Girls view on guys who own BJDs

I have no problems with guys owning dolls. Frankly, if a guy is creepy, he's going to be creepy no matter what he is carrying. On the other hand, if a guy is well-rounded and friendly, he's going to seem that way to me even if he does collect dolls. The same if true about most hobbies. I can especially understand it from the artistic point of view.

 

I got the feeling that we can get along somehow.

 

I accepted ^^
I like both Ryu and Miho. In fact I was tied between Miho and an Elfdoll Wu for a doll I have now~
I really like the Vampire Miho~ It's funny because that's the one you wanted after A&D.

 

Personally, I would be skeeved out if I found out that a guy I liked owned BJDs. I would be fine if he collected action figures, or more male oriented collectibles. Am I the only one that thinks this way? But if I walked in my boyfriend's room and found a BJD... I don't know. It would be uncomfortable.

 

Why? What is there that says BJDs are a female oriented only hobby? Would you be just as skeeved out if one of your girl friends collected something "manly" like action figures? How do you feel if you consider the possibility that a lot of the molds out are quite possibly sculpted by males?

To each their own, but I'm really curious as to how you back up that view point.

I personally have no issue with guys in this hobby, I think it's wonderful that everybody is able to enjoy it and use it as a creative outlet.

 

I'm glad To see that most of you are ok. with guys with dolls. I never thout about what the girls thout about it unto i saw this thread.

 

I never really thought about it...I used to collect antique and vintage dolls and a lot of men collected those so I wasn't surprised to see guys with BJD's...they are art after all!

 

Well, my husband has a bjd, but he's been buying and customizing various toys, figurines and what have you for as long as I've known him. It's just one more branch of a hobby for him. I think he has definitely helped me to mature past the knee-jerk reaction of seeing a man with a doll.

Additionally, he makes custom G.I. Joes for our daughter, so it would be pretty hypocritical to say a boy can't have "girly" toys/figurines but my daughter can have "boyish" ones.

However, like Erichan said, if a guy is a creeper, than doll or no I'm going to be wary. But when he's just another person with a similar hobby, more power to him.

 

That is the sweetest thing! I'm all smiley now.

To me the move from action figures to BJDs makes sense-- I was all about action figures and almost completely un-interested in dolls before I got into BJDs. And I'm a gal who's into Joes.

=^__^=
Anneko

 

Yes, i wish i could get my Doll Money for A&D fast, so i could work on Miho already, i already have details for A&D, and yet, i'm still thinking of what will Miho will be for me.

 

I think at first I was kind of surprised, but not in a bad or judgmental way. Just a "wow, really? cool!" sort of way. But I think it's cool if guys are into dolls, just like it's fine for girls to be into video games or dinosaurs or other "guy things". Somehow I doubt that my boyfriend will ever be into BJDs, but I'm hoping with time he'll be a little more interested so I don't have to feel like I can't talk about the dolls with him and such.

 

I don't have any particular feelings on it. Well, for the most part. Once I started talking to my boyfriend about it, he started to get into it a bit. He doesn't own one, but he keeps coming up with ideas for dolls and asking if they would be possible and how one would go about it. He played "Spotter" so to speak when I restrung a doll for the first time. He helped me buy my second girl, and he wants to buy me my first SD (and boy). He also mentioned "if I ever get a BJD, you have to keep it at your house or it'll get destroyed." He wouldn't say something like that if he weren't thinking about it. xD

Just because they're dolls doesn't mean there should be a masculine and feminine owner stereotype attached. I mean, please, we all know those larger-sized "action figures" could constitute dolls. XD

 

at a few meets I've been to now, the amount of guys with dolls there has equaled the amount of women!
LOL I love my doll collecting men

and my feelings towards them are the same as with my feelings of women collecting dolls. You're fine if you have a healthy relationship with your doll, but if that doll has a relationship with the person that makes them see the doll more as a friend/child/lover/etc, to the point where you treat that doll like a human (things like seriously thinking the doll is going to get mad at you if you undress them in public, or going on and on about how lovely our dolls breasts are - both situations I have encountered.) then I'm wary >.<

 

*looks at my 1/6th scale military action figures*

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

 

This is pretty relieving~
I have to admit, I found it pretty difficult accepting that liking BJDs was more than a passing phase at the time ahaha.

 

(Let me note that I don't think that the mere collecting of dolls is a feminine aspect, however the dressing/playing/mothering of a doll is inherently feminine, which I am assuming mikkigirl would find odd for her boyfriend to be doing.)

People are attracted to different things in a person. How is this different from her(mikkigirl) being uncomfortable finding her boyfriend in a dress? It's feminine in her eyes, and that's fine to want her boyfriend to exhibit masculine traits. I don't understand why people try to deny that there are feminine and masculine characteristics.


Personally, I have no problem with guys in the hobby(such a creative outlet! Yay!)...there are both genders in all hobbies, so I didn't expect this to be the exception!
Although I don't like when their dolls are dressed up as hypersexualized big busted children-women in raunchy costume, although that's along the same lines as those anime figurines, which I'm not fond of, either. I think that's creepy, whether the owner is a male or female. Others can and will disagree.

 

Let me share you guys something, in my younger age, i held my cousin's barbie while we were playing... Then suddenly a group of boys passed by in front of me, and they were like "Ewww... So GAY! Look! He has a barbie with him." And i was bullied because of that, until i reached high school. After that "incident" i swore that i would never touch any doll from that day on, then about for years ago, i saw Dream of Doll Web Site... It was referred by an Online Game Buddy, and really i fall in love with Lahoo, then Ducan, Kyrill... Until the Dream Of Idols or DOI came and i was like "OH MY GOD~! I will break my oath, and will be starting to love A&D" and now, i'm starting to earn and save money by accepting art commissions. Hee hee hee~ ^^y

 

lylesenpai--that's wonderful that you've gotten past that horrible incident (Society, oh noes!)!!! I hope you get every single doll you wish for!

 

Thanks KiraKat! Actually, i only intended to get four, i think!? But i liked two so far and those are:

Dream of Doll DOI A&D Ver. 2 and
Migidoll Vampire Miho

I'm still in the process of saving for the first one, and i want them both with Make-up... If you can see my sig, that's the money i got for the doll so far! xD

 

Like KiraKat said, I'm glad you were able to move past that mean comment!~