Don't be embarrassed!

i have the same problem, being an art student, and going to a $40,000 a year school that I'm gonna be paying off the loans for myself. It's hard to let yourself do things you want to when you know it'll cost you more money! It's more guilt than embarrassment for me. I was just having serious money issues, but now I'm financially stable enough to afford a doll, and when I tell that to some of my friends or especially my family, they give me a hard time for it.
But my roommate made a very good point. We ought to do this while we can! What else are you gonna spend the money on? Well, knowing me, a lot of little junk I care way less about!
Besides, we did a project in one of my illustration classes using toys to set up lighting situations, and someone used their BJD's, and let me just say, their illustration was far better than everyone else's XD they are SURPRISINGLY good for reference!
I was sold on them after that XD

 

I'm definitely prescribing to the idea that if you act really confident about it, you'll get far less negative comments. I'm far too excited about my doll hobby to care about anything rude (well not too much anyway), and people will often pick up on that.

I can say this even though my doll hasn't arrived yet, because that principle has applied to conversations about my doll.

The first time I mentioned wanting a BJD to a guy friend, I added all sorts of disclaimers about the price and everything, and he followed that vein and was skeptical about me getting a doll that cost that much, even though he has recently bought a PS3, Guitar Hero, and a new big plasma TV (and we're only teenagers).

Then I talked to one of my mum's friends about it, and while I was excited about the doll, I was still hesitant about the price, but as I was stumbling again to add disclaimers, she cut me off and said that the price was perfectly reasonable for what it was. That definitely gave me so much more confidence that now when I mention it my attitude just doesn't allow for negative comments.

I also Cosplay, and if you don't act insecure about it, you're generally fine, and you have much more fun!

 

I agree with not being embarrassed n_n If it's something you love, don't let others make you feel uncomfortable! When I was little(r), I'd carry stuffed animals around with me, so why should a doll be any different? XD I don't like my town very much (everyone's really judgmental...really), so I don't plan on taking Mystic out to the mall or anything...I wouldn't have any time to shop (too much "OMG, what is THAT!?" "is that a DOLL!?" "FREAKY"). =/ But I'm sure I'll take him out whenever my family goes places nwn They'll probably be embarrassed (they don't support my doll love at all), but I won't care. Besides, most people here spend as much as I did on Mystic on PURSES. whoah

 

When I met up with another DoA member at a cafe here, we got quite a few stares when we were taking pictures of our dolls together, and pictures of us with our dolls. But... I think they were more stares of interest, rather than stares of 'oh my god, freaks'. Hahah. And I wouldn't have even cared if they were the second, because I was enjoying myself. (:

So if anything is stopping me from taking my boy out in public, it's not embarrassment. (...More like paranoia about breakages.) And well, I have more photos of him on my facebook than I do of me. xD

 

I do get kind of embarrassed when people find out I have a doll cos' most of my friends find dolls pretty 'creepy' or find it crazy to be spending so much on just a doll. (Seems that most people link dolls to Barbies..in which there's such a HUGE difference but they still think of it that way ._.) I do get set back by their criticisms sometimes and it's probably slightly affected me in whether I dare to bring my Kazuki out, but I still love him all the same! :3

 

I took Lakai to see the midnight Thursday/ Friday showing of The Dark Knight, but after the movie (which was awesome by the way), I ended up taking a full Jeepload of people back to their apartments, so I had to have one of the people hold him while I drove. These were the first of my friends that have learned of my doll hobby. I was super embarassed at first, but they didn't give me any trouble. They were just as accepting as my parents and brothers were. I'm beginning to relax more and more each time the secret is revealed.

 

I know this is one of the first posts, but I liked the comment XD It's true!

Personally, I'm not embarassed about my dollies either. I actually love showing friends them and seeing people's reactions the few times I actually am willing to carry them around for a few hours.

 

Hihih. Well, I live in a little village, where everyone want to be "normal", except me. They're afraid that there would be someone different, a BIT weird, though. I don't dress like them, or put the same make up as they do, I use black, and I colour my hair all the time. They already think I'm crazy, but when they found out about my doll hobby, I wasn't embarassed, 'cause I just don't care about them. The most important thing is that I LOVE my hobby. That's the reason I can go on, without hearing them telling me I'm a freak. But anyway, I can be a proud freak.

 

I normally go to cons in costume so I'm used to people 'staring'. So I dont' think it'd be any different then when I bring a doll and people see it, just as long as it's a suitable place, like a park or a friends house...MAYBE the mall. I went to the mall dressed up. BOY that was an adventure. Anyway, when I went to my first doll meet (no doll at the time ; There were many doll owners there and they set their dolls near the large window (the place used to be a store) and you should have seen all the people passing by! They would stop to stare, and some people who had little kids actually let them look and go inside to see the dolls. I thought it was pretty fun. I can't wait to go to another doll meet.

 

I think the same thing! :3 I would be one of those people who would be so happy about my new BJD I would take him (or her, in the future) everywhere to show people. X3 Of course, I guess my friends/acquaintances wouldn't be so surprised about that, as I do the exact same thing with my new marionettes. XD

 

I get a bit embarassed to talk about having a doll (Im 34) and get the "dont you think youre too old for dolls now" thing. Im new to this hobby and only have the one doll (at the moment lol) But Im off to my first meet up in August and will be so nervious about possible being the oldest there lol. However Im still gonna go, and am looking forward to meeting and talking to people about dollies who wont look at me like im insane lol

 

While I'm not embarrsed to take my Rune out with me, I do understand the stance of not haivng the financial position to splash out on a doll...yet do so anyway

Sure, some people give funny looks if I have my doll with me when out. Heck, the guy at the supermarket check-out was spending mroe time looknig at the doll sat in the trolly than the products he was checking out. It's my money and my hobby, anyone with a problem with it shouldn't involve themselves

 

I try to stop myself from being embarrased- I know it's silly...but i can't help thinking...what are they thinking? what are they thinking? I look so stupid! it's ridiculous, but I can't help it

 

LulalatteThey are probably thinking "That's really cool".
It's what I think when I see the kids in the mall all Gothed up--they look awesome. I'm sure they see me in my boring middle age lady clothes and think I don't like their style..and they are so wrong;-) And if I saw anybody with a doll ,I'd be peering to see if I knew the mold, though I'm not sure I'd be brave enough to say I have bjd's too

 

thankyou, Fishcake I feel really great now! No more shadow- skulking for me now it's out with the dollies!

 

i don't see why anyone would be embarrassed about a hobby like this. i mean, even a non-doll person could find something cool or interesting about them.

honestly, the first thought that drew me to wanting to explore and possibly pursue owning a doll or two (though i'm yet to have one) was the idea of how little the shoes that they wear are.

-_-

i don't know if it's weird or not, but i absolutely am completely in LOVE with the concept of tiny shoes. i'm 17, and for years i've hung out in the shoe sections of stores just to look at baby shoes. tiny shoes are fascinating...and the beauty of the dolls captivates me further into wanting one >_<

 

I only get embarassed when they call my dolls 'cheap plastic' It makes me feel abd that they call my boy Hart that. I think he is a wonderful piece of resin, and people just like making me feel like shit owning a doll.

But you are so right, I shouldn't. I'm still in the awkward stage of having him around. ^-^

 

Im normaly not embarased, Overall my friends are rather suportive of it its my family that is the major problem and well i dont care what they think!

 

I'm never embarrassed by Jasper! I take him to the movie's with me and everything! And even to Target? hehe