Girls view on guys who own BJDs

I say to each their own. ...but i also know if I saw a guy around my hometown with a doll it would make me pause.... just because I live in such a small close minded community that I wouldn't expect it. But i would definitely love them for it. if you enjoy collecting dolls then just go for it, no matter the gender.

 

I totally agree.

 

"small close minded community" thats the word i was looking for! ! agree!

 

@timid ( 1st page lol' ) I think it's pretty common to see japanese guys into BJD hobby per the same reason they collect the anime/manga/game figures, the dolls are sexy. The male nippon collectors think in this way ( not ALL of them, but a great part ).

I don't mind guys that love it as I do, as I also collect kinda sexy anime figures and it has nothing to do with my gender, but we always have that small minded comenting, for sure. I guess I would LOVE to see a BJD owed by a cute guy, both in their beautiful design, god made and human made xD

 

I think it's great. People should do what they like -- I don't buy the whole 'boys do this' and 'girls do that' kind of thinking that's waaay to prevalent in society today. It ignores the fact that before we are male and female, we are all individual human beings with our own personalities, likes and dislikes. It's ridiculous to think that all men and all women will fit neatly into arbitrary gender stereotypes. The faster that kind of thinking falls by the wayside, the better.

This hobby is so varied, that there's really something for everyone.

 

I've seen guys who collect Barbie dolls waaaay back when I was a kid, and at the time I was Barbie obsessed and thought why wouldn't anyone want to collect them, so I've already accepted the idea that guys can own dolls for a very long time. And I don't see why it's so shameful, there's worst things they can do. My mom still feels that dolls is a female thing only. To each their own.

 

I am usually intrigued as to what gets a guy into the hobby, considering all of the social stigmas against it. Either way, it's cool that anyone has an interest in the hobby regardless of gender.

 

I wanna meet a man who loves dollies or at least loves mine

 

I think it's awesome if a guy is comfortable enough with western standards to collect dolls

 

To some extent, dolls can also be a way to live your dreams through them. They can then be a medium. To me, it is no difference whether this is a model railway, an action figure (also a doll to some extent?), a video game, a RC-modelplane - or a BJD. It is an expression of their personality, and in my opinion men have the same right to this as women.

 

I think that guys are just as entitled to be in this hobby as girls are. That being said, some times the "not right" factor is higher than with others. Especially if he calls them his girls/ daughters. I don't even like it when women call their dolls their kids- these are dolls, and despite our frequent belief that the dolls have souls, they really can't be anybodies' kids (thats my point of view, at least). It just turns on the creep factor... I blame it on my very traditional upbringing... I try to be open minded, but sometimes I find myself thinking things I'm not proud of.

 

Don't feel bad. People react to my husband this way a lot. He likes girly things and sort of always has. The joke in our family is that he is "a 16 year old girl in a man's body". He collects dolls, watches girly anime and movies, reads Shojo Manga ect ect. He gets hit on a fair bit. I on the other hand have been a tomboy since I was a child. I don't entirely understand feminine characteristics or hobbies. I gave up writing female characters when my writing instructor told me a character I based on myself was not "convincing as a woman" (um gee thanks :\). We are attempting to raise our children without gender stereotypes, but we were not raised this way. I will admit sometimes when I see a man or woman doing something outside of the norm for their gender I do think to myself "why would a man want to do that?" It is the way I was raised. It is outside of the cultural norm for the gender. I may not believe that a person of a particular gender needs to act a certain way, but I have to pause a moment to think about it. It is my hope that my boys never have to think that way. I want them to view each person as an individual.

 

Do realize that not everything that's said is meant to be taken literally (though calling a doll one's girl doesn't sound too out there, since they do have specific genders). People know that their dolls aren't their offspring--well, maybe of one's creative imagination, but certainly not in the actual flesh and blood child way. It's just an affectionate way to refer to one's dolls. It's not a term that I use personally -- to me they're more like friends or roommates who leave their stuff everywhere and never pay any bills, lol. Darn resin freeloaders!

 

I don't mind it. I find some of the males idea's to be a bit better. excpecially concerning things women normally do not think about. I got my boyfreind into them its pretty good. don't see why some people do make a bif fuss over guys owning dolls.

 

My husband owns a doll, an MSD boy called Kai

I love it when anyone is brave enough to do something because they want to, not to go without because it might not be accepted. Hubby had a lot of crap at first, because it's not "right"... but I am glad to say he couldn't care less... he also collects Hot Toy comic figurines, and somehow it is more acceptable to people that he own the Joker or Wolverine, than a BJD... strange really

It's obvious that as his one BJD is a small boy, he isn't into dolls for sexual reasons (although he does love the EID girls ).... and besides which, can someone explain me why a man owning a sexy female or two is any worse (or less sexual) than the Bishonen/Yaoi-fangirlism that is so very prevalent in this hobby?

Anyway, here is Kai.... cute lil bugger

 

I don't know why someone's sex would dictate anything about the things they enjoy. Love what you love.​

 

I think it's really cool that there are guys in this hobby! There's nothing wrong with it. Heck, my dad likes my dolls, he comes in my room and makes them talk and stuff, it's funny. I say you like what you like, and people should accept you for it and embrace it as a part of you. ^-^

 

I don't mind at all ^_^ It's a hobby, you should be able to enjoy it, regardless of your gender~
Heck, aside from dolls, I'm not particularly "feminine" with my hobbies either.

 

I don't see how guys that have dolls would make them any less of a person, or anything like that. It's nothing different than a girl playing with toy cars. It doesn't make guys gay, or effeminate or whatever.
The many aspects of this hobby are not stuck on one gender. The costumizing is a big male thing aswell. Warhammer, model building, and so on. It's pretty much the same to me, only on larger scale most of the time.
And I don't see what's wrong with dressing them up raunchy. There's lots of females that do that aswell, and everyone can enjoy this hobby in their own way. I prefer large boobs and skimpy outfits over the dolls that look like little kids in sexual positions.
If you judge a guy for what kind of dolls they have, you should look at girls aswell. There's more female perverts in this hobby than male ones. The males I've seen in this hobby are very respectful towards their dolls and enjoy the roleplaying/character building aspect of it. So if you judge a guy for the doll with a big chest he owns, look at how much girls have gay dolls that they use as slaves in their stories. It's quite common.

 

Yes! And we can only hope that it happens that fast! The culture-wars will only be truly won by attrition... I think we have to wait for at least 1 more generation of closeminded assmonkeys to die off, and to take their toxic ideas with them, before humanity can move on in this particular regard. For example, we had to wait like forever for Strom Thurmond to kick off, & people were still believing in his words right up until the end-- even though 40 years ago he'd campaigned fiercely to prevent civil rights from happening. The masses are never willing to listen to reason as long as the old toxic-idea-holders are still alive & being listened-to.

Until then, such change comes slowly, like evolution. So every single instance of 1 mind opening, it's always a GOOD thing. It's very heartening to hear so many people here say "Yes, I do reflexively think that way, even though I know it's wrong & I'm not too proud of it"... it shows awareness, & that's what chips away the outmoded ideas. Discussions like this one, coming at an audience with such a broad range of thought & experience, really do their part to help open one mind at a time.