Giving a doll as a gift

I'ld never ASK someone for it. It's far too rude to ask for something so expensive from a friend. Maybe doll clothes, wigs etc. when it's my birthday, but I'ld never expect something like that and would feel very guilty and astonished if they did.
But personally I have been thinking about buying one for someone as a present.

 

I only have the one doll currently and my husband bought her for me as my christmas gift on our first christmas as a married couple. It also happened to be our 6 month wedding anniversary. It was for the most part my only gift (he spoils me so there were a couple of small things too) and I wasn't expecting it. I had been bugging him for about a year to let me buy one but never actually asked for it as a gift. Now just working on getting her a brother .

 

Well <.< my friend is buying me Camine for Christmas xD but it's my Christmas AND birthday present since my birthday is in January

 

Well, if you combine birthday, Christmas, Easter, Valentine's day, etc. into that one gift...

Lulz. You can tell how spoiled I am when I got gifts for each of those holidays...


You know, with the number of people saying they would buy the dolls for their friends... I would love to buy my friend one! Just because I know she finds them creepy, and I'm evil like that...

 

Well lets see, i paid in full for my DD, and for my Sd13, I used all my bday money this past one, for my mini. However my mom let me get a limited doll instead of jewelry for my graduation present ^^. ^dont like jewelry that much*. And this xmas my mom is letting me get a doll with alot of extra stuff. Feel guilty? Well not really my mom has a high paying job shes like my best friend and she likes to spoil me :P

 

Well, IMO, I think it's okay, but only to an extent. I'm asking for a DoC Leya (HEAD ONLY), but it (if my mom will (she said okay, but she's a parent, and in the end prolly wont...or will make some excuse, she kinda does that with alot of things, not just big things like dolls xD) would be from her and Santa (XD) And that would be all, except for maybe a few small things (like candy or nail polish, haha, MAYBE a pari fo eyes or putty XD)

But if it's like... A $350+ doll (full doll) I'd say it's too much (prolly, it all goes to family)
Or...something like that anyway ^_^''

 

It all depends on your relationship with the gift-giver. It's only "too much to ask for" if the gift-buyer does not normally buy gifts in that price range. For some people, a thousand-dollar Christmas gift is nothing unusual.

If your family is accustomed to some sort of "bargaining", it's also OK. "I'll get you this car for your next birthday plus Xmas"... or "I'll pay $200 of your doll for Xmas, and you pay the rest"... or "I'll pay off your student loans for your next five Xmas presents combined"... that sort of thing.

 

I think it's not just the pricetage with these dolls, but also the fact that my family would be clueless what to look for! They're not that brilliant when it comes to 'collectors' items, even ponies are a bit of a trial :/

At the same time, I don't just want to recieve cheques or vouchers for birthdays from people, that's no fun :/

 

I've been considering asking my family to get a BJD. A few years ago, I got a set of Copic Markers (a $300 set) as a gift via my aunt, mom, and other aunt pooling together the money they were going to give me for my birthday. Not really any element of surprise considering my aunt called me up going "What set you want?" but whatever.

But a BJD is a little harder to say that I want. It is expensive already. I'm hellbent on having a BJD of at least 60cm in height which is more expensive. My mother already thinks my Taeyang and my sister's Pullip is a rip-off compared to an American Girl doll that I used to have (which I would highly disagree with... the more I think about it, an American Girl doll is a glorified baby doll...) and I doubt she'll think that much more of a BJD. My dad finds them creepy. Then the relatives who are into anime and the like aren't the type to give extremely expensive gifts. Then BJDs don't really have any utilitarian purpose really. $300 Markers for art makes a lot more sense than $500 doll for staring and loving and probably spending more money on... My sister always brings up that I could buy a cheap pony at the rate these things go (she's horse-crazy).

I'll just have to abscond the birthday money and not tell them what I am spending it on until it pops up in the mail like I did with my Taeyang... No clue how that makes a difference... but wording-wise there's "paying you back for an expense" which is waiting for birthday/holiday money and then spending it and "please give me this for free" which is expecting a large gift in place of birthday/holiday money... Weird world...

 

Not to mention if you ask for money, you can add to it out of your own funds, so your family/friends don't have to carry the whole burden.

 

My mother bought Ammon *my yen* for me for xmas, she refused to let me pay for him at all.

of course my mother firmly believes in big gifts like that, and i've paid for every other doll i own myself.

 

I got my first doll as a gift from the oldest brother
if the one offering a gift can afford it - I think it is good to let the person know what you really want.

 

Yes, that too. I usually forget about that because my spending money is whatever I get as gifts. All the money I make working as a tutor just gets thrown into my mysterious bank account that I'm not supposed to take money out of... I'd probably empty it very quickly! I'm a horrible impulse buyer sometimes...

 

Well... i reposted in here becasue gift dolls just popped up on my agenda.

I received a prize of a BJD for the bobobie contest. Tony just came in last Friday a week ago and as a gift i gave him to my brother. I was going to give him away at first but he said he wanted it so i gave it to him.

Then the El i had been working so hard to save up for... the one my dad paid for and i repay him on layaway... has now turned into my 19th Birthday present.

I guess i'm very very lucky really to receive El. He's all the more special that he's a gift, yet the whole process of buying, waiting and everything i was determined to pay for him myself... now it's different. Maybe Shine would be the first doll i buy with my wages : )

 

I asked my Mum and Dad if it was OK that I get my first BJD for my 21st... I mean for that kind of birthday it has to be something I'll treasure, and I don't really have anything else that I want. So I think its fair. (They said yes btw... YDER here I come )

Though usually I would say 'Can I have one as joint birthday and Christmas from the both of you?' (They're divorced so I get separate presents XD)

But I would only ask family to get me one, they're too expensive to ask my friends

 

I generally have trouble asking for anything (even if its like a shirt) so I use the MONEY drop. If I am asked I usually say I would prefer money for my doll fund. Relatives usually give more hard cash than they would spend on a gift (even an expensive one) because theres no bargain hunting!

Although I am almost never asked what I want and I suck at bringing it up haha...

 

I'd feel to horribly guilty accepting a doll as a gift from anyone. D:
I'd rather ask for money or gift cards to use towards my doll funds.
Granted, a lot of my relatives would be quite insult if I used my money for dolls, consider they all think it's a waste D:

 

I'd feel very uncomfortable if I let my family/friends buy a doll for me.
I think it's totally okay to ask for money as presents for christmas, birthday etc. or asking them to pay a certain percent of the price, though.
When I first dared to mention that I'd start saving up for a doll, my father didn't want to let me. He said he'd buy it for me even when I told him the average price of these dolls. I didn't let him, though. I explained him how bad I'd feel if I'd just let him buy the doll for me. And (even if reluctantly) he gave in and let me start saving up for my very first BJD, which I can afford now! And it makes me feel good that I earned this money all by myself. ^^

 

I'm currently saving for my first doll, and I would never think of asking my mom to just buy it for me. I mean, she'd never say yes in the first place, haha.

 

I don't know about asking for one, but one of my friend's bought her sister one as a gift...