How did you drop the bomb on your parents / loved ones?

my last one came to about 750$CAD in total, and if this was a few years ago i would've thought it was so unreal to have spent that much on a doll. my parents didn't mind though, they think it's a cute hobby and my parents often buy me things i can use for them. sometimes they even order me clothes for them :}

 

I don't have a bjd yet. In the beginning when I first introduced these dolls to my parents,
I said:"Mom look at these gorgeous dolls!"
Mom: "Wow the'yre so pretty!"
Me: "I wanna get one! OuO, but they're kinda expensive >_>"
Mom: "How expensive? ^_^
"$200 and up"

And when I told her the price my mom wasn't really surprised I didn't know why. She said ofcourse theyre so expensive look at how beautiful they are!" Although she liked their appearance she was scared of them, she thought i was scared of them too
So she takes the picture of a doll I liked and she put it as my wallpaper then she's like "Now everytime you open your computer you'll see the scary doll and youll be frightened!! Me:

And now me and my mom made a compromise: I work get my own money, and I can buy one. I already have money but she wants me to work -__-

My dad thinks she doll would come alive at night and kill me so he's completely against it, but it doesn't matter as long as he doesn't know im [hopefully] getting one

 

Actually, I'm very lucky that my parents understand when I spent money to order my BJD. My mom actually asked me a few times at first why I even wanted one (mainly because she thought they were weird looking) but she never really got on me about spending so much money on a doll. It was probably because her doll collection she has she spent some good amount of money on. And my dad actually spends a lot of money on music equipment and he's actually really supportive and is thinking of making me a case to put her in as well x3. But like my parents told me, it's my money and I can do whatever I want with it. And I've read things where the parents slowly accepted it and even started liking the dolls. So I'm sure in time it'll be fine.

 

I think I know exactly what kurodatenshi went through. In Asian culture especially, parents have this idea of "money should be saved for future use" or "save the money for emergencies". My parents are like that too. Well, I don't have a doll at the moment but I've already started preparing my parents and family for the "bomb".

I've been showing them the pictures of dolls I like and also the sculpt I am planning to get. And of course, not forgetting to tell them the cost of the dolls every time I show them the pictures. So... hopefully they'll be mentally prepared... Keep my fingers crossed...

 

My parents don't care what I buy, as long as its safe and I buy it myself ^^

Most of my friends hate them LOL. But they don't really care if I buy dolls :P

My parents do think it's weird that I would spend so much money on dolls but they don't really care and try to be interested :P

 

I provided my mom with a constant stream of bjd doll photos and conversations for about 7 years. By then, I was in college and had a job, while scholarships and loans covered by tuition and living expenses, but I was the one who couldn't make the leap to buy a doll.

One day, I saw a tiny on ebay for half its retail value. It was the back stock of a dollshop. So I bid on it and told my mom. Her response was, basically, "Ok". I think since the first bjd I showed her was a Volks, and they were over $500 even back then, she was pretty much desensitized after 7 years. Actually, my most expensive doll to date, a Supia Rosy, was a gift from her. It's ironic that I'm the one who turned out to be the cheapskate, though, currently owning over $1000 worth of dolls, I don't think I can really label myself that anymore.

 

Some of these responses are really interesting! My friends who aren't into dolls think they're lovely but don't quite understand the willingness to spend so much (but they're supportive friends).

My parents don't know yet, though I should think I'm old enough not to have to get their approval since I live on my own, lol! I did have to explain buying gaming systems years ago, and my strategy was to get straight A's before breaking the news. It showed them I could have expensive distractions and still do what they wanted me to do.

 

Like others have said it's not as big a deal as some may think, getting one is a moment of joy for the owner, but beyond that does it really concern anyone else?
when i first started getting into the more quality dolls, i was still very much Dependant on my parents, and not even 18 yet. It wasn't until my mom noticed i was taking up extra chores for more allowance on payday that she found out i was applying it towards my doll fund. She wasn't sure why i'd want it, but she went with it.

But to me, them finding out was no different then them finding i'd completely repainted stripped out and reassembled my room, dyeing my hair to some unusual color, When i was younger my parents reacted harsher to weird things. As i grew more, and did more odd things they stopped caring as much.
Now instead of having a drop jaw moment that i'd blown my savings (or part of it) on something frivolous, They're attitude is more as long as i'm not out being trashy, drinking, or doing drugs they don't really care what i do or where my money goes.

Just remember, it's YOUR money. even if it is your allowance, your still doing chores to earn it, right? Once it's your money, it's yours to spend how you want. Even on a $500 doll :P

 

When I told my mother that I wanted a doll... she laughed in my face. Then when I told her how much it was she gave me a look and said "you're not getting any help from me". Turns out that now, a month later, I didn't need her help XD

 

I live with my parents so my mom is cool with the fact that I plan on buying a doll after I get a job. But my dad... I can't tell my dad anything. My mom even telling me to fib to him! Anyways I'll probably tell him eventually...like when the doll comes :P

 

I said "Look! I bought this doll. isn't he gorgeous?"

 

I started with my mom, who is usually cool about things. She pretty much said, "it's fine by me if you want it for your birthday, after all your brother got X much money for his birthday." She said she wanted to "work on" Dad before fully informing him. He's the one who I was worried about. So she told him about them, little by little, working him up to it. And then the price came into the picture and he freaked. But after a few days of persuasion he began to give. By the time I found my boy on the marketplace, he was just ready to give the go-ahead, and now I have my lil Ichabod ^^ I think now he's beginning to understand the hobby a little.

My brother is against the hobby, so I compared it to his video games- the doll is the console, and the clothes/eyes/wigs are the games. He almost saw my point, but he thinks video games are better and more interactive and I'm sure he thinks I'm nuts. :P

 

I've been collecting dolls for a long time now. My family sees my selections as an investment because every now and then I sell the items that I really didn't want. I've gotten very lucky at times and have come across some very profitable vintage dolls in the past. So now, I am the family "expert." As long as I pay for the more expensive ones or request them as a birthday or Christmas gift my hubby is okay. It is annoying that if I make something for a doll to wear, he thinks I should try to make a living doing it. LOL! I am still waiting for my Sprite Bobobie bjd. I sold some scrap gold to pay for her. I also broke the ice by buying a Mei Bobobie for my 13 year old daughter. Mei has arrived and we have already tried making tibetian wigs and clothing for her! We think that she is lovely.

 

My mom says the same thing. She asked me if I was sure that this it what I really wanted. I was like yes this is what I really what. She has made less of a deal of it lately. Originally she was shocked at the price and that at that price it didn't come with clothes. I was like but I can resale it for the same amount of money basically and its not like I'm buying 20 of them. It seems the more time I spend with these dolls the less I hear about it and she starts to accept it as normal.

 

I did it like i do with everything, like jrock or mangas... i just show them to my mum and say: i want that after that my mum decides wether i will get it or not. and if not, i wait and ask again later. when she says yes i won, if not i will annoy her until she says yes (but i will have to pay myself...)
my dad doesnt have to say anything when it comes to things i want XD

my parents are used to my strange hobbies and my friends, too

im direct when it comes to this so i really usually just show them pics and say what it is. after that they have to take it how it is.

 

For a person who doesn't tell her mother much about what's going on in her life, it was hard for me to tell her about my doll collection. But once i did, she kind of looked at me like i was a retard and just left it like that O.o. For me it was a major bomb because me and my mother like different things and anything i like she don't like and it's a constant battle. She tells me i constantly waste money on everythig i buy. Even if it's bills -.- so telling her i had a doll obsession, was hard to tell.


but telling my boyfriend was easy, i guess it's easier to tell ones you know won't judge you or hate you for it.

It was funny though, when i went to tell him. He said "cool." Then i asked "Hey ____, you know what you could buy me for my birthday?" He said "Okay let's see... their...WHAT! That's alot of dough!" He is fine with me spending it, and he probaly some day won't mind buying me one, but like i said... it's easier telling someone who you know cares about you rather then someone who you have your suspicions of.

 

I live with my parents and I told my mom I wanted one years ago. When I finally found the perfect one I wanted to order I told her and she actually acted alot different then I expected. I was expecting her to yell at me for wasteing my money on something I didn't need but instead she just said "okay if you really want one" and offered to pay the shipping for me. (I payed for the actual doll myself). I haven't told my Dad yet but he doesn't go in my room that much so he probably won't notice(if he does he'll just make fun of me).

Edit: I got her recently and my mom was excited to see her but didn't get the whole taking pictures thing. my dad has yet to notice.

 

Well it will be a bomb in my house! hahahhaha My husbands going to kill me when he finds out I spent seven hundred dollars on a doll. oh well.

 

I got one from my friend as a gift, and i showed my mom. SHe asked me the original price and i told her. She kinda freaked out since it was a gift, but when she learned how my friend got the doll she was okay with it. Most of the older females in my family are all doll collectors so they were kinda happy to see me want dolls (as i hadnt before) but I still only tell my mother the price of the dolls.

 

I tried to tell my mom and it was an epic fail
My mom was against it but said that its my money. Still she says that its a stupid idea and has no idea why I would blow off that much money.
I told her I still was going to get one and she was like: "Let me get Dad to check out the site" And of course he said no because he doesn't trust the site

I WILL FIND A WAY!!!!