Giving a doll as a gift

My boy is a gift from two friends, but also a gift I will eventually contribute some money to. I think it's a nice thing to have someone help you pay or pay most of it as a gift, but yes, it is a lot for a present.

 

I got Erin-chan, my lil'sis, her Leeke Sweet....
and I'm going to give my youngest sister a mini/tiny for x-mas this year.......

 

I would never ask my parents, they have 2 more kids at home who are going to college, and honestly they spent enough money raising me.
I never ask my boyfriend for anything more than I am willing to pay for his present. Like I got an expensive tablet, I got him an expensive Ipod.
If I asked for a doll for a special occasion I would only ask for one under $300 since I wouldn't spend more than that on his present, I'm not that wealthy lol.

 

Actually, I gave a gift BJD to my mother last year (a MNF NS Chiwoo).

I'm also, in the interest of getting my friend into BJD's as well, splitting the cost of one doll of choice (no limiteds or extra gear).

It's a bit insane, but no so if you save up for it over a period of time. ^^

I personally wouldn't ask for a gift doll though. As in, I already have so many heads, that I know already I want pretty much all of my boys to be somewhat customized. More then the default anyways.

 

My partner bought me Ryung and various outfits and wigs for her and I bought Uyoo Elf for myself. Massive difference in price but he doesn't regret buying her for me.

We had been together about a year then and were living together so it was a serious gift. I did hint that I wanted Ryung and he then offered to buy her for me.

I would say if you plan to spend that amount of money on someone make sure it's someone you're serious about, well unless you're loaded then I guess the money wouldn't matter

 

no, i wouldnt ever ask, it seems kind of rude to 'ask' for presents from friends anyway, we all usually talk about things we want all the time ^^

and with my family, i usually get money anyway, i am planning on using this years birthday money to help save for my first BJD ^^ and my christams too, but that will only be about $200-$300 so i will need a bit more on top

i dont enjoy asking people for things at all, no matter what it is, if its a surprise then its fine because theyve done it because they wanted to; not because i wanted them to

im so jelous of the people with nice siblings, parents and boyfriends/husbands/wives XD ...simply no one would ever buy me something this expensive. i am having to work hard myself but i dont mind ^^

 

Well, I bought my friend a CP Shiwoo doll for her birthday. My friends helped (close to $100 from them, plus one made an outfit so he wouldn't be naked), but I paid for most of it. Plus a wig and eyes. Her grandfather bought her a doll for Christmas (CP Juri 06). And my friends are gathering money to buy a SDK for our younger cousin. I received a doll bag for my birthday and I bought a doll bag for a friend for hers'.

Would I ask someone (seriously) to buy me a doll? No. It's an expensive hobby and if I want a doll, I'll have to do the saving. If someone else buys me dolls or doll stuff, I'll be happy and thankful, but I certainly won't ask or expect it.

 

When we were little and there were several of us kids, our parents started us out writing letters to Santa- not to encourage greed or selfishness, but because they simply couldn't remember what each kid wanted. My general feeling is that if you have to ask someone what they're interested in, maybe you shouldn't be buying them a present. Family obligations and such however cause that to not always work. In which case I feel that if you're asked what you would like, it's okay to state a doll or doll-things, keeping in mind the expected spenditure amount. My family really isn't interested in supporting my doll "obsession" anyway. For friends, I find it extremely uncomfortable to receive a gift in excess of what I'd be able to spend myself on them, so unless it was a special instance I wouldn't do that.

In the end, your family and friends generally prefer to get you something you actually want and would use, so as long as it's done tactfully and not greedily there's absolutely nothing wrong with letting your preferences be known. Especially with something so expensive and time-consuming to acquire as a doll, it's definately a good idea to discuss exactly what you want if they're ordering you a gift.

 

No I would never ask for one as a gift. I'm married so my family don't buy me expensive gifts anymore and I wouldn't be happy with my husband buying me one as I think they are too expensive to receive as a gift. I work and pay for them myself, then I don't feel bad.

 

I would love to receive one as a gift, but I would never seriously ask for one. I have been saving up for a while to buy my roommate her very first doll for Christmas this year, though! :3

I don't think a doll as a gift is a bad thing, or too expensive, as long as you're not trying to 'pressure' anyone into buying it, ya know?

 

My first doll was a (completely unexpected) gift. And though it was an awesome gesture, and the person was well within their means to provide it,
I eventually realized that the doll was not what I wanted and sold her (to a friend who really loves her.) If the person who bought me the doll knew (he doesn't, because we aren't still friends...he turned out to be a real douche,) he would probably be offended. So that's something to consider. If someone offers to buy you a doll as a gift, or if you ask for one as a gift (from someone who is capable of buying it within their means,) be honest about what you really want. If you settle or just ask them for a "cheap" doll that you don't really want, then you risk drama later if you decide to sell the doll for something different.
I don't think it's "wrong" to ask for something expensive as a gift. It depends on your relationship with the gift-giver, how capable you are of reciprocating extravagant gift-giving, etc., etc. No two situations are alike. If, for example, you asked your parents/significant other/spouse for a doll for Christmas, for your birthday, or in lieu of something equally expensive...well, where's the wrong in that? Think of all the extravagantly expensive gifts that people get and give every year...jewelry, clothing, collectibles, cars, electronics.
"Instead of getting me jewelry this year, I'd really love this doll..."
It all depends on your own means and the means of the gift giver. If I could get dolls for my friends, I would. If I could even get dolls for myself, I would o_o I haven't had the means for anything extravagant in quite some time...
ANYWAY, all I'm trying to say is, you shouldn't feel guilty about a gift if someone honestly wants to give it to you. That undermines the wonderful quality of gift-giving!

 

I think what is being missed is that most of the people who have posted here are NOT going up to family members and requesting dolls as gifts directly, in the sense of, "Hi Mom, buy me a doll NOW!" Rather, the family members are doing the asking themselves, or there is some sort of casual conversation regarding the exchange of gifts, during which the desire for a doll is discussed. I feel it is unfair to characterize people here who have asked for doll gifts as being rude, without having a full understanding of the circumstances.

 

The only way I could see asking for a doll being morally ok on my part was if I knew two things:

-1: the person would not be drastically affected finacially with the purchase;
I have seen some parents do some insane things for their children in the name of gift giving, one of which (atleast popular among more financially secure families) is giving the son/daughter a new car.
This is something I would never ask for, but was gracious enough to recieve. Yes, it stretches budgets, but this has a use- job, school, emergencies.
A doll, other than simple happiness, has no real substancial use (as per my mother's opinion).

-2: they completely understood what they were buying and why.
If the gifter understands that this gift will (probably and literally) be played to pieces, the doll is not common, or a Barbie, and understands the level of care that will be given to the doll, then I could see the recieving one.

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Personally, I will never ask anyone to buy me a doll, no matter how much it is. I have done it playing, as in begging my boyfriend, but he understads fully that this is my hobby, that I ejoy buying these kinds of things for myself.
I would find it almost insulting for me to ask someone else to buy a doll for me. If it will be in my posession, I don't want to feel like even one piece of it belongs to anyone else. ^__^;; then again... I only left very few people even touch my dolls...

 

I've jokingly asked my brother to buy me dolls and my best friend
but I never seriously asked for anything like that
it was more like:

"ne, if you really wanna get me a gift for my birthday/xmas present buy me dollie things~! "
or "you're going to a con you might see dollie things there "

I did buy a doll for my boyfriend for xmas last year and I bought the doll my friend wanted
and he is going to eventually pay me back for it so I am not a total dollie grubber or anything like that

 

Well, as complete gifts...unless whoever would buy the doll for you, really wants to buy it for you, then I would allow it.

I still do heavily hint to my parents/brothers/grandparents/friends that I am saving up for this really expensive doll from korea. And I don't leave out any details. I know how much it would even cost me with the shipping added. $725.74. That's just to get him over here xD

But, if they ever wanted to buy it for me, or if everybody pitched in, I think i would cry.

 

Well, i don't have a doll yet but i will be purchasing one within a month with my own money.

However, i have asked my BF if he would contribute a bit of money to help me buy another one later and he said yes.

As for friends, i find it kinda bizarre asking presents from friends....big or small...i've just never done that.

And my parents, well, if there is something that i want for xmas or my bday and i find it too expensive, i just ask for a bit of money instead of a present to cover some of the cost. and yes, a doll would fall under something too expensive....

 

These dolls are QUITE a lot to ask for! I'd be flattered if I received one from someone I knew, but I'd get to paying them right back. But I will admit, I am to be turning 16 this year, and though my parents said they'd be willing to pay whatever sum of money for a Sweet Sixteen, I told them just buying me a doll would suffice, and that putting the leftover money onto my future car would make it better. Whatever happens to be reasonable, I think, is alright..

 

I plan on asking one for Christmas as my mom always asks me what I want to be my 'big' meaning 'expensive' present... and I can't think of anything else 'big' I had a hard enough time last year.

But friends or something? I'd never expect anyone to buy me one (not even my mom really). Tho if I were rich I'd buy my friends stuff they wanted all the time. Wait.. I do that now.. no wonder I'm broke : P lol

 

Well,i do think it's a lot to ask,even for my family,especially because i already ask for so much stuff and it woldn't be fair to them.
Besides i think i apreciate and bond more with a doll if i have to work hard and save every penny to get her.It just makes it more special.

 

Umm, you mean if somebody will give you a doll or you will ask for a doll?

I can't ask for a doll. But I can ask money as a gift and put them somewhere, where "I can't get and use them" and.. when I have enough money for a doll and if I buy it, then I'd think it as a birthdaypresent or smth My family won't give me a present which cost over $500 :P so I think this is the only way to have a doll as a gift.