dolls just for lonely people?

I don't think so. Dolls can be for anyone. However, I kind of contradict that comment. I'm very anti-social (I literally have NO friends, LOL). But I don't have dolls because I feel lonely; I have them because I like them, that's all. ^^

 

So generally, we all started lonely but as time passes by, we acquire more friends. And before we know it, we'll have forgotten about the loneliness and indulged in the friendship created by non-living things!

 

Even if one is lonely I think anything can provide comfort, not just a doll.

But in a way, a doll is like a friend since you're giving them a personality and making them truly your own.

 

I've never thought about this much, simply because I'm far from lonely but I absolutely wouldn't want to be without my doll collections or my ponies. So I don't think it matters.

But I can say, when you ARE lonely, my goodness a collection of any kind can be your sanity....I went through a bad couple of years and my collections were something good to focus on at the time.

Now I'm content, I still love my collections but I do not focus on them as much as when I was unhappy.

 

I may be antisocial (not lonely though) but that has nothing to do with my doll

dolls are not just for lonely/antisocial/depressed people

 

I saw this Korean horror movie about BJD. It's a rare chance to see how people streotying BJD owners. There was one character who owned a BJD. And she was anti-social and very shy. There was another character who owned BJD when she was a little kid but had forgotten about it. She wasn't anti-social (because it's normal to have dolls when you're little and get over it when you grow up) and was very cheerful. I REALLY hated how they portrayed BJD owners

 

Oh the things people would twist for money. Look at this fact, how many BJD owners turned out to be dead because their doll(s) kill them? As a matter of fact, look how many BJD owners are really adorable with their tiny friends who wouldn't hurt them but sit there and listen to whatever the owner tells and how bubbly and happy we are in our own doll world. So dont feel bad. Keep calm, and spend time with dolls!

 

well, i'm always lonely but not sure it has anything to do with my dolls, i do cuddle when i am lonely though so perhaps they do help, some would just call that bonding

 

I'm kind of shy but I started collecting dolls to create the characters in my head. (Did that come out the way I meant it?) Anyway. I don't think I'm especially lonely. Besides you can be lonely in a huge crowd of people you know or be having a great conversation at home alone on your computer. It really depends on your perspective.

 

I'm often alone but rarely lonely. No, dolls don't fulfill that purpose in my life. I have friends, some online, and a precious few off. I don't socialize as much as I used to offline. I have illness issues and work takes precedence. I don't have a lot of energy left over for that stuff, but I don't consider myself lonely at all. I have people enough in my life, a furball to take care of. The dolls are my playtime. They are therapy sometimes but not company in the sense that my friends and animals are.

 

I think, if anything, dolls are like eye-candy to me. I've had dolls in some shape or form all my life. While I admit, I am very introverted, I don't consider myself 'lonely.'

 

I don't consider myself a lonely person. I have several good friends, and I'm close with my family, and I live with 5 others. On top of all that, there's dozens of Internet friends I correspond with on a daily or weekly basis. AND some pen-pals who I write to via snail mail. People know me as lively, optimistic, and friendly. I am that one person that everyone talks to at the bus stops.

It's true that I used to be very lonely, and perhaps that's why I first got into BJD. But I'm just as into it now (after my little hiatus), and I love my dolls AND I love my friends.

 

Sadly really think it is the lonlieness as well as some people because im in a long distance relationship i have been in one for 5 years already and hobbies have been keeping me going for around the last two of these years im visiting him right now and he works a lot 60hrs a week or more and i hardly see him......so when we finally get to be together i know i wont see him much i also love how dolls can keep you company.

 

I was wondering this, do dolls fill a gap that needs filling and is it a gap everyone has or just people like us who find these hobbies. Either way I know for definite that the 2 things that drew me to dolls were loneliness and how pretty they are. I always gravitate toward beautiful things, dolls are no exception here. But I think what has really caught me os my desperate attempts to try to build myself a happy family out of dolls. I know it might sound mad, and I'm trying to restrain myself from getting too sucked in, but I have my favourite doll and I want to cocoon her in a world of happiness in a way that I wish I was. Anyway, I'm fascinated, I need to read more on this and see what the general consensus is!

 

Collecting bjds sort of followed on from collecting anime action figures for me. I can understand though how they can be like companions. While I have been unwell for a time they have given me something else to focus on and seeing their beautiful faces everyday cheers me up. I am actually a very social person who loves going out with friends but while I have been ill I have not been able to get out like i'm used too and I think they have helped fill that gap.

 

To me, yes, they do fill a gap I didnt even realize was there. I wasnt born in a perfect family. I have good laughter at times with real friends, but theyre not there all the time, a fact whether I like it or not, I have to accept. I wish to live my childhood again. I wish to bring happy childhood into someone's life. But another fact that I have to face is, I'm mostly gay. I dont want to get married and break a woman's heart. But at the same time, I crave for a kid's laughter. And through this hobby, I find that.

 

I have a doll just for the fun of having him. I have a wonderful partner AND a busy social life so loneliness never entered the picture.

 

My partner and I are homesteaders so we don't get much time to be lonely lol. The dolls are my only escape from chores. But there is always something that needs done or someone to help around here.

 

I've always been super social and always have been friendly with everyone but I do get very lonely without my mom, my doll is there when I'm sad and down and feeling alone, but I'm not a antisocial person and I'll never be antisocial, so whoever said that Dolly's are only for lonely antisocial people is dumb because everyone can like them doesn't mean they have to be labeled right? I believe what makes you happy shouldn't label you as something unless you want it too, so that's what I think and feel, these are beautiful artistic dolls built for art and enjoyment so I believe anyone who puts down what you like is not a person to listen to ever. With that have a wonderful dolly day bjd friends! ^^

 

I wish people would stop assuming things about us just because we collect dolls. Sure,some of us might be anti-social (I can be very uncomfortable around people) but that doesn't mean we all are. Like someone else said,I like BJDs because I can recapture my childhood..only better than what my actual childhood was. You can create your ideal self and ideal world with BJDs,and that's what really appeals to me.
And some people simply like having these beautiful dolls as an artistic outlet,or they just like having pretty and expensive things. There's nothing wrong with that either.