dolls just for lonely people?

This is very interesting my point of view are unconsciously yes.

Im a lonely(lone wolf maybe?) but not at all, i have friends not alot but some, i have rutine to work-home, home-work, in my work i have very friends but some times i feel alone and sad ,one type of paradox, but when I go where are my dolls I feel happy again!

 

I would have to say no, dolls aren't just for lonely people. I have two friends for example, and they both own dolls. One is quite anti-social and spends most of her time at home tending her dolls. The other friend is very popular, and is always out and about, barely having any time with her dolls. But in the end, she likes dolls, when she's home, she would still look at them, and show them off to guests; she's proud of her dolls. So I don't think dolls are just for lonely people, because that would be unfair to the more popular people who still love dolls. The only difference I see is that, one would be spending less time with her dolls than the other.

 

I would have to go with no, as I consider myself a doll person and I am most definitely not a lonely person. I am a doll person because I think they are beautiful and fun and I enjoy the customization aspect of the hobby. I have friends I go out and do things with,I go to classes,I go to work,I travel! I talk to people I know and people I don't know and the people in between.

 

It's an interesting thought. Of course, i'd like to say, "no, i'm absolutely not lonely ever, i collect dolls because of A, B, and C." but i'm not sure that it doesn't have anything to do with it... I'm not so much lonely as antisocial. And i freely admit it. I don't like people. I find most of them obnoxious, mean, and just generally unpleasant. Every now and then i meet someone i can tolerate, even like [i do have a fiance], but they're not the majority. So, there's a good possibility that subconsciously, that had something to do with my getting into the hobby. However, there are more prominent reasons for my doll collecting, like the fact that i'm an artist and i see them as a form of art.

I'm not sure that loneliness is a major factor in doll collecting, but it probably plays a part, at least for some.

 

Not at all! I'm addicted to my dolls and not a lonely person! Hum... Well sometimes I feel a bit antisocial, but its because I'm very selective person. I love to be alone at home and " play" with my dolls, but I would loooove to have a friend playing with me and sharing the same interest... something hard to find thou.
Because of our dolls we are " socializing" here. I made really nice friends in doll communities... A pity they all live in different countries and we only share our passion via internet through photos and posts... I dont think dolls are just for lonely people... but its not a popular hobby, its expensive and so hard to find other BJD owners to interact in my real life... Oh well thats why so many hours in front of the laptop ( and using iPhone) right now, and not talking to ppl around me... But to my virtual friends here. this a very interesting thread... It makes me think.

 

Definitely not! I mean, there may be a few who fall under that category, who knows, but it certainly doesn't mean everyone in the doll hobby has dolls because they're lonely!

For me personally, dolls are a way of expressing creativity. Perhaps it may not be the conventional way to do so and others may find it a rather quirky hobby, but my friends don't think any less of me for having an interest in it.

 

This is one of those things that gets to me a LOT, lol ^^;
Some people naturally just like to hang out by themselves rather than people, i get moaned at for not being social and going out all the time...but really, i'm just not that kind of person who likes to go out all the time...i have friends, i'm not anti-social, i'm perfectly fine to hang out with people, just not a lot of the time!! Some people naturally are just the loner type, not lonely. I think there's a big difference between loner and lonely!
Dolls are a beautiful and therapeutic hobby, whether you have one as a coping mechanism or not, i don't think it really matters. If you're happy with your reasons for owning one, what's the bother? ^^

 

Oh, we're very much alike! I'm not a people person exactly, i am quite selective about how i regularly hang out with, i also have a fiancee ^^ But the people i do make friends with, i love to pieces and like to see them when i can
I think people mistake that for being lonely to be honest, some people can hang out and strike up conversations with anyone, and some people need to be more selective and thoughtful about it. Neither way is wrong, it's just how people are ^^
Dolls, i think, are a relieving change from the stresses of interacting with people, not a substitute, but a refreshing change

 

Well, I don't know if this qualifies me for the looney bin or what, but I do enjoy the company of my dolls,I do get lonely and they are a help. To me they are all different and develop their own personalities or souls, whatever term you want to use and I treat them like I would real people friends, I even take them shopping with me or even to family events for no reason but to have them around. And yes sometimes it may even be that they get treated like the kids I wish I could have, or become a substitute for real people or friends who weren't so loyal.But I am also happily married to a man who took up the bjd hobby too,because he wanted one ever since he bought me my first bjd. We have since met great people through DoA and love to meet with them, they are all creative people. So I suppose I collect dolls for just about every reason you could ever think of, loneliness, creativity, social reasons,kid envy, and cute clothes and items, but I don't think it matters why someone colects dolls as long as they remember that in a fire it's humans and pets before dolls,if you are past that then you are in bad shape.

 

i'll openly admit that one of the reasons i love my dolls so much and got into them is because i'm lonely. My boyfriend works a lot and i spend a lot of time home by myself. I have one friend i physically hang out with but she's in college a few hours away and i see her maybe once every 2 months. I'm very antisocial and i do not like contact with people in the outside world much. I get lot of anxiety when i'm forced into social situations. For all those reasons dolls help me so much. They're like companions. It's not like i think they're alive or anything and talk to them like they are but they'res nothing wrong with being attached to inanimate objects. It's nice to have a pretty dolly to sit with me while i surf the web or read a book or watch a movie when no one else can be with me. The hobby it's self also helps. Having people online to share it with taking pictures of my dolls making them outfits. It's a very good hobby for the lonely or anti-social but that's not to say it's only for lonely people. This hobby is for everyone and everyone has different reasons for joining it.

 

I go to school and work extra as a teacher. I have many children and are almost never alone. Perhaps that is what makes my dolls so special for me.
They are always beautiful and quiet, it can not be said about the children

 

I wonder this too! I'm on flickr, and the friends i've made over the passed 4 years there in the doll comunity, is just...well they are nicer! I have two good girl friends here, one is addicted to video games and tells me im stupid for collecting DOLLS, we dont see eye to eye much. my other, is well, an "all about me and my drama" kind of person. I don't see them as much because of those reasons. I see my boyfriend all the time who playfully teases me but he likes them, aside from that there really aren't that many people I socialize with in "real life". Some of the doll friends i have made on flickr are so nice!

I'm from California, people would never suspect me of being a doll person...i'm almost 20 and in collage, live by the beach and people i meet automatically assume I would be a partier...but in reality i have never and would never touch any substance, Dolls are my anti drug ;D

So i guess it just depends. Like you, i've got reasons people could consider me "lonely" my parents are, well dad is basically doing his own thing, and i live with my mean mother that treats me like cinderella :P so, I agree with the make your own opinion.

 

I'm quite a bit of a loner, though I don't consider myself lonely. I have a few very close friends that I talk to every day online, but I rarely (if ever) see them in person. That's all right, though; I find that I don't really need physical interaction much at all.

I don't think that I got my doll because of my loner tendencies. I'm genuinely interested in the artistic aspects of the hobby and have so far been treating it as an art project more than a thing to keep me company

 

I have to admit that I'm very antisocial, even to the point that it's a sociophobia.
I'm afraid of humans because I've been mistreated by people my age since I was a child.

I do have friends, very few friends, but I have them.
But I have to admit that I'm very happy with spending my time alone. I'm not an easy person to approach, but am very affectionate when people manage to. (I'm not certain why I'm shunned by others, though. I'm not overweight, I'm not ugly and I don't think I'm mean-spirited either... My best friend says people might be scared of me, which is interesting but would make sense.)

Still, sometimes I enjoy having my doll as my silent companion in a moment of loneliness. I think the fact that I'm not easy with others makes me even more attatched to her, but it isn't the base of my affection and love for the hobby.

 

I don't believe dolls are JUST for lonely people. That might well just be a stereotype . But, I do think that there are lonely people with dolls.

So. I think there are many reasons for being a doll owner. And more often then not the people who own them are just as social as everyone else. We all feel lonely sometimes and dolls can help someone get through hard times...just like any other hobby.

I wounder if some people look at a doll owner with a doll and automatically think "wow that person must be so lonely..." I'm more opt to believe they'd look at me and say "Wow that person is so weird!" Which doesn't bother me in the slightest lol. Is carrying a doll around in public any bit more weird then dressing up a little dog and carrying them around like doll? Does that make them lonely people?

But, to each their own. A hobby is a hobby and for what ever the reason we all love this amazing one.

 

well they keep me accompany. and its also a hobby.. but still it helps if i am lonely

 

Oh gosh. I think dolls are for ANYONE.

Personally I am a very very very social person, and I have soo many friends. But I have 4 dolls haha!
I think dolls really have no real "only for" groups. I mean.. even here on DoA.
Girls, boys, Transgenders. Ages from 14 to 55+. People who are so ill they haven't left the house in a year like... man.
I think that dolls can help lonliness though, I really do. I mean, when I'm sad or lonely...I can just turn to my dolls to talk to and have a good time. C: And I'm happy again.
By no means though do I think that they are only for lonely antisocial people.

 

Interesting. Well, I knew some people that thinks that yes ¬¬ That this kind of hobbie is for "emo", strange and lonely people. But I don't think that at all!!
I think just as chibidrigger (thumbs up): the dolls are for any people that likes it! I have a lot of friends but I love dolls, I like to go to cinema, laugh with my friends but I also adore to take photos to bjds! Also, as a big community, we make friends here and in the reunions of bjds, and that shows we are social people!
It's true sometimes you feel lonely or a little depressed you can grab your doll, and it cheers you up a little, but it doesn't mean that we're only sad/lonely people. ^^

 

I have lots of friends, a wonderful family and love people. But I also love my alone time. I agree with you on this- I love going into my doll house and just hanging out there, because it's quiet, there is no phone, no TV or computer, no one wants me to solve any problems. The dolls are beautiful and compliant.

For me, hanging out by myself with the dolls is a huge source of stress relief. It helps me unwind, lets me think about things, etc. My husband gets the same results with scuba diving. I think it's just being able to escape into another world that I like.

 

I live on my own all alone. I have a cat to talk to more so than my dolls. Because Lucius (the cat) talks back. (._. He's really noisy, but super affectionate.)

Personally, I know that the dolls would NOT help with my bouts of loneliness. I've had stuffed animals and other inanimate objects but nothing that really "cured" the empty feeling. My preference would be for something ALIVE to keep me company.
So basically, I adopted a cat to help me deal with living alone. (Oddly enough I adopted the cat when I was dating someone.)