Have you made provisions for your dolls if you die?

I actually took this to my dolly friends and asked eachother who would get what and why. It was interesting the differences we range in age from 19 to 31 all childless (some commited to stay as such). We discovered that since many of our dolls are "involved" in story lines with others, thats where they would go, As well as those that were personally close may go to other places. I think this is a very interesting topic, as I said before not so much morbid, as it gives in interesting look as how different people view their dolls in the event they were no longer there. *subscribes*

 

I don't know if this has been said already, if it has, please forgive me:

These are not just ordinary dolls, they are expensive dolls. It is really important that if you have something of value, that you leave a written legal will as to how you want it handled. You may want your best friend to have your favorite doll if something happened to you, but the reality is that without a will, your next of kin have the rights to it. Likely someone in your immediate family knows their value and your unwritten wishes are not necessarily going to be followed.

Disputes over things like this are all too common, and leave all too many families fighting over stuff. And this is first hand experience talking, right here. :-[

 

My dolls stay with my family.

My husband told me that he would always keep them near him (his bedroom at night, his office, etc.) to always remember me, though he figured he wouldn't live long without me. My mother-in-law would take them after that. I told the family if things got hard after I died, or if they needed money to cremate me with, they could sell the dolls for money.

 

Mine will probably go to my sister...
Although.......
I am planning to possess them after death...LOL

 

I have no provisions for my doll when I die. If the doll is still around, she becomes my executor's problem.

 

I haven't really given it much thought. I know that my lifespan is going to be quite short because of the illnesses I have so I guess they will go to whoever my next of kin is at the time. At the moment that would be my dad. If I ever get married and have kids (very unlikely ) then they would get them.

 

Hm. I don't know really as I haven't honestly thought about it. I would probably like to give my momo to yukihotaru on DoA, who I know would be able to care for her. As for the rest, since no one else in my family would want them, they'd probably go to my brother who would them sell them off.

 

Well I would let my mates fight over them but I have an agreement with a mate (who shall remain nameless) that if she dies and its in no way my fault then I get most of her worldy goods.I should hope I get to go halfers with her mum for the dolls!

I know she's reading this.

 

the person to whom give my dolls must take care of them very well, is the unique condition !! doesn't matter who is this person, must be a dolls lover and take care of them.

 

Yes, things like that can cause dispute. I've seen many quarrels at funerals.

I'm already thinking of writing a will. My Volks FCS F38 Christian is a charity doll. Before I die or after my death, he will be put up for charity auction. My family and I have agreed not to take any money from his sale. This is an agreement I made with the doll when I brought him home. He will be sent off to his new home as a charity doll.......yah....easier said than done, after I'm dead, will there really be a charity auction??? I want this put in my will.

My Isao Nanjou is a darling. He wants to stay with me till the very end. He says not to worry about him after I'm gone, he will find his own way to his new home. He is not a charity doll. Last week, I just wrote a note giving instructions on how he is to be sold if he is to be sold. I hope my family will keep him in memory of me.

All my 12" doll including the Rurouni Kenshin dollfie will be incinerated with me. I also will put this in my will. All other dolls will be handed over to close relatives.

 

Mods, go ahead and delete this if it isn't relevant enough... this is a topic I've started mainly out of curiosity and if there's one like it go ahead and direct me to it.

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For a while, I've been pondering an interesting (and perhaps somewhat morbid) question: BJDs in the long term.. and beyond, namely, after death.

What I mean by this is, put simply... How long do you plan to keep your ball-jointed dolls and what do you plan to do with them long-term? If you keep them your entire life, into old age, and eventually into death, would you leave them as inheritance to children, grandchildren? Donate them to a children's foundation or shelter? An art museum or doll collection? Or something else?

This question deals with a few issues, such as "how long do you plan/expect to be in the hobby" and "who would you trust with your dolls in the case you couldn't care for them/own them anymore". If you're actively into the hobby for the rest of your life and it's something you're passionate about, perhaps you will have passed on the love to your children, grandchildren, friend's children... etc. But what if that isn't the case? Are you worried your dolls would end up in a dumpster, garage or estate sale, junk yard, thrift shop, or gathering dust in an attic? Do you have any plans to make clear the value of the dolls to your descendants/inheritors to prevent this?

I know we have a wide array of ages represented here on the forum, and this is a question I'd like to pose to everyone.

Looking forward to hearing your responses.

 

Though it's impossible to know exactly what the future holds, I have no intention now of giving up my dolls. Ideally I would want to leave them to an interested friend or family member if I died--if there wasn't anybody, I would want them sold to someone who could enjoy and take care of them, and in that case I would certainly inform family members of their value.

 

They will go to my most responsible and loyal friends that harbor very safe homes. But it seems so sad to think that I might die anytime soon.

 

They would automatically go to my daughter.

 

my dolls go to either my friend or my sister; they can fight it out.

 

My boy will go to my friend Allie, because she adores him and can't afford a doll for herself. So I know she'd appreciate him. :3

And if I get any other dolls, they'll go to my two other friends that will like them. ^^

 

I told husband if Mother in law really wants Briar, she can have her after I die. She coos over pics of Briar like she does over her grandchildren. She would adore Briar and take care of her...

 

I haven't thought of that. XD But I would choose to leave Azami with either with my little sister, or if I have children, I would pass it down to them. My sister loves Azami just as much as I do, and my children because, it's sort of passing down something that's a part of me. :3 That's what I think~

 

Being an atheist and a strong believer in spirits I've already decided that when I die, I'll still be living and interacting with my family and friends. Just not in the way most would expect. I'll still play with my dolls, and keep them alive for whatever happens. Most people would say you can't live forever, but I honestly don't believe in forever. Everything changes and nohing lasts forever but I'll do everything in my dead power to keep my dolls alive.
As for the burying them with me thing, I have a very specific way I want it done and don't want my dolls a part of this. I wear an hour glass around my neck. I little one on a chain. What I want done, is when I die, I want my chest opened, heart taken out, and chest stitched back. From there I want the body cleaned, dressed in all my favorite colours, and put in the cofin with my teddy that I've had since birth. The viewing and then the burial. As for the heart, I want it burned. I want the sand dumped out of the hour glass, and I want the heart ashes put into it. It's then up to my husband if her wants to wear it or if he wants to put in in a small chain and let Zee wear it. I don't want my kids left with any form of ashes to have to worry about. And my husband won't have to worry as I'm leaving it to him ot decide what he wants.

..I'm not called a Morbid Little Kitten for nothing..

 

I have no children (can't, unfortunately), so my dolls and other treasures will go to my nieces, if they want them and will take care of them. Otherwise, assuming that I have even warning before I pass on, I'd put them up in a charity auction or donate them to a museum.