Family member finding doll clothes in the mail...

how would it effect your grades

 

my mom's freaked out numerous times about this topic...

but I've also told her that if I sell doll things, then that money goes back into the doll funds, so she can't argue with me about it much... I'm going to get a job here soon and take over most of my bills anyway...

 

I'm my friends Smuggling HQ for all their doll things. My mom keeps freaking out about the boxes and stuff arriving, and I just go, "Not mine. It's *insert friend's name here*'s I swear!" *sweat* XD

 

What the heck is WRONG with the mailman?!

I had to chase mine down once. My friend was giving me a ride and expecting a doll when we saw him at subway and DIDN'T want to wait that long to get her doll so I jumped out of the car. "STOP!!!"

He seemed frightened and I asked if he had package for *insert friend's name* and he handed over this long box . His expression the entire time: O__O

"Thank you! " and ran back to the car.

It was so funny!

But he never has asked what is in the GIANT boxes we get.

 

You know, some people just do not understand how these things mean to us. They think those "stuff" are only for children...one of my best friends and her boy friend think I have to much money and no place to spend, and that is why I buy dolls...
I was also thinking moving out, but I later found there is no place with that low rent fee and free meal....JUST HAVE TO GIVE UP SOME FREEDOM...

 

I know this sounds particularly cliche, but I really couldn't care less what others say to me about my dolls. I work to earn my own money, and also run a house for my two sons and my husband..... I think I darn well deserve something for me

I don't drink, smoke or take drugs... in fact dolls are my only personal expense outside of getting the bills paid, so what other people think does not even factor I am constantly receiving packages for doll items, but I am the only one there to recieve them so it makes no difference really.

My husband did start asking me some rather probing questions about doll costs.... but soon shut up when I added everything up and told him he had spent $200 more on his junk food and sweets in the past year than I had on all of my doll stuff put together

 

Same. I need money to survive and I do have that, but if I want to buy some luxuries that's my business!

My dad gets a bit snoopy when I have the legendary Parcelforce red slip hanging from the letter box and that irritates me. I sign for his packages all the time but if me and my brother have a parcel he gets suspicious and accuses us of wasting our money (I collect BJD and my brother collects action figures and Warhammer.)

I've managed to slip four dolls past him though, so I'm getting pretty good at keeping my mail my business!

 

Well, I've always been an ebay addict and frequently get things in the post so mum doesn't say anything when I get doll clothes. She doesn't know that I'm spending all my cash on dolls but I pay her board each month. If I get packages in the mail she just rolls her eyes and says the whole "ordering more things off ebay/amazon are we?"

If I lived with my dad, he'd be a bit more of a hard ass - not as bad as your grandfather though lol

 

See, I moved out when I was 19 (I'm 22 now) and because of rent, bills, food, my part-time job is only just covering my living expenses (Things are going to be insane once I'm back at uni), so I'm doing art comissions to raise money for my first BJD, as I'd love one to customize and make clothes for (well, I want two- a boy and a girl <.<)

If I were sixteen and bought BJDs with my money, of course my parents would be angry- most parents would, considering there are way more important/sensible things to save for when you're that age- a car, college/uni fees, moving out of home, etc. That said though, my mum's a craft nut so she'd probably be okay with it if I told her I was buying one to make clothes and accessories for- she'd like it even more if I got it for the purpose of making things to sell!

And Jessica, oh my god don't get me started on warhammer- I have some friends who collect/play it and my god the amounts of money they sink into it! At least with BJDs, you can make your own stuff!

 

I feel your pain guys that have family who threaten you with things like booting you our or breaking your stuff. My grandmother was like that before she died, any time I wanted anything she didn't like she'd scream and yell and throw massive fits because it wasn't something that SHE would do. I was paying her rent, plus buying my own food and such, and she still thought she had the right to tell me what to spend my money on. I eventually moved out just before I turned 21.

My mother whom I live with now even though I'm 23 (almost 24) is much more relaxed about what I do with my money. As long as I pay my part of the rent, pay the bills I agreed to pay, then whatever is left over is free for me to spend as ~I~ choose. As a matter of fact she's the one who endures my fits of doll-want when I really get impatient, she knows exactly how much it will be and how much I want one. The only thing she says is that I remember the bills and pay them too with part of my tax return.

But she doesn't throw a fit or anything, and I'm not worried about her trashing it if it arrives while I'm asleep or something. She'll just put it in my room for me for when I wake up. ^-^ I'm glad I have a cool mom.

 

Ah so your grandfather is an old navy man, chiiruchan? Then his reaction was pretty basic and normal. My father, grandfather, and great grandfather all are navy men...and all have very very grumpy tempers. Something about the navy and men. Just makes them grumpy and control freaks. My father was the same way with me. Trying to control everything I did...what job I had, what school I went to, if my room was perfect...I think its because of all the military training they go through. Just causes them to view everything in a certain way and being grumpy and kinda violent works for them. Maybe he was just pissed about something else. My dad once got pissed at my sister about her on-line use and grades. But instead of going after her. He smashed his fist through the wall and rushed me. Screaming right in my face. I merely blinked at him then told him to step out of my face, please. Sometimes a navy guy just has to blow steam and puff his chest out...like a rooster or something. I wouldn't try to face him off with screaming or violence...I have a temper too and its happened between my father and I. I think it would be best to just sit down and talk to him. Maybe ask about when he was younger and if he enjoyed collecting things. My father collects cars...not models..real cars. He has 24...so that was good use for me in the whole "This is my money! Back off!" I hope everything works out for you and good luck with dealing with a grumpy navy man. heh

 

my boyfriends I lived with have always loooved my dolls, and got as excited (if not more O.o) when i recieved soemthing for them in mail XD.

 

I try to get the package before them or be there when it arrives XP

I do not know what they would do with it.... but I just do not want to know XP

I am sure that at some point they would want a "discussion" with me about it and I dont wanna try and explain things to them when I am not good at explaining and they just do not understnad anyway....

And the price is also a little scary XP
When I ask someone to lower the price on the box... it is opnly because I do not want my parents to see it XP

 

I live with my grandparents and I think that my grandfather would do everything except cuss me out. He would freak if her knew the cost...

My grandmother on the otherhand, is so open. I came home one weekend and found her with my cat ears on while holding my big plush Pikachu. So...

The moment they realize how much money goes into this hobby, I'll be pointed and laughed at as well as publically scorned (or so it will feel).

Don't feel so bad. As long as you love your dolls and arn't irresponsibly spending money on them (i.e. buying things for your dolls instead of paying your bills or what you need for gas money) then you shouldn't worry about what people have to say.

 

Isn't it illegal to open parcels that don't have your name on them? It certainly is here...

My mum opened a package that accidentally got sent to my home address when I was on the phone to her, so she could post the three wigs inside up to my uni address. All I could hear was 'Urgh! That's horrible! That's just.... urgh!" XD After another entirely different conversation she went back to it: "It's like I'm sending you scalps in the mail: they're horrible!" :P

She's never seen BJD's (recent hobby of mine) but hopefully she'll calm down by the time I bring them home!

 

I don't think it is if you're still a dependent of that person.

 

My dad hated it!!! Because for the longest time I was using his ebay account to get dolly underpants!! He'd have all these manly fishing things and stuff come for him, and then these little padded envelopes with girly stickers on them and :gasp: underpants inside! Poor Daddy

 

Um, no? There's nothing about the navy that makes people have a complete lack of control over themselves-it's both how they were raised and how they choose to abuse the people around them. My father was in the navy and you will not find a more even-tempered man, despite the fact that he was trained to blow people up by the U.S. government. Military training has nothing to do with it-it's the personality before that, just like people who are psychos and want control sometimes go into law enforcement so they can have it. People rage like that all the time and they have never had military training, that's not an excuse.

/end huge rant

Anyways, my mother would always just sort of sigh and shake her head when she found doll things in the mail, or more things that I'd snuck past her. Funny thing is, I actually just started setting a doll out and it was months before she even asked about it. @_@ My dad never said anything, despite my mom flipping out once at a doll in the mail. She never really bothered about the accessories, partially because those are so very easy to smuggle in my purse or backpack if I pick up the mail. >>; She's nagged me a bit in the past, but her only real blow-up was over a doll, and when I explained that I sold another one to get her my mother calmed down (a bit). She just generally is happy not to hear about it.

My fiance doesn't mind either, I'm the one trying to convince him that, no, I don't need to get another doll right now, we need other stuff for our house. I have the feeling he won't mind doll stuff in the mail. >>; Since I don't mind his saltwater aquarium stuff...

 

My Parents were over and my Dad went out and got my mail. There was a package with 10 pairs of doll shoes!! LOL

 

My fella makes me laugh, we live togeather and whenever he comes come and there's that little brown jiffy bag or box sitting on the doorstep always says 'what crap did you order this time?' But i know hes only teasing as he knows my dolls make me happy. He does however get annoyed with me when i start talking about the next doll i want (especially since i have onee doll on layaway at the moment)...but as its my money he has no say....his money goes on his american car anyway (he loves american stuff). He is quite accepting once my doll has arrived tho. I know he wouldnt trash them.