For those of you with dolls who have lovers.. (or want one)

-Do you prefer to have your doll fall for one of your own dolls or someone else's? Why?
Well, since these are pre-existing characters, I will own both parts of the couple and do prefer it that way, but some of the characters will be of my friends' whom are the character's lover in an rp. I dno't nkow about having my doll fall for someone else's or not. I haven't really explored that part of the bjd world yet.

-If someone else's. In person or internet?
Depends? I suppose largely in person with the chance to interact on the internet so that we could write out stories with them or come up with ideas for photoshoots. It sounds like it would be a lot of fun.

-If you have the choice of either (ruling out financial problems, originality or lack of, etc), which would you prefer?
Umm... I think I would still prefer to own the majority of them, just so I can pose them together on a shelf and whatnot. ^_^

-If your doll's significant other has a different owner, do you take pictures, role play, chat in-character, have their backstories figured out, plan out their future or do anything else with the dolls?
Again. Some of the dolls will be based off of friends' characters, and yes, they all have backstories and future plans. We also rp the characters in third-person story format. It's a lot of fun!

-If both your own, what do you do to enjoy said relationship?
Umm, well, those that are both my own, I will have their backstories and personalities written down- heck, I might end up using them as rp characters. A few of the lovers were requested characters my friends took, anyways, so some of the relationship ideas belong to me anyways. Oh, and I'd definitely take a lot of pictures of them together. Photo stories anyone?

 

Do you prefer to have your doll fall for one of your own dolls or someone else's? Why?

I have both situations. My SDs were always planned as a couple, and one of my MSDs is getting a significant other that I've been saving for. My other MSD just ended up becoming paired with one of my mother's MSDs. It kinda happened naturally in the course of roleplaying the dolls and planning photostories together.

If someone else's. In person or internet? It's certainly in person. Mom and I kinda pool our doll family, so it almost feels like they're both mine anyhow. I'm quite aware of the characterizations, and we work hard to keep them consistant between us.

If you have the choice of either (ruling out financial problems, originality or lack of, etc), which would you prefer?

It's easiest when they're both yours because you've got complete control over all aspects of the situation, but there are also great rewards to interacting with someone else in the doll hobby and enjoying the process together. Both have their pros and cons.


If your doll's significant other has a different owner, do you take pictures, role play, chat in-character, have their backstories figured out, plan out their future or do anything else with the dolls?

My Paran and Mom's Pado see each other almost every day. We pose them together. The dolls often do slumber party like sleepover in a group. We do joint photostories, discuss their backstories, riff on story ideas for them.

If both your own, what do you do to enjoy said relationship?

I do pretty much the same thing. I've got plans for some themed outfits. I'm working on ideas for photoshoots and stories, and I'm always figuring out backstory about their relationships. And it's just really fun posing them together in sweet or silly ways. My pair is rather like the odd couple, so some reactions between them can be totally hilarious to pose out.

 

I'm going to sound a little crazy, but I actually decided almost from the beginning that I'd buy my dolls in pairs, because I knew I wouldn't have enough time for them and they'd get lonely otherwise. ^_^; My first set is Tori (KDF Hodoo) and Hato (KDF Aru). They're a perfect complimentary pair, as he's a prickly tsundere type and she's really bright and cheerful. I haven't been able to buy her yet, though (I'm ordering her in June,) and he seems really lonely without her... but that could just be me.
Since I'm more interested in them having company than making up plotlines, I don't see myself pairing my dolls with other peoples'. The only person I may split a relationship with would be my sister, since we're close and spend a lot of time together. Anybody else, I think our ideas would be too different, and what if we broke up or moved away? Our dolls would be sad...
Yeah, I get caught up in that stuff. -_-;

 

-Do you prefer to have your doll fall for one of your own dolls or someone else's? Why?
Someone else's... I think it's just more fun that way, and less boring. :} However the drawback is that you can't always have them together when you feel like taking pictures of both of them.

-If someone else's. In person or internet?
In person. It's much more fun getting together and playing in real life, as opposed to the internet. To me, it seems like most bjd owners out there already have friends with dolls to be lovers for their own, or they've decided to buy a lover for their doll. That doesn't leave a large range of choice for other owners with single dolls who want lovers... To my knowledge there doesn't seem to be a very big "online dating" community for dolls. It sounds silly but at the same time I think it's cute.

-If your doll's significant other has a different owner, do you take pictures, role play, chat in-character, have their backstories figured out, plan out their future or do anything else with the dolls?
Our dolls don't have elaborate backstories, maybe just a simple personality description. So we dress them however we like and plan photostories and pose them as we go along. I think chatting in character would be very weird... because our dolls aren't based on fictional characters.

I guess I am lucky enough to have close friends nearby who also owns dolls. We love scheming for photostories and it's great fun meeting up for photoshoots.

 

For those couples...
-Do you prefer to have your doll fall for one of your own dolls or someone else's? Why?
I love to have my own dolls in their own relationships. Reason why? I'm not fond of relationships with other people anyway. lol I suppose I'm jaded and like to stay in my comfort zone! It'd also be a tad weird, methinks.

-If you have the choice of either (ruling out financial problems, originality or lack of, etc), which would you prefer?
My own dolls. If there's a breakdown of friendship with the other doll owner, or things go south, it's easier to keep to ones own than deal with a bitter breakup. (Real or imagined)

-If both your own, what do you do to enjoy said relationship?
Because I know both their personalities, I know that they'll be loyal and no sniffing outside the relationship for something they lack. For lack of a better word, they suit each other perfectly. And I love loyalty. They have fun personalities that bounce of each other. IE Erdric would lay a cloak down for Aryun in a puddle, and Aryun would jump in the puddle out of spite. lol It's amusing!

-Would you rather have their ideal significant other in your own possession or seek out someone else with said ideals?
I'd rather have their ideal SO... or better yet, actually someone less than ideal! Erdic and Aryun both leave a lot to be desired with each other, far from the ideal I think they both have! The relationship sorta sprung up around them since they are the best of friends. However, they do know that it's a two way street. The saying I always say is 'Love may build a bridge, but it takes lots of construction to keep it working!' Just because they're suited to each other, doesn't mean that there aren't misunderstandings and the like. Simply makes it more realistic.

 

Tovi had a girlfriend for awhile. It sorta happened by accident. I was RPing with him and he just sorta hit it off with her. (funny cuz he's 46cm and she's a 20cm Obitsu cat girl) It was fun for awhile but it sorta pigeonholed his character into a relationship and it got to the point where she was the only one he interacted with in the RP. After awhile I sorta wished they'd break it off, but he didn't want to hurt her. The RP ended up dying, though, which is too bad cuz I really miss it sometimes.

 

-Do you prefer to have your doll fall for one of your own dolls or someone else's? Why?
for me, it doesn't matter a whole heap. All of my dolls are based around my characters. I have a small group of friends that I RP with online, and out of all 17 (of my major characters who stick with me constantly) only 2 of them are in a relationship with a character which isn't mine.

-If someone else's. In person or internet?
Internet. Only because I don't know any people who are interested in anything I am in RL.

-If you have the choice of either (ruling out financial problems, originality or lack of, etc), which would you prefer?
I prefer both. Having both dolls in my posession means I can do photoshoots of them when ever I feel like. But having a friend with one half of the pair means I can branch out and do a one sided photo shoot and go back and forth with the other half and make a photo story out of it.

-If your doll's significant other has a different owner, do you take pictures, role play, chat in-character, have their backstories figured out, plan out their future or do anything else with the dolls?
Roleplay. At the moment my friend doesn't have the dolls for the other halves of mine, so roleplay is all we can do at the moment. When she gets her dolls, it will likely be a combination of all the above.

-If both your own, what do you do to enjoy said relationship?
The ability to pose them together when ever I want mostly

-When you get or got the second doll, do you or did you plan to have him/her be your first doll's love or it just turned out that way?
I half planned it. Kyra arrived first, and it wasn't until Neira got home that I realised who they were (I'm addicted to Onyx, so I bought them without knowing what I wanted to do with them)

 

I've never had a "couple" before, but I plan on getting Ukeru's loved one next.

I don't like the idea of someone else having the other half of a couple, unless I lived with them. I'd like to have my couple together, snuggled on the shelf at all times. I want them both on hand for any spur of the moment photoshoots that might pop into my head. ^^;

 

-Do you prefer to have your doll fall for one of your own dolls or someone else's? Why?
Someone else's typically. I'm very into roleplay and if my doll is dating one of my others...well...it's pretty pointless to try to RP with myself. lol However, I own both Amir and Mikko because Amir is my favorite and I was tired of him being used/abused/neglected in roleplay so I bought him a boyfriend.
-If someone else's. In person or internet? either and both. Most of my dolls are 'taken' by Ivory Stardust's crew and are played out online. But Mike is married to Cammi, who belongs to Christina_Xx and that is done in person.
-If you have the choice of either (ruling out financial problems, originality or lack of, etc), which would you prefer? I really prefer role playing online with other people, so long as our rp styles are alike and we agree on where plotlines should go and my characters/dolls are not in 'danger' of being destroyed by bad RP
-If your doll's significant other has a different owner, do you take pictures, role play, chat in-character, have their backstories figured out, plan out their future or do anything else with the dolls? Yes to everything. Every doll has a strong backstory and future plans. For example, Loki and Spencer are planning to "move" into a house and have a baby within the next year or two. We mail the dolls back and forth to have photoshoots/stories done and role play/chat in character almost every night online.
-If both your own, what do you do to enjoy said relationship? It's harder. I take pictures of them together and since they do have other couple friends in character, they are able to interact in role play. I write stories in my head for them, but they don't get nearly as involved as when someone else owns one.


-Would you rather have their ideal significant other in your own possession or seek out someone else with said ideals? I'd prefer someone else, so long as they share the same ideas about how it should be. Drastically different ideas about how doll relationships work are a deal breaker. For example, my dolls keep the same character from doll to chat to rp to pictures. Anyone who doesn't keep a steady character to their doll or likes lots of OOC interaction or "alternate universe" role play is out of the question for a partner. I don't want my doll "cheated" on, unless it's part of the agreed upon plotline. If pictures of the other doll with different lovers are posted where my doll posts and could "see" it, it's the same as cheating to me, since my characters don't change. Even if it's AU, it's hard to know when stories change and mine don't, it makes it really hard to stay in character. Also, I strongly dislike fantasy/sci-fi/magical powers in role play since most of my characters are human. And most importantly, I need someone who is willing to commit to the RP and play at LEAST 2-3 times a week. I won't have my character tied up a partner than is never around. Oh, and also, since it IS a dating relationship, I do require both character and owner to be at least 18 years old. I have nothing against people that play differently or have different views on role play, but to have successful "relationships", I've learned that I need these things.


-When you get or got the second doll, do you or did you plan to have him/her be your first doll's love or it just turned out that way? I had the character before I had the doll. I had originally gotten Hansel to be Amir's lover, and Amir pretty much just said "No, thanks." and seemed totally uninterested in being more than friends. Then Mikko was created as a background character, never planned to do a lot with him, but Amir was all "MUST. HAVE. HOT. MAN." lol So I got the doll and it was instant click.

-How do you find that other someone for your doll? Or do you wait for them to find your boy/girl?
It can be pretty random. Amir met his ex on a forum, it started out as IC chatting through photo responses and turned into dating, then role play through IM and then on RP sites. My characters, single or not, spend a lot of time in bjd role play chats (one of which I moderate), so Hansel met Quinn there, started out as just talking then they started dating. We originally planned for it last maybe a month, but turned out to be the perfect couple. It has now been going for 8 months and they got married last month. We had their wedding in person, with dolly friends and other RPers coming in from 4 different states to celebrate! After Hansel and Quinn clicked so well, and Ivory Stardust and I got along so well out of character, we started putting more of our dolls together. The current line up includes:
Hansel - Quinn} just married, planning to adopt
Loki - Spencer} married since April, looking fora house
Erik - Lily} young college couple, working towards degrees
Blake - Amrynn} destined to be together, recently engaged
Axl - Bree}he's a 37 y/o rocker, she's 18 and naive, he's keeping her in line, she's making him love again
Maddox - Kendall} newest couple, dorky as can be

And there are plans for a couple more in the future.
With Mike and Cammi, Christina_Xx and I are sisters and Mike and Cammi were old dolls from our teen years that started out as a ragdoll and a Bratz doll. We always loved the characters and decided to bring them back as BJDs a couple of years ago.

 

I would prefer to have someone else own my doll's significant other. I like the outside personality and ideas it brings into. I don't have my girl just yet, but her character is already so strong in my head that I really want her to be sought after; which is crazy XD

 

My Andromeda and Michael are a couple. Both are mine, and I enjoy owning both. I love taking pictures of them, and I'm currently in the process of setting up a multiple-part photo story with them. My other couple is Tyler and Sini, both of which I also own. One of my other dolls, Hunter, is patiently waiting for her resin prince to come. When he does, I'll have three couples.

I think it'd be fun to have a doll who was in a relationship with someone else's doll, either in person or on the internet.

 

I'm definitely looking for a love interest for my darling girl.

Would you rather have their ideal significant other in your own possession or seek out someone else with said ideals?

I'd rather own my doll's significant other, mostly because every other doll owner that I know or have met personally have already sorted out their dolls' backstories, and I wouldn't want to intrude. I'd also find it more convenient to own the SO because I will likely want to do frequent shoots for photo stories, and meeting up constantly isn't exactly easy around here, considering all our schedules.

When you get or got the second doll, do you or did you plan to have him/her be your first doll's love or it just turned out that way?

I'm going to be getting the second doll with the intention that they'll become a couple "eventually" (their love story also ties in with the backstory of the rest of my intended doll family).

 

I've started to think about this issue lately because my girl's starting to look wistful and lonely all of a sudden.

I think I'd want to own her SO, because it would solve how lonely she looks. If somebody else had her lover, I think she'd be right back to her mopey self in my mind.

At the same time, I don't have plans to buy that SO for her yet. I have a hard time thinking I'd buy a doll to "give" to her. It almost seems wrong to me so far, but I think my ideas will change the longer I have to think of her as lonely.

 

Ooooh~ good questions!

-Do you prefer to have your doll fall for one of your own dolls or someone else's? Why?
It would definitely have to be one of my own. I've never met another doll person IRL but friendships change throughout the course of life depending on where you work/live etc but dolls can go with you anywhere. I guess I move more than most people but still - I like having complete control over my own imagination. It wouldn't be plesant to fall out with said friend and then be reminded of negativity when looking at my dolls.

-If someone else's. In person or internet?
Hrmm... I think internet would be more likely, albeit in a personal way. For instance, I might have a doll that finds another internet doll attractive in the same way a humans do with celebrities.

-If you have the choice of either (ruling out financial problems, originality or lack of, etc), which would you prefer?
Ha. If you can find me a best friend that's also a doll collecter then I wouldn't mind messing about in person. I already have a lot of doll people I admire online but even so, I find the logistics of having such close knit dolls when you're countries apart rather baffling.

-If both your own, what do you do to enjoy said relationship?
I have characters that are lovers. I have the doll of one and I'm getting the other when money permits. I'm already writing their story but I can't wait to take photos of them ^^ partners in crime~

-When you get or got the second doll, do you or did you plan to have him/her be your first doll's love or it just turned out that way?
I already know~ ^^ however, I wouldn't be averse to any other dolls deciding to fall in love, even if I hadn't planned it. That could be a lot of fun and totally inspiring storywise.

 

Do you prefer to have your doll fall for one of your own dolls or someone else's? Why?
I prefer my own dolls to be my dolls significant other. I like controling the relationship and just allowing my craziness to influence the story rather than having to collaborate. Also I’m a sap, and I like my dolls to be together with their loved ones 24/7

-If someone else's. In person or internet?
Currently one of my dolls has a significant other who isn’t part of my immediate dolly family. The person is a friend of mine who I go to school with. I much prefer this as the dolls tend to be able to meet up more and the story tends to come along a little faster.

-If you have the choice of either (ruling out financial problems, originality or lack of, etc), which would you prefer?
As said before, I much prefer owning both dolls myself, though it can be expensive at times.

-If your doll's significant other has a different owner, do you take pictures, role play, chat in-character, have their backstories figured out, plan out their future or do anything else with the dolls?
Pretty much all of the above. The doll with another significant other was my first doll and my friend was helping me ease into the hobby by collaborating a story.

-If both your own, what do you do to enjoy said relationship?
To be honest, not much. I just like having both dolls together. -_-;

For you guys who have both dolls of your lover pair:
-When you get or got the second doll, do you or did you plan to have him/her be your first doll's love or it just turned out that way?
I always plan on it, I would like for it to be spontaneous, but It doesn’t really work out that way since I do the story first than the doll.

 

-Do you prefer to have your doll fall for one of your own dolls or someone else's? Why?
I don't really have a preference, but right now, I haven't seen any doll that struck me as "boyfriend material" for my incoming baby girl. So it might probably be someone else's.

-If someone else's. In person or internet?
I'm okay with either though I think it would be more fun if it was someone my doll can actually interact with in person! Much like a real relationship, I think an online/long-distance one would be hard, mostly because I won't be able to take such cuuuute couple photos!

-If your doll's significant other has a different owner, do you take pictures, role play, chat in-character, have their backstories figured out, plan out their future or do anything else with the dolls?
I suppose I will eventually do all of the above with my dollie's boyfriend's owner! I'm not very good with role playing and chatting in-character though. XD I mean, I can "hear" my doll in my head but for me to act "her" out would be weird for me since I see us as two separate beings.

-If both your own, what do you do to enjoy said relationship?
I'll take lots of pictures!!!

-How do you find that other someone for your doll? Or do you wait for them to find your boy/girl? (For example, do you go to doll meets and they met and fell for each other there? Or post a role play ad of your boy/girl and hope other role players find you, etc.)
When I first came upon this thread, I initially thought I'd meet them normally in a doll meet. But the idea of posting a roleplay ad of my dollie greatly appeals to me as well!

I guess I'm just pretty much a romantic even when it comes to dollie love. I'd rather they were two different individuals who met each other and accepted each other and loved each other. Hee!