If someone broke your doll?

It has not been a requirement at any meet I've ever attended. That includes local meets in two different cities, as well as meets at various conventions. For the most part, the owners chat, while the dolls "hang out together," and if someone's particularly interested in a specific doll, they'll ask if they can handle it--but the owner is under no obligation to allow them to do so.

Not going to a meet because you don't want your doll manhandled is just silly. There's plenty of legitimate reasons to not want to go, but I've never observed that kind of behavior.

 

Oh, as long as it's not 'expected' that's ok. I wouldn't avoid a meet just because of the potential of the doll being damaged...that's like not wanting to go out of your house because you might get hit by lightning

It just sounded like if you go to a meet you're expected to pass your dolls around like a bag of potato chips, and that freaked me out a little. But if it's optional, that's cool!

 

None of my friends of family members would touch any of my dolls without asking. They know better. They know how protective of my dolls I am and how much I love them. Even the kids in my family they know better than to touch my stuff sans asking. I have let my nieces play very gently with some of my dolls. They can handle the non-BJD dolls and I don't mind. They're both collectors at this point themselves and they know how to care dolls. When it comes to the BJD's I'm a little bit more conservative. It has to be with me sitting there and them sitting on the couch or floor next to me where I can monitor things pretty closely. Standard rule in my house, you break it, you replace it. But in my family, with my friends, I'd never have to ask for $$$ to replace a doll or a part. They'd be offering to replace it before I could hardly go "Ow!"

I don't generally touch fragile things or expensive things that belong to other people and that includes dolls. I keep a respectful distance because I know that I can be clumsy and I would never want to hurt someone's most expensive toys. I don't expect people to touch actually and if they do sans my permission? They're in trouble and it's not just in case of the dolls. I'm the same way about my photography gear. I'll be the first one to say "Please don't touch that." and if they don't like that, tough. They didn't buy it and they don't have the right to just grab something of mine and do whatever.

I have a half sister who really didn't grow up with me. When we were kids she finally came to stay with us for a month once and she thought nothing of going in my room, using my stuff, including the electronics I'd bought with my own money. I even caught her wearing my clothes. I was like "NO, no way. You ask first." She got really offended by that. Because I am her younger sister I'm supposed to just offer up whatever I own for her convenience? Not too long after she arrived she broke the tuning knob on my TV and I had to have it repaired. Dad actually paid for it to be done but she never offered. After that Dad told her to stay out of my stuff unless I gave her express permission to use something. She called me a "spoiled brat" at one point, but while I may have lived almost as an only child fact is I earned my own stuff. It was not just handed to me. I paid for it, worked a p/t job to earn the money to buy those things.

I did learn to share early on and often did, with my friends, knowing that if I lent something that it would be respected and returned in the same condition it left me. I could not trust my half sister to do the same so no I did not want her touching my stuff. Who would? Later as an adult on a visit she did the same with my cat. She messed with him just to mess with me and would not stop when I told her to. Needless to say she's not allowed in my house or near my pets. We don't have a relationship now. Not at all and she has no one to blame but herself for that one. I'm very territorial about my dolls, particularly my BJD's but mess with my cats and I just go ballistic.

I haven't done any BJD meetups or conventions but I'm not too sure I'd take a doll with me if I did. It sounds like people can be awful pushy when it comes to grabbing dolls sans permission at these events and well, I'm not that docile. I'd probably get very pissy over something like that and totally give them what for and that's long before anything gets broken. THAT, they'd be paying for, absolutely.

 

It would depend on how it happened and who did it. I wouldn't let someone handle my doll if they didn't know how expensive it is to replace and that I would expect that person to replace it. I just like letting people know what they're getting into in advance.

 

They'd be paying to replace it, regardless of who did what.

 

Thankfully most people at meets tend to be pretty careful. But if they dropped one of my boys and broke him I'd expect them to pay for the damages. I'd do the same if it me. Which is why I tend not to handle anothers doll. Don't want to risk an accident.

 

It would depend on the circumstances. Realistically speaking, it is not always easy or possible to get someone to pay for damaging something even if they did break it. Sadly the people who would offer to pay for accidentally breaking something are often the ones most deserving of forgiveness and those wouldn't are the ones who really should be paying.

If I allowed someone to handle my doll and they followed my instructions but something was accidentally damaged anyway I would just forgive them.

If they handled my doll without my permission and caused damage, well, it would depend on how it happened and how they reacted. I may request payment for replacement but more importantly I will be reevaluating who had access to my things and my relationship with them. Sometimes how people handle situations really open your eyes to who they are.

Hopefully I will never have to deal with a stranger breaking my doll. It would be tough to get reimbursed if they do not want to. You would have to establish fault and then the value of what is broken (replacement costs vs market value), and then I think in some cases if someone pays reimbursement for a damaged item they would be entitled to keep the original, damaged item.

 

I don't care who it is or how it really happened, I'd make them pay. [FOR the most part]

When I'm at my own home with my dolls, I expect my things to be treated with care. Though knowing we're having a party, I make sure my dolls are safe. My room lingers in the dark corner of the basement everyone fears to tread, but htere have been times I've found my cousins kids over there. Theold er family members know the base value of the doll [I.E-- EXPENSIVE], so I would hope they would teach their kids common sense not to touch. [Then again, to go into a closed off room should be there, to, YET..]

I wouldnt' be afraid of approaching someone and saying 'Yeah, you broke it. It's your fault'

If someone at a meet or something decided to pick up my doll where as I didn't really know them, I'd pin it on them yes. I always go into a meet assuming the ground rules are 'don't touch without permission.'. The meets I go to now are hosted by me and are a relatively close group of friends. I suppose I wouldn't really want to make them pay, but at the same time, I'd also sit there with a dumb expression on my face in not knowing what to do.

THAT being said, it obviously shows I have more faith in my friends than family.x D

 

I would expect the damage to be paid for but I guess if the person couldn't afford it I'd ask for a contribution to fix it or some other kind of payment to make up for it such as items they make or something. I'm going to be very careful and not take my limited dolls to meets with people I don't know though. I'd be very frightened of them being damaged in the first place. I guess if I make friends locally or got to know someone well then I'd be more likely to bring them along.

I would offer to have someone's bjd repaired if I accidently damaged it although I'll probably not touch anything limited. I'd never forgive myself for causing the damage but would never touch without permission either.

 

I usually advise others to be careful holding my dolls, and people who have bjds are usually very careful with bjds. I haven't had a problem. However, if broken by someone other than myself, they would be held responsible. Definitely. Even if it was an accident. They'd owe something for the damage besides words.
Depends on the harm though really. If the doll's break was severe, I would treat it almost like a car accident. I'd ask for their identification, plus a phone number, and I would never rest until all was repaired.
Little off topic, but I once had a mertailor custom realistic mermaid tail that was irreplaceably damaged by a then annoyed family member. The tail was a gift from a good friend in the first place, but it certainly isn't an easy thing to replace. Never got a new one, and never received anything to makeup for it.
The whole thing was an accident, and not intentional... Still would have been nice to make up for something of that caliber with more than just words at the time. The whole matter was heartbreaking. There is still always that underlying feeling of mistrust..

In short, doesn't matter who, or the reason, if someone broke my bjds (which in this case, I spent so much of my time and hard earned money on), they would have to make up for it in some way. I'd make certain of that. I'm sure others would expect no less in return for damage to their dolls. I would cover damage I had done. Its a matter of being responsible.
If they don't, I have a tendency to be a tad wickedly vengeful...

 

I haven't gone to a doll meet before but I know that I would be extra careful with another person's doll. I would be more likely not to touch a doll that doesn't belong to me but if I did break someone's doll, I would be crying and I would promptly offer to fix it in any way.

If someone else broke one of my dolls accidentally, I would be easily forgiving if it was something like a minor piece I could fix or find a replacement easily. I would still forgive them if it was a major piece but I would hope they would offer some kind of payment or replacement. I probably wouldn't be mean or pushy about it though.

On the other hand, if it was done because of carelessness or purposefully, I would make them pay for it. I would get their name, phone number, etc.

 

This is such a hard question for me. I'd be SO upset. Angry. Sad. Just all kinds of emotions, and even though I know in the instant I'd want them to buy me a new doll I don't think I could do that, but I'd like them to offer to pay for a replacement part at least, and if they did really significant damage I'd like for them to at least offer to give some money toward a new doll. If they offered and were very sorry then I'd feel better about about it and wave the money off.

Of course it also depends on if I gave perrmission or not for them to hold it too. If I let them handle one of my dolls and something happened then it's more my fault. I knew the risk when I allowed them to handle it, but if they were handling it without my permission then yeah my wrath is gonna rain down.

 

I get very anxious when people want to touch my dolls. I don't want anyone to touch and/or hold them, but I feel like I'm being rude if I don't allow them to. Of course, if someone does any damage to them I'd like thme to pay for it. I'm just waaay too awkward to even ask for that, unless the person is a close family member.

If I broke someone else's doll I'd feel horrible. I'd be too ashamed with myself if I didn't offer to pay, and I probably wouldn't ever touch the person's dolls again.

 

If the break was caused by someone touching a doll without permission or with malice and/or carelessness I would 100% expect them to pay for replacement.

If say, a doll was being handled by a friend or someone I was comfortable with at a meet (though I'm really not convinced I'll ever go to a meet again), and through a freak event or a slip of the hand, the doll was damaged, I would certainly be more sympathetic. Honestly though, I'd still want them to pay for it but I would expect THEM to offer to. If they didn't it would probably negatively impact my relationship with this person.

If I broke someone else's doll (or any other thing that was precious to them) I would absolutely offer to cover replacement costs.

 

I think I would just stand there in stunned slience and probably tell them how much the doll cost and that I was VERY UPSET with them, and hope that they would pay for replacement parts.

 

Three words, pay, pay and pay.

 

I'm more likely to break my doll myself because I must appear anxious when someone else handles them. I don't bring them with me anywhere, so it's unlikely strangers would ever have the chance to touch them. I'm a very protective mother.

If someone did break my doll, I'd be pissed and try to fix it. I don't think I'd feel too kindly toward that person in the future if they were only an acquaintance--most likely I would avoid him/her from then on. A friend or family member would know not to touch in the future. However, I just don't see this happening as I rarely let people touch my dolls. I tell them they are enormously expensive and very rare. They usually don't even want to hold or touch such a doll.

Most of my dolls are limiteds or no longer available so replacing it would probably not be possible.

 

This has actually happened where someone accidentally dropped someone else's doll, causing the face to get scratched. Those two are still not talking to each other. It was just an accident of course, but it generated a lot of hard feelings. I think it's important to remember that people are more precious than objects, and accept that things do break eventually. Heck, I've dropped a lot of my own dolls because I'm so clumsy. I don't even pick up other people's dolls hardly! Please try to be even more careful with other people's stuff than your own. I would pay to have the dolls repaired, but not everyone can afford to do it.

 

It would depend on how it was broken. If it was an accident, I would 100% forgive. I would of course ask if they are willing to replace or compensate me somehow. It's only fair since I would definitely compensate someone if it was me who did the breaking.

If it was on purpose....murderous rage.

 

In my experience, I have never had anyone actually pay for anything of mine that they had damaged or broken. It usually doesn't happen..does it? -- as it is always an "accident". My mom told me never to lend things if I was uncomfortable with them being returned damaged or broken. Also always reminding me to "look with your eyes, not your hands" I was a pretty clumsy kid and must have given her palpitations. Guess I heard it so often it's really stuck with me.