Don't be embarrassed!

I always treat my dolls like my own child, to friends and family members alike. They can be as uncomfortable as they want when I bring my dolls around. They're still my children. There have been people who showed interest in my dolls though, so that's not too bad.

I don't take them around when the weather is bad though, or if I anticipate carrying a lot of stuff.

 

hehe this sounds familiar

I got strange comments even from friends before my dolls because I play online games...a 40 yr old woman..playing games..now with dolls...whats the world coming to!

 

Well, don't let the world tell you what to do. I've met so many unhappy people who have kind of pulled a shell over themselves, either by joking it off or pretending not to like something when they do, or many other things. I'm not saying flaunt it in the faces of people who would judge you, but mainly, don't take what others say to heart. Because most times, it's not meant to be taken that way.


Well, I hope that made any kind of sense.

 

It depends on the group of friends I am with. My dog club friends think I am insane while at the same time they spend $$$$$$$$$$ on their doggie things. I do also to some extent but not quite as bad. And, conversely, my dollie friends can't imagine spending that kind of money on "just a dog" type thing so it really depends on who is around. The animal rehab friends are the same way and my co-workers think I am crazy all the way around. I don't bring up the doll thing in great detail either. Being single and collecting dolls seems a bit odd to them. Oh, well. Such is life.

 

I am the crazy lady that loves anime and BJD's, and my co-workers know it, they stay clear of me when I get mad and don't even ask the price of my dolls, just showing them pictures of them let's them know they are expensive and anatomically correct.

 

I'm a bit of a recluse with my dolls, but I am in no way embarrased by them. My close friends and family know, have seen them and find them interesting. - some of them have even gotten really into making stuff for them and asking about face-ups and everything. I think that's really cool, and most of the people who *really* know me well understand what they mean to me.
I've got other friends who are aware of the hobby and I never make any apologies about it, though some of them definitely do not understand my fascination with them.
I have to agree with the person who said that how you feel about your dolls when you are on your own with them is the truest measure of their worth. I love my boys like a wild crazy thing - nobody's opinion is going to change that, as far as I'm concerned.

-V

 

well i do somtimes feel embarassed but then i think, hey, i love her, who cares?

 

When I got my first doll, I wanted to take her out with me to everywhere I go. Of course there are people who stare at you oddly and give you weird looks but there are also people that stopped me because they were fascinated by her and complimented. Usually, I get more stares than compliments which made me feel very uncomfortable. My friends think I'm crazy and call them creepy but hey if you don't like it then you don't have to look at them! I'm used to it now and actually enjoy bringing my dolls out with me because I like their company. I can really care less about what people think.

 

There's NO way I'd be embarrassed about Kaiden,he's too cute to be embarrassed about.

Same with Sparrow

 

....has anyone else noticed that artistic people tend to be very shy, have low self-esteem as teenagers, and/or wear black clothing? or is that just me?
We are what we are, so who cares what others say? Just be yourself and be happeh~ ^^

I think when I get my girl I'll take her to school once for the Art/Videogamers club. Mostly because I go to school with a lot of.. not-artsy people. -still in highschool- Most people are either rich snob-preps, jocks, rude immature brats, or 'gangsters'. haha, we're so diverse xD But I do know that the small art-community at my school will appreciate my dolly, and I wanna show her off. =)

 

I have a friend -who can be a real dear when he wants to- who is anally objective of the idea of me getting a doll. It's gotten to the point where I don't get embarrassed or feel insecure about my choice anymore, but I want to show him just how secure I feel about having the doll and what it means to me.

And actually I have a lot of experience carrying weird things to school-- I do a lot of animal sculptures that are relatively noticeable, and I LOVE to carry them around just because they're mine and I'm proud of them. I often get stopped, "Did you make that in ceramics? Wow, it's really good." and they keep on walking and so do I. I'll do the exact same thing with Dale when I get him ^.^

 

I`m not really embarrassed about having dolls. I have had weirder hobbies.

I love to show them off and take them everywhere with me, but I get so shy when I feel like I`m not getting accepted for having this hobby. I take them out sometimes when I go to eat at my favorite pizza restaurant and I dont mind letting them sit on the table and pet with them. They look so happy when they get to be outside.
But when people giggle I feel so hurt... But most of them are teens. Everyone and everything that sticks out are the enemy...
But my confidence grow when people comment them and awe at their beauty and uniqueness. Mostly its women over 50, and I appreciate it so much. I feel so alone here. The closest BJD I know of is hundreds of miles away. Its really sad.

So I get a liiiiittle embarrassed, but its because I`m shy.

 

No, it's just you. I'm pretty artistic, VERY OUTGOING since I was young, have good self esteem, and I wear black all the time. Maybe I'm the weird one in the group?

 

Well, I've never had any problems in the confidence department.
Okay, so maybe that's not true. When I was younger, I was made fun of a lot. Other kids called me Dumbo because of my very large and protruding ears, and they called me Mouse or Rat because of my face shape (which is NOTHING like the aforementioned rodents, by the way XD). And I was made fun of for having glasses. It really really hurt. But then I realized that those little bastards don't matter! Since then, I've never cared what anyone thought of me.

So, I've had some confidence issues, but I got over them, and now, I'm the most confident person I've ever met! I just feel so proud to be myself. I am so different and wonderful. Take, for example, my hair. It's been several unnatural colours, and since I'm naturally dark headed, it was surprising when I bleached my hair white-blonde. Right now, I have half of it buzzed short and my natural dark brunette, and half long and blonde. And not only is my hair weird, but I dress weird. My appearance alone is an indication of my extreme confidence.


As for dolls, I'm gonna be exactly the same as I always am: happy and enthusiastic and not giving a shit about everyone else. When I get my girl, I'm gonna carry her around and smile like WOAH. I WANT people to look. If someone comes up to me and tries to make fun, I'll just throw some clever snark at them, and they'll piss off. I'm actually excited for people to try to make fun of me, because there's nothing quite like the look on a bully's face when you don't rise to their bait. C:

 

well then scratch the self-confidence thing. xD I know a lot of the people I hang out with don't have much self-confidence, and I have been teased since I was in middle school because I'm a ginger and people said I was ugly.... >< I didn't even get called by my name, I was always 'that ugly redhead'....

Now however... I don't really give a crap what people say about me. I've gone to school in semi-lolita, and noone ever said anything besides 'cute shoes'.

ForeverYoung: haha, you sound like a bully's bully. xD throwing their crap right back at 'em. I wish I had the nerve to say a lot of the witty things I come up with...

 

I have never once been embarassed by my hobby(ies.) When I take my boys out I hold them proudly. Even perching them on my shoulders in the middle of Safeway or Wal-Mart. My confidence used to be meh.. but it's turned around (oddly enough) since I started collecting these dolls. I'm no longer shy to talk to people when they ask me about them or something else.
What I'm trying to say is.... I really just don't give a flyin' frak what people think. ^^
ForeverYoung ~ Sounds like my hairdo right at the moment! Being buzzed in the back an the longest its ever been in ten years in the front. Not to mention the half blonde/mousey brown thing I've got going on. People say I've got a 'reverse mullet.' Haha.

 

Ainè-Rosalie: Hahha Thanks! I've never been called a bully's bully. That totally made me smile like crazy. XP Oh man, I am SO bad at coming up with witty things to say at the moment. Like, I'll say something to them and they'll walk away, and I'll be like, 'aww CRAP, I coulda said THAT and it would have been so badass!' Usually, I just say something like, "my parents told me not to fraternize with those stricken with the sad ailment of ignorance and tactlessness," and they get confused and go away. C:

DragonHawk: Omigosh, that's SO weird that we have almost the same hairstyle! That's so wacky! XD Dude, I so so SO respect you for buzzing part of your head. Any chick who can do that gets MAJOR brownie points for it! I've actually been thinking of buzzing more off; like, leaving only my bangs. XD I'd totally look like Tank Girl (only THE hottest comic book character EVER). XP

 

Well when I'm out in public, i don't mind at all!
Sometimes I get a little flustered when people are rude as i walk by, but oh well.
I did get embarrassed today because I brought Quinn to school and I left him in his bag, but some of my classmates discovered him and wanted to take him out, and I was embarrassed...
I don't tend to tell people about my hobby unless i think they would get it. Being "creeped out by dolls" is sort of a fad these days...

 

I'm not usually too embarrassed about taking my doll out in public, because I was never really socially conditioned by school, so I don't care that it's not normal. I usually get comments along the lines of "Cute" "Cool" etc, too, so there's nothing to really make me feel bad.

The only time I felt bad about it was the other day when this girl walked up to me and gave me a Look and started asking about him. Finally, she asked if he was for playing with and I went "Sure." and she goes "And *how* old are you?" I would have been a lot more embarrassed about that if a friend nearby hadn't gone "Stop being so critical. It's just a hobby." Also, some of the friends I have make it a lot easier to have him out in public. I would think that if your friends give you a lot of flak for it, then maybe they're not the kind of people to stay with anymore.

Also, I told my family and they didn't seem to have much of a problem with it. The only thing I got about the price was "Just make sure you have enough for food, still." Then again, I can think of at least three other people in my family that collect dolls of some sort, so I'm not the odd one out. Also, my grandmother also agreed to help me learn to scale down human patterns, so that also gave my doll confidence a boost.