while, and in that time it was a comfort to have the doll around -- something pretty and undemanding.

That was five years ago, however, and I've since learned to deal with the illness, I've married a few months ago, and I'm definitely not lonely anymore... And I still collect BJDs like a madwoman. I wouldn't say they fulfill a role as "human-substitutes" for me anymore, they're just little works of art that give me a creative outlet in many ways.

 

i think they can fill in some lonely moments, but just as any hobby, when you are happily busy you don´t feel sad or loneliness as much. For me i have to say i have found such good friends through this dolly world that i am less lonely since i collect them. Not that i was before, but now my life is more fullfilled, i have a great hobby i adore and awsome friends, and today is a happy day cause we gather at my home and have some fun! i´m loving it

 

These are excellent observations. You could argue the same for almost any kind of creative pursuit (fiction writing, for instance). I think that the greatest creative beauty comes from a cauldron of solitude. Not to slam extroverts, but I wonder if some actually fear solitude, and so might be projecting.

 

I`m bit antisocial to be honest but I`m not a lonely person or kind of loner person either. I`m not into huge loud parties etc. and I love doing many things on my own but on the other hand I love spending time with my boyfriend and very few best friends. I`m just `making` friends really carefully. There is no need for drama in my life and this is what most of `friends` usually do. It irritates me too much to take it.
I dont know why people think that way. One girl pointed to me that I dont have a life and that I`m lonely loser because I`m nearly 20, collecting dolls, loving vinyl toys, fantasy and reading loads of books ( normal books not fantasy or anything like that ).

Doll is not alive, its not a real person and even with strong character made for her, she will never be something real so it really doesn't make any sense to me.

 

For me... I have dolls, I have cats and hey, I have friends.
As in every hobby there are people who say bad things, crazy things, but I don't mind them. My best friend (for over ten years now) even don't care about Japan (I am studying Japanese history and language). So don't care what other people say ^^y

So to say I am some kind of antisocial sometimes, but I love my friends, but sometimes I need time for myself and I don't want anyone around me. And sometimes I feel loney because noone is around and than I am glad to have my dolls with me.

 

I was actually thinking of this the other day the reason why I wanted a doll. It sort of boiled down to..

1) I like to collect beautiful things

2) Perhaps I do get alittle lonely sometimes.

Pets are not an option where I live and when my boyfriend goes to work boredom takes over. It would be nice to just have "someone" with me, even though I do realize that dolls are not "alive". Plus it seems like a good hobby. =)

 

No l think dolls are for all kinds of people. As for me l realy don't like dealing with alot of people and l don't have alot friends that like ABJD or know about them. As for familty l only have my dad and he thinks l'm crazy and our cat (cutie is her name) she never seen the new Rini. I do find having a doll around makes me want to make things for them ect.

 

I have dolls but I am a very happy and contented person so... No, dolls are not really for "sad" people ^^

 

I don't think that dolls are only for lonely people. Not just because I like dolls and I don't consider myself to be very lonely, but also because when I am lonely, my dolls don't compensate for the interaction I am lacking.

I connect daily with my loving husband, have an assortment of friends that I spend time with often, work alongside coworkers that I interact with regularly, and try to take the time to be with family members when possible. It would really be a stretch to say that I am "a lonely person," when the majority of time I'm doing something with other people. However, when I am lonely, my dolls don't really make it better. They're pretty and I enjoy having them around, but for me they can't serve as a substitute for conversations with friends or time with loved ones.

 

Well, I have no close friends, no girlfriend, and I'm getting further from my family by the day, it seems, so, perhaps. *Shrug* But I'm a lonely sort of fellow anyway. The lonely good company of dolls is soothing, when taken with hot tea and incense. (=>^____^<=)

All the lonely people... Where do they all come from? All the lonely people.... Where do they all belong?

 

For me I got into dolls not for being lonely but when I split up with my ex I played with them constantly but it was summer and I probably would have done the same thing anyway.. my friend pointed it out to me and I felt embarrassed. Dolls appeal to people for different reasons whether being lonely or not. I think for me it's more of a creative thing..