dolls just for lonely people?

Dolls aren't just for lonely people...though I am a loner type myself, I ended up getting two pet ferrets with my sis, dolls have become more of an artistic thing than a company for lonely person thing.

 

I don't think doll owners are lonely and antisocial. Sure, everyone may get lonely sometimes for some reasons or another, but I highly doubt that's why they started to buy dolls. Dolls are just a hobby that show someones interests/artistic talents. Plus, if someone is lonely, there's always the doll community

 

I'm lonely a lot, I work from home... but the dolls don't help alleviate that at all. XD

I grew up very lonely, living out in the country and having very few friends even at school. I was very different from the kids at school, being one of the only non-white kids in the county. I had a lot of toys, and I played by myself a lot. However, that didn't really help the loneliness, it just helped to pass the time.

What helps me from being lonely is going out and talking to friends, calling them, or spending time with my husband when he's home. Dolls CAN be a way to interact- in that going to a meet up means meeting new people and talking to friends... but the dolls themselves don't do anything for loneliness or anti-social behavior.

Knowing the different doll people I know I think the most common trait among collectors is creativity and cleverness. I don't think I've ever met any doll people who weren't creative in some way- whether they're artists or writers or crafters or parents or just someone who really enjoys a good story or a good work of art.

 

I was very lonely growing up, and a rich fantasy life helped me cope. Now that I'm an overgrown adult, I have plenty of friends and am very seldom by myself, but my love for dolls is undimmed and is lifelong.

 

I have friends, but they are busy people (as am I) and my best friend in the world lives across the country from me, so I understand lonely. I'm an only child and I have pets because they make me feel like I have more of a family. I think this is also why I draw, write and rp. My creations are part of my life, they're people to me and they fill some of the void. I make my dolls based upon them. I think the key difference here is that being antisocial would mean you wanted nothing to do with anyone whereas lonely just means you can't be around people as much as you like and you're alone. It's simple.

 

I'm antisocial but it's because I don't like people, not because I'm lonely. And it's no a singular hobby for me; my wife and I collect together. We role play together and buy dolls based on our characters and play with our dolls together. If anything I would say BJDs are for creative people!

 

Ok, I'm not social. Anyway, I have very few friends who call me and rarely get an answer...
But dolls aren't with me to fill a lack of communication or anything like that. They can't help with a lack I apparently don't have. Logical.
But they incarnate some problems and memories I don't want to talk about. Dolls are some kind of receptacle. That's how I see them. They allow me to free and purge myself in a certain way.

We all see our dolls in a different way, but does it really matter ?

 

i know its weird but i think i have to agree ~
i am a lonely person , my parents are very very over protective of me so they NEVER let me go out and play with my friends ... (note : its NEVER!!) they only allowed me to go out travel to other city with them and play with cousin ~
(and because they never let me go play outside i became a very shy person and rarely talk)

i keep in touch with all my friends back from schools but i still need someone to talk to everyday so dolls probably the best company for me , i do have best friend's but all of them i scatter somewhere in the country because of their busy schedule of collage or works ~
so i can't just call them and tell them i miss them everyday ~

 

No not at all, I recently moved so NOW I feel a bit lonely but I think it is for creative people with an active imagination and a fondness of cute child-like things!

Although I regretably brought the hubby to a meet recently (a large one with over 110 people) and he generalized everyone into a "lonely farmgirl" category and kept judging people on looks.... rather irritating believe me...

 

they are one of the members of my family.
if I lost them I must miss them.
but at the very begining I just think they are dolls.

 

I think that dolls can help lonely people, though I don't think that's the most healthy way. BJDs cannot replace human interaction, even pets are a better option as others have stated. These dolls are excellent ways to bring out imagination and creativity, which both are much better reasons for owning a BJD than for friendship.

 

I believe that many lonely people do seek out dolls, but I don't believe only lonely people want dolls or that the dolls can help them overcome their owner's loneliness on there own. Now if you start collecting BJD and join a community of BJD collectors then go to meet ups, you can meet people who might become your great friends and start tearing away at loneliness.

 

This topic is very interesting since lately I have been lonely since I broke up with my boyfriend and I don't have many friends in the area or anyone to hang with. Naturally since I have always been lonely since I can remember even though I have three older sisters, there was a big age gap and I couldn't really play with them much like I wanted to. So I have always leaned on toys, books, video games, and now it's my dolls. They really do keep me company and make me laugh sometimes. It's a really nice feeling. Though due to this hobby I have met some interesting people in my local doll meets . And some I do get a long with and consider friends. So this hobby has its good and bad times. Thanks for reading ^_^

 

First, antisocial and introverted are two very different adjectives. Just wanted to point that out.

Doll collecting is a hobby, much like photography, fishing, reading, knitting, etc., and it can be enjoyed by both a lonely individual as well as a socially fulfilled one. To say that any hobby is only for a specific subgroup of individuals is pretty narrow-minded.

Have I ever been lonely? Sure, I bet almost everyone has experienced the feeling at some point in their lives. But, when I did feel that way, I would pick up the phone and call a friend or a relative. Or, I would go and play with my cat. Material things have never helped me feel less lonely. They may distract me for a while, but ultimately, only a meaningful social interaction with a human or a beloved pet would fill that void.

I view BJD collecting as a fun, interactive hobby, not a substitute for socialization with the outside world, and I bet most doll enthusiasts would say the same.

 

I agree with Anna :]

I'm introverted, very VERY shy with people but I do like people, however, I like to be by myself most of the time.

I see BJDs as any other hobby which is meant to be enjoyed regardless of your personality. I don't mind being alone because it is something I like, being around people makes me feel anxious ~_~ but it has nothing to do with dolls.

 

Batchix, you just broke my heart!

While I agree with your sentiments, I don't think being a parent makes you creative. Sure there are many creative people who are parents, but simply popping a baby out doesn't make a person creative in my view. It just means that nine months previously they had sex, which is a behaviour we have in common with almost all living creatures, is a natural insticnt, and to my mind is quite different to actually painting or writing or whatever! (And to me, painting and writing is the preferable activity.)

 

im not lonely i love to have lovely things and bjds to me are lovely things so maybe it is not the same for everyone but for me its just the love of bjds and not being lonely as i have loads of other things going on in my life too

 

I've never really thought BJD owners are lonely or anti-social. If anything BJD owners seem to have a rather strong sense of community and seem to favour interaction from what I've observed, so I guess I've tended to assume that these traits seen online from owners also reflect in real-life settings.

I myself am seldom lonely. I have a fair few friends and a fiancé who is often around. That's not to say I've never been lonely, but I've never connected that loneliness to doll ownership.

 

i agree with this pose...^^

 

im well in late 20 and Im not a loney people or a anti-anything for the most part! i love hanging out with my family and friends. I dont care on what people have to say about me or my dolls it what make me happy! and not anything or anone is going to tell me other wise! Im not hurting and mess up anything or anyone!
the way i see it that life is to short to be anything but HAPPY! i love my family and friends but i wont anyone stand in my way of being ME!