girlfriends and your dolls

Since both my significant other and I write fan fics, and both have our own characters, when I got my 1st BJD is was only to follow that he would get one too. . .Each of them being the characters in our respective stories. I find it kind of refreshing that a man would be interested in BJD's as it would sort of stand to reason that they would have to feel very safe in their masculinity and not let others intimidate him that it is a "girly interest". He finds as much joy in them as if it were a child (daughter/son), from finding new clothes and outfits, to presenting them at meets and conventions. So more power to those guys who have them and the girls who share them with the dolls.

- ShadowHawke -

 

I have a hormonal disorder which makes me neither truly male or female. I am pretty much a boy without dangly bits though, so I think I count. hehe.

My girlfriend surprized me recently. She has been unbelievably unsupportive of my hobby. Very supportive of my business with ABJDs, but only if I am making money and not spending any of it on resin. She is one of those 'I buy 8 pairs of $200 shoes in a month but think dolls are frivolous' kind of people. But my amazing mom gifted me with a beautiful ABJD (my first complete one! ) and when I got him home and out of his box, she immediatly began playing with him. She even spoke directly TO him. I was like "Who are you and what have you done with my girlfriend?" *L* Not that I complain, it was just completely unexpected.

So either she has turned over a new leaf, or has decided she is fine with my hobby as long as I never spend a cent of my own money on it.

 

After seeing my girls, my boyfriend really wants a doll now too. He said that he spoils them rotten anyway, he might as well get his own to spoil.

 

I totally agree with everything you said.

I must say, I'm a little taken back by some opinions here. I would think that people who are into in something would love to share company of somebody who shared their interest, whether they be male or female, I don't really agree with the whole "if you're a girl, then its okay but if you're a guy, you're either a pervert or weird". Yikes...it's only dolls! You can't tell what a person is like by ONE of their interests.

 

I really think it depends on how it's struck across for me. Some guys that are into the dolls are awesome. I've come across some that make the idea seem weird. I came across one that had his guys all tripped out in Devil May Cry themed outfits. I thought that was really cool. Something that I can understand guys liking. Or having girls and making them like Dead or Alive girls. Granted, each person is different, it's just the presentation of one's self, but of the ones I've seen those are the ones that I really think are awesome. But I haven't seen enough to really form too much of an opinion.

 

well, since i didn't quite fit into the boyfriend thread seeing as i'm in a girl x girl relationship, i guess i fit in better to this thread

i was incredibly embarrassed about telling my gf that i liked BJDs. i thought she would make fun of me because i'm typically the 'man' of the relationship. i used to think dolls were silly and useless and for girly girls. oh how wrong i was

 

Responding to Angharad's post from forever ago...I would be extremely concerned about anyone "dating" their BJD and I would hope that perhaps by socialising with them, I'd open them up to the wonderful world of humanity, whether they were male or female. I find the concept of someone relating romantically to an inanimate object very unsettling and I find it difficult to believe that someone "dating" a doll could be psychologically together, so to speak...but this is not a male phenomenon, it can happen to anyone who has suffered a traumatic relationship or the loss of a loved one. I can see how it would be easier to love someone who can't ever leave you, or ever die...but at the same time, totally unhealthy in the long term - I mean, vibrators are fun and all, but I'm not going to take one out to dinner or buy it flowers ( TMI, I'm sorry!)

As for guys in the hobby? Well, why ever not? I would only have a problem (if my boyfriend was also into ABJD) if his dolls had nicer clothes than mine Or if there was a custody battle for the dolls we bought together as a couple if we ever split!

I understand a male collector's interest in the hobby a bit more if his dolls are perhaps video game related, or original characters from their own stories or RPG characters. I'm always so surprised when I see a male collector's Flickr page and it's full of his doll in lolita! I probably shouldn't be surprised because guys can like pretty things too, it's just where I come from, men really couldn't admit to liking that sort of thing openly. I get weird enough stares walking around with a doll in my arms and I can pass for several years younger than I actually am...but a guy? I think he'd get pretty hostile reactions, which is a shame because I'm trying to get my brother into ABJD

 

My Girlfriend and I are in this hobby together, she sorta brought me into it and I haven't left the hobby ever since. I'm soon moving in with her so we'll be having a house full of dollies xD I thought of having a "Doll room" ^^

 

If my boyfriend had one, it would be AWSOME

but sadly he dont, but I still love him

 

My gf is in the hobby too, so.. no problem. :3

 

Same here! I posted there but I was kinda like...ehhh... xD

At least appearance wise I am the "man" as well (there's a picture in my profile if you're curious, since I get mistaken for a guy allll the time) so she was kinda like "oh really?" xD But she's seen the dolls before at anime conventions and such and agrees with me that they're gorgeous. I don't think it's ever anything she'll get into (she went to culinary school so her #1 hobby is always going to be food!) but she's totally fine with me being involved and has even she said will get some clothes for Tae-Jun for my birthday! ^^ She just said something like "Don't start thinking he's alive or anything!" though xD No matter what she'll be my first cuddle buddy!

Hey, same thing with my girlfriend and I! (I'm 17, she's 19) There's also the fact that I live in Michigan and she lives in California. But I live in a small, homophobic community and have discerned that there's nothing for me here, so the distance doesn't really bother me. (And of course there's also the fact that I love her dearly!) We manage to see each other every few months and we make it work. Age is nothing but a number, and so is distance!

 

I've actually asked my fiance if the doll collecting would creep him out. But he simply replied to me that "It'll take alot more then that to creep me out babe."
Which is one of the many reasons why I love him so dearly
I always joke saying I would buy him a doll one day, and he said he wouldn't mind that. I'm sure he would probably use it to scare people though He's the type who would.
But I have a feeling he'd be more into them once I show him my boy. Even though he's an , all black, leather wearing, heavy-metal, 'I have everyone', type of person, I have a feeling he'd probably enjoy them in a weird way. But I doubt he'd play with them as much as I will though.
He think's they're cute too! More boyfriend is very comfortable with his sexuality...I know 'cause he acts very 'close' with his guy friends alot of the times (HES MINE I SAY!) haha...
But when I show him a picture of a doll I really like (which is normally male) he has no problem with admitting they're cute or handsome!
He's suck a cutie.

I'm hoping to slowly migrate him into this world hehe. Slowly though...I actually bought him a miniature model of a C-3PO doll that is rather flexible!
So maybe after I show him my boy, he'll spark a little interest.
I mentioned alot of clothes they make are leather...so he seemed a bit more interested

 

I don't think it would bother me to date a guy with dolls, as long as he wasn't one of those scarily obsessive guys. I don't mean about dolls, there's a certain personality type who tend to get obsessed about one thing (could be any number of things) to the exclusion of all else, and I would hate to date a guy like that (sometimes they're deceptively normal). A friend of mine went through a relationship with a guy who was obsessed with video games, so I would hate to go through that. Any other guy who likes dolls I would like, though, just as I would like a guy who knits, because it demonstrates a self-assurance that shows they don't care about societal views of what they should or shouldn't like. And that is seriously sexy to me.

On the other hand, I would hope any girl I might date would be open to it, at least enough to not call my dolls creepy. I can understand wanting to put the dolls away in... *ahem* certain situations. But otherwise I would be angry if a possible girlfriend of mine was insulting about dolls. On the other hand, I would hate it if a girlfriend decided she wanted dolls so much that she tried to adopt one of mine. XD My dolls are mine!

I'm single currently and just got into the hobby, so it's moot right now. XD Kinda nice to be able to see the issue from both sides, though. ;D

 

Why is it that many girls find a boy collecting only girl dolls so repulsive? There are SO MANY girls out there who only collect boy dolls, or mostly boy dolls... and for reasons just as perverted as any guy. xD;;;

I think we tend to buy what we find attractive. ^o^ Dolls are a fun and safe way to be a little obsessive, as long as its not taken to an absolutely unhealthy level, and you probably know what I mean. Honestly, we're all human: isn't it better to live out your fantasies, 'good' or 'bad', on dolls rather than forcing it on real people? Just a thought. :3

By the way, I'm a girl and it would just RULE if I met a guy into BJDS! ^o^ [My boyfriend isn't too keen on them... and used to make snide comments. ;~;]

 

I think any person who shows passion for something and is willing to pursue it is awsome. Be it dolls, sports, anything. It would be really awsome to find a guy who collects dollies too C:

 

I'm with all of the people who said it would be cool if their bf was into dolls

 

I would have absolutely nothing against boys who have dolls. I would even find it quite cool.

 

I'm asexual, but frankly, the only person I've had any romantic interest in my life thinks these dolls are majorly creepy. Admittedly, that's what they like about them, but still...

 

I have few people to share my doll passions with and I'm delighted to say my love is one of those few He has an Obitsu Gretel head and is waiting to afford her body He adores Pukis and wants a Piki and a PongPongXD Its a real joy to have his support and interest in my doll obsession and teaching him about bjds has been really wonderful I'd be delighted to have more friends, boys or otherwise, to obsess about dolls withXD To me gender has no bearing on what you interests you have.