Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

I've had people PM me to buy my dolls when they weren't for sale. I find it annoying, especially if they keep PMing me, trying to wear me down.

If people could take NO as a NO, then I wouldn't have a problem. I'm flattered that you like my doll SO MUCH you would want to buy him/her from me, but I've already told you no, and that's that.

As long as they know you aren't selling and don't keep harassing you about it, I do find it rather flattering. :P

 

Man...I posted in here before, praying that I would never experience somebody trying to buy my dolls when they're not for sale...

Well, it just happened. And it wasn't even on DOA, it was on FACEBOOK! o_o Facebook!!! The very LAST place you'd ever expect it to happen, someone I've met all of once found me through my friend and was like "we should hang out sometime, btw I'd love to buy your doll." ~_~ No. I'm not even flattered, I'm flat out insulted (like I knew I would be if this ever happened)...She didn't even get the company right either, she thought my DoC Si was from Luts....

 

Mm... Personally... I don't think it's wrong (but I have a high tolerance, playing so many MMORPG's you get used to people badgering you), but if it starts getting out of hand and they repeatedly PM you, then it is really rude and annoying.

But I dunno... like I said, I have high tolerance XD Plus I'm so polite, it kills me, but if they don't get the gist that they're not for sale I'd report them for harassment :\ (lol, extreme DX)

 

I think its wrong for people to outright offer you an amount of money for your doll whether it be limited or not. If they are dropping a line saying that they love your doll and if you ever considered selling them they would be interested, it is not as bad. Even worse is when someone wants to buy your doll just because it is a "collector's item" and they wont even love it as if you were going to sell it to them. XD

 

I would definitely be offended if it would ever happen. If you like a doll, watch out for it in the marketplace, otherwise, leave the owner in peace. I think it's incredibly rude to ask, because most people feel connected to their dolls. I think I would report that person if they kept harassing me, otherwise I would just say no and be done with it.

 

I personally don't feel it's very classy for someone to do this, however, as I've never personally experienced it, I'm not exactly sure if I would be flattered that someone thought my doll was so beautiful they felt the need to offer to buy him from me, or just flat out annoyed by the rudeness of it. Personally, if someone on the board has a doll that I absolutely adore and I would seriously consider adding one like it to my collection, the most I would ever do is contact the owner to ask what mold and company it was from ( since I'm not very good at telling myself ) but after that, leave them well enough alone and search the marketplace or company's website.

I think when it came right down to it though, I most likely would be much more irritated than appreciative. >.<

 

Oh gawd no!! That is most definitely not okay!! *seethes for a bit* So rude. I don't think that's okay at all. Every now and then, I'll send a PM to an owner just to compliment them on their dolls or outfits or whatever, but I'd never send someone a PM asking to buy the doll. I wouldn't even send a "keep me in mind if you ever sell" type thing. It seems so... tasteless.

 

I've gotten a few (three or four?) people offering to buy my Shushu vamp. head, but I turned them all down. If I wanted to sell my doll, I would be selling my doll. IMHO, It's just plain rude, frankly.

 

I definitely don't think it's right. No matter how nicely they say it. I know for a lot of people it would be like someone asking to buy their baby from them.

 

you always could just say back, okay then fork over that 1 million XD

 

Oh my... does it exist ? People sending pm's like that ??? That is rude, really rude ! How can one send a message asking for how much he'd sell his doll ?

If I wanted to sell my doll, I would just sell it ! ! If I'm not asking for any offer... then there is no point in asking ! This is very unpolite and a bit stupid... People put so much in their dolls and some others just show some money in front of their nose ? No, no, no... they don't get it right. Of course it can be flattering ton think that someone could put that much money in your doll... but still... the BJD in wich you pu so much of your heart, of your time is not just a merchandise ! !

I guess the people that have done those things didn't get that... maybe for them that is just a way to get their hand on a special doll... That woul have never came to my mind to do such a thing... I love many BJD's from others, I'm in love with some that I find really hot, but never would I have the nerve to ask them how much they would sell them !

This is kind of heartless in a way...

 

yea.. i've nearly never heard of this happening o_o that's really rude :/

 

There have been a few people who have sort of "gotten in line" as it were for some of my girls... but I have always been approached by a) people I "know" pretty well online, and b) they've been unbelievably polite, and c) they know i'm not selling, and they don't bug me about it repeatedly.

I got one of my holy grail most precious dolls this way, that is, by telling the owner that IF she ever wanted a new home, I would love for her to come live with me. At the time, she said she wasn't looking for a new home, and I did not pester her or repeatedly mention it. I never mentioned it again until she told me she was toying with the idea of selling her, and I mentioned again that I'd love the chance to give her a new home. I probably would not have gotten her otherwise, so I am feeling very lucky that I DID speak up.

It was somebody I know quite well, so I felt comfortable doing that.

I don't see any harm in this type of interaction. But I'd never PM somebody out of the blue and say Hey I'll give you $650 for that doll.

 

I think it depends on how you word the message. I mean, no one WOULD ask me about my dolls, but a "keep me in mind if you ever decide to sell" is fine by me. Naming a price, telling me what the dolls I don't want to sell are worth, would be another matter all together. Also, if someone did give a little nudge, ONCE and then let it go.

 

What are people thinking by PMing someone out of the blue and asking to buy their doll?

That's terribly crass.

 

I don't think it's right and it's insulting to PM people out of the blue to buy their doll. For some people it's like asking if you'd sell their kid.

I think it's ok to PM a compliment about someone's doll. Asking them if they want to sell it if they hadn't mentioned they were planning to sell is akin to saying I really don't respect you and believe your things are for sale.

If I was in speaking terms with someone and they said they possibly were looking to rehome a doll I don't have a problem saying to keep me in mind.

 

I would have to agree with Sailorlimabean. Naming a price is yes, a bit coarse but I guess if that person just wants to let the other person know"hey if you ever did decided to sell your doll please keep me in mind" I dont think its so bad but since its against the rules then it shouldn't be done....

 

Those offers are like telemarketing calls at home... Just Say No, then hang up.

If you let the solicitations anger you, they will.
If you brush them off, your serenity will continue undisturbed.

If you say No, and the person persists: Report them for harassment.

If they go away on the first try: No harm done. Go on with your life.

If the person understands your rejection, and apologizes, and you turn out to have much in common with them because you both love the same sculpt: You may find a new friend. It can happen.

If you can't tolerate the notion that anybody out there would ever contact you out of the blue for any reason, and ask a question that would freak out your entire universe: You should probably get off the internet.

 

I got a pm once about my EF Olivia, the girl asked me to contact her IF one day I want to sell the doll, I didn't think it was rude at all. I know it's a hard to find doll, the pm was polite and there was no reason to feel bothered by that. I don't want to sell the doll, I love her too much, but if I did I would have contact the girl. No big deal.

 

I guess it's flattering in a way if the person compliments your doll and just let's you know that if you're ever selling it he/she would like to buy it, but it's also a big waste of time because that's very unlikely to happen

On the other hand, it's just wrong and annoying if the person won't give up making offers after you've told her/him you're not interested.

So it depends.