dolls just for lonely people?

I love my dolls and I am not lonely at all. They are special and I enjoy taking pictures of them and holding them. My boyfriend Jonathan lives with me and I have friends at school, work, and outside of those places. I just love dolls!

 

I've colllected dolls forever, BJDS are newish for me, for dolls, forever. and im in a band, i have friends, and an awesome bf. they all have to deal with my dolls XD so i dont think dolls are for lonely ppl necessarily. there are some ppl that use dolls to replace children, ppl do that with pets as well, and there are ppl that use dolls as their only social outlet. i have met ppl like this before. including one lady, who has since passed. she couldnt have children so she had a room full of hundreds of dolls she called her kids. she was mentally ill though. im guessing the stereotype that doll collectors are lonely probably came from the small, tiny, percentage of ppl that do use them to replace things they cannot have socially. and hey if you have trouble making friends or in social situations and you find dolls make you happy and keep you company, then so what?

 

To the OP, it's good to meet another homeschooler! I was homeschooled all the way through high school.

I'm not lonely or antisocial. I will admit to being introverted--more than most people realize. I can appear very extroverted in public, putting on a show to make others comfortable, bantering and laughing and so forth--but most of the time, I'd rather be home with my family, talking with a close friend, or sitting by myself at the computer. I think there's a strong connection between introversion and my obsession with BJD's. I can be perfectly happy sitting around for an hour or two just thinking about a doll, its character, its clothing. I love contemplating anything beautiful or just interesting.

I actually wish I could talk to my dolls, but even as a child, I never could manage it. It felt too awkward. Maybe that's because I grew up in a small house full of people, with basically no privacy. At any rate, though I might go through periods of extreme obsession, but I could never withdraw from the world and use dolls as a substitute for real life.

 

I not lonely, but I really enjoy quite time with myself, good book, dolls. I am introvert person I guess Have many friends and always busy, so this quite time is like treasure to me!

 

I am prefer to be alone. I love to spend my time with family and do somethings on my own. Actually, when I spend my time with other, I feel stress and out of place but I don't bought BJD to keep me company.

 

Hey! Cool to read this thread! I was homeschooled kindergarten all the way to my highschool graduation! I was not anti social either, I have a boyfriend now, went through college and am starting to pay for my doll, I have friends and go out and live life, and when I'm alone, I I like having my Doll around!

 

I wouldn't think of a doll-owner of being anti-social, this does not depend on a hobby... on the contrary, look, we all gather on internet forums and there are meetings around, and so on.
I started a blog almost 3 years ago to share on the internet, and I ended up making friend in real life, which I never dreamed of! We actually meet, as I found friends living not too far.
And I really hope to meet other doll owners in my area some time...

 

i love my doll, she's my only daughter ^^ and i am not lonely people, i always chat or hang out with my friends (and of course they're human. hahaha..)
but when i was kid, sometimes i like to chat with my dolls. i'd love dolls especially BJD.

 

I find BJD to be more of a social hobby. You take pictures to show people. You discuss them with people. You go out and meet people with them.

In fact, I think for most hobbyists, BJD wouldn't be as satisfying without the social aspect.

I almost ventured to say that video games are more isolating a hobby, with just you interacting with the computer... But most people play a game, and then discuss it like a book club would.

 

I feel as though I would benefit from the hobby more if I didn't have a partner, although it's not a life choice I would make. For instance, when I was answering the meme about a Zombie Outbreak on the forum, I felt that I wouldn't need my dolls for comfort because I'd have my partner for that, so in that sense I'd enjoy the hobby more if I was more lonely. Perhaps enjoy is the wrong word, but I'd benefit from it more.

However, doll meet-ups and even the doll community is a very social aspect in itself and besides, if I didn't have my partner, who would I get to help me with restringing? He really supports my hobby and helps me quite a bit. If I was lonely, although I may enjoy it more I'd also struggle more.

 

I'm not lonely currently, I've got a decent family, good friends and a loving boyfriend, but I still collect some dolls and really do enjoy the hobby. I totally can understand having a stronger connection with the hobby if anyone was more lonely. I probably would myself. I'm not the most social person in the world and I do tend to have a lot of stay at home hobby and work but I enjoy it

I think dolls can be enjoyed from just about anyone, at any age, lonely or not. Even my boyfriend has two dolls now!!

 

As someone who had no close friends when this hobby first caught my interest, you could probably say yes, I was lonely at the time. Dolls opened a whole new window for me and allowed me to meet people with similar interests and tastes. The dolls aren't a substitute for friends persay, but more like a tool to making new friends. And, I mean REAL friends, not resin ones. Without this hobby I am pretty positive I would most likely be a NEET by this point. But, this hobby opened up several gateways and helped me get over a lot of social anxieties I had by planning Doll Meets and attending them and meeting new people. If it weren't for this hobby I wouldn't have my two closest friends today

 

Being lonely, hmmmm... so far, since I have joined DoA and started this particular doll hobby - I have been to two doll meets, a bjd Christmas party and a fun bjd luncheon. So, for me bjd world has actually opened up my social life. Next month, I plan on going to another meet. With that said: I have to admit, they do "keep me company" .

 

I was lonely when I started this hobby. I was single, and had been for a long, long time, and figured I'd stay that way. My friends were all busy with careers and getting married, and I never saw them. I used "retail therapy" all the time to have something to look forward to (for as sad as that may sound). As I've now been with someone for a long time, my urge to buy dolls has faded, and my collection has dwindled, but I still love the hobby. I've learned not to use dolls to try to fill social voids.

 

hmm i can only talk for me ... sometimes i´m lonley somtimes nit. i live in a relatiionships since 16 yeras so normaly ißm not lonely but we all have time where we feeling lonley. in this time the dolls doesn´t help me so they are no alternative to a living peroson or a child.

for me its the collecting and building of nealy perfect and living dioramen and things what makes me happy and helping me by stress decomposition.

so i don´t think that people who collect dolls are loney persons ... maybe some but not all. it´s like in every hobby. you have some extremes and you have the normals. the extrems are always loneley ... takle a look to comicbook collectors or videogame players.... it fitting realy to every hobby and o wouldn´t think about it. do waht you like todo not all must understand it:-)

 

For me, I know I'm lonely. And I know I got into this hobby because of it. :-/ I had a falling out last year with a best friend. We lived together and had characters together and talked about them all the time and then it just all ended one day over a HORRIBLE misunderstanding. We're still friends but I had to move out of the house and we go weeks without seeing each other sometimes when I used to see her and talk to her every single day. We barely even talk about our characters that still mean the world to me but she's moved on to HP roleplay.

When I lived with her, I ended up hanging with her friends and family and it was very rare I ever felt alone. Now I live alone and barely see MY friends let alone any of her friends and definitely not her family anymore. I have a friend at work that I love but her girlfriend doesn't like me so I RARELY see her beyond work. When I'm home, I'm very overly aware of my loneliness and I know I fell into the doll hobby because I wanted something to not only make me happy but to bring the characters I miss talking about to a semblance of life. Sad but horribly true. :-/

Luckily, this hobby isn't just "filling a void" anymore. It's actually becoming FULFILLING. I enjoy it and I've met some great people because of it. I'm also coming out of my shell and trying to meet new people. I'm even going to a convention next weekend in hopes of opening up and letting this hobby be an excuse to bring new people into my life. It's also bringing back my artistic side which was already faltering heavily but completely disappeared during the falling out/moving. So, yeah.

I don't know, I think it differs for EVERYONE, though. Everyone has a hobby for a different reason and my case just is one of the "loneliness" examples. XD But I wouldn't consider dolls just for lonely people. XD

 

Hm. I'm not very lonely, I have a great boyfriend, a really sweet, loving family and I live in a house with 12 of my friends. But I still like dolls! However, there have been times where I've been REALLY lonely, and my dolls (blythes at the time) were a really great comfort, to have a hobby to spend time on.

 

How should I say this, I'm quite a quiet girl in school and I'm a only child, but I have many friends and relative. I don't think dolls are for lonely people. they just our little friends and no rule is say 'Dolls is only for lonely people'. It just our favorite hobby to spend times with our beloved doll, isn't it?

 

That's a good way to put it. I like they because they're really just another way to express yourself. And really, who wouldn't want to surround themselves with pretty people?

 

For me its more of a replacement as a companion. I don't really have any pets so I don't have anyone to comfort me when I'm by myself to love/care for. Its very rewarding to dote on a doll as much as it is on an animal; But no I don't get lonely much. In fact its just another friend I can let hang with the rest of mine :>