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Having a doll - being selfish?

Mar 23, 2011

    1. Nah. A lot of times (I'm not saying always, but in my case) Buying a doll means sacrificing some things. As in working harder for allowance and not going to borders to buy manga...
      Saving up money for something you want isnt selfish. Doll owning is a hobby. There are MANY expensive hobbies out there. BJD hobby is just one among many. Everyone has their own opinions~ and if someone thinks it's selfish its just their opinion, as is everything i've said above. All opinion.
       
    2. Buying a doll is supporting a business that gives jobs to people. If we all didn't buy dolls then those people wouldn't have those jobs.
       

    3. LOVE this answer! :D
       
    4. What interesting points of view.

      My parents came from very poor background. they know I have lots of dolls, and expensive ones, they never judge me, they are actually proud that I sew for dolls and make a nice living from it.
       
    5. I come from a very generous family. I was raised to always give time, money, and effort for good causes. Throughout elementary, high school, and college, I preformed more than 1600+ hours of community service, and I'll never stop.

      I don't view that owning a doll or many as selfish. I find balance between splurging a ton of money, and donating. Just because one has a little money left over after basic needs, doesn't mean it has to be donated to people across the planet who do not have enough to eat.

      Now, if it was my own family that needed help, I would definitely sell dolls and such to help. But I would try very hard to make money and help in other ways before doing so.
       
    6. Okay, typical disclaimer: Whenever I say "you," it's general, and I am just giving my opinion. I don't claim that it's right in every circumstance, and I don't mean to offend.

      The problem with this line of thought is that it can be applied to any luxury. Is it okay to live in a $300,000 house when there are homeless people? Is it okay to have a $50,000 car when people can't afford $14,000 cars? Is it okay to buy Iphones when their components are made by severely underpaid, abused workers? Is it okay to eat at a restaurant where an entree costs $20 when people can't afford an apple? Is it okay to get a $4 coffee at Starbucks when there are so many people who lack access to clean water? Dolls are only one luxury among countless luxuries that many of us enjoy, often without realizing how lucky we are. Dolls shouldn't take all the heat ;)

      I doubt that there have been many people who have devoted every cent of their spare money to charity. I also think it's strange to, say, smoke, drink, go to Starbucks, eat out, or do other expensive things without feeling guilty, but then to feel guilty about having dolls. If you're going to question the ethics of your spending and lifestyle, dolls are only the very tip of the iceburg.

      Here's a suggestion. If you feel bad about buying dolls, why not save up for the doll twice before you buy it, and donate half to charity? Or you could divide the cost by how much your time is worth and volunteer for that many hours before you buy the doll. That way, you can give to the community and still have the doll.
       
    7. Mine too! - our family all had humble starts, so now they're proud of me for growing up to have a career that lets me afford things like these BJDs. The American Dream in action.

      I look at it this way: I spend my necessity-money on necessities, I spend my charity-money on charities, and I spend my doll-money on dolls.

      True! I like knowing that my hard-earned money is helping to support this-or-that artist of whom I've grown very fond over the years.... from individual faceup artists and one-woman studios, to small eye-manufacturers & clothiers, to companies like Iplehouse who started out small & I've watched grow larger, right on up to those nice Volks people who come up to you personally at Dolpa events and tell you how cool your doll is. :) Life is full of expenses, and you don't always get to know where your money goes-- so I do like to know when it's going to an artist or business that I like.
       
    8. If you work hard for it, I don't believe it is selfish. I think thoughs who have put time and effort deserve something in return. I commend dedication as well as working hard. It is sad that a lot of people are poor, and yes it is nice to be charitable. So like others have said before me. Maybe give in return however much you spend so you can keep your mind and worries at ease. At least you can say you 'gave back' something.. <3 Hope this helps.