Family member finding doll clothes in the mail...

Naw. Or at least Not yet.

I believe my mum knows that I only spend on what I need. Most of the stuff I tell her will be coming in, but this is one of the few times she knows I have an outfit coming.
She knows most of the time because I like to get her opinion on what I get for them. She has good taste for one, and two sometimes she points things out that I don't always see.

 

Both of my parents are like "Aren't you a bit old?" Seriously, I'm fourteen! I'm not old! XD And even if I were, so what?

My mom finally began accepting that I ordered a doll, and she's even being a bit supportive about making him clothes and this chair for him to sit in, but when I brought up that I wanted a bed, she's like "Aren't you a bit old to be playing with dolls?"

With my dad, I just said "Hey, I could be spending my money on drugs and dates with guys," and he just shuts up there. XD

 

My parents always see the stuff that is coming in the mail, and they're always super curious and ask me to show them what I bought. I also often ask my dad to wait for the mailman in the morning when I know something for my dolls is gonna arrive that day and I'm working or not home.

 

My mother's found loads of the Pullip stuff I used to get in the mail. She actually found it funny that I got more doll-related mail from Asia than I got bills and school-related letters. There's constant joking and giggling about that in my house, really. :] She's pretty supportive about it all, so the jokes are always in good-natured fun.

 

This is a pretty stressful situation, but my guess would be that your grandfather probably thinks that dolls are a frivolous pursuit and just wants you to be what he perceives as more mature and responsible. I'm sure he just wants what is best for you and just goes about showing it the wrong way because he gets upset or frustraited.

As for my own situation... Hubby is supportive, although I know he wishes I wouldn't spend so much money on doll stuff since we still have a lot of bills. Also, the rest of the family know I collect dolls but they aren't really up to date with how much they cost but I think even they think I should be putting the money towards more important things. But the most important opinion is hubby's and he is ok with the hobby.

 

my mom thinks so xD. My elder brother thinks it is ok since he kinda relate them as collection like figurines. my second elder brother is ok too i guess and he once told me that he have a friend with such dolls xD *i dont know who xD*

my mom used to spread news to the other country where my aunts n uncles lives. like before my mom told them all i cosplay n draws a lot. this time when i start my BJD hobby, i actually asked my mom either or not she spread that i m into this hobby. she replied me "so what will they think if i tell them that you are playing with dolls...pretty awkward isnt it?" in a way it is awkward LOL. but such dolls arent meant for kids :X

 

Both my parents think dolls should be crossed off the list YEARS ago.

Sidenote, though relevant: I go to therapy, and my dad told her that he and my mom (mostly him, I think) feel my being into anime and dolls is way inappropriate for someone my age. I'm a college student, and most likely, if I ever told anyone there I liked, collected, and posed dolls, BOY would I be an outcast fast.

But, if I had to choose between what most college students do - drink, smoke... lots of stereotypically bad things - doll collecting seems quite sane.

 

My parents haven't found any clothing in the mail yet, but my sister found a wig! She thought it was a rat or something. xD; She really understands that I'm into BJD, so she's cool with it.

 

my dad found a doll bra i had ordered in the mail once even though i specifically told the seller to address it to me she didnt adn my dad got hecka mad at me and said i made doll porn and threatened to take my camera and dolls away......-.-

 

If you get flak from your family about being 'too old' for dolls, you could bring to their attention that doll collecting has been a hobby for decades and is enjoyed by both men and women of every age, from 2 to 200. There is no age requirements or restrictions on the doll collection hobby.

I feel really lucky to have the family that I do after reading some of these posts.. Both my parents are not only understanding but supportive of my hobby, as are my siblings, friends, and boyfriend.. infact my boyfriend even joined the forum and wants a few dolls of his own.. n_n

 

I suppose I was lucky. When I lived with my father he only commented on my making sure that I had enough money to cover bills. What I used the rest for was none of his business. Then again, he collected $60-100 model cars and resin figurines, so he couldn't comment on the 'immaturity' of any hobby I had when he was alive

 

The last generation (people in their '50s onwards) don't get how to enjoy life. All they've known is depression and deprivation, and hard work all the time. That's at least partly why they flip out when they find we've been buying "junk".

And in my parents' terms, the only things that aren't "junk" are three meals, three sets of clothes (1 casual, 1 formal, 1 pyjamas), underwear and a bed - so basically, I've grown used to them berrating me for everything I buy, including doll clothes.

But once they chill a little, all I get are a few bemused shakes of the head and teasing about anything doll-related.

 

my father gets mad everytime i ask him to use his paypal account to buy my dolls.
he doesn't like it.
too bad he's the only one in the house who owns/is able to use paypal.
i hope to find a friend who have paypal and would let me use it someday, so i'd have less problems.
it's so annoying being underage D:

 

my mom and my boyfriend get upset, saying that I am wasting money. I want to order more dolls but am afraid of hearing there "noise" about it. I am like it is MY money, all the bills are paid leave me ALONE! lol but I bought like 12 outfits over a week (which only added to like 50 bucks and my boyfriend was like MORE clothes?! I was like ummmmmmm NO I bought these a while back and they JUST now got here. Or some random stuff like that. lol But I have figured if I go OOOHH this is cute I want it sooo bad he will usually give in and be like whatever. lol

 

Ha ha, this happened once to me. I ordered some doll clothes and they went to my dad's address instead of mine. He doesn't open up my stuff so he didn't see what was inside, but he called me up saying there was a package for me and he asked me what it was. After some prodding I finally said, "...Doll clothes..." and he was all, "Oh, okay. Why was that so hard to say? " It really surprised me that he didn't give me a hard time. He used to be pretty strict with me and lecture me when he thought I spent frivolously, but since I've moved out a few years ago he's really softened up.

Even if he's more lenient, he'd have a fit if he knew how expensive my dolls were! >_<; In my family only my brother and sister-in-law know the cost. Actually, they're the only people in my family that know I actively collect BJDs. XP.

 

Yea my mom has some what of an idea about the cost but the ones I got I told her weren't AS expensive. lol

A lot of parents don't like their kids spending money on "STUFF" when they live with them because they think, well that money could be saved to get your own place. Once you move out it is like well if you have the money to survive than your choice. It doesn't give them the feeling of mooching.

 

My mom understands that it’s more than just a “doll collecting” hobby. She’s seen me doing face-ups/body blushing and sewing clothes. Because of that, she’s pretty understanding and doesn’t question my hobby.

The clothes and other doll related things coming in the mail is another story…Only because she knows that this isn’t exactly an inexpensive hobby. I’m the only one who checks the mail, but I don’t open packages in front of her. Only because she’d be mad at how much I splurge on my dolls. As a matter of fact…I have two MNFs coming…and two big orders from Dollmore….Man, I hope those packages don’t come on a Saturday. She will freak!

 

Interesting. I feel pretty lucky. I am tight with everyone on my mom's side of the family. They all love me a lot and never say I'm weird, despite my dolls and cosplay and anime and video games and... Well, you get it. I think they find my lack of "normal" college activities, such as partying and going to sporting events, a lot stranger than my actual interests. But I know they'd never change me if they could.

As for the money part of the discussion... When I told my grandparents I wanted a $350 doll, they said, "Well, that's expensive, but you only live once!" My grandfather even told me this story about how he wanted a bike all of his childhood and never got it, and how he still regrets it today. When I told my mom, she sent some serious disapproval vibes, but gave a bottom line of "do what you want." My brother thinks I'm crazy spending so much on dolls, but we came to a mutual agreement of each other's craziness already, as any siblings do My bf just wants me to be happy. So yeah, I'm lucky.

I do wish I knew someone IRL who likes BJDs tho...

 

At first my mom was like"why are you buying doll clothes?". but now when we get a package, she's just like "You've got more doll clothes!" haha she just automatically knows that the package is for either me or my sister's.

 

Well out of everything I could commet on, I'll reply to this. lol

I think thats really stupid of him. :\ I'd threaten to then do about my dayly life without wearing any sort of bra on cause appearently girls wearing a bra is porn.