Girls view on guys who own BJDs

More power to you. I think it's great that you are doing something that you want to!

 

Well, since I collect things like Halo and other action figures, which are typically seen as more boyish, I have no qualms with guys having BJDs. I actually wish my fiance wanted to get into the hobby, but even though he accepts and supports that I collect dolls, it's just not his cup of tea.

But I envy all of the BJD couples and girls who are able to find boyfriends with dolls; you guys are lucky!

 

I have always seen the BJD realm as being gender neutral. Why shouldn't guys get to be creative and have fun in this awesome hobby too? Tolkien fans, mangaka fans, Marvel comic books fans- this is a great way to further express and create our favorite characters from our favorite books, comics, movies, tv series...ect, ect.The more, the merrier, I say.

 

From the view of a female BJD collector I think it's pretty great, but I admit I'd be freaked out if my son would do such things, I guess?
On the other hand I get the vibe that most of the male BJD collectors are gay, so basically they like 'girl stuff' anyway so it's not a big deal. But cool indeed. ^^

 

I think it is awesome. I believe the most masculine quality a guy can have is to follow his own interests, despite what others may think. I myself have had hobbies that were supposedly "masculine", such as playing ice hockey. I think stereotypical gender roles are outdated, personally. Go for it!

 

It's this type of response that some straight guy BJD collectors may be afraid of. Not to say your view is negative at all, it's not. But when even people within the hobby might associate most of the guys as gay and things not being a big deal because of that, you can imagine the stigma straight guys could feel from all the people in our lives that aren't in the hobby.
Heck, you may even be completely right, straight guys in this hobby could the minority by far.

But nobody wants to be seen as something they are not, simply because they share a hobby that is typically thought of as feminine. (same goes in the opposite direction in terms of women and masculine hobbies, though I feel there's way less negative views on that in general)

As a straight collector, I'd rather not have to defend myself or explain my interests to people. And I feel like that's exactly what I'd have to do with anyone if I told them about my hobby. And that sucks, because it's a fun and exciting part of my life now.

 

I think it'd be cool for a guy to own BJDs! Unless it's a guy I'm interested in and all of his BJDs are girls that are extremely busty and wearing skimpy little outfits

 

I think guys with bjd's are great!^^
Gotta admit I get a little twinge of envy when I read about couples collecting together - my partner has helped me purchase dolls in the past, but pretty much refuses to even acknowledge them when they get here.

 

I'm not usually one for traditional gender roles but I can't get used to the idea of men fussing over wigs, buckling little shoes and carrying around dollies. I know it's not necessarily "right" to think this way but from what I've noticed, some of the more peculiar and off the wall behavior on this board has been perpetrated by males. That's just me and my opinion I guess, I like my girls' club.

 

Wait, how do you figure that? Have you actually been reading this board since 2007? If so, how did you manage to miss the massive [ie majority] piles of wack behaviors that come from female members?... Truly curious how you arrived at this bizarre conclusion.

 

I don't really care either way. If the you in your body likes dolls, then you like dolls and that's that. It's fine. Why wouldn't it be?

 

For whatever it's worth, I'm a guy, especially not the type of guy people would typically expect to be into dolls, and it was weird for me at first, too. I've found that overcoming the initial weirdness was a worthwhile endeavor. I love my girls so much now

 

I think anyone should be able to own dolls! However... My fiance and I can't help but... 'Feel bad for' the dolls that seem to be owned by perverted people--regardless of gender. All I'm saying is some hardcore 'otaku' out there, with the Volks Dollfie Dreams kind of creep me out with the over sexuality of some of the character dolls. I own a Mini Dollfie Dream--and I love her! I just don't see how you can call something your 'daughter' and then take pictures of her nude or in lingerie. I'm sure some of you have seen the type... The kind of person, normally male, with scantily clad anime girls all over his or her room? But, that's just my opinion. To each his or her own!

 

i'm a guy and i currently own one bjd. yes i am gay but i really despise gender roles.. if a boy likes dolls that doesnt automatically make him gay or girly. ive seen straight boys who own these dolls and no they are not stereotypically busty and skimpy. although if this is what they want, then theres nothing wrong with it in my opinion. i would have no problem if my son liked these dolls. to me it is more of an art form than something like a barbie or whatnot.

 

Online I don't even care, it's just a doll owner.

But if I met a guy in person, and we started hanging out, and I went over to his house and saw that he had BJD's...I'm not gonna lie, I would be a little weirded out, simply because in general, men don't collect pretty girly things. Pretty girly things with sculpted boobs.

I would have to hear the reasoning behind his owning the dolls before the weirdness went away...or multiplied LOL

 

I'm an effeminate, queer guy who has always loved dolls, but I think it's something people can like regardless of gender expression and sexuality! I like fussing over my dolls' clothing even though I'm a "get up and put on the cleanest thing" guy. The way my dolls' characters express themselves is totally different than how I express myself, like my writing (which is the source of inspiration for all of my dolls).

 

I can't say it any better, Satoru! (It seems like whatever thread I look at, you're always on there saying something really cool...)

 

I'm not female or younger. I'm 50 and I've just ordered my first doll after years of lurking in the fandom. I appreciate the art and the skill of both the company creators and the fans themselves. I hope that my age and gender would mean nothing to doll owners as we are all enjoying the same hobby.

 

Really, scrap gender stereotypes ... saying "dolls are for girls" is like saying "flute is a girl instrument" and "brass is for boys" or "girls can't play football/soccer". None of it is true. I think everyone should pursue the hobby that makes them happiest, regardless of gender.

I agree with Onigirikiri ("sexualized" dolls freak me out), and I'll also emphasize once more that this goes both ways: Either gender of doll owner with overly "alluring" opposite-gender dolls make me feel weird.

 

I would be surprised if there were not a lot of guys that were enjoying BJD, bc there is just so much that can be done with them.