Families knowing the cost of dolls

My mother knows how much they cost. And she doesn't mind, because it is my money, and I can spend it how I want. She just reminds me that bills and petrol money is more important than doll money. :P

So as long as I'm not bankrupting myself or spending every cent I have on dolls, she doesn't mind. Haha.

 

For the most part I avoid the topic of cost with my family. My view is, it's my money and if I can get it and still pay my bills it shouldn't be an issue.

In the end my parents did find out how much my dolls cost but they didn't flip out. Actually, they insisted on buying an underwear set for one of them because her nipples kept showing through her clothes LOL

 

My colleagues at work know. Mom knows I want a doll, but she doesn't know yet that I already got a head for one:-) Dad doesn't know anything about the doll so far.
But!
1) I'm a big girl already, so it's none of their business
2) it's MY money, I work hard to earn that money, so I can do what I like with that money

Summary - my folks can say all they like and they can bitch to their heart's content about me wasting the money, if they want to. I'll just not listen. :-)

 

Welp, I finally introduced Ryuichi-doll to the sibs and Mom...and they promptly teased me for "never growing up."

And then when I told them why I treat him so gingerly, not to mention his price, they practically jawdropped and asked me "why get something that DEPRECIATES in price?" I didn't know what else to say, so I said, "because he makes me happy."

If it doesn't have a monetary value, they don't see the reasoning behind collecting anything.

So much for being the odd one out in a family that believes that money is everything.

Ryuichi

 

The way I explain it to my loved ones is- some people spend a lot on continually upgrading their home entertainment systems to the latest technology, or on purchasing designer clothes and the like. And there are people who fork over hundreds for, say... a highly-sought after LP. People just have their hobbies that are important to them, and although BJD's may be a bit less than conventional, that's what they are to me (and more, of course, but I don't get into my emotional attachment to them per se).

They usually understand at that point, and don't judge me. My mom has actually become a full-on enabler, encouraging me to 'avoid temptation' and save when she knows there's a new doll or doll accessory I'm looking at. XD

 

I'm old enough that I don't think it's necessary to have to explain my purchases to my family - it's my own money I'm spending. If I didn't spend it on dolls, I'd spend it on books/clothes for myself/DVDs etc - so it's not like I would have spent it on anything especially sensible instead!

 

My mom whine a little everytime I spend money on a doll... She knows the expenses too much. I am not going to tell her how much my newly purchased Saint cost me.

 

My parents know how much BJDs are worth and what I spend on their clothes. I don't know why, but they are fine. Maybe I have just sympathy because they got hobbies too and like collecting. My mother loves them in particular. So she really enjoys dolls and everything related. But I had to tell them in the first place, doing things at the light of the sun is indeed better.

 

I made it clear to my family how much my doll cost me in the beginning that way they know its not just some ordinary thing that everyone can mess with. After explaining more about them and all that jazz after about the 3rd doll I didn't bother telling them how much they cost me since they already got the picture that they are not cheap and things to be messed with or touched.
So needless to say my dolls are without harm because they know what an investment I put into them.

 

My parents are suportive, they help me buy my first BJD. But they also freak out when I told them the price. My mom still thinks my money is better spent on household things :P
So suportive but critacal! :P

Hugs
Tiffany

 

my parents feel ok about the price as long as i pay them by myself. i planed to have 6 in all but now im having my 7th doll so im not sure if they will think its too much...

 

I've only really discussed it with my mother, and she was somewhat horrified by the price, but came to understand it when I explained all that went into it. She was still against it until she realized that unlike my sister, I am just getting a doll and not tattoos or anything like that. I haven't mentioned it with my dad, or my grandmother, and I don't think I will. There's no way they'd understand why I'd pay so much for a doll. No one in my family really likes dolls, anyway.

 

I told my mother before I got it how much they cost, the insane ammounts some limited ones could cost, and explained how much time and care goes into their being made and owned. She doesn't mind, she just shrugged and said it was my money, if I had enough after paying the bills then whatever was left was mine to do with as I chose. If this was what I wanted, then so be it.

Now that I have one and another I'm waiting on, she understands more, and kind of likes my Liina. It still amuses her sometimes about things like the eyes, or the anatomical bits, but she doesn't mind. She was never horrified, just slightly amused that I'm playing with dolls at 24 when I refused to play with them at 4.

 

I live in Japan, my parents live in the UK, my sister (who always has insane amounts of money because she's totally against spending it - she'd rather freeze in the winter than pay for the heating!) lives in New Zealand.
This means.. IT'S ALL A GIANT SECRET!!!! xD
They know I got my U-noa girl because I was talking about the photo project I bought her for with them, and I remember them being all "WOW THAT'S AN EXPENSIVE DOLL", about it.
The other dolls, I just haven't mentioned to them. And I will definitely NOT be telling them about Glot and Cuprit (soom)!!!!!

My parents are coming to visit in May and I think I'll just hide my girls in the closet or something?
They're not dumb, they'll KNOW they're expensive!!! AND THEY WOULD FREAK OUT! (even at my age)
Down the line though when I have bigger dolls, not sure what I'll do! *laughs*

 

My mother is understanding. The way it seems though, it's kinda shocking with the price but she knows that I want him and that I'm gonna raise the money myself.

As for my Dad, uhhhh... And besides, he may rant that the Japanese ones are the best although Luts is a Korean company.

 

Well, I don't volunteer the information...it tends to make my husband squirrelly. But if he or my parents/siblings ask, I tell them. They generally think I'm nuts, but they also like my collection.

And my sister has finally started purchasing a few dolls, so I at least feel like I have an ally in this expensive hobby! And my daughter has a decent collection, too - but I pay for hers, lol!

 

Both my mom and dad were very supportive of my buying my first doll, even after I told them just how much he cost. My mom used to smoke and my dad collects Disney merchandise, both of which were very expensive, so they understood and are totally supportive of it at that. It may also help that I've never asked them to help fund the hobby. I pay for it all myself!

 

i'm well beyond the age where i owe anyone an explanation of how i spend my hard earned money - however i couldn't even begin to imagine the looks i would get if it ever came up, so it'll remain my own private business

 

The only one who has any business asking is my hubby. He has, on one occasion, to get a feel for how bad it was compared with, say, an animation cel. And that was really the only reason.

I've discussed costs with my girls, because they've adopted several of my dolls that I otherwise would have sold. They earn them with chores, keeping spreadsheets to learn how to do budgeting and so forth... it's worth discussing their costs with them.

 

I told the price of my firts two dolls, from now on I will not tell the price... is boring to tell always the price... anyway my family and good friends doesn't ask me ^^