dolls just for lonely people?

Well, I don't think so. I'd like to take this as an interest like music, movies or others. But I admit that when I feel sad, dolls can make me happy.

 

I don't think they are just for lonely people, I mean I've had a rough time the past few years and I found out about bjds only a year ago. At the time I was lonely and wanted one, but now I have made a lot of new friends and things have gotten a lot better for me! And I still want a bjd

 

I don't think dolls are for specifically lonely people, but for people with any type of stress. Dolls are an outlet for stress... actually, I think any attachment to any sort of physical object is from a form of stress...

 

yes, this it basically what it comes down to, at least from my perspective. in western culture (and i'm not saying other cultures are immune to it) we often use materialism, buying, collecting etc as a form of dealing with any kind of negative emotion, i.e stress, anxiety, loneliness...etc

edit: and obviously i'm not condemning this as terrible behavior because a) i do it and b) it helps. it's just an observation that i am in agreement with.

 

I myself don't think it has anything to do with loneliness or whatsoever. It totally depends on the interest of the person itself.
Some seek dolls to help with their loneliness, others because they just find them pretty. While some other people also want to use them as a source of art.

So yeah i basically think it's all about the person . I myself would love one because it's just a beautiful object itself, and because of the great ways of customization and characterizing it to your own content.

 

I'm pretty antisocial, but I'm not terribly lonely. I don't think my dolls are substitutes for human companionship, they're just pretty and fun to play with. I can see how dolls could be used as companionship if someone was lonely, but that definitely doesn't make an instant equation for dolls = lonely.

 

There are thousends of people around me anytime. I just have no time to be lonely. I wish they all disappear for some time... Not so long ago i found that i need a doll. Not to communicate with him. But i need him as basic reference standard of beauty. You see, people aren't made ideal. We all have defects, problems. Also i see the doll as blank part and feel myself a creator in some way. I won't be able to create his body but i will be able to create his personality. So, here we go.

 

I'm a misanthrope, and dolls ARE my best friends!! Er....er.....oops did I just say that? Lol, I'm kidding. I just always loved dolls, sort sweet and simple!

Word for the day.......Misanthrope = A person who hates or distrusts humankind.

 

I have a lot of friends, a great roommate and my boyfriend, I always have someone around me and am everything but lonely. I don't know what makes me buy dolls but it's definitely not loneliness.

 

I'm not lonely, I just enjoy looking at dolls and creating different outfits for them~ I love trying to find different ways to sew things, learn about pattern sizing, and finding things that would go great with my doll~ She's more of my creative outlet when I'm not working on costumes for conventions or the stage~ Also, I enjoy taking pictures with my friend's dolls whenever we get together~ ^^

 

Definately not just for the lonely! ^^ I'm an average high school girl with lots of friends who I dearly love and see often For me, BJDs are more of an artistic hobby.

 

well i live with my boyfriend who buys me dollies and helps me in my dollie hobby (he helps me with sanding and faceups and makes them props and furniture and even helps me sew them clothes from time to time)

and i go to doll meets where i hang out with lots of other friends who collect dollies and who want to hang out with each other, BUT i also constantly hang out with my friends and family...

in fact my friends are FIGHTING over me to hang out with me during my spare time which since ive started working graveyard has become more scarce than ever!

so am i antisocial and lonely... i think not!

for me my dollies are my way of taking the beloved characters from the stories i write and creating them in a physical form i can behold!

(i also like sewing for them and getting better at photography by taking pictures of them!)

 

honestly, I think these dollies are for whoever wants one, and as there are very diverse people there are also very diverse reasons to have them. because they're beautiful, because they help loneliness, because they like to build and paint things, but to say that only anti social and lonely people have them would be a stretch. I'm a very extroverted person and have friends and I LOVE my dolly! we're all different, so our reasons are probably different too

 

I'm 65 and I live alone but I am not lonely. I am my own best friend!! LOL I have a lot of dolls not just BJD's. I have fun with with them. I think maybe dolls can help people through some lonely times in their lives. However all of us must come to terms with our own lives and find that which can make each of us happy.

 

This thread is very interesting... I'm a very introverted person which is why BJDs appealed to me in the first place. But I've seen people on the opposite side of the spectrum (read: really extroverted, bordering on hyperactive) who own dolls as well. I guess some people, like me, like owning BJDs for the sense of companionship they provide but I don't think people outside the hobby should apply this idea to everyone who owns a BJD. I think it's a perfectly wonderful hobby.

 

I don't think they only for the lonely people. I have a fiancé and great friends that I'm always hanging around with. In my case I always loved dolls, pretty things and art and I think BJD are fusion of all that. Also having been in fashion for a long time before changing for the program I'm in, I was always fascinated by interesting and beautiful looking people to chose as models for my clothes, and it made me weird when I was asking them to be in my model for our school end of year runway. At least with dolls, I don't need to be afraid to make them pretty clothes and showing them off, I'm sure they won't refuse.

I think it's great to see that BJD are appealing in different ways to a lot of different people.

 

I don't think I would qualify as 'lonely' given my family status and lifestyle - on the other hand, I've always enjoyed (and actually needed) to have time of my own, not necessarily alone but doing my own stuff. BJDs are for me the synthesis of all the things I like doing - painting, sewing, modelling, photography, roleplay, crafting in general - they provide so much entertainment and satisfaction and even can be a means to self-discovery.

 

I am right there with you @flowerladywithdolls. I am 58 and not lonely either. I have ALWAYS been able to amuse myself having pretty much raised myself due to the parent's work schedule when I was a kid. In fact I resent people getting all up in my personal space and expecting me to use my little bit of down time to amuse them. I like my friends but I don't necessarily need any of them. The dolls are my pleasure not my replacement for companionship.

 

To be completely honest, my dolls will sort of be there to mend loneliness. I mean, I don't really have any friends as they've all gone off to College and left me in our crappy little town. I don't do much and so, having dolls to photography and shop for and such, is sort of like having little friends LOL! So, I guess, yeah I'm lonely and dolls help to keep me occupied. Although I KNOW they aren't real, you get so deeply involved in character creating, in a story or in your mind, they do come to life.

 

I share you're opinion I went crazy on school and I've seen many people with dolls who have trouble and suffer from stress of course not all Pets make me calm down but I decided to take a doll when my ferret ran away. I felt very sad and I'm not ready for an other pet. I'm also moving to an apartment with my bf. So having a doll is very special to me I spent time with her when I want to be alone not because I'm antisocial