girlfriends and your dolls

I'm in a relationship with a girl that collects dolls too. She's totally into Blythe and a Lati is as close as she gets to BJD's. Otherwise she thinks they are ok. Sometimes she will look at my dolls funny simply because I selected the wrong clothing color combo. But I learn in the end what works and what doesn't. I find as a man that wears black all the time it's a slight learning curve on that so it's all for the better that she needles me.

She also taught me a lot about cutting and styling Mohair and can sew some really cool stuff when I ask her to and the "vision" of what I want is clean cut enough.
Her opinion matters very very much.
Overall, there's a real good exchange of creative knowledge going on that fuels some really really interesting projects.

We're part of a team that's won a contest in Japan (been to Japan) and had a Blythe released by Takara. We create a custom Blythe for CWC to be sold for charity every year. Some of these times were extremely tense with creative ideas and deadlines and at each other's throats and what not. But we always pull through.


Otherwise it's a real relationship with ups and downs. Nothing's perfect, and I've never loved anyone more.

 

pick me, pick me! Oh, thats right, I'm already married and over the other side of the world
I personally think it's great when guys take an interest in my dolls. Most of them think they are a great piece of engineering design but some just think they are just pretty cool! I would LOVE it if my husband showed a bit more enthusiasm for them. He supports me in my hobby as he sees how much joy they bring, and he does like to have a good look at them when a newbie arrives or if I do a faceup, make new clothes or something like that, but thats as far as he goes.
Really, these are not your typical doll. I think it is because they are called "dolls" that there is an instant "girl" label put on them. If they were called something else. like a figure then it would not have the stigma attached to it.
Bloke to his mates: "hey, come and have a look at these dolls"
Bloke to his mates: "hey come and have a look at these fully customisable figures"
take your pick!
Oh and any girl that thinks your weird for ANY reason is not the kind of girl you want for a girlfriend anyway

 

That's an interesting observation I hadn't considered. Thankfully, in my personal experience it hasn't been that way and I'm definitely not a skinny guy. The people (girls and guys) I've shown/told about my doll have not found me obsessed or creepy, but I have to admit that may be more related to the fact that my friends are I all nerds of one kind or another and seem to be more accepting of things outside the norm.

I think what it may boil down to is that a lot of people don't give others a chance to show who they really are. They see something, be it a hobby like bjds, or really anything else that may be a bit different and immediately write that person off as a total weirdo not worth further notice. I've seen it happen quite a bit and I'll admit I'm guilty of doing it too.

I agree with Aussie grrrl, I wouldn't waste time on a girl who thinks I'm weird. I would just be kind of disappointed that I'd be attracted to someone who's not open minded enough to see that guys can have "non-traditional" interests and not be gay/weird/creepy/etc.

 

I'd be interested to know what different reactions you got, based on whether you were a fella with girl dolls or one with male dolls--or both!
Would you feel jealous if your girlfriend had tons of hot boy dolls? Would you feel jealous if your boyfriend had a gaggle of perfectly formed girl dolls?

Personally, I'm married, I have a girl doll, and I'm saving for a boy. I figure he'll be more like a child/creative outlet than a love interest. As for my hubby, I'd love to be able to relate to him across the doll front, but he loves Lluvie mostly because I do.

 

Ha ha I guess now I don't feel to alone lol, seeing so many guys respond to this question.

So far for me the dolls part hasn't been an issue, I don't have a girlfriend but hope that when I have one she will accept my weird hobbies lol including the doll. But hopefully I can get some help with my future gf in designing clothes and what not. And so far I've only told one person about my BJD other than my twin brother, and he's thinking about getting one now too, so I guess I've been accepted so far lol

~Mark

 

I think it's purely adorable to meet a guy as into dolls as I am. Or at least a guy who would remember their names and the important details, let me take pictures of him with them, help me with the dolly basics, and generally understand them. I've found that my guy friends are the ones who at least respect me and my dolls. The guys who I can't openly talk about my faceup issuesd with don't usually last in friendship with me.

 

I'm Single. Into BJDs and my dream is to find a guy into BJDs. *swoon* To find a guy who loves my dolls as much as I love them too would be a total dream!
Shame it never happens in the UK *sob*.
But I dunno why girls think it would be weird. I'd be over the moon!!! Much better than horrible cars and motorbikes!
If only I could find a guy into BJDs and Warcraft. Then I'd be able to die and go to heaven XD
However me being of a podgier cuddlier size compared to the gorgeous thin Eliya I have would make me feel like he always wanted a thin Unoa compared to a fat fairy. *podges self*
In the end nobody is perfect like a doll...

 

As a newcomer to this forum and someone who has yet to source their first BJD I have found reading through this thread very interesting.
I'm a male in my late 30s, I have a girlfriend and we have been together for almost six years.

My interest in the wider hobby of dolls started when I rediscovered Vintage Action Man a couple of years ago.
The collecting of these little guys became almost obsessive as I was/am just addicted to taking these old toys apart and spending time returning them to their former glory.
My girlfriend did not have a problem with my Action Men and did not even think it odd when I took them out for photo shoots.

When I discovered 12" female action figures I started to buy a few; CY Girls, BBi PBs and Triad figures but this caused a completely different reaction - Absolute hate and jealousy although my good lady has admitted that she realises how silly this really is.
I recently discovered 16" fashion dolls and now have a couple - The mention of them is almost taboo although bizarrely I am encouraged to show new purchases.
We have discussed the subject at some length and it seems the problem is that their perfect proportions are in some way threatening.
I sort of understand but none of my female figures are on general view in our home and after all they are only plastic and my good lady is real so I don't quite get it.
When I first discovered BJD, I started browsing the internet for a prospective future purchase, which of course I shared with my girlfriend. For some reason she does not feel threatened by these dolls in the same way and they do not provoke the same hostile reaction as their smaller cousins.
So it finally looks like another part of my hobby will be acceptable

 

Interesting stuff.

 

I almost have my boyfriend into them...but it doesn't really matter as we're so far apart in location.

 

I'm a girl - I wish I could find a guy that liked ABJDs! All the guys I have met seem to think it's weird,
and my last ex wouldn't even sleep in the same room as them because they scared him. I think he
must've seen too much Toy Story as a kid...

So... yeah, a guy that liked dolls would be a turn on for me. ^__^

 

For me, I wish I could say it went over well, but at the same time it didn't exactly blow up in my face. My g/f knew I was weird from the start and knows a lot of stuff about me that no one else knows. When I first became attracted to BJDs she practically shunned the idea. The funny side to this is that she's more of a guy than I am, but tends to speak her mind w/o caring who hears.

At first she was like... "Yeah that's kinda neat and they are pretty," but then later she started saying things like "I don't understand why you seem so obsessed about this." The other day I nearly got pissed off with her. A mutual friend was picked us up to drop us off at my place due to the rain, and as we were getting outta the car she suddenly blurted out, "Oh btw, did you know that he just spent over $600 on a doll?" It upset me for two reasons: 1) I had no intention of simply telling this person or anyone else until I was ready and to me it felt like her doing that betrayed my trust in her, and 2) I'm currently living with a friend who already thinks I don't spend my money well since I never seem to have money, yet doesn't seem to think about all the money I've lent him ((which he has yet to finish paying me back for)) before attempting to lecter me...

Anyways that aside, she's been getting more supportive, but seems to have this love/hate thing going on for them... *shrugs* maybe things will change when she finally arrives...

 

MY husband is the one who introduced me to these dolls, he knows I've always loved dolls and such, because I loved to give them life and love..they were my substitute children! and now I have a beautiful baby girl (4 months old)

 

I wouldn't jump to any conclusions, I think that if there are supportive people out there, just let them do what they do. My youngest brother (12) sits with me and looks at clothes for my boy, asks about what one I'm getting after Noah is home, and stuff like that. My dad was so proud I actually spent my money on something that I worked hard for, and my boyfriend, since he is all into art and that stuff, is blushing Noah when he comes home.

All the guys I know are really supportive, I even think the bf is slightly into them, even though he wont admit it, soley because he likes being involved with things I love.

 

I find it a bit hypocritical, honestly, that a lot of women who judge guys for having dolls (especially on the whole scantily clad girl front) are the same girls who make a big deal out of their perfect boy dolls and their lovely boy bodies and look for any excuse to strut their dudes' hot muscle-y stuff (often all over other hot boys).

I'm all for nummy boy dolls. Male characters have always been my favorite characters. I even prefer playing male characters in video games because I have a habit of getting more attached to them. Show me the shirtless dudes! Give me those lovely smirks! Oh my ~

But isn't it the same thing? Why is it okay for a girl to like scantily clad boys, but it's not okay for a guy to dress his girls up in swim suits? I mean, if that's what you like, it's what you like. It doesn't make them creepy any more than it makes you creepy.

As my roommate puts it, this hobby is already heavily laced with the judgments of outsiders. Why would we bother judging those of our own? Isn't it enough that our parents look down on us, that strangers find our dolls creepy?

Girls will like boys, and boys will like girls - assuming that they're straight, of course, which is what this thread is about: a girl's perception of her (hypothetical, maybe) boyfriend's interest in the hobby. Thus, it would stand to reason that if male dolls are often more popular with women, female dolls will be more popular with men. It's pretty self-centered to get mad at being judged by outsiders and then judge a dude for wanting to get into the hobby.

Me, I'm all for equality, really.

 

I'm not sure how I'd feel if I dated a guy who collected BJDs... The dolls would get to hang out together, and if it didn't work out we'd all go through the breakup! On the other hand... If he collected the kind with the huge boobs...? I would make so many classic pin-up outfits for them!

I'd actually love to find a guy that is into BJDs -- not just collecting them ready-made, but customizing and painting them too! But then I'm into a lot of "guy-things", so a guy being into "girl-things" would be a good balance.

Fear not, BJD-collecting guys on this thread! We love you for who you are!

 

Well I would have to say finding a guy who liked dolls would be refreshing. I do know guys who think 'ok cool a doll' and just leave it at that because they're not necessary interested they just don't mind I like it. While other more artisty guys well guy that I know he's like really cool with it wants to know my ideas for customization and bios.

So to answer the question I think guys with dolls are cool and even if they don't have any just the interest in them would make me happy. I think the only thing that would bug me out is if the doll was super girly or feminine on female and male dolls. Or maybe if they got super deep into the hobby more so then me.

 

My boyfriend originally thought they were 'weird' and 'creepy' until he met my Sard and found out how much he was worth, etc. Now he want's one, but purely for the financial aspect. I kind of find it sad. I would have been much more happier if he wanted one to customize and call his own. He's more set on buying it, hoarding it for years then checking on it's value later. He's told me I have to blush and paint it and clothe it. I don't mind and I'm kinda glad he changed his mind about them. Just wish it were for different reasons.

I fully respect guys who collect BJD's. Good on them and I hope they find someone understanding and supportive of their love for the hobby.