Family member finding doll clothes in the mail...

My whole family, save for my sister. When I first told them I was getting a doll, they all stared at me as though I was crazy. Perhaps they thought I was talking about one of those baby doll's you buy at the toy store. They still think he's a waste of money, shows what they know.

Also, lol... my brother, when I told him, thought it was some sort of Japanese ADULT toy. He's such an idiot.

 

You should not let people being mad about you because of this. Its your life, its your money, you have the right to do whatever you want. Maybe your grandpa didnt had a pleasant life where he can do what he want and now he is angry about you because of something that make you happy. Thats really rude.

If I was a mother I could understand that my girl/boy have strange hobbies or things that never concerned me because he have the choice to decide what he want to do. Maybe its just something that he will like 1 years and after he will change idea, but thats okay, its not like wasting money because if one day you dont want them anymore, you can sold your doll and the clothes and you will get money back. BUT sometime, the bobby could stay forever and then you will be very happy this way and I think its something really great. Some people like stamps, some people like buying collector money, some people like to buy a lot of books, even if they will read it only one time. If its make you happy darling, ignore the other people around you that will be rude. dont let them ruin your happyness

 

Hey my dad just wants to know why all these packages from Hong Kong keep showing up at our house

 

You know i'm just now seeing this post for the first time.....(was really busy last year getting married apparently missed this). But I had to go and check out your profile because I can't fathom any adult taking such issue with another. Your Grandfather is out of line completely on his reaction. It would be one thing if you were spending his money. However at your age (providing it's correct or close on your profile) there really is no reason. Even if you were younger as long as the money and hobby are yours he's truly out of line. He's not your parent, keeper, owner or anything like that. I think if it were me, as much as I may love my reletive, they'd get an ear full if they threw something that was for me and my enjoyment at me and got mad at how I spent my money. As long as you're not being supported by him, he just needs to sit down and shut up about it. Do yourself a favor and get a P.O. Box, but not before you inform him that due to lack of privacy and respect for your personal mail you've decided to seek another option. He won't treat you like an adult until you demand he does. If your still having problems I hope this helps.

Christal...this one made me angry.

 

My fiance and I have a joint account, and he's incredibly diligent about what money goes where, so I don't get to play too much when it comes to stuff. Any and all purchases have to be run by him to make sure we're in budget. (Wedding this year, trying to buy a house, bills, insurance, etc)... When stuff comes, he usually knows about it.

My mother, on the other hand, (mind you, I'm 25 and have been living away from her since I was 17), had a very bipolar mindset about me buying stuff. One day, it would be perfectly ok for me to go and buy a few anime tapes... Next day, I'm wasting my money and will never be indepenant!! She's really mellowed out over the years... I think the time she called the cops on me and the cop told her that I was in the right really knocked her down a peg or two. Now, she just shakes her head when I tell her about my current hobbies.

 

Well, my mom freaked out about me getting a little sweater for my dolls in the mail today.

She's gonna flip when I get a full outfit for my Yukino doll next week.

 

Old post, but I couldn't help but quote it and laugh.
=w= My dad said the exaaact same thing to me the other day.

But as for finding doll stuff in the mail, it happens ALL the time. XD I used to get several packages a week with random things in them, but neither of my parents gave me grief over it. The only time my dad even remotely got angry was when all my shipping boxes from USPS came.

Then again, I pay them rent and as long as I keep doing that I'm sure they won't mind what I do. My mother's only stipulation is I enroll in school. XD

 

Ugh, my parents don't like BJD's, but they don't get irate just at the sight of the package in the mail >_>; that's just silly. Everyone needs a hobby.

 

Im in the same boat. Mom prefers dolls to tattoos... Dad doesnt even know about the dolls and its staying that way. He complains that I dont save enough money as it is... Im 22 and havent live at home in 4 years... My money, my job, my bills... everything gets paid. I eat. Theres no problems other than my fathers own spending issues... I think he thinks Ill end up in debt like him.

 

I get a bit of confusion from my mum especially ~ who always brings up the fact that 'if you can afford a doll and all the accessories, you can afford your own place'. I pay rent to them, as on my salary, I could never afford a place on my own. I explained to her that it's my money that I've earned, so why shouldn't I spend it how I please, whilst I can afford and enjoy the hobby?

Though, I must admit, there are a few dolls she does not know about! The latest one I have on layaway is being sent to my good friend shini_priestess's house where I will pick him up, leave the box [to pick up at a later date] and hope no one's in at home so I can get him safely to my room. Stealth practice!

 

As much as my mom hates my dolls she and my dad are not too bad when things come in the mail. Due to my love of trading. I trade for dollstuff 1st then buy second and generally the stuff I buy come from the doll items I sale or from the few dollers a month I put in the doll buget. However one time I had a body come in with a few extra outfits and the girl whom I traded with sent it in a BIG box i could fit all my at the time 8 dolls in it my mom freaked out over that but I pull out like 4 things and told her mom chill the girl just used a big box.

She does not know about half the stuff I do get I have friends who help me in that department.

 

Even though my mom likes my dolls very much, and would probably own one too if she had the money, she still keeps saying that I shouldn't waste ALL my money in dolls and their stuff. Well, I'm not wasting all of it, so.

 

My parents don't get mad about finding stuff in the mail, but then again I've been honest with them from the very beginning. I tell them how much everything costs, I show them how some items are limited, if they are limited, that is. I show them how much cheaper something is used on the marketplace compared to new on a site, etc.

I show them that I actually am being pretty responsible with the money, not just throwing it out the window, spending just for the sake of spending or getting what I want sooner, I bargain hunt and my mom loves to know that I do.

I show that I'm getting a used outfit from the marketplace for $15 that would normally cost $65 after shipping, so even if I didn't keep it, they know I could still resell it for my money's worth or more. And when I want say, a limited Dolpa dress, I show them how it's $55 on the site, and show them the little limited notice on the top of the page, then tell them how much I can flip it for if I don't end up using it, and even if I do, I could still probably get at least what I paid for it as it'll be harder to find.

So in other words, I show them how very few doll items lose value over time and how I get things cheap from the get-go. That makes them far less annoyed with me getting a bunch of packages in the mail, because hey! Rather get alot of little packages for $10 each then 3 big packages from Hong Kong for $240 with $30 shipping.

 

I know how you feel on that, My step father and grandfather are real grumpy and even though i live in my own house i have to hide my doll out of site so they dont see him, becasue they'd flip out over him lol

 

My wife sometimes gives me looks, but she likes comic books and motorcycles. So, we each have our hobbies. I know my dad thinks they're a silly thing to collect, but he's to one who got me started with dolls. I had tons of barbies when I was a kid on top of the dolls he'd bring back for me from all over the world! He knows I blame him. My mom loves my collection. I'm thinking about getting her a mini fee.

 

When I told my mum I was ordering a doll she gave me the "aren't you a little old" speech and tried to talk me out of it thinking I wanted another "gothy" doll like my Living Deads. She even draughted in my aunt and grandmother into taking her side telling me I was too old (coming from women who both collect porcelain dolls and teddy bears).
The moment I showed her a picture of the little boy I want and showed her what height he would be she told me he was absolutely lovely and started asking about clothing and shoes. When I asked her what changed her mind she just said "well he's going to be a lot less noisy than that guitar you've had your eyes on"
I actually spotted her the other day tring to make jewelry in his size
Sometimes I fail to understand how her mind works.

 

I'm very lucky in this sense as I moved out a year and some months ago. I still get the speeches from family members when they ask about the dolls, but as it's my money and I'm not asking them for anything, they have no business in prying. I have no problem letting them know this.

I can see where the situation would get sticky if someone still lived at home. Still, general respect should be given. What if we were stamp collectors or coin collectors and spent xxx.xx amount of money on a mint condition, non-circulated quarter from the 1800s?

 

My mom tried to talk me out of them when i first started getting interested in ordering my first, but she soon just gave up ^^ my family is used to me likeing 'strange' things so luckily i don't get a lot of flak from them.
But recently my mom has started getting on my back about them again. I'm 18 and just moved out of her house, and out of her country (lol freedom!) but can't afford my own place so i'm staying with my great grandmother in NY, i help around the house, look after her and keep her company in exchange for a free room (I pay everything else my self though.) but my mom has been giving me crap about a denver doll order of clothes i made, it was a lot of money to spend on doll clothes i know, but i can't seem to use my card easily over here, so i thought i'd just use it up on one last spree...then live of the travelers checks until i can open a US bank acount. then get nothing else for a long time, untill i have a good job and such.

i know where parents are coming from, because sometimes i spend money is realy shouldn't on dolls and doll things, and regret it later because i'm stuck at home doing nothing for weeks or months after ¬¬. But the way i see it, and they way my dad sees it is that i can screw around with my money now as i'm younger, but eventually i have to learn how to realy handle this stuff.

 

When I told my mom I want a BJD, she laughed at me and said: "Have you looked at your ID?! It says 17, aren't you too old for dolls?!" But after I showed her a few pictures with BJD she said they look very beautiful and realistic, so she sponsored me with some money to be able to get it She's not pleased at all with the price tho >_> I'm scared of how my dad's gonna react when he sees it, never mind the price So I guess I'm gonna have to hide it when he's home *LOL*

 

My parents have found more than just doll clothes in the mail...>___>

A while ago, my brother changed his mailing address to my grandmother's house in the neighboring county of Schenectady in order to be eligible for a summer course at the local community college. Something you should know is that my grandmother's garage is also where my dad runs his business (an auto-transmission shop), so pretty much all packages go through his workplace, since my dad also takes care of my grandma throughout the day since she has dementia.
Anyway, a few months later, the mailing address is switched back to our own home, yet a small package of doll stuff happened to arrive at our grandmother's later o.o So that was rather odd...later still, an EID Evan is on his way to our house, yet when he arrives at the local post office, he's forwarded to another address! D:
The next day, my brother and I hop in the car and head to my grandmother's house expecting the package to arrive there. My parents are already at work, and when we arrive, my dad is out, so we sit and wait for the mail-truck to arrive...Then my dad comes back and informs my brother that he got a package, asking us him how much he spent o__o;; He had the huge doll box in the back of his car the whole time...