dolls just for lonely people?

Dolls are for everyone. Not just lonely people. Although i think they are a great thing, especially for people who feel left out and excluded from social settings. Look at this forum, it has brought together thousands upon thousands of people who share the same love for dolls. People have made friends on here, and just because this is a doll forum, does not make it any less genuine.

 

Dolls are for people who like to look at beautiful things.
It's the experience that I think most people have dolls...and with that comes lots of different things~
Everyone has their reasons for wanting a doll, just as everyone has their reasons for wanting a cat, dog, or a PSP.

 

I would not consider dolls to be just for lonely people.
Many people buy their dolls for different purposes that suit their talents or other hobbies. Consider all those out there who enjoy painting faces, sewing clothes and making jewelry for them. I guess what I'm trying to say is: dolls are a creative outlet for some people.
On the other hand, even when you're a social person, I'm sure you have time all for yourself where you might get a little lonely or have nothing to do. Dolls are great for passing time. (Heck, this morning, I had nothing to do and before I knew it I used up the entire morning and afternoon prettifying my dolls.)

For me, I'm a pretty lonely person. But not sad, I enjoy having no company but my own thoughts. I don't take the extra step to socialize with my friends or keep up a conversation simply because I don't have much to say with what they're interested in (pop culture and current events). I'd get a cat if I could, but I can't. So I turn to my dolls. They give me something to occupy my hands with. Then again, this was definitely not the original reason why I bought them. The initial reason was, just as Fuday K. says, dolls are for people who like to look at beautiful things. They captivated me at first sight and I fell for them

 

I definitely can be anti-social at times and prefer the company of animals to most people. But I don't feel lonely, I have a wonderful loving husband, a few but dear friends, and time spent alone or with my pets make me perfectly happy. So no, I'm not into dolls because I'm lonely. They may be a way for me to hang onto my childhood on some level though since I often feel like a child in a grownup body. And I wasn't even much into dolls when I actually WAS child. LOL!

 

Me? I can be rather antisocial...I tend to prefer the company of a few people, or my kitty and my dolls and my stuffed animals and such.

For me, it goes to deeper things that I feel inside, and not just a simple antisocial tendency.

I used to be fairly outgoing and social. Not so much anymore.

 

Dolls can be good to ease loneliness in a person for I have a friend who has less than 5 friends (including me) that she could actually talk to...When she first told us her "ideal" companion is a doll, some of my friends thinks that it maybe odd but I think her doll actually ease her loneliness in a way that she spends most of her leisure time in make clothes for her doll but I think now she has more smiles on her face than before she had her doll

On the other hand, for myself, I think having dolls can be a sociable hobby as well as in getting to know others who have the same hobby and share experinces with others can be sociable and fun as well So basically, I think dolls are meant for anyone who adores them

 

I'm the same. I have friends that I wish I could see more often. But I didn't buy my bjd because I was lonely or anything. I got it because I wanted to getting nice body that I can practice drawing without annoying/creeping anyone out. XD Plus, bjd are customizable and really cute! =)

 

i got my dolls as a creative outlet. my first one was used for drawing poses for art quilts. she complained a lot less than a real person at holding the pose and was always available. then i started making clothes - knit, sew and crochet with the goal of eventually selling patterns and finished goods. joining doa gave me an outlet for talking about the dolls and my designs and working out problems related to both in a much wider community than would be available locally and connecting me with people around the world. if anything the last has made me more sociable than i was before. but that seems to apply to anything one collects. sooner or later you want to share it with other people. i think it is just that non collector's think "dolls" equals childish pastime =something a little off if adults are doing it. when i talk call them photography models or fit models or art dolls to non collectors they seem to get it a bit better.

 

I'm actually pretty socially outgoing, I talk to people all the time. I don't have many friends, but my personality isn't for everyone and I know it. ^^; But I have REAL friends, and that's what's important.

And I love my dollie- I love the whole BJD hobby. So, I agree with those who said dolls are a creative outlet, because that's what I have mine for, pretty much.

 

I'm not antisocial at all. I rarely spend a day without seeing my friends. I think some people who own dolls are antisocial (and there's nothing wrong with that), but there are also many who are outgoing. Sure, dolls are a companion, but for most collectors they are just additional companion.

 

Dolls are piece of art and anyone can love them, not only someone lonely or antisocial. Many of my friend that already have bjd at home are happy married girls, some already with children (me included) so I think this way of imagining of doll-keeping people is nothing more than urban legend. It's the same in any hobby - you can find all kinds of people in there.

 

I live in a household of five people with lots of extendeds coming and going (friends, and more family), we are always bustling. So I am rarely alone long enough. I am a little bit antisocial to be honest though. As far as collecting I share my collecting hobby and dolly world with my best friend, so even that includes other people. But my dolls never serve as subs, they are my escape. My chance to have a quiet moment to enjoy something beautiful and fantastical. They are exactly as I want/need them to be, so maybe its a control issue for me.

 

well... All of the girls I know from the BJD forums are not lonely... They have lots of friends and some of them have a boyfriend... Like I do. And having a BJD is often a way to get to know other owners (i have made quite a few friends on my french BJD forum!)so... IMO when you have one or more BJD, you cannot feel lonely! xD

 

Oh my god, lol, before I got into BJDs my entire social scene revolved around one of two things - often at the same time - Getting Drunk and Anime.

Now I don't drink as often as I used to (seriously, getting drunk around the expensive resin ain't such a good idea) and I'm less crazy about anime because I don't feel the need to keep up with everything just so I understand what my friends are on about. We can still chat about it but not with the desperation to fit in that we once did.

My social life has literally exploded since I joined this hobby. I have a lot more friends than I used to and I now actually have places to go most of the time when I don't want to be in the house. I have a reason to go to events outside of spending a ton of cash and I can be more discerning about the things I attend because I don't need to impress literally every person I meet because I'm so insecure. Despite the fact that they are dolls, this hobby has given me massive confidence whether it be to choose friends who I have an interest in socialising with rather than just about anyone who'll talk to me or proudly displaying my dolls (something I never would have considered with anime for a long time) or talking about my hobby to complete strangers. Either way I always have people around who I can talk to on an equal level.

So yeah, I guess maybe lonely people do collect dolls, but if that is the case then I doubt they'll remain lonely for very long!

 

For me, getting into BJDs has introduced me to so many more people than I ever would have known before, and dolls are quite a conversation-starter. I was never lonely, just preferred to do things on my own. Now, I can have doll sewing parties with my bff and chatter all day about dolls. XD

 

hear hear to Ehryn!

 

For me dolls represent an art form, and I love art, I love the possibilities, the smooth cheek, the perfect hands, that special face up, the tilt of the head, a new pair of eyes, photographing them, making and changing clothing , wigs ahhh the wigs!!

I am a rather introverted humble person, but I think in a kind way not antisocial at all, I love animals and people but sometimes even within my own family and friends people's needs and head games drain me. My doll work gives me back energy and strength like battieries... my main love is the delight with the artistic.

 

I don't think so. I have moments when I'm very introverted and I like to be a little hermit... I take pleasure in having time alone at home to clean or sing at the top of my lungs. But there is a big side of me that loves to be "surrounded" by friends and people I love. I still go to clubs and bars and parties a lot and I'm not college age anymore. hahaha

However... Do I think that there must be some connecting characteristics that draw certain people to this hobby? Sure. I mean, there has to be a reason why we love BJDs but so many others are opposed to it and instead love to XYZ. However, it is not up to me to figure that out seeing that I am not a subject-matter expert or a psychologist or sociologist.

 

I get pretty lonely sometimes, and sometimes my doll is the only thing that makes me feel better. He could never replace real loved ones though. Sometimes I feel like hes the only one I can tell certain things to. He`s a great listener, but he rarely talks back

 

Saying that dolls are only for lonely people is like saying that novels are only for people desperate to escape reality.

There is nothing wrong (and a great deal right) in using the comforting power of a doll when we're lonely or sad, just as there is nothing wrong in reading a novel to escape reality for a while. Some realities need escaping from now and then. But that's not all a novel is (as universities full of literature professors can attest) and that's not all a doll is.