Girls view on guys who own BJDs

SuniMoon I know what u mean)) I've met a couple of guys, and when they started to show me pictures of their dollfies on ipads, it was all almost hentai style) With their comments like "how hot is she????!!!!" , "isn't she a baaabe!!", I could do nothing but laugh. Ok, they have their right for dolls porno and I have my right for any kind of opinion about it. My opinion, they lack sex in real life.

 

I wish my fiancee was into ball jointed dolls It would give me an excuse to get new dolls "here is a present for you" then i would play with it when he was not looking haha. Plus it is nice to share interests with a loved one. That said, it would be hard to find someone close to my age (31) of the heterosexual male nature who was into dolls. My fiancee totally finds them creepy lol. le sigh.

 

I think it's a bit creepy if a guy has a doll with the giant torpedo breasts and the big animu eyes and all, I kind of find them to be as big a put down on my body as barbies are. Yes, I know it's not really rational and yes I know no-one means to put anyone else down but it's just kind of embarrassing having a guy talk about how sexy a doll is. Especially one that - in my opinion, here - is kind of tasteless.

It makes me glad that my husband has been humming and haaaing about getting a Mirabil from soom, she looks a lot like me and he says she's beautiful and kind looking (Even though I think she's kind of unhappy looking..) because it means we have a similar taste in dolls. He thinks "Dollfie Dreams" are absurdly tasteless (His words, not mine) and he thinks the Pukifees are adorable and the only reason he won't get one is he's afraid of losing it because he'd carry it around everywhere.

So no, I welcome any guy who gets into the hobby, in fact I find that men are very, very good when it comes to helping work out patterns and choose fabrics! And with making JID clothes I need all the help I can get -_-

 

I've dragged several of my male friends into the hobby. Some just because they like to make pictures of the dolls me and my friends own, some by actually helping them find the dolls they like.

I think gender doesn't really matter in this hobby, it's the fun of sharing a hobby and doing things together which keeps it fun for me!

 

I find nothing wrong with guys being into bjds. I would think of a guy as cooler if I knew they were. The idea that hobbies should be reserved for certain genders is stupid.

 

Well I am a male and my fiancé was the one who showed me this hobby. She actually loves the big breasted dollfie dreams while I like the male Bjd. My fiancé loves that I collect because we have more to relate. On figure.fm you'll find plenty of men who collect DD simply beause they have more sex appeal than a Bjd which are more eligent and beautiful. I dont know many men though who openly admits they prefer the male Bjd or females. For me it's simply because I think they look cool. And I thinks it's some what weird to find a doll sexually attractive.

 

I noticed that a lot of people have a gut reaction saying it's wrong because of western culture bias. I'm going to bring a different opinion into the mix though. I'm used to it. I've been into dolls longer than I can remember and there are usually almost an equal about of men and women at doll and miniature shows (at least as far as dealers go). If you look at the crowd though, there are more women. I have seen many men collect though and make dolls and clothing just as good or better than women. So no, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. I see dolls as a form of art for everyone, no matter if it is BJDs or barbies.

 

I showed those to my boyfriend too. His reaction, "What's wrong with her breasts?"

 

Well I see it very simply...

anyone can do anything they like with anything they like, as long as nobody gets (involuntarily) hurt
everything else is fair game

It doesn't need to be more complicated than that

 

Id love it if my bf collected too, but at least he is supportive of my hobby and he knows it makes me happy

 

My boyfriend bought a BJD. Of course my interest played a part in it, but it wasn't the sole reason for his purchase. Before I met him he had quite a few off topic figures and dolls, very many of which were cute and not sexual at all. So he definitely wasn't looking only for something to gawk at.

He's more interested in the technical aspect of it. He likes knowing how the joints work and he looked for a doll with high poseability. He also likes how customizable they are. He specifically told me it's not the fact that his doll is busty or mature that drew him to her. He likes the slimness of her body, the fact that her joints are well designed and that she doesn't look bulky. The fact that she happens to have a mature body type is really just a side effect of that.

Another friend of mine is in love with Doll Chateau's Alberta. Before seeing her he had only a passing interest in BJDs. He's a collector of all sorts of figures, sexualized and not. He just gets what he likes, and men can, just like women, like things without having a sexual attraction to them.

 

It doesn't shock me at all to see boys buying/ having dolls. On the contrary I find that rather cool. After all why dolls should be reserved only for the girls ?! Guys often make good jobs and take care (as well as us lol) of their dolls.

 

gender just really doesn't come into it. the person who OWNS the doll is the factor to me. men, women, and anyone who considers themselves inbetween, can all be just as dysfunctional or dislikable, but perhaps in different ways.

i judge people for who they are, which includes taking account of their hobbies, but much more importantly their approach to it. i've met some really cool doll collectors, nice ones, weird ones, and downright creepy ones. sometimes this behavior is revealed by the way they treat dolls, other times it's revealed by the way they treat other hobbyists. note that i didn't use a gender specific term because there is no 1 gender this applies to.

if there's one universal thing between all doll collectors, i think it's that they view dolls as surrogates for some kind of child/friend/sister/brother/lover/spouse/confidante/muse...etc. people who own dolls may even have all or some of these things in the flesh, but still collect dolls if they have an emotional reason behind it. that's just my hypothesis but i think both genders are equally prone to this behavior. when a guy is "marrying" his doll then it seems extreme, but lots of girls collect male BJDs and make them look like "the perfect boyfriend".

on the other hand, is the former example more common- or just more noticeable? men may be a smaller demographic which could skew everyone's perspective, all social stigma aside.

i guess all i'm saying is everyone is a pot or a kettle. or in some cases, silverware that has nothing to do with it.

 

I Think This Is A Very Gender Neutral Hobby ^-^
I've Never Personally Met AS Guy Who Collects BJDs But I Would Be Excited If I Did. I Think It's Nice~

 

I haven't read the whole thread so I'm sure I will probably repeat someone, but I'd just like to point out that historically, most of the greatest designers, wether of art, fashion or architecture, have been male. I personally don't find it odd that a guy likes and/or owns a BJD... or ten.

I find it quite attractive actually. To me, its a statement that this man knows what he wants and what he likes, and isn't afraid of being different. It takes a lot of courage. So guys...

I doff my cap to you good sirs.

 

I think it's awesome but I've always loved it when people do things that don't just follow the mold such as girls who are good gamers, guys who love horses and ride etc. I apreaciate people who think for themselves and do something because they love it and not just because it's cool

 

I think since he treat his dolls very well, he will treat his girlfriend very kindly as well XD

 

I was suprised as well. i'm ashamed to say what my first thought was to an explaination. Howver I am very curious about the phenomenon.
Is thsi something a male "got into", were they always "into" dolls, what attracts them to owning them. Woman have tons of explanations, ranging from child fancy, to a desire to make up for what they were deprived of, it seems like a natural thing. So what attracts a male to such a hobby that mayb welcome critcism. As a female, I hit all the markers for why I love them. I play with them, I find them comforting and can hide behide my daughter when we have them out in public (although she uaually rats me out). I will have to check on this thread, because I would love to see what others have said.

 

I saw a show called "children of our time" or something like that, I think it was produced by BBC. They had an experiment where two young boys (under 10yo) who were identical twins were put in a room with "gender-specific" toys and other children. The boy with higher estrogen levels played with the girls and female-role toys while the boy with higher testosterone played rough with the boys. It's interesting, but I think I have higher than avg testosterone and I enjoy both dolls, baking etc and playing rough sports etc, but maybe I have high estrogen also.

Also there is much christian literature that warns (without any real evidence) that boys playing with dolls will lead to homosexuality and gender identity disorders. So this element of society sadly does not approve of guys with dolls.

 

I'd just like to pop in and say that I'm a Christian, and I think it's fine for guys to have dolls. I was actually really excited to see guys in my doll meet group because I've been wanting my husband to come to one with me, but I knew he would feel awkward if he was the only guy there.

And as far as that goes, I don't think that guys necessarily collect dolls because they have a sexual attraction to them, I just think that people collect what they like.