Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

I get a comment like that once in a while; sometimes, it's not even a PM but a public post on the forums. First time, I feel flattered and will consider them if I sell. Second time, I feel sympathy for them and reassure that they'll get the doll with due time. Third, it's getting annoying and I'll tell them that I'm not selling ATM. Fourth is really pushing your luck. Alas for the fifth time, I give a lengthy lecture to nip it in the bud.

 

I think a doll is a precious thing to someone, and to ask to buy someone's beloved, customized doll when they clearly aren't selling is like asking for a piece of their soul. I'm sorry that happened to you.

 

I wouldn't like it if it was me.. And I wouldn't do it neither.. Because I would feel really bad if someone asked me out of the blue.

 

it makes me feel like some people think its just an open doll market. my girls are not for sale, theyre my objects, expensive ones, which i love. im here to talk about them and enjoy them, not sell them ^^;

i agree with most people that, whatever, once would be fine - but asking again after saying no is just rude

 

I think it is verry rude to just offer people money without them having attentions to sell it.

BUT:
there once was a WTT post with a doll someone wanted to trade for another doll.
I did not had the other doll, but I loved the doll she wanted to trade.
so I PM'd her with the question: if you cant trade this doll for the one you want, and you decide to sell it, I would love to buy your doll.
(or something similair to that)

do you all think this is rude as well?
or is is less worse becouse the person allready put up their doll for a trade?

 

I wouldn't think so... If I had something up for trade with a specific item in mind... I wouldn't mind someone contacting me with another offer that I may find I prefer. Or to let me know that they'd be willing to purchase the doll if the trade doesn't work out. In which case, I could then try to buy what I was hoping to trade for. So, if the willingness to part is present, I think they'd be less inclined to be annoyed with an offer... So long as you respect their answer.

 

I had a woman once ask if she could buy my boots - Yes, the ones I was wearing. I was out in town at the time, and a woman asked if she could buy them. They were just straight-up black combat boots, burnt through to the cap at the toes and generally worn to bits. And she offered me fifty quid for them. I was perplexed, at first (Why would anoyne want these knackered things? Why not go to Surplus and get your own?), then flattered (Wow, she wanted to buy my boots. They *are* pretty good boots, you know.) then just sort of forgot about it. I imagine I'd do the same if someone offered to buy one of my dolls.

 

That is one of the weirdest things I've ever heard.

Let's say you DID sell that woman your boots... if you were out in town, what would you have walked home in??

 

I dont mind people asking me the question!
However, I will never ask people about it first unless I know that she has intention to sell.
I think it's only ok for some people.

 

I don't think it's polite to pm some one about selling a doll that they have no intention of selling. I think it's a bit rude.

 

Could have bought some new shoes.

 

I don't think that it's ok, I also don't like those stupid papers "Wanna sell your car?" on my car and I don't want PNs asking if I want to sell my dolls.
I also don't call other people if they want to sell their house.
It's just impolite.
I would not report a user asking me, only if it becomes massive spam floating my PN-Box.

 

I think it's a bit rude to be honest.. if someone was gonna sell their doll they'd put it on the marketplace.

 

I have been watching this thread for some time now and have concluded what I think about this whole thing.
I think its more about the way the PM is written.
If I get a PM saying that they love so and so doll that I have, and they hint that they would buy him/her from me, I would be ok with it and would not comment on that part of the PM
or if the PM, they say something in the PM that is like, 'if you ever sell your doll, I would like to know about it', and well, to that I would be replying something like this, 'I try to remember that if I ever do think about selling him/her'

But if the PM is something that is like,
I want to buy your doll!, or, I have a WTB up and you have the doll I want to buy it!
I would be bugged. I would reply something like, 'where does it say that I am willing to sell my doll or even thinking about selling it?', and to add on I would be looking over the person's Pm thinking that was running though there mind when they sent it to me.

Over all I never had a PM like that, and I hope never to get one like that, I have gotten things like it that is over all hinting that they may want there doll to be with my doll and so on.
I find it nuts that people go to that point sometimes to PM someone about a doll there not selling and going onto telling them how much they would buy it for or to keep on PMing them and so on

 

it is so not OK..seriously i love my doll do death...and have no intention to resell him... never......but if they want my doll i would just give them the link to where i got the exact same doll and clothing if that how they like. they can get the same doll that i own. But im happy that they like may doll and would want one. ^_^

 

i wish there was a poll at the top of this thread, i'd be interested to see the percentages of "yes's" and "no's".

it seems as though most people think it's tacky.

i personally would not be offended by the question. that's just me though.

 

It's definitely pretty tacky, but I guess it's all about how they go about it. There's a polite way of doing anything, that always makes it (almost) acceptable.

 

I've had that, but not with BJDs. I wasn't even gushing about how much I liked them, I just said it in passing, but the person I was speaking to was really vehement about not selling and when I said I wasn't looking to buy or adopt them she must have thought I was backtracking

I do find it rude if people offer unsolicited anything, whether its an offer to buy your boots or your doll or your dog. For me, unless someone is walking around with a 'For Sale' sign, I have to assume that they're not a walking marketplace and whenever I've seen someone with clothing I admire or something I've always asked where they got it from, not whether I can have it directly from them.

I've been generous before, if someone has said they like something I'm wearing that I'm not too precious about sometimes I'll pass it on to them, but some people grow to expect it and admire my necklaces and bracelets in the hope they will end up with them

 

I would prefer if they did it politely like, what flattered Enki ('if at anytime or reason you want to sell your doll, I will accept it into my home.') now I dont have a rare doll or anything like that- but if I wanted to buy someone's doll I think I would show my offer of buying in the way that flattered Enki :3

However it is not right to say- I wanna buy your doll for $$$$$, would you sell it to me? (especially if they weren't selling it or if they didnt say they were going to sell it)

But flattery is always good, as long as it doesn't get out of hand. ( doll stalkers!!!! LOL, jk)

 

Sure maybe with a offer that is double the value on the doll...