Giving a doll as a gift

i've allways been a hard person to get presents for so i allways used to get like 5 gift certificate for chapters or some clothing place so now i just ask for the money they would have spent on the gift card. i would never ask my parents though for a doll unless they insisted they actuially get me something. i dont evan know what i would do if i got one for x-mas...

 

I didnt ask for Kamari, I had already saved up the funds for her before even pointing out I liked BJDs! But my parents are just like that, and they bought me her. I would have rather bought her myself just to have that feeling of accomplishment, pride and signicficant love, but I do love her no matter, so it's all good. And now I have $200+ to get a jumpstart on saving for more dollie stuff!

 

Being someone that doesn't like getting gifts in general, I would feel massively guilty if someone shelled out approx. $1000 on a DOLL for me. I'd rather they spent the $250 for a baby bed, or spent $50 on baby supplies, or gave me the cash to help pay for a car (i.e. somethig that can be put to good use) than a doll that's going to sit there and be looked at when I think to wander up to the doll room and look at it.

If someone were to buy me a pair of doll shoes, or a pair of eyes, a wig or an outfit that they knew I was interested in, I wouldn't feel as bad as long as they got them at a good price.

 

Well I ccan see getting a dollie for your birthday and x-mass (or what ever holiday you like) as one gift nothing more. But just as one of many gift I would have to say no. I like working to get the money need to get my first dollie. Yes my mom is giving $200 for my birthday but that goes right into saving up.

 

Actually, I did ask a friend to buy me one, thinking he'd laugh. I was joking.

Guess what.

He bought me the doll! She's on her way to his house, then down here to me! She's a birthday gift!

 

Well, my family usually donates a big chunk to gift dolls and I pay the balance--I got both Aspen (bday) and Jaden (xmas) that way--but it's basically a gift in the form of money because all the ordering and stuff they leave up to me For my best friend, we've begun contributing to each other's "doll funds" as gifts, which is pretty cool ^^

 

I think it depends on each person's different circumstances. Some people will find it pretty natural to ask for expensive gifts. Others will not.

I, personally, would not ask. I should be able to pay for my own things--and I think gifts from people are for them to decide. If THEY want to ask me, then I'll give them some examples that are in a price range that they usually gift to me (which, sadly, isn't that of most BJDs!!!). But most often I tell people not to give me anything. I have a lot of things and can buy what I want. I don't really want any gifts other than their friendship or love. But I do get wonderful gifts... I am so lucky!!!

I have received a BJD (Volks Cyndy 2--!!!) as a gift from a friend.

It was a total surprise that I'd never expect in a million years. Sometimes gifts are just given--are unasked for and completely the decision of the giver... I had a number of my own dolls already and had no problem buying them on my own--and wasn't even looking for a Cyndy (although I love her, of course!). I'm still stunned and amazed at my friend's generosity...

 

I would never ask my friends or my family for a doll. My most expensive gift ever for birthday was 500 DKK (90-100 $), asking for a doll would be insane ^^; Or at least I know I wouldn't get it.

As to giving dolls... yes, I would, if my friends liked them and if I had the money. But I don't XP

 

I know with my family, I certainly can't ask for a whole doll- it's just too expensive. Buuut, I did just get $140 for birthday money, which I promptly put into the bank as doll money. ($200 to go!)

 

Right, but a lot of us are not even thinking about getting married (it's a LONG way off for a good chunk of us), and a few of us see children as the bane of the earth.

And while I understand that you're the type that admires a doll, others play with them. If I just looked at a doll, I wouldn't ever buy one, because it'd be a waste of money to me. I can just as easily "look" at them online.

I get a $50 monthly allowance from my paternal grandmother, plus holiday/birthday money, and my parents are even bribing me with $50 to clean my room, since it's so messy. I haven't cleaned it in - what? - five years? Hm, I'll be 19 in five days, so that's almost six...

Plus, our family has a limit of $100 for all wishlists. I think it really does depend on the structure of a family. Some parents are only able to show their love through gifts. And while I don't agree that that will necessarily build a good relationship with their child, it may be a doorway to understanding them through their hobbies.

Agreed, though I find it difficult to not resent those that do ask for expensive gifts.

 

When my mum asked me what I want for the holidays (this was last weekend...yeah, she likes to plan ealry!), she suggested buying me a Coach purse, which would run around $400-500. I thanked her for the suggestion (I do have a weakness for purses!) but told her that at that price I would rather her buy me something that would last forever, that I can keep as a momento to her.

On the other hand, I have also used birthday/holiday money to buy dolls so....isn't that like the same thing?? ^^

 

Yes, I'd ask, but not with any actual hope of getting one.

 

I only had around half the money, so as my birthday and Christmas gift, my mom paid the other half of my doll and even let me use her credit card. I wanna pay her back, but she keeps saying no. >_<

 

nevermind. double post.

 

It's a lot to ask for-- these dolls are not cheap!!
I think that the doll is more special if you really EARN the money for it! *is saving change currently*
I see no problem with asking for MONEY for a holiday, birthday, etc, tho, to help you pay.

 

Heh.. these dolls are all I get. I sacrifice all my gifts for my dolls on x-mas and b-day which are six months apart. (nothing with them, just the doll and maybe a wig.) I don't mind giving up what I could get for what I want, and I know these dolls cost a lot but that's why I try not to get a lot of things over the course of the year. (Minus a few ponies.) That way it's like I saved up all year for this one great gift, but I don't like exceeding the price of a mini! The only time I have is when it was with my yder but even then I had to earn some of the money to pay for him and he was all I got from all of my family. (Mom, Dad, Grandparents, and aunts and uncles. Everyone just tossed in money. ^^")

 

Depends upon the circumstances and the relationships you have with people. I am very close to my sibs and some of them are collectors as well. I have no problem gifting them with a BJD and I have. They have also given BJDs to me as well. My husband has been very generous as well.

I just had my birthday last month and my FIL & sMIL were very generous to ask what I want. I asked for a Dollheart outfit. I would never take advantage of their generosity but my relationship with them is different than with my husbands or sibs and I would never ask them to buy me a BJD.

 

I received Icarus, my DZ Xi as a christmas gift from my mother in law and my husband. In exchange, my hubbie got a Wii, and my mom in law got about the same amount in cash and prizes. I would never ask for a one third scale doll for a gift! I work hard to save money to pay for these lovelies!

 

I guess it can be quite difficult... I gave her a Coach purse on my daughter's birthday gift, but I have a feeling that she will ask for a doll, or somewhat amount of money to pay for one on Christmas or her next birthday.

As long as she buys one that she likes and keep a good care I would not mind, but still it is a big amount of money. Plus you wouldn't just carry a doll ANYWHERE you go unlike a purse or something similar(and there is the dreadful yellowing issue), so I'd help her but I don't think I'll throw the entire amount.

 

So Far I've given 3 BJD Gift dolls and I'm planning on doing it again..
I think its the greatest present to anyone who will appreciate dolls.

On the flip side being aware of the cost of bjds I would never ask anyone for a present that expensive. I present myself