Girls view on guys who own BJDs

Same here, Xanadu. I doubt a meet is likely anytime in the distant future.

 

I had a boss who collected porcelain dolls and we used to have long conversations about dolls. Doll collectors come in all shapes and sizes, ages, etc. The more the merrier.

 

I have plenty of "mostly male" hobbies its not like there's a lack of them lol

 

I'm glad that this hobby is something I can share with my partner (who is a guy), our dolls hang out with each other and share clothes etc, he's had male dolls, female dolls, there's not anything weird or creepy going on! He likes the photography side more than me and is more talented at making clothes, painting doll portraits etc as he's generally more artistic, I just like sitting and staring at mine mostly! I think it's nice that guys (hopefully) feel they can be part of this community without silly gender and/or sexuality stereotyping getting in the way.

 

I don't talk about my dolls to non doll people, feel they just don't get it

 

It's absolutely fine by me! The more people that are into this hobby, the better so far as I'm concerned

 

Yup! That's what i thought too... But i prefer choosing the people to talk about the hobby... Because there are some people who has the "look" when you're telling them. And i haven't even got my dollie, but i experienced that already xD

 

I have no issues with guys who own BJD's, unless they are not caring for them properly. While I have seen some great male BJD owners, I have seen some bad ones as well. I suppose my take is that I treat them the same as any other BJD owner. As long as people respect the hobby, they are welcome to it in my book.

 

I love guys with dolls they walk to the beat of their own drum and i love it. I have a guy friend that has a doll and honestly he is the eaisest and most fun perosn to talk to becuase he understands the hobby too.

 

I find it to be a good thing. When a guy can get past that fear of being stereotyped from owning a doll to follow their interests no matter what it is, shows a strong personality and personal value and moral in my opinion so I look upon it highly.

 

I think it is a good thing that guys get into the Doll hobby too. I believe it is normal for a guy to get into. I love when it is just not girls but guys too that show up at doll panels in conventions.

 

I think it would be hypocritical of me to say that it's odd after the flack that I've recieved from a certain family member telling me it's weird to have a doll, and after defending myself. Though we're brought up to think that boys playing with dolls is odd we need to push past this, and form our own oppinions. I'd find it odd, but that's just the way I've been brought up, but it wouldn't stop me from introducing myself and making friends.

And you bet my boys (when I have kids) are going to be bought Barbies if they want them, and will be told by me that boys are allowed to play with dolls, and that it is completely natural. I don't want my kids to think like I do about this : )

 

I was actually pleasantly surprised to see so many males in the hobby! I don't think there is anything wrong with it. How I see it, is that society forces things upon the two genders. There really is no such thing as a set "gender," but unfortunately, it's something that society has created and built up over the years and something that it expects of us. Like, guys aren't supposed to play with dolls, and girls from teenage years and up aren't supposed to either. It's really sad, honestly.

 

I have no problems with it at all! In fact I've gotten a male friend of mine into the hobby and he plans on getting one or two of his own one day (he already has two in mind.) The fact that society places norms for males and females as far as hobbies and other things go is ridiculous, when there really isn't anything set for either gender at all. I grew up liking things that boys would like at that age, and it didn't seem odd or wrong to me, though those older than me just rolled their eyes and such. I feel that you should do what makes you happy (long as it's not hurting anyone of course!) and not let what other people think is right for either gender affect your decisions as a person with your own personal business. :3

 

I never said BJDs are a female oriented ONLY hobby. (However, it is primarily female oriented.) Honestly, to each their own. If a guy wants to collect dolls, all the power to them. Each person is definitely entitled to do what makes them happy. If collecting BJDs makes you happy then I see no problem in that. But I wouldn't want my boyfriend to collect BJDs. That's what I was saying. If it was a cool gothic Sci Fi character, that was more for show, then I would probably be fine with it. I would be fine if he collected cool BJDs to portray anime/goth/cartoon characters and nothing more. But I would not want him to spend his time clothing, caring for, and brushing the hair of a doll, etc... That's more feminine than I prefer. More of a motherly trait.

I don't have a problem with women liking more masculine things. I don't have a problem with men liking feminine things. But I would personally not want my boyfriend to partake in playing with dolls. And the fact that men sculpt dolls is irrelevant. They are artists. It is their job. I truly find sculptors amazing...

 

Thank you so much. You took the words right out of my mouth.

 

My friend and I are fasinated by guys with dolls. At an Otakon meetup we met a guy with the most adorable luts bory girl in a pink lolita dress. It's just where not expecting guys to be into things like dolls and when they are it's just awesome.

 

We have a decent number of male regulars at our meets in Boston, which I think is great! I've never seen anyone react negatively to it, either. (Although there was one guy who showed up clearly to hit on every female there who didn't seem to enjoy himself too much. Thankfully that's only happened the once.)

 

I think it's wonderful! I'd be out of my mind with gleeful joy if my husband liked dolls in any way! How wonderful it would be to share my hobby with him...I think male doll collectors of any sort are super cool...

 

There's quite a few of us in Vancouver, though most of the other guys in the hobby here are more into Dolfie Dreams than I am. Our local girls love having us around -- I've never had a complaint about me being at a doll meet, nor the other guys - in fact, one of the other men in our group and I have a certain 'rivalry' (all in fun, of course!) going on, and the stage-drama it provides entertains the girls fairly endlessly.

Hahaha, anything for the ladies, right?

Also, because I've been in the hobby for so long, I have a certain amount of knowledge about dolls that most of the girls in my group -- including a high rate of newcomers, as our community is massively expanding by the month! - actually view me as a sort of expert in the field, so I find I'm even given quite a lot of respect over my dolls. But I don't think they view me on a 'pretty fly...for a guy doll owner' basis. It's more to do with my experiences with dolls that I've collected for the almost near decade I've been into them.

To what both mikkigirl and KiraKat said, I only have to say this:

While I understand your point, and agree, there is also an incredible amount of male BJDs being hypersexualized by women in the hobby. It works both ways, there, and it feels just as strange looking from the other side of the fence at that matter. For instance, I'm inclined to dislike a doll of either gender (or any doll who is outside of the binary, for that matter) when they have been used primarily as an image of fetish. It doesn't matter the gender identity of the doll owner, when that happens, either.

I think it's just safer to look at that subject on a more universal (and not so gender inclusive) scale, because both men and women (and boys and girls, etc) in the hobby are guilty of the hypersexual doll image, you know?

Just thought I'd add a little onto that, there.