Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

Considering how attached people can be with their dolls, I'd feel odd asking them if they would sell their doll when there was no evidence of intent to sell.

I'm not sure how I feel about people asking me. Currently, while I was saving for my doll, I managed to infect around 5 friends with "I want a doll too!" but none of them want the same one as I do.

I guess it would depend how someone asked me. I guess it depends how pushy they are. I mean if they just say "I wish I had a doll like yours. Maybe I can be his stepmom! " compared to "I want your doll, I'll pay *insert price here*"

 

I don't think there's really an ethical problem with it. I mean, assuming they're not badgering you about it constantly.
All you have to do is say no. Surely that's not a problem?

And who knows, perhaps you were teetering on the edge of selling anyway? Or their offer is good enough that you'd be willing to say yes regardless? It can't hurt to spend two seconds reading a PM and replying with two letters.

 

I know many people do care and will be offended if being asked about selling a doll they have no intention to sell.I am fine and won't feel uncomfortable if anyone asked me about selling my doll.I will be happy instead cause that means they like my doll.

 

I had a person literally added me in msn and asked me if i'd sell my okita souji and i was a bit surprised and angry(and a bit offended) at the same time.

But even if i said that, i still dont mind ppl asking cos who knows - they might thinking of selling them.

in the other hand it means that that person really like that doll and would even be rude to get it It's sweet in a way, but becos i really love my okita and couldnt even imagine the fact that i could sell him. Even the person was offering me more than i bought him, i was just helping her getting the new one instead in the cheaper price, and within the next few months she'd probably get him as she wishes

but well for me i dun think its so polite to do that but i wouldnt do that

nah... its a bit wrong for me to do that sorta thing...

if the dolls not gonna be yours, they're never gonna be yours

chance will come and you'll get them eventually, so you dun need to seek for them that much

thats what i believed, its kinda like a destiny XD!

 

Personally, I don't think that it's at all polite. Usually the only dolls that people are willing to part with are up in the Marketplace. If you don't see that person's doll there, then... it's a pretty good sign that they have no intention of selling their doll. In a way, I suppose that it could be a bit flattering--that someone loves your doll to the point of being very forward about purchasing it--but I think that the rudeness factor outweighs it.

That's my opinion, anyway. ^^;

 

I had someone PM me recently, asking what price I would take on a doll.
I wasn't that offended, because I'd already sold the doll, but...
I probably would have been if it was a doll I really loved. x.x

 

Lol....I get PM's all the time asking if I would like to sell a doll....it does not bother me in the slightest....I usually try to help out by heading them in the right direction.....you get nowhere in life without asking questions......

xen

 

I cannot imagine why someone would even ask for something that isn't for sale. I wouldn't be offended unles they outright said "sell me" or "give me".. People can be so dense, ne?

 

I think I would be somewhere between mortified and flattered...depends on how they worded it. If they were tactless and persistent I'd be offended...if they simply said something like 'I love your doll, if you ever sell it, please keep me in mind', I'd probably be flattered.

 

I actually had a total stranger ask me just today (not on this forum) if I had "given thought lately" to selling a particular doll of mine. I replied that I had "actually never given any thought at all" to selling her. I'm not offended, but I do find it a little odd that perfect strangers think they can jump to the front of the queue just by declaring their 'interest in purchasing' your doll.

 

I'm wondering do the folks who get PMed out of the blue about selling their dolls are the dolls rare/limited or do you have "an unusually large number" of dolls?

I just don't get why someone would think that an owner who has never posted their doll in a FS thread in the marketplace would be interested in selling their doll.

Morgan

 

I haven't read this entire thread, for obvious reasons (21 pages gah!) so sorry if what I say hasn't much reference to later posts, I'm mainly responding to the original question:

I think it is DISGUSTING to message someone and ask them to sell them your doll! I would be really offended, Saying that, I'm a total wimp and wouldn't tell them so in my response, I'd just sort of say thanks but no thanks and that's it. Even if you want that doll more than anything (Black Ducan...*sigh*) you still shouldn't do it, it is that other persons precious!

The reason why I feel so strongly is because I have this problem with my dog. She is a chihuahua and I like to take her out with me,and you would never believe the amount of people who ask me if I would sell her. I have had even had one man offer me his car for her! It just isn't funny, and it really upsets me. She is like a baby to me, I love her, and I don't understand why people think it's okay and acceptable. It isn't. But, I just have to give a half-hearted smile and act like no one has ever said it before and it's funny. It isn't.

Gah!

 

UGH! I cannot believe you'd tolerate that! I'd totally go off on any scumbag who tried to take my dog from me with a vengeance!!! No money in the world could take him from me. I totally realize some people feel that close to their dolls. I personally haven't in the past, but as I've redone my collection to reflect very personal characters, I may find myself becoming more attached than I used to be.

 

Yup! Even a million quid wouldnn't part me and my stinky little fou rlegged friend! Maybe a million and one...heheh

 

I was really Angry at one person who created a thread(In another forum) demanding me to sell my boy, Just because i insulted some people and was being abit of a elitist =.=

Whats more he was my first boy! Do you think i would sell my first dollfie? Of course not!
He/she was trying to recreate the flame war which i had to go through but backfired....People started flaming him/her back instead of me...

Seriously its my own choice if i want to keep or sell my boys not anyone else to deceide! (Except my parents i guess)

 

I had the weirdest thing going on lately...

I was on a daytrip to Amsterdam, and brought little Cookie with me.
Halfway though the day I got tired and thirsty, and decided to get some soda in the nearest establishment. It happened to be a ver 'high end' establisment, but I didn't care, just wanted a darn* soda.

As I was sipping my bubbly and stowing away my expensive cream cake I took Cookie from my purse and placed him on the table so he could see aroung a bit. The young woman of a coulpe (She in her way too early twenties and way too much Gucci going on, and he in his late 40's with way too much money going on) at the table next to me started wheeee-ing and squeeee-ing at the cute little dolly.

So this guy points at Cookie and says in broken English "Sweet doll", the girl starts tugging at his arm, making Shrek's-Puss-in-Boots eyes at him, so he says to her "Ok *sigh*" .
To my horror he flips out a checkbook at asks, without even looking at me, "How much..."

Imagine my face... .....................
"He is NOT for sale.... "

I packed my stuff and Cookie, got up from my seat... walked over to the counter and told the nice waitress that my (pointing at the couple) 'uncle over there' had kindly offered to pay my bill.

Then I ran...

 

I think a lot of people would get offened (from what I've seen in this thread) but if you word it correctly and don't mean any offense, it doesn't hurt to ask. You never know, maybe the owner is thinking of selling the doll anyways.

 

Yeah, but theres a distinct difference between simply asking and outright demanding. Some people have no tact.

 

Doesn't this depends on how you say things? You can compliment a doll for it's look and give great critique to the owner and just slip in a "and btw, if you ever even thinking of letting this little love boy go, I would so take care of him "

I have not done this, but I probably could do it cause it's my kind of humor and thing to say in a respectful way of saying "your doll is so awesome I would gladly have him as my own".

But just to say "I want to buy you doll for that and that amount of money" feels a little cold for me. I think it depends how you say it and in what intension you say it. But that is just me