dolls just for lonely people?

Like so many of you, I enjoy my own company. I have so many crafts that I enjoy! I don't have time for all of them. I don't need the stimulation of other people. I find that I am just not good about nurturing friendships. People always want something. They pass judgement and inquire. So many questions. And "should of" all the time. You should have done it this way or that way...I never judge other people. I find they disappoint me. Sooner of later people are cruel, intentionally, and unintentionally. It seems better to do my own thing, which includes dolls. My life is so rich. I am thankful for all the beauty in this world. I try to add to the beauty, knitting, sewing, weaving, quilting, creating any way I can. I love my family. I love my dolls. I don't know what loneliness is. Dolls are my solace.

 

No, I don't think dolls are for lonely people. But I do think they can help some difficult period of life. For example, I'm in a "doll-mood" when I have some problems and dolls help me to enjoy life and not to think too much to bad things, and so on. But I'm not lonely.

 

No, I consider dolls not only for lonely people. This is hobby. And it for those people who loves dolls and finds in them something special. They are pleasant to me, because that I in everyone see their oun history. They are beautiful. And as live.

 

I can be a lonely person. My day-to-day life is to get up, go to work, come home, eat, sleep. So I don't get to see people much. I have weekends off, but I spend them with my partner, or if he's working, then I go to see my parents. So I would say dolls do help lonely people, but I wouldn't generally say they are JUST for lonely people. They are for anyone who likes them.

 

Not necessarily. I have collections of other types of dolls and I have friends who like them or started collecting them too because they saw mine. I also have friends who happen to also like BJDs (I didn't know that when I met them) and we sometimes talk about dolls and show each other the dolls we want to get, etc, so I think it can be a social activity too.

 

I think ALL people are lonely at some point or other whether they would like to admit it or not. Some people can be lonely even though they are always surrounded by other people. Dolls can give us company in our little lonely times, but I don't think that is the one reason that anyone here has them. However, it may be a piece of the pie

 

I'm sure that some people may collect dolls because they are lonely but I've never considered myself a lonely person and I am obsessed with dolls and buying dolls. In saying that I do think that the old bank account seems a bit emptier when my husband is working away. But thats probably because I can spend money shopping online without getting caught so easily

 

"I am alone, I'm not lonely.." - Robert De Niro in 'Heat'
It's not so much that I hate people, as that I feel better when they're not around." - Charles Bukowski

 

OOoh well said, well said.
After so many years of hanging out with friends, I realise that I rather just be alone, I'm happier alone.

Also, my Bf's always so busy, I thought maybe I could keep myself occupied with a new hobby.

 

Iris just about said what I would have said so, ditto!!!! I'm much more social online than off though I do have a trio of very good friends offline too. I have never really liked social situations all that much though. Meetups are fun but they do stress me out and a couple of hours is about all I can take of that.

 

I would call myself a lonely person, and my dolls help me a lot. I also deal with a very severe form of mental illness, and I find them to be very comforting for that too. I didn't start collecting them because I was lonely and miserable, but it does help the situation. Of course, I have a friend who collects dolls and as far as I know, she's not lonely, nor is she sick in any way. So, they aren't just for lonely people, but they definitely can help a lonely person.

 

......yes I'm anti social. I prefer to be alone. But I do have a loving family and a very supportive boyfriend who understands my hobbies. Im not lovely even though I am technically alone. I do not use my dolls as a replacement for human interaction but as a tool to explore my creativity and skills. And of course I always loved toys, so that helps. =)

 

Nope I don't think dolls are for lonely people. I do however think that they can help during difficult times in our lives. My husband has had Leukaemia twice & my dolls helped me "escape" during some of the darkest days of my life & were kind of a therapy

 

Well, I am pretty much a socialite. I love being out and about socializing with friends, or family.
I have had a few major spine surgeries/procedures though and have been stuck at home, sometimes even unable to get out of bed. It's times like these where I enjoy my dolls the most. So during lonely times yes they do help.
I would not say they are only for the unsociable though.

 

I dunno, never really thought about it. I think whether you are antisocial or not, you can still enjoy dolls because they are categorically awesome. Dolls mildly creep out my friends, but it's because they are not used to it, and it's not like they make a big deal out of it.

 

I think that dolls can be a big help because they are an outlet and in a way a distraction. I know that when I'm having a bad day and I'm lonely and miserable I'll get out my dolls and pose them, and work on them and such, sometimes I'll just sit them beside me, as odd as it could seem to some people. I am not a social person, I don't have friends, I don't know most of my family, and ultimately I'm very isolated, as a result I get very lonely.

But I didn't get into BJDs because of that, I got into the hobby because I think they are beautiful and I wanted an outlet and a way to have a physical iteration of my characters from my story (I wished for so long I could have that but I can't draw to save myself haha).

However I would say that it's about balance. Yeah, they can help in a variety of situation, but becoming reliant on something that is ultimately material is never good in the end.

 

I'm quite introverted but I have some friends. However, they don't share my doll addiction. Also, I'm meeting a boyfriend, so I can't call myself asocial.

 

I wouldn't count myself as lonely, though admittedly I am perfectly happy in my own company! I'm not 100% sure why I got into the hobby - but it's mostly about the sheer amount of customisation that they can go through, and the wide range of skills that it enables me to have a go at. There's the painting, the skill at face-ups, sculpting, sewing, pattern drafting, research, concept designing. Hell I can represent just about any character I set my mind to in the bjd hobby.

 

I grew up alone, without friends. More like "I know you, but not all that well." Dolls can be for anyone, but for me, they are my friends. They don't talk back, call me ugly names, make me feel bad about myself like people do. I can confide in one and not worry it gets spread around. I was treated so bad back when I was growing up, I can't trust a soul. I never will, either. The dolls will be there long after the people have left.

Yes, I'm odd, but I no longer care.

 

I was drawn to this hobby mainly because of the aesthetics. I like how customization offers so much options. It helps me with the image, story and character of the doll.

The hobby helps me to become more creative. It makes me want to try all sorts of crafts.

The hobby also helps me learn about what other people think about of this hobby.

I have people in my offline life. It was not because I was lonely but if it helps other people deal with loneliness, I do not see it as a bad thing because everyone has their reason for things.