dolls just for lonely people?

I've never been a lonely person, and I don't forsee becoming one....

I've always had toys & dolls because they are my niche as far as photography goes.

I think when people think "people who own dolls must be very lonely" is really silly.

It's like, people who own cats are assumed to be lonely people. Or, people who own dogs are assumed to be sporty and really athletic and all they do is jog.

It's a weird stereotype, and stereotypes aren't the norm, they're just assumptions.

That isn't to say everyone is the same. And, if you are lonely, I think it's nice that you have dolls as an outlet. BJDs are very interesting and I think people will want to learn about them.

It depends on the individual. Any one thing a singular person is or isn't is perfectly okay, because, that is their personality. We're lucky to be a diverse race full of many personalities.

I think that's what makes hobbies very interesting, because I feel that if you have a hobby, it opens yourself up to sharing that with other people, where, perhaps, someone who doesn't have a hobby might not be as willing to share their life with the outside world.

Maybe non-doll collectors are the lonely people?

 

I don't think dolls are for lonely people. I have a lot of friends. and I always go out with them. I also have a boyfriend. But stil,l I'm into collecting dolls.

I actually collect dolls because I'm so much into photography. I have fun in shooting with them. and I so love creating clothes for them. ^_^

 

I've never heard of any association between dolls and lonely people o.O

I suppose I could understand people thinking that, if they'd only ever been exposed to the doll owners who call their dolls their 'children' - I must admit, I feel deep down that projecting that much emotion onto an object suggests a desire to fill in something that is otherwise missing. But I admit I'm just basing that on my own feelings - for all I know, people who call their dolls their 'kids' actually feel exactly the same way I do about my dolls being my characters. So I don't think people are right to think that dolls are only for lonely people, but I can sort of see where that assumption might come from?

But, regardless, I know that I certainly don't collect dolls because I'm 'lonely', so dolls definitely aren't just for lonely people

 

I know I already replied to this but I felt like chiming in again. I thought about it a bit more. I definitely don't think about my dolls as my children or as alive people. I'm not lonely per sey, but sometimes when I am stressed out about things in life, there's a special distraction and pleasantness about a doll. I do notice I will go get one of my dolls if it's too late to vent to a friend and style a wig, put on a new outfit, something to keep me occupied and not pay attention to the stress. I'm not sure if that's the same as loneliness but it definitely helps distract me enough to forget life's issues for a bit!!

definitely its a special kind of 'company' because there is some interaction and it's not just staring at an object. If that makes any sense

Also there's nothing wrong with feeling lonely, we all do at some point, and if a doll can make you feel a bit better then godo for you

 

I'm not a lonely person. I'm married and spend the majority of my time with my husband and kitties. I'm not a social person but I do have friend that I can hang out with if I want to.
I have dolls because they're pretty and I can use them to express my creativity.

 

I can see where people would think that dolls are for lonely people, but I don't think it necessarily comes with the territory. I'm not particularly lonely, in fact I like talking about dolls with my friends. ^^

 

it's strange for me to read this thread :P I'm a lonely person sometimes and I like dolls but the people I know who own them are not lonely at all...it's also true that I don't know many people who loves them and I've known them only in the internet, in my real life (I mean my town, school and work) nobody likes or knows bjds..
anyway I think that dolls are a good company for those who feel lonely or sad or in my case who are shy and don't trust easily >.<

doh! I have cats too, I'm totally a lonely person xD

 

I agree with Ingy.
I'm not a loner, either and I can't see why those assumptions are made.

 

Well I have dolls & I'm not lonely at all ... My mother in law has dolls and is much much far from lonely ... my husband has dolls , his dolls are mainly monstrous creatures, or muscular men, or busty females and he likes to pose them in a shameful manner which he finds hilarious &#8230; (well if he continues to do that I&#8217;ll restrict him for punishment and then he might be lonely lol ) as you can imagine he is not lonely for sure, he is very social and usually the center of every company &#8230;. Basically all people with bjd I know are the opposite of lonely &#8230; my examples are different & I could more easily call me and my doll friends "posers" than lonely ... oh yes we are epically posers !

 

I am not lonely, i have some friends and a familly everytime ! it is inverse for me... XD I want to be alone sometimes to do what i want and sleep when i want sleep and i love the silent home to rest !

 

I'm not a lonely person. I only get two days away from people a week, usually, so I love being alone when I get the chance. And this alone time is a great time to indulge my hobbies - video games, drawing, music and of course my dolls.

I'm sure that some people could help their loneliness with dolls, but when I am feeling lonely, I always go to my pets.

 

I, for example, the lonely person. To me it is sometimes more pleasant with a doll, than with the person. But to state that dolls only for lonely it is impossible.

 

I don´t think, that dolls make you lonely or are for lonely people. It´s what your chosing for your self. Mayby the Doll can help lonely people to find new friends. Because you have the same interesst.
Sorry for the bad english.

 

I don't agree and I know many out going people and they enjoy playing with dolls everyday.

 

Ohh man, I'm probably one of those "lonely" people! I've suffered from social anxiety for years, which turned into depression last year. One of the main reasons I wanted to buy a BJD was because I felt like having one around would be sort of reassuring and make me feel less isolated. I've never put that into words before, and yup -totally aware of how bizarre that sounds! :P I do have friends, but don't often get to see them as much as I'd like, due to that whole being-afraid-of-people thing. ;D

It makes me kind of surprised there aren't more people who are like me, considering how I don't think my doll has a personality or a soul when others seem to talk about theirs like they do.. This thread is quite enlightening! I'm glad most of us here have happy social lives, despite that crazy-doll-lady stereotype.

 

I wouldn't say they're for lonely people necessarily. Certainly that might be the case for some. I can honestly say I just love dolls. I have always loved dolls, simple as that. It has nothing to do with replacing people.

 

I don't think its just for lonely people. While it may be the case for some, most people just see it as a hobby like collecting stamps or action figures. Similar to other posts I don't think it has anything to do with replacing people, but some dolls may be inspired by others.

 

I'm a loner. I'm not lonely. I like hanging with freinds and chatting to them and such but at the end of the day I am perfectly content in my own company and often choose it over socialising. Felt that little point needed to be made.

Regardless, my social preferences are disjointed to the premise of owning a doll, imo- I happen to pursue interests that dolls can tie into that tend to be done alone. Illustrating, sclupting, gaming&such. Others will go in for the social aspect of collecting. It's not exclusive to lonely people, not that there is much wrong with alleviating loneliness by filling time with hobbies, if someone should choose to do so.

 

I don't consider myself lonely. Even though I have friends who I hang out with at school, it's nice to have my doll sit at my desk while I'm working or relaxing at home. She's like a silent companion while I draw or write.

 

I think BJD's are for anyone who loves them, whether or not they are antisocial is another topic in my opinion. =)