Dolls' Sexuality and Owner's Sexuality: Are they related?

I'm...not entirely sure either. I really dont like things like sexuality and gender, that's who I am. I always choose to remain genderless and have peers decide for themselves what they'd like to refer to me as. My characters are of mixed genders and sexualities. I don't really think one outweighs the other o.o

 

My sexuality is part of me, but I don't think it has anything to do with my doll collecting.
Some people define themselves by their sexuality, and that's okay. So it is something to consider when making characters, and that can make it easier to form a solid character in your head. But if their doll's sexuality was the first thing someone told me about their doll I would wonder why they felt I needed to know.
I might be walking into hypocritical waters now, but I do want to get two girls simply because I think they make such a cute couple, and I love the contrast of a girly-girl with a tomboy, and that might reflect my preferences but quite frankly it's more my aesthetics because I don't like sexualizing my dolls.
I don't think people should be defined by who I find physically appealing, there are more interesting things about me and my dollies.

 

I'm pansexual, meaning I really don't give two shakes of a lamb's tail about physical sex nor gender identity. You could be a hermaphrodite for all I care who acts like some gender we don't even know about. If you're a good person and have an appearance I like, you're in for the dating scene. :P

Anyway, my characters (and upcoming dolls based from them) have sexualities as varying as their personalities and sense of fashion. Kim, for example, is more leaning towards other males, and very physically communicative. When I go to make a doll based on my character and forum namesake, Luke, he will be gay as daisies with his cross-dressing sense of fashion to match.

Does my own sexuality influence theirs? Nah. I would like to think my open-minded nature allows me to see that everybody is an individual and that we all have different lives to live.

 

THIS

was more or less what I was trying to get at. Thank you for explaining it better

 

I myself am straight. However, it doesn't stop me from being a very huggy person with any gender. I tend to get in people's bubbles sometimes. XD

However, my dolls vary. Lore's a pansexual, Jaryth is bisexual and unable to really commit formally( though he does tend to attract men more often than women), Az is openly gay ( and only wants Jaryth), Helena is also pan, while Akiharu is ambiguous (he's probably bisexual, but he always claims to be straight and then flirts with guys), and Marik, Kiva and Miki are quite straight. I don't think my own sexuality has influenced them, as some of them were pre-determined characters, while others just spawned their sexualities all their own.

 

Simple answer? No. I don't care about anyone's sexuality nor does sexuality influence how my dolls characters are. Sexuality ISNT as big a deal as the media make out. It just really isn't.

 

I have to agree with oOnyaOo, I have absolutely nothing wrong with same-sex relations but I am straight and I still very much love BJDs. That being said my doll "plays for a different team" but it doesn't reflect my own personal orientation.

 

Not related, as far as I can tell. I like guys and I like male dolls. My male dolls are mostly straight, but some are bi- or gay. I also have female dolls ... I don't think any of them are lesbian, but who knows? To me, m/m is cool as there are more lovely males to play about with doll-wise. In real life, I'd be out of the loop, so it wouldn't be fun at all--for me, anyway!

 

I am with April! My males vary between straight, bi, and gay as well. So far the adult females are straight, but I don't know on the minifees, even though they look older than my minis, who are around the age of 10!

 

In my case, I'm openly pansexual. I find beauty in anything, no matter the person's gender at all. I can't honestly say that there is a link between my open sexuality for girl or boy and the way my dolls 'swing'. I was raised in a family with many homosexual relatives, but by far the biggest influence was my transexual uncle. He told me such a wise thing, that your gender assingment shouldn't define you at all, but let you define your own gender. Perhaps it is abstract thinking, but that in itself has certainly changed the way I view things.
I suppose that is the closest thing I can get to the link for myself. I never thought there should be gender boundaries, who is to ban dresses from males and cargo jeans and ball caps from females? So I apply that with my dolls and characters for future dolls. I have one male who is openly homosexual, one who is asexual, another who is pansexual, and more that range all over the spectrum.
I'm thinking that it is mostly preference, but to get nitty-gritty with deep physcological processes, there might be a hidden link. But out-front and obvious? I'm not exactly seeing one. I mainly go with what is right for that character, but I'm sure that somewhere in the confines of my mind that there is some subconcious choice making going on.
But we'll save that for a rainy day.
For now, no real link.

 

Wow, a lot of Bi-sexuals!


Now that you think about it, the types to watch anime and read manga (in my experience) have a big percentage of Bi and homosexualities. And BJD are after all closely linked with this.
Not to mention, I see people who are Bi as open minded right?
In my personal opinion, everyone has the ability to be "Bi", its is all about opening our mind, and accepting.

...on a smaller scale;
a lot of people I know can't understand why I spent so much money on these "creepy dolls"
I guess they just need to open up their minds too.

Would be intersting to see if these two things are more closely linked, 'cuz I'm deffinatly seeing some correlation.

 

I never consider sexuality to link to bjd. I'm am girl but I can't stand girls Too much drama, backstabbing, grudge, and crap (not meant for Every girls, just most of the one I know.) So, I'm going to have to say I'm heterosexual.

 

Guys can be just as drama filled, grudgey and backstabbing too you know~

 

LOL I think it is linked for sure. I am Bi, but I was a Lesbian when I bought my first doll. I hated hetrosexual anything. But, I found this guy and was very open, and we ended up in a serious realationship. Now I think I'm not hetrophobic, but I think my dolls are probably going to be 'Gay' or 'Bi' more likely (Not that I'd force them into anything). My two boys experimented at first and now they're just really good friends.

 

I don't really think they're linked, but I wouldn't rule them out as sexual outlets- have you seen some of the MxM pictures people have of their dolls? They're not strictly sexual outlets - more like creative ones. I don't really think it's any different than writing- making these characters who have their own personalities, identities and letting them act out through these personas, using the dolls as the body.

Granted, I too am bisexal (maybe more pansexual? I don't know, I care about the human being, the person, not what's in their pants or whatever) and I am a soon-to-be doll owner, like many others here. My doll- my one and only, who is on her way here- is straight. I have three more dolls planned (HOPEFUL, I am) one straight male, one lesbian/bisexual, and one child who is too young to know her/his sexuality because I say so. Haha.

From what I've read in this thread, I don't really see a link here at all. I think there might be a third variable that makes sexuality and dolls' sexuality linked, but I don't think the owner's sexuality makes all that much of a difference.

I also agree with vonbonbon & Splynterhayde, pretty much everything they said. Not that I disagree with anything, but I haven't considered all of it before. Dolls/characters shouldn't be labeled by their sexual orientation, as it doesn't define who they are as a character, but it is part of who they are. It's kind of a two-way street, honestly. It's like having blue eyes, or having a small skeletal structure, or not liking peas. It plays a part in their 'life'. The personifying the sexual orientation was an interesting point I hadn't considered also. But I find it to be a bit off topic, though something to ponder.

I definitely don't think there's a correlation between the two; maybe a third variable, as I previously mentioned.

 

I never consider relating the owner's sexuality to the doll's sexuality n___6

 

i guess i never think of dolls as having a sexuality, so this never even occurred to me!

 

Maybe. I'm slightly freer when it comes to sexuality and that would definitely be something I bring to some of my dolls. With my own experience I might be my open to the possibilities but I think it would depend more on the dolls character. I can imagine wanting to create a world with my dolls where any adult is free to love, I can see the appeal because the real world isn't like that. But, I don't know there will be all sorts, if I have a female character who likes men I'm not just going to randomly make her be with a woman it'll be down to character.

 

I know there is a large amount of straight girls that like "gay men" (same with straight guys, they like when 2 girls kiss) so that can influence a dolls sexuality because they can make their doll's sexuality what they find attractive whether they're hetero, bi, or homo. So while yes, their own sexuality can influence it (ie. a lesbian finds 2 girls kissing attractive - so their girl dolls will be lesbians) it can also be the opposite (ie. a straight girl finds two girls kissing attractive despite being drawn to men - so they have a lesbian doll) I also think the androgyny of most male dolls influences the sexuality, when people see 'feminine male' they like to lable "homosexual" (even if that is not always true)

 

I always wanted a lot of children, and I dreamed of having a lot of them as a little girl. I always had dolls as a child and treated them as if they were human. Sexuality to me as far as they are concerned have nothing to do with having them. I just like to primp on things! Dolls are a matter of choice and BJD's happen to be the best on the market. You can primp on them to look anyway you want!