Girls view on guys who own BJDs

You got me replying in a long time...

I'm a male ABJD collector. I only have male dolls. Never really got into the female dolls.
I have seen collector pics of other male collectors who have the over sexualized female dolls and even I think "this dude has problems".
I never really thought about it from the view point of many female collectors having overly sexualized male dolls. I mean...it really is the same thing...
To the action figure point...
Im on an action figure board and they love my boys! I mean theres a lot of the guys who collect Monster High and Integrity Dolls Jem line...which ABJD are way cooler than.
I think male/female dosent matter so much as to the KIND of person they are. Like i said my action figure collector friends, who are male, dont even blink an eye. But female non-toy collectors are like...why do you have dolls. No issue with the action figures...just the dolls.
It's interesting.

 

As long as you're happy, it's none of my business if you're a boy or a girl in this hobby!

I have a few male friends who do get into dolls when I talk about them. They appreciate the work that goes into them and accept that it makes me happy. I think gender roles are fine, but thinking outside of them and doing whatever the heck makes you happy is also great.

 

I think it's great! The more the merrier, right?
I admit, the idea of it threw me off a little when I first got into the hobby but after socializing with a couple of guys who either had BJD or were interested in them, it didn't phase me at all.

 

It depends on who he is and how he treat his dolls.
If there is a men who obsessively want to buy sexiest type doll only, I have to say, it is quite difficult for me to be close with him.
But If he is gentle and a looks like good person to both other people and dolls, I can’t find any problem here.

 

I'm not comfortable with the sexualisation of dolls by anyone, regardless of gender. I understand that some people express themselves that way, and even that it can be a safe way to explore sexuality, but I'm not into it.

But as for guys and dolls in general, I think it's a wonderful thing. As the mother of a son, I see boys' creativity and imaginations being stifled more and more by parents, schooling, and society. So I would encourage anyone, especially males though, to pick up a bjd and see where it takes them.

 

I'd like to marry a guy who love dolls, it is nice to have the same hobby.

 

I have no problem with guys in the hobby--honestly, I think it's great that this is an open hobby where they can join up! I'm happy to see anyone around, male, female, trans*, whatever; if this hobby makes you happy, I'm glad you're here. I largely interact with other collectors through this forum, anyway, where all that you have to present yourself is your words, and unless someone says straight out what they are, I have no reason to guess one way or the other.

And while a lot of people are saying "I'm okay unless I think they're oversexualizing their dolls," I don't feel that way, either. Who am I to judge what's "oversexualizing" a given doll? Plenty of female owners of male dolls dress and pose their dolls provocatively; plenty of female owners of female dolls do the same thing. What makes it okay if it's a female collector, but not okay if it's a male one? Where is the line drawn? Is what I see as "too far" something the owner sees as "acceptable?" I don't have any right to make these decisions for another person, and my hope is that I would be given the same considerations should I choose to set up a provocative photoshoot or dress a doll in something a bit more revealing.

 

As described earlier, male BJD owners especially who are influenced by asian otaku culture think that BJDs are a kind of extreme format of PVC figurines. Started up from 1/12 figures and ended up to 1/3 BJDs...
That explains why their dolls have anime eyes, huge breasts, schoolgirl uniform, etc...

They have different ideas/approaches about having BJDs... not as a doll in western culture. So, those guys are never interested in Blythe or barbie... there should be exceptions, of course.

Having a BJD by guys? No problem at all.

 

I think it is great when men join a doll hobby. It means a lot about a guy, I think, that he would willingly step into what is a stereotypically female hobby, and the more people there are in the hobby, the more we can all enjoy it!

 

I have to admit I was surprised and pleased when noticed the amount of boys that are into this hobbie. I love how they contribute with a different mind and point of view to the hobby.


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I think if you love dolls, it doesn't matter what gender you are. As has been said, the more the merrier! I'm one of those weird people who think that boys should be allowed to play with dolls. Of course, these days boys have dolls of their own--we just call them "action figures".

If you look at it the right way, we should be glad that males are into dolls to any extent. Think about it. Volks started out making hobby kits and figures to cater to male anime fans. From there they branched out into customizable doll figures, called "Dollfie"...and we all know where that led, don't we? So if it weren't for male fans willing to buy miniature versions of their favorite anime heroines, none of us would be doing what we love today.

And that's a response to the ones who object to the "sexualization" of dolls by some male collectors. I promise you, there's plenty of sexualization done by female doll collectors, too. Why else would boy dolls come with bits? Some of them even come with interchangeable bits. What's that, if not catering to a sexual ideal?

I'm not trying to talk anybody down. If you're not comfortable with big-breasted DDs in skimpy maid uniforms with realistically painted ladybits on display, I completely understand--I don't care for it myself. There's room in the hobby for all of us. Relax.

 

For me verybody suppose to be free to collect whatever they want if that's what making them happy and other reasons are not important but i must admit that sometimes it can be hard as some people thinks in male/female categories of things you allowed/not allowed to do. As for the guys collecting male dolls, is it really matter? There always would be someone who would be suprised. When i'm playing mmorpgs i'm always choosing male character and in real life i'm a girl so i have to deal with questions comming from some of gamers who cannot understand how is it possible that girl whats to play as a male? I bet if i would be playing female characters then the other ones would be asking just the same. For me it's normal, while considering other people not normal because of their hobby is just rude.

 

I think it's massively awesome and adorable to see guys with dolls. Some of the stuff they do with them is so neat and unique. It really offers a different perspective on them which is nice to see.

 

I think it's hilarious. Doll guys are like gamer girls. It's so interesting to see that same "gamer girl" behavior being mirrored by doll guys. For the most part doll guys are very accepted while gamer girls are made fun of. I think it's a strange parallel.

I don't think your gender should ever matter when it comes to any hobby. If you are nice to people and active in the hobby you have every right to be there. It makes no difference whether you are a guy or girl to me. I hope that more hobbies grow to be as friendly and accepting as the doll hobby has been, so far as I've seen, its very refreshing.

 

Re: Sexualization

There's a fine line here, in terms of what I would consider to be too much/creepy-- if you're just enjoying your dolls the way you want to, and sharing the results with people who want to see them, then no, it shouldn't matter what gender you are, what gender your dolls are, and whether the results could be categorized as 'tasteful'.

BUT, a lot of the guys who have over-sexualized dolls, dolls that are nothing more than over-sexualized... the real problem is that they don't know how to treat real women as anything other than sex objects. If a doll is a sex object, no one gets hurt, if a person is, then they do.

AND, when women sexualize their male dolls-- heck, when women sexualize men-- there's not a pervasive social structure saying that this is the way the world is supposed to be. If men who feel creeped out by women sexualizing them without their consent are told that they should like it, that message is frequently coming from other men. It doesn't mean it's okay for women to reduce men to sexual objects without their consent (though women can objectify their dolls as much as they want, dolls are already technically objects)-- it just means that we don't exist in a vacuum, women are more likely to be predated upon, and there are reasons why a lot of us find oversexualized representations of the female form to be 'creepy', and why it may seem as though a double standard is being operated under.

But sometimes having sexy dolls is just fun, and I don't think having sexy dolls automatically makes anyone creepy! Sometimes I think they're really nicely done and beautiful to look at, and I'm sure that many male doll collectors have dolls that are sexy without making other people uncomfortable with them. It's all about how you treat other humans-- dolls can be whatever you want them to be.

(and I've said it before, but I think guys in the hobby are great-- my brother, who has always been a toy guy in general, recently got his first BJD. I've seen beautiful work done by men in terms of intricate face-ups and doll clothes, too. Gender's got nothing to do with how much you can bring to a hobby, or with how much you can get from it)

 

In my honest opinion, if I wasn't in the hobby myself I might be slightly surprised. I'm open minded so wouldn't be averse to it though. My current BF I laugh thinking about him collecting BJDs but if he were to start I wouldn't mind at all.

 

I think its super cool and I wish more guys would join. Just like how guys think it is cool when a girl is interested in video games

One theory is that females have a stronger nurturing instinct which attracts us to dolls, as weird as that sounds I think it may be at least somewhat true

 

I like to play with dolls. Who am I to say which sex should and shouldn't play with them lol.

No matter age, sex, gender etc, its awesome to find something you enjoy and that makes you happy

 

It's nice to see a lot of positive feedback in this kind of thread. Myself and a couple of other guys have been a little nervous to join the fandom side of things because of worries of making the women of the fandom uncomfortable. But it is good to hear that men are just as welcome as women. Thanks!

 

Females are socialized to be more nurturing-- and males are socialized to be less nurturing. And the cause and effect here is a little reversed-- playing with dolls before the onset of taught gender roles makes children more nurturing! Boys who play with dolls are more likely to be better older brothers and fathers than boys who are discouraged from playing with dolls, because play is how children learn and build skills, and playing with dolls doesn't just teach things like 'baby drinks from bottle and gets diaper changed', it teaches children how to build empathy!

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