Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

I've actually had that happen at a convention. Some rich people who weren't part of the Con who kept trying to sneak in without passes saw our dolls and said they would pay a lot more than what we paid for them so they could buy our dolls. I of course told them no, and they weren't happy about it either.

I think its just rude and inconsiderate for people to bluntly ask like that, especially people like what I dealt with at the Con. I already knew that my resin daughter wouldn't be in a good home if I didn't have enough heart to just sell her and pass her off to a rich family. It was just...Ugh. Very rude and inconsiderate for them to even think that I'd sell my girl for any amount of money. I love her to much to just hand her off to someone else.

 

no, is really without sense . you cant ask to sell a thing that is not for selling ... »
unless....... the doll in question is TOO fascinating..... omg...!»

 

This is never ok. I'm completley dumbstruck when it comes to,"what the hell posessed you to ask?!" And it's not like anyone would ever sell thier doll below retail value anyway.

 

Uhm, no. This is certainly NOT okay. It's one of those things that never will be. Either the doll is for sale, or it's not.

If something like that were done to me I wouldn't report the person, I'd deal with it myself. Though it's not likely I'd be that mean about it they'd figure out from me never to do something like that again.

 

What's the big deal? Unless they are openly rude and nagging about it. But if someone politely inquire if I would be willing to sell a doll I own, I'd politely turn them down, end of story.

It's not like they asked if I would sell them my first born. These are just inanimate objects, y'know. Just molded resins strung together by strings.

 

I would consider it a compliment if someone actually liked my doll enough to want to buy it.

 

I would feel annoyed if someone came up and offered to buy my laptop too (with all it's highly personalized junk). But then again, I am a grumpy individual. :P

I'd probably just tell them where to get one though, if they offered something for my doll.

 

I had this happen a couple weeks ago with another doll type, and I was a bit offended since I told the eager buyer I had NO intention of selling a couple years ago, last year and I had to do it again this year. I think it is nice that she loves the doll, but there is a limit to how nice I can be when getting yearly emails to purchase it.

Like others have mentioned, how one says it is important. If someone goes "I love your doll and would love to have one like it someday!" then alright. I could accept that and get the hint. But if someone is like "If you ever sell could you contact me?" I get a little knot in my stomach and feel like I'm being pressured a bit. I don't like that feeling.

BUT... I don't like selling dolls. It is stressful and I'm a bit leary of the marketplace in today's less than honest world. I think if someone sells a lot they might be more comfortable with it, but since I dislike selling it is something I don't feel comfortable with myself.

As for people who WISH they had particular dolls, add it to a wishlist in your signature box. There's no harm in that and perhaps someone could contact you regarding the doll itself if it ever comes up for sale.

 

I have actually had several people over the last year PM me and ask about some of my dolls. The PM's have all been worded to be more like a compliment, which I felt they were, and simply asking to be considered, or put on "The List" if there ever came a time that the doll in question would be put up for adoption.

I could see if I was getting several requests from the same person, about the same doll, I would definitely NOT be happy.

There, my 2cents!

 

I'm just skimming through this thread. I'm amazed at the audacity and nerve of some people. My attitude is that unless someone's else's doll is already up for sale in the Marketplace, you shouldn't harass or badger people into selling their doll to you. The bottom line is that the doll belongs to the owner.

I think forwarding all such PMs to the moderator is a great idea. If this person is bugging you so much that you don't feel like waiting for the moderators' response, there is something else that you can do that involves a little bit of technical know-how that's easy to learn. There is a handy function that all .php boards have, including this one. It's called "Ignore" and if you use it against another member, that member can't PM you or contact you in any other way on this board.

It's really easy to put someone on "Ignore". All you have to do is go to the top of the forum page menu until you see "Members List". Click on that one then look up the name of the obnoxious "SELL ME YOUR DOLL RIGHT NOW" person. Once you get to the name of that "SELL ME YOUR DOLL RIGHT NOW" person, click on it and you'll come to the person's profile. There will be a button that says "Ignore This User". Click on it and the "SELL ME YOUR DOLL RIGHT NOW" person will be automatically added to your personal "Ignore" list.

If you want to verify that you've done the right thing, go to "Members List" and look up your own name then look at your own profile. On that page you'll see an "Ignore" list with the name of the "SELL ME YOUR DOLL RIGHT NOW" person that you've added.

I hope this suggestion helps someone in this predicament.

 

I actually thought it wasn't such a big deal till it happened to me. I got a pm from someone about a doll's extra head and THEN they stalked me over at my journal and asked me once more even after saying no. ^^; I dealt with it kindly I think, but it left a bad taste in my mouth. Especially after deciding I would sell that extra head later and contacting that person. I thought I was being nice to at least get back to them. They ran me around changing their mind over and over, so in the end I gave up. It probably wouldn't have been so bad except that is the one thing that drives me nuts is when someone wants something and then over and over asks for extreme changes. First it was the sleeping head they agreed on (the only one I wanted to give up), then they decided they wanted the open-eyed head I was keeping so asked me to sell my other head to them, and then asked me to give them another color. And after that they were like "hold it for me until I ask around for the one I want!" ... -_-;

So I think its pretty rude to ask period. If its not up for sale now then don't ask. If that member sells that doll or item later, just watch for that sale to possibly pop up. ^^;

To mimic others, that's what WTB threads are for. Anyone asks me again I'm ignoring them pretty much.

 

Stalking is never ok. I think that if people are interested in a particular doll, head etc, they should put up a WTB post in the marketplace instead. Or, simply say "Your doll is so beautiful, if you ever decide to sell it, please tell me?" Otherwise... attending cons trying to bribe and bully people into selling their dolls...? This is really happening?

 

Well tbh I don't see a problem with asking politely, ONCE. If you say no, and they keep at you, that's harassment as far as I can see. But, sometimes you just have to ask .

 

Sorry, but I think I must be missing something here. Why do "you just have to ask"?

Would you stop a stranger in a parking lot and ask her to sell you the car she's driving?
Would you stop a stranger at the mall and ask her to sell you the purse she's carrying?

To me, it seems no less absurd and intrusive to PM a stranger on DoA and ask her to sell you the doll in a Gallery picture she's posted.

Unless there's a "FOR SALE" sign already pasted on--in DoA terms, a For Sale post in the Marketplace--why on earth would anyone assume that other people's possessions are up for grabs?

 

My sentiments exactly.

 

I would never outright ask someone to sell me their doll It just strikes me as rude to ask something like that. Sometimes I see a doll I just adore, but I try to figure out what doll it is either through their owner list, or through some other sort of clue. I think if I saw a doll I absolutely adored, and couldn't figure out what kind it was, I might ask them "what kind of doll is it in XX thread?" in my most polite way possible. If they said it was "XX limited doll" I might say something to the effect of "I hope I will have a chance to own one some day, it's going on my wish list" without implying that I wanted to buy THEIR doll. Honestly though, I would be more than likely to leave that last part out, and simply add it to my wish list without saying anything and if I had funds available, post a WTB thread. I'd just hope that by some random chance if they decided to sell, they'd think of me, but I would in no way expect them to consider me. If it was a non-limited doll, I would definitely not say anything that could even be misinterpreted to mean I wanted THEIR doll. That's just silly, I can do my own research to get my own without pestering the original owner that got me interested in a certain mold.

If anyone ever asked me to sell them my doll, and by some crazy coincidence I was already considering selling, then honestly, I might consider selling to that person depending on how polite or rude they were. If you could tell they really loved it, and seemed like they would truly love the doll, then sure, it could potentially be a good thing for both parties. If say for some reason I had a limited, and they were just being kind of snobbish about throwing their money around because they somehow thought more limiteds= better person, then forget it.

Since I am not considering selling any of my dolls, I would politely just say I was flattered by their interest, but "no" and if for some reason I knew of one for sale, point them in the right direction. If they were rude or kept pestering me, I'd give them a warning to knock it off or they'd get reported. If they STILL kept bugging me, I'd report them and add them to my ignore list, and they'd NEVER buy one of my dolls, even if it or another one were for sale at a later date. I know warning them I might report them is beyond nice, I just don't like to get people in trouble, even when they deserve it

 

I personally will never pm a person nor ask him/her if they would ever sell their doll. Even if it was a Yukinojo. I look at my doll, which is a "basic" doll, but for the life of me I would never sell her no matter what the price. If a person wants to buy a doll, they should put a WTB thread in the Marketplace, but they shouldn't be as brazen to pm people with dolls that are highly sought after, or so enticing to be lusted after.

 

I would only report them if after telling them "no" they continued to badger me about it. Otherwise I'd take it as a compliment (unless the price they're offering is ridiculous).

 

Some people DO do that. -_-;

Not me, o_o; but I had a lady ask me if she could buy my jacket once...

I was like "nnnnnooooo...?" and then it was all awkward and I just kinda walked/ran away.

 

While I don't think it's necessarily wrong to ask, it's really very awkward, especially since many dolls are so highly personalized. I'd liken it someone asking me if they could buy my computer, with all my stuff on it. Just... Weird.