Don't be embarrassed!

I'm definately not one of the more confident people- but I'm so excited to get my boys because I think I might just take them everywhere! I think they'd be a great confidence booster because they'd remind me that I'm different and I have something really unique and special and here's an example of it! At the very least they've got to be conversation starters. I plan to proudly display my boys regardless of what others might think. I'm not going to go crazy and shove them in everyone's face, but my Japanese teacher has already asked me to bring them in for show and tell when I get them so to class with me they will go!

 

i was driving alone in the snow for the first time yesterday, getting to work. and to comfort me i bought my three resins along, and well they ended up going in to the store with me (im a cashier at a (VERY) small supermarket) i even took them out to show them to the other cashiers ( there are only three registers lol) it was fun, the supervisor was scared of them ^^

 

I am never embarassed about my dolls. I am never embarassed about my favorite boyband (I am SO PROUD about them). And I am never embarassed about my favorite manga (which is Naruto btw). Since I was little I always have something to cling to, fandoms and interests, I just fell in love with my interest so deeply, that people telling me rude things all the time. Sometimes I feel uneasy about it, sad or hurt, but I never embarassed about things and people I love They makes me too happy, to warm and comfortable to ever be embarassed about them)))))))))

 

it's more of an issue of "i really don't want or need to explain myself to anyone" so sometimes, i don't mention certain hobbies or interests. there are lots of rude people, and every just needs to find their own way of dealing with them.

 

I'm not embarrassed by my dolls, so much as I hate hearing the same old stupid responses: "Dolls are creepy!" "You spent how much?!" "Its a boy? It looks like a girl!" and so on. I just get tired of it. Its like, if you have something negative to say, keep it to yourself, or how about don't ask in the first place. I love my dolls and I'll defend my stance on them as a worthwhile hobby and beautiful little works of art.

 

I had very mixed reactions about my interrest, there was the: 'just smiling and noding head', the 'shocked - you can't be serious' version, and a very few 'understand and want to hear about it' version.
So thanks for the encouraging words.

 

I have never been embarrassed by my hobby. I love to take my dolls out with me. The weather has been a bit harsh lately, so they've stayed inside more, but all in all I do enjoy taking them with me.
People always react to them, weather they're facintated by them (mostly my boys) or horrified by them. Horrified still stumps me, as none of my dolls are extreme by any measure.
Also I definitely get more looks at my dolls than I do my diamonds!! And I've never scared little children while owning, or carrying a BJD (prior to BJD ownership is a different subject ^-^) In fact my own children love "mommies dolls"
However there have been times in doll conversations that I have felt uncomfortable, but I was intimidated by the people I was talking with, not embarrassed by my hobby.
I am very proud of my resin/vinyl family

 

people stare at me weird and call me bad names weather i have a doll with me or not. lol

 

ive had lots of people give me funny looks or stare in public if i am taking pictures .

 

I have to say I have finally been opening up, my 3 best friends, my boyfriend (I was so worried to tell him but after 4 years I think he expects for me to have some ‘weird’ interest lol), and my sister and mom. I’ve been more open with taking photos but I haven’t shared them really much outside of here. But I would like to be able to take her outside and enjoy a lovely photo shoot with the sun and green grass and just enjoying it all.

But I am still worried and trying to get over it, thank you for posting this

 

It can be hard to share your inner self with the world, but I think if you're uncomfortable with others' looks and comments about you, it can really mean you're uncomfortable with yourself. Are you one of those criticizing, scrutinizing people who make you feel embarrassed? Your own comments can hurt the worst. Sometimes I do feel a little embarrassed holding a doll in public, but it all comes back to how I'm feeling about myself that day. I can be apprehensive going out with my hair in a different fashion, or because I'm not sure about the shoes I'm wearing, or I can be embarrassed carrying a doll--the object doesn't matter because it isn't about dolls, it's about your own inner confidence.

To some people confidence comes naturally over time and others need to build it brick by brick, but it is an attractive quality in anyone that will, as others have said, actually change the way people respond to that unusual thing you do in public, whether it's carrying a BJD or wearing that loud dress you've been pretending doesn't exist. Shrunken up, holding my doll close and hidden and glancing around sheepishly, I have met with my worst encounters with non-doll people. But on the very same day, walking tall with an easy stride and a--oh yeah, a doll on my arm, so what?--I have never met with disapproval.

 

I agree! Don't be embarrassed! I know how much work that we all put into these dolls, so if anything, I feel proud to show them to people! I look at the dolls and I remember the effort I put into making them the way they are! Yes, some people are going to find this hobby odd, but that goes with any hobby that a person might have. And, if you never show your dolls to anybody, you may never get positive comments or make new friends because of them. I recently befriended someone who saw a picture of my dolls on my computer and she was so into it. There is nothing wrong with being into something that you love and that makes you feel good. If someone can't understand this, then they are the ones who ought to be embarrassed, not you.

 

I can't say that I've been embarrassed about being in the hobby but for others because of their opinions of the hobby. I'm shy by nature so I get embarrassed easily lol. The one time I got embarrassed for someone else was on the bus to my very first doll meet, i had taken my doll out and was adjusting her outfit or wig and some guy announced to the whole bus that i was a pedofile because i had a doll. The moron was in his 40s and was carrying a bunch of comics, I politely asked if he was a pedofile simply because he was holding a comic book and children like those. The japanese girl sitting in front of me (i know she was japanese because she and her boyfriend had been speaking in japanese a moment before) turned and asked me stuff like the company my girl came from, how much she cost, etc.

 

Sorry to hear about that jerk but glad you were able to make a point about his comic books some people get the wrong idea OR are the ones in the wrong so they try to make others look bad.

 

I just thought it was so silly, i mean, these dolls are meant for older kids, if it was a barbie i might have gotten it. Unlike the comics, which my 5 year old niece collects, these dolls are geared to ages 13 and up. I've taken my dolls to see my grandma who is 87 years old and she wants one badly, lol. People who TRY to embarrass you should be put back in their place, out of your business, where they belong.

 

Yeah I am completely behind you on that one. I’d think someone would be crazy for giving a BJD to a small child who wasn’t yet careful with their things! But to be holding comic books and criticizing someone with a BJD kind of defeats itself. And that’s awesome that your grandmother wants one I’m the only one in the family who shows interest but at least we’re all strange so no one thinks I’m a total weirdo :P
But I am glad you put him back in his place, I would like to say I would have BUT my girl doesn’t come out in public so I don’t have to deal with that. I at least know I wouldn’t take it lol (I hope!)

 

I've never been embarrassed about my dolls... on the contrary actually... I show mine off wherever I go and whenever the chance presents itself if I can... I know I'm probably sort of silly but I'm really very very ridiculously proud of my crew and all the work and feelings and money I've invested in them! It's also funny but because of that I've encountered no negative reaction to them by everyone else (or perhaps I have just been very lucky). Since I'm always so eager to explain about them and what I do with them and how wonderful and rewarding it is to me to own them and how wonderful I think they are I think it sort of passes through to the other person instead of them hitting the brick wall of viewing them as just insanely expensive toys.