dolls just for lonely people?

Personally, yes, I am a lonely person. I have a small friend base and don't get out as much as I would like to. However, my best friend got me into BJD's and I am really happy he did. We actually end up having "doll parties" where we do faceups or painting or blushing and stuff, which really turns our dolls into a social activity.

So honestly, I do not think there is anything about dolls that makes them "for" lonely people. I think they can help with loneliness, but that not everyone gets dolls because they are lonely.

 

I am celibate, I will admit to that much, but honestly, I don't think lonely would really be something I classify myself as. I have many friends, whom I see on a daily basis if not at least weekly basis, and I enjoy their company until I've had my fill and then I need some alone time to actually get my work done. During that alone time, I fill it with hobbies, writing, art of all mediums and kinds, and well...dolls. They bring me some joy, so I follow my bliss. Antisocial? Nah, only when I wanna be, we all need our me-time.

 

Not for me! My dolls are my down time hobby. When I need quiet time away from the world I have my dollies who are silent and still and calm my mind down. When I have a long hard day at work I really look forward to coming home and starting a new bjd project or photoshoot. I don't get too much time to myself, I'm constantly surrounded by friends and family and co-workers so in quite the opposite way I cherish my alone time and prefer spending it working on my resin crew. When I do get lonely though I don't find they fill that void for me at all, but they do make me relaxed

 

I would better say that the dolls are often a means to communicate with a lot of people

 

ACuriousGirl: I know the feeling.

I'm not that social a person, but I have my friends and family and boyfriend. I go to school in a class with 20 other girls, and get really tired after a full day of dancing and singing in a big group. Then it is really good to just lock the door to my room and "play with my dolls". Theyr also a great way to make time fly - just giving one of them a new faceup can make a whole day go away xD

Dolls may help some peiple fill the woied of not having friends, and for some it is a way to escape the real world. So no, dolls aren't ment for lonly people, but for everyone with an interest I would say ^^

 

Dolls are for everyone~ They can make lonely people feel less lonely, yes, but so can many other things! It depends on the person, I am not a lonely person and dolls bring joy to my life, and I think that if someone would like a non-mammal friend dolls are fine, but like I said, so many more things are fine as well.

 

I have friends over a lot so I don't really feel lonely. I feel that some times I don't get to "hang out" with my dolls because of that. Dolls could help people that feel lonely

 

Since I'm not a lonely person & collect BJDs, I guess that the answer is NO

 

Personally, i'm currently the furthest from lonly I could possibly be, i'm engaged, I have some great friends at uni, I see my to be mother and brother in law all the time because I love them to death and, as of the last couple of months, am temporarily living back at home with my wonderful parents, my brother, and there lodger (coincidentally also one of my best friends) whilst my partner and I try to raise the money for a deposit on our first house. I only wish I was lonely !

Nonetheless, this is actually when I've had the first opportunity to get into dolls, during this hectic period, I think maybe I use them as an escape when things get too much and I just want ten minutes to myself, it's so easy to say 'you guys go ahead and watch that, i'm just gonna work on Nancy's dress for half an hour' or, 'i'll be ten minutes, I just want to finish off, the blushing on Nancy's torso' or something. She's a great excuse to have some space.

 

Well, of course dolls aren't ONLY for anti-social or lonely people, but I'm sure SOME doll owners either suffer from (lonely) or enjoy (anti-social) their lack of interaction with real people.

>_> I am fairly socially awkward myself, but wouldn't go so far as call myself antisocial.

 

I think dolls can accompany people who are lonely, but aren't we all lonely at some point? When I was giving my friend some bjd 101, she said, "I think I'd go a little crazy if i had a doll. I'd be talking to it and pretending it's a little person." I didn't agree with the "going crazy" thing, but i think she just used poor word choice. I didn't really argue because, well, i talk to my doll sometimes XD
I got into bjds because i think they're art forms, and i love art Not because i lack friends haha.

 

I think doll doesn't help lonely people to overcome their loneliness. It just close you from world strongly.


I am not lonely. I have friends, boyfriend..but i don't like contact with people so much..

 

I am NEVER lonely. In fact - I have TOO much contact with humans. I love being alone, but very rarely get the chance to be. So when I am I treasure those times. I have dolls because they're cute. And I'm insanely passionate about cute things. The end....

 

I'm married and have friends, so I would say that dolls aren't just for lonely people. I think a lot of people make the assumption because they don't understand the hobby.

 

I am married to an amazing husband and we have two pups. We are very active and outdoorsy. I am also fortunate to have AMAZING family and really, really great friends. I wouldn't say dolls are for lonely people. I know I am not lonely and I adore my dolls. I would say they are for any person who appreciates them and find joy in them.

 

Sweeping claims about what dolls are used for are inaccurate because they involve major generalisations about people. I am sure that many doll owners are not anti-social; but my guess is that introverts are much more likely to be drawn to the BJD hobby.

I, personally, sometimes feel lonely and will readily admit (at the slight risk of sounding asocial) that I see my dolls as friends and companions. Dolls are often more reliable than people, and some might say it is harder for a doll to let you down than for a friend to disappoint you due to inevitable human shortcomings. That is not to say that dolls can wholly replace human contact because real people obviously offer much that dolls can't. Nevertheless, they do seem to be a good 'supplement' to real-life friendships.

 

i think that dolls attract lonely people but to say all doll collectors are lonely is just like any other generalization: there may be a common truth behind it but if you apply the statement to every individual person, it will be proven wrong, even if the individuals who don't fit the stereotype might be the minority.

i'm not one of the people who would counter that statement though. i am a lonely person because of my upbringing and my situation in life, although i now live with my s/o and it really helps me feel less isolated. i have only a few close friends and some of them i don't get to see very often. that said, i'm not anti-social. when i am around people i really like socializing as long as they're not bad people (i.e cruel, judgemental, greedy, critical, or whatever traits could be considered well.... anti-social within themselves).

dolls can be a substitute for the relationships and friends that lonely people are missing, but they can never replace a real and meaningful relationship with another human being. i'll be the first to admit that i often project upon my dolls though, but i don't know if it can be considered mary sue-ism since i tend to imagine they share my negative qualities in some way, not my idealized or positive ones. either way, i find identifying with dolls' characters to be a comfort since it makes you feel like you're 'not the only one' (even if it's just a delusion, some kind of placebo effect).

 

Not all who like being alone are antisocial or lonely. Loneliness is not a state of being. It's an emotion. It passes. People prefer talking to the person that is more conversational. I barely talk, but conversation lasts very long once I start. The dolls can be used as an icebreaker. If things go well, the loneliness fades.

Talking to a doll can be emotionally helpful, but it's basically internalizing. People need to socialize with others. Playing with a doll doesn't really deal with loneliness, but sadness.

 

I think these dolls are for everyone and not everyone is the same. We have lonely people and outgoing ones and they can both enjoy dolls for different reasons or whatever.

 

The reason for having a dolls of course can be different for everyone. I know that I'm not much of a lonely person but I did come from a broken home. I have hard my up and downs in life and sometimes my dolls help me forget those days. I have friends but don't get to see them much, my family is scattered everywhere now days so again I don't get to see them much. Tho I'm happy with the way my life is and happy that I have a wonderful BF, Pets and a great doll family to share my life with. It's just how you as a doll collector, etc see it.