Family member finding doll clothes in the mail...

My mom always comments on spending money on doll clothes.. but she's always so eager to look at it. So she waits next to me when I open the package and then awes at the complexity.

 

I am so sorry for you guys that have parents and grandparents like that.
Dolls or any hobbie make life fun and happy. Just know what you love is not bad , and feel sad for those who do not get it.

I dont believe anyone should be treated this way. I moved out when I was 16. But I do know what it is like to not be able to leave when you want/need to.

Just rember you are your own person, and they may say and do things that are not apropraite. Just because they are adults does not mean they are right or know what is right and wrong.
If you pay your "rent" and uphold your responsiblties you have just as much right as any other adult to love what you love without shame or needing to hide your things.

Do your parents tell you what they spend there money on? Do they have to tell you what they do? If you are acting like an adult ( paying rent, have a job etc) then you are old enough to spend you money your way. I am sorry if adults have every made you feel otherwise.
Just my two cents :P
Hugs
Tiffany

 

I'm selling stuff to buy my next pretty (since no one wants to employ uni students)

But even so, I'm sure when he falls through the door I may have to hide him for a while XD

 

My mother, who lives states away, fusses at me about my dolls. Despite being 27 (well, in two weeks), married, owning a home, etc etc etc... your parents will NEVER stop trying to help you do what they think is best for you.

At some point, you just have to put your foot down and insist (respectfully) that they acknowledge your ability to make your own decisions, whether you're living with them or not. Goodness knows, mine STILL tries to tell me what decisions to make in my life.

...and I'll be the first to admit that sometimes it's just easier to put a few of the dolls away when she comes for a visit.

 

Lucky for me they all look the same to my Hubby LOL and if I have one thats a new addition and stands out then its there to "do work on for a commission" and then re-paint re-dress and assimilate it into my cabinet hehehe... Though our house mate races me to the courier deliveries (we both work from home) and chucks a hissy fit when the package has doll on it and not jewellers tools.... The local postie thinks its the highlight of his day watching us scrap it out in the driveway for a package.... LOL

 

I can understand why parents would get frustrated with their kids ordering dolls, especially if they're older. If they're spending hundreds of dollars on dolls, they should be able to afford to move out on their own, or at least put that money towards it. I didn't get into the hobby until I'd already moved out on my own, because frankly independence takes priority over luxury items-- which is what these dolls are.

Most parents love and adore their kids, but there comes a point where they need to strike out on their own. The parents that don't want their kids to move out even as adults are probably just over controlling by nature. Which, I think, is all the more reason to try and move out in the first place!

Basically so long as you live with your parents, I think, they have at least SOME say in what's delivered to their home. I think throwing the items around is a bit much, though.

 

I've given up trying to hide my packages from my parents, but they don't seem to mind anyway. I don't tell them how much they cost (I don't think they want to know - they never ask, anyway), and even if I did I don't think they'd mind. So long as it's my money.

 

I used to get lots of flack for every "toy" I bought when I was younger, as once you were 12 you weren't supposed to play with toys anymore. HUMPH>

I'm glad I'm an adult and don't have to justify what I'm buying to anyone anymore. However I do wish bjd weren't so much money nor so much to ship. ARGH!

Such is life.

 

I try to order things so that they come on a day I have off or I can intercept the mail. My mother went through a period of "You could be spending your money on better things" and I agree. But I work my butt off at my job and I feel I should be able to splurge on myself every one and awhile.
Now I just don't let my mother see the packages and if she does I lie and say but but I sold the other doll for this one. I do the same with my boyfriend who has a strick limit of only 5 dolls in the house. Also they can't be ones that creep him out. He's a WoW addict though so I can kinda get him there.

 

My mother rolls her eyes, but my husband's mom thinks my hobby is really fun and interesting, she gets excited when a package comes in for me, and watches eagerly as I open it.

I consider myself lucky.

 

Funnily enough, I spend a lot on online purchases for my own clothes. There's this really cute store in the UK that I love, so when my stuff for my dolls recently came in from Mimiwoo my Dad was surprised. But, he didn't make any comment one way or another. He was just surprised because I don't doll as much as I used to.

 

I try the dolls are better than drugs thing every time packages come home! LOL They just don't get it!

I'm WAY over 18, own my own home with my fiance, and my Mom stays with us (because my dad just passed away). When she gets to the mail first, I STILL get the eye rolls and comments..." You've got to stop spending your money on this stuff!" I used to remind her that dolls and accessories pretty much retain their value and can always be sold. NOW, I don't even explain. I just tell her it's my business and not to worry about it. I just told her the other day that I don't want anymore comments about packages when they arrive.

Honestly, I try to get to the mail first. Thank goodness I get home before my fiance. He would absolutely KILL me if he knew how much I spent on doll stuff. Oh well, we all have our secrets!

 

I have two part time jobs that help sustain my hobby. I am old enough to make my own money and spend it but my mother and my boyfriend still asks me how much they cost. In those instances, I just smile sweetly and say "I'm not telling~" but they don't mind. They just say "as long as you are happy"

 

I bought a cherish chubby the LE version and it cost 195 plus 5 for shipping my mom is all, your wasting your money. She's like should you spend that on something else. I was like my boyfriend got paid the day after and we had enough for bills and EVERYTHING WITH some left! I was like leave me alone. Than she saw him and we went shopping and she got him a cowboy hat and some clothes for my bobobie nissa elfkin girl! lol so She hates when I spend the money but likes to spoil them once they are here! lol

 

It's because of my parents and how they were just against the idea of me owning a doll, that I waited until I moved out to buy my first. :/

 

Not sure if Iv posted on this thread or not.. but oh well.

I moved out of the house three years ago. So I didnt have to tell my parents about ordering a doll. I dont have to tell them either how many I now have, or how much I spend. I know where my priorities are, rent, bills, food, my self and my dog, hobbies come last. My dad is fine with my hobby since he has an expensive hobby also. He flys model airplanes, those big ones with the four foot wing span. A basic one costs at least 400 bucks. So he understands the fun and love of an expensive hobby. ^^ My mom on the other hand, she gives me flack all the time.. she just has to complain about my dolls and how much they cost.. x.x I just tell her though how much spends a month on cigerrettes, which is about 300 dollars a month.

 

yeah,i have a family that i dont know what they are thinking about.
one day when my monther saw a bjd on the magazine and she said it id cute. but another day she criticize it is disgusting.

luckily all the things i brought were from shop, not by mail.

 

My mom would just tell me not to buy too much....
My aunt didn't say anything she just call me out to take the package.....
But sometimes i will try to get a hold of it first because i don't want them to know i spent a lot of money >.<

 

my parents hate that I spend that much on dollies but eventually they get over it.
Until i told them that i wanted to put a Tan Silver Fox Yuu on layaway and my mom was like 'You need to do this and this and this and you should be like Misty and move out when you graduate and YOU need to pay for college'. It hurt since she said as long as I was in school she would let me stay and that she was going to help me through college(which my first two years I'm just going to U-rock which is $4000 but with my dad now on disability it's probably going to be $0). So apparently I chose Yuu(which the lady was giving me two years to pay him off) or staying with my parents. But I'm only living with them 3 days out of the week, the others I'm with my grandma. She just acted like I was spending my entire life savings, when in actuality I'd probably only be paying like $50(more or less) a month. Another thing is that it's not like I asked her for the money, it's MY money that I'm spending from either selling things or doing odd-jobs like cleaning for friends or whatever so I just don't see why it's a problem... I am 18 after all.

They just think I should be more "mature" but I mean how is it not mature? My grandmother collects porcelan(spl?) dolls and some of them cost $200-300 so it's not like I won't be able to support myself and my dolly hobby because she's doing just fine. :/

 

A post office box--works for me

Ideally, it would be better to avoid clandestine activities but sometimes it's just not worth it to keep trying to explain why to people who will never get it.