Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

I'd be flattered if anyone asked me if my dolls were for sale, but it doesn't mean it's right.. I'd see it as cheeky to ask unless the owner is explicitly saying they're willing to sell.

 

I completely agree with this.

 

Lol thanks.
Glad I know.

 

Thank you. This is pretty much exactly how I feel. [which is why you'd get my Woosoo if I ever decided to sell him, I offered you because I know you wanted one.]

 

Bad manners? Yes, since it isn't in a for sale thread. I think it would get irritating for someone after a while no matter how nicely it was put. Especially if they had a very sought after doll.
Basically your telling somebody that you like their possession and want to own it. Thats never a good idea unless its for sale. Consider another medium thats popular. Pure bred dogs. Would you walk up to a stranger on the street and offer them cash for a dog you though had really excellent points despite the fact its an obviously loved family pet? Nope, because it doesn't occur to most to do so.
But this does remind me of that Robert Redford movie in a way. Can't remember the title though.

 

Do these people who PM others with cash offers not realize how much fun it is to stalk the marketplace for their dream doll? Well, maybe it isn't so much during long periods of frustration, but the payoff, that magical moment of, "I accept your offer. Let us confirm contact information!" is very much worth it. I mean, I still tell people about how I used to haunt the WTS forum and that my L-bi showed up on my birthday. And came with free birthday pants! Whee!

Ahem. Anyway, I've never gotten a PM like that and never sent any. I don't look forward to the fomer and would never do the latter. I like the hunt too much and I feel more people should attempt it long term, just for the thrill.

 

To add new life to this thread...

Someone was selling a head I wanted. But they were including it free with the purchase of another/different full doll.

I asked the seller if they would sell the head seperately, and they declined. When I learned they sold the body (and thus the head went along with it). I asked the seller to inform the buyer of said doll (and the head), that if they wanted to sell off the additional head they got for free, I would be interested.

Now I didn't approach the buyer/owner of the head directly. And if the head had been sold (vs included for free), I wouldn't have messaged either. I still hope the person may want to sell the head off to me. That they bought the full doll because that's what they wanted. That maybe the head will show up for sale...sigh...

-Anneke

 

I think it's presumptuous and graceless. Not something that someone with manners would do. I for one would not be flattered if someone came into my home and asked to buy my sofa. It's bizarre behaviour. It would make me think they were a bit off and I certainly wouldn't want to deal with them, even if I later did want to sell my sofa.

 

(sorry if this has been said before, i 've only read a few pages so far)

there are two things that come to mind when i think of someone asking if they can buy someones dolls:
1: We all know there are many people here with really good bonds with their dolls, and many see them as children of a sort. Its simple enough to say that your child is beautiful, but its another thing to ask if it'd be cool if you could adopt/have them. Kidnapping comes to mind, even though i know its not exactly right here ^^;
2: Somehow (and probably because i have confidance issues in certain areas) getting a pm sayin "i love your doll, can i buy him/her for xxx$?" would make me think that THEY think i do a crappy job of caring for them, or they think i dont deserve the doll and they want to 'save' it somehow.

It might be just me, but it would *really* bother me. I'm in teh "not okay" boat here ^^'

However, being told that your doll is realy pretty or beautiful is never bad, its just...dont propose buying something thats not for sale. Like going to a garage sale and asking if you can buy the garage! Can't buy it if its not for sale ^.~

 

I've been asked to sell one of my limited heads in that way (PM's) even when i don't have a WTS thread, she was very polite but i think that action was very embarrasing for me. When i buy a doll i do it because i like it and i don't have in mind to sell it, i don't understand why people thinks that i'm going to sell it even if i dont open a wts thread. Ethycally wrong? I don't think so, but is uncomfortable and unpleasant

 

Wow. I can't even fathom PMing an owner about selling a doll that's not for sale. I can't believe things like this happen! That's incredibly rude and very tactless! I would say that's very ethically wrong. =(

 

i did receive pms for a certain doll i own and it made me sad that people think everything comes with a pricetag attached to it. i mean, sometimes, some things are not for sale. i did receive pms about doll clothes i own as well, which i found bizarre because i never specified i was interested in selling those clothes to begin with and since they were one of a kind, i doubt the prospective buyer candidates were desperate to get them.

with dolls, i don't think this action is an unforgivable taboo, though, it might be an act of desperation so unless the person is asking in a rude manner i don't think rudeness in replying would get none of the parties anywhere.

 

To me, it depends on how the person making the offer RESPONDS to my response (if that makes any sense).

This happened to me (no names mentioned, of course). I mentioned that my fiancee was entering the lottery to get Amakusa (and he won! So he'll be getting Amakusa!), and that he LOVES the doll, but is unsure about the outfit.

Someone PM'ed me and basically said, "If you get the doll, could I buy the clothes?"

I spoke with my fiancee and then politely responded "I'm sorry, but no. My fiancee does not like splitting LE dolls from their outfits" (He doesn't. He likes to keep things 'perfect' that way).

The other person never PM-ed another word to me. THAT's what I considered rude. The polite response would have been "I understand. Thank you anyway." It would have taken all of 30 seconds.

Even though I wasn't willing to sell (or my fiancee: it's really irrelevent because we live together and share all expenses) the items, I took the time to say "I'm sorry, we won't be selling." I was polite. The other person never said another thing once they realized that they weren't going to be getting anything out of me. (That's how I interpreted it, anyway).

My point? I wouldn't necessarily be offended by an offer on my dolls (or outfits, or props, whatever), but I would expect COURTESY in the interaction.

 

I don't know why anyone would just randomly PM you about selling a doll. It's like someone walking up to you in public, asking if you would sell them the clothes off your back. Crazy. Just crazy.

This is a public forum, with a separate section for selling/buying dolls and such. No a huge "window shopping" board. Obviously, if someone wants to sell anything, there would be a FS thread in the marketplace.

 

I for one wouldn't PM someone to sell their doll to me but I hope this is acceptable....I don't think it was wrong to ask them information like maker, model, etc to aid myself in trying to locate a similar doll for myself.

I am relatively new to this so I am always trying to navigate my way thru the various companies and their dolls....and finding a doll that makes you "ooh" and "ahh" but not being able to locate information on it can be heartbreaking. I completely agree with adversion to the "cold call" PMs. I don't like it when someone calls my house to sell me the latest whatever.

I think I would reply to a post of..." I was thinking of selling..." or something along those lines and I would PM someone to tell them I love their doll but I would never ask to purchase them.

 

I just think its extremely rude. People who do that don't seem to respect the bond/sentimental value a doll has to a person. ...

Asking about the make/info about the doll is ok, even just pming to mention how much it rocks,.. but to offer money or straight up ask for them to sell it is disrespectful

 

I'd be extremely flattered if someone said they liked my doll so much they wanted to buy him, so long as they didn't offer money in the actual PM or become abusive when I said no. I'd probably be more tactful myself if approaching someone (after all, you can just get a doll of the same mold and customise it yourself for the same price) but I wouldn't have a hissy fit if someone contacted me.

Clearly, I'm a minority.

 

no its not right. its down right rude and the inquirer should be ashamed of them selves. its one thing to post in their threads that you think their dolls is pretty or that one day you too hope to own but its wrong to send them messages and ask them to sell.

you bought that doll because its special to you. and having someone ask you to part with it for monetary compensation is atrocious.

i'm not saying you should have a conniption if someone does pm for your doll and you might feel you ego stroked but it comes down to people feeling they deserve things that they usually don't. you really like that doll stalk the market place put up a 'WTB-will sell soul to obtain' thread. there are others was to acquire your dream doll without whining

ok done now i feel better

 

I'd be really insulted, personally. I remember when I got my first Beanie Baby, and I wanted to take off his tag, and my parents were saying 'no, don't do that, he won't be worth anything when you sell him!' I was almost in tears, because I had no intention of selling him (mind you, I was seven at the time).

So, if someone PMed me about selling Peter, especially, when Peter Pan is my favourite fairytale and it took hours to find the perfect doll to represent him. . .Well, I wouldn't mind so much if it were politely phrased, but if they suggested a price, I think I'd go ballistic.

 

It wouldn't bother me at all. I'd be flattered that someone liked it enough to make an offer out of the blue. I would have no trouble turning something like that down, and I certainly wouldn't be insulted.

As long as the person could take no for an answer, I don't see a problem with it, personally.