Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

it's rude plain and smiple.

 

I'd take it as a compliment.
I remember going to a meet in Union Station, there were a few people that came up to us asking if they were for sale. A simple 'No' suffices, and there really is no harm in asking in my opinion. You never know unless you ask!

 

Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?
No. A thousand times no.
I had someone PM me once asking to buy my favorite Taeyang (male counterpart of Pullip) and that really annoyed me.
An old friend of mine once had a similar situation where a girl PMd her asking to buy her favorite doll and insinuated that she would give the doll more attention and love her more than my friend. She basically was saying she would be a better owner for the doll, which I thought was a really downright bitchy thing to imply.

Would you as an owner report the person, or have your own way of dealing with it?
I wouldn't report them. I told the person that my boy was not for sale and that I was very happy with him. Basically a flat out no w/ no room for argument.

 

I think this would be VERY rude. I could understand if someone PMed you asking where you got it or what it was called so they could find someone who WAS trying to sell it. If someone did PM me about buying a doll off me I'd politely tell them I was not and that it isn't usually acceptable for someone to PM about this. If they continued to hassle me THEN I'd report them.

 

It is rude. However, I feel that one may as easily ignore the email. I wouldn't respond to it, I would just ignore it.

 

No, it is not okay. Like many people in this thread, I've been on the receiving end of a few of those PMs and I found them uncomfortable, rude, and irritating (as you mentioned, it IS against the rules). However, I simply informed them that no, I did not intend to sell her or she'd be in the Marketplace, and that they were breaking the DoA rules by even asking. Then I suggested they go read the rules again. I stay polite, but if you want the doll that badly, check the Marketplace. Obviously, if the doll isn't up on a sales thread, it's highly unlikely the person is intending to sell. I've been lucky, and both times the people were polite, but I'm not sure what I would do if someone PMed me, then didn't take "no" as an answer, or got impolite. I think, in that case, I probably would report them to the mods.

 

Considering that I'd be one of those people who would never sell one of my dolls, I would be offended. >: I mean, I doubt the person would be trying to offend... So, I'd try to be kind with my reply.

..... I must say, ClockworkAngel, the mental image of the rich couple's reaction later on makes me giggle. XD Serves them right for thinking they can bribe you out of your poor doll like that! It's shocking that people could be so rude.

If I were irritated enough, if such a thing ever happened to me, I'd quote a ridiculous price and watch them stare at me like I was insane. XD Or, demand their first born child. That'd certainly get a funny look, too.

 

I've gotten a few pm's asking about my dolls, and I don't find it offensive at all, they were all very nice and polite about it. Now, if they had worded it like they would be a better owner than me, then yes I would be annoyed, very much. ClockworkAngel, that's so weird! Personally, if that happened to me I would say 3 grand and see how far it went, lol.

 

Well, at the meeting it happens that people try to buy our dolls XD! But then we told them well, they are about 600$...and they ran so fast XD! People think that dolls are toys so they would be about 30$ O.O!

 

I think if the person just saw the doll in a gallery thread or something and liked him/her so much that they PMed me asking if I was interested in selling, I'd take that as a sort of compliment. Obviously, if I said no and they pushed the issue, I'd find it very rude -but I don't think it's likely many people would do that.

 

This has happened to me, multiple times. I have an old classic car that my father and I spent years restoring, and I'm very proud of her. She's like my baby... but someone who just met me in a parking lot doesn't know that. I've had quite a few people say "Nice car! Would you be willing to sell?" And usually I just smile back and say "Thanks, but no. I put a lot of work into her." I've never had anyone press the issue after that.

Yes, just sending a PM out of the blue is rather rude... but many people are making the correlation to "That's like asking me to sell my child, they should know how attached I am to this doll". But not everyone in this hobby develops a deep emotional attachment... there are quite a few collectors who are just that - collectors. They buy the dolls because they think the dolls are pretty, and like to admire them. It's not like a family member to those people, and there's nothing wrong with that. To some, the dolls are just a lovely object and they might actually be willing to sell for a good price.

Though I would personally never offer to buy a doll unless it was in the marketplace... I wouldn't be offended with receiving a politely-worded PM, even multiple polite PMs (from different people of course... same person stalking after one "no" would be rude and annoying). I haven't had a problem or been annoyed with multiple offers for my car, even though I adore that car and would never sell her.

 

It kinda refelcts upon you as a person with no taste, class, or tact to ask someone out of the blue to buy one of there dolls. I don't like it.

 

I have no problem with this whatsoever. For some collectors, the dolls ARE NOT family members and sales will be part of the doll's future. Showing an interest in a doll can help a keeper compile a list of people to contact if/when they do decide to part with a doll. If someone isn't at all interested in potentially selling, they can just pm back a simple response of no, thanks for asking.

 

Eventhough I personally wouldn't pm someone out of the blue to ask about selling their doll, I wouldn't mind too much if someone pm'ed me about it. It's takes hardly any effort to reply with a "No thanks" or a "What's your offer?" if you're not very attached to it. Maybe I don't mind so much because I often sell things that way. I have a huge collection of figurines/manga/doujins I'm not that attached to but can't be arsed to make a FS for either. So if people pm me about if I wanna sell them...sure. Can't hurt to ask.

 

Personally I wouldn't ask anyone out of the blue if they want to sell their doll, but if someone PM'd me about potentially selling a doll I owned, I wouldn't be offended.

 

I really would not have a problem with it as long as they were not impolite or pushy. I would just take it as a compliment. You can always say no thank you

 

I think my initial reaction would be kind of angry, but after thinking about it I wouldn't mind so much. Now, if the people are rude (or send me a message like: "I like ur dol, u take 100 4 her?") I might be a little colder in my response, but I would still politely tell them "No."
If the person pushed about buying the doll however, for example, they kept sending me messages asking about the price for her or harassing me about buying her, I would definitely tell them off. :/ And, depending on where it was all happening, maybe tell a mod/report the person.

Overall, I definitely don't think it's right. And if you KNOW the doll is not for sale, it's pretty rude to ask! But if you just aren't familiar with the dolls, or the person, that's a slightly different story. ^__^ Ignorance isn't a crime! (And I don't mean that in the derogatory way)

 

I think it's extremely rude, honestly. I would never dream of PMing someone and being like, "Hey, if I give you a thousand bucks, would you part with your beloved precious doll that you treat like it's your child?"

If you really love a doll that much, find out which one it is and perhaps build one similar but that you can put your own spin on it and make it unique and your own? And if you don't want to put the effort in to characterize it, you shouldn't really deserve such a beautiful and elaborate doll. That sounds kinda harsh, but that's my two cents. People work hard to build their dolls into what they are.

 

I actually had a seller once press me to try to buy something of theirs. I kept telling them no thank you and I didn't have the money.

So far no one's asked to buy my boys. Thank heavens because I love all three of my boys. I think it's wrong to PM an owner about that. If you want to inquire as to possibly getting the doll if they decide to sell, I think that's wrong too. If someone wants to sell a doll it will be up in the marketplace. Either that or you'll find it on ebay. To some people, these dolls are family and children. I know for me they are like family. My mom calls them her grandchildren as does my grandmother. So if someone asked me to sell them I'd get mad because they aren't just dolls in this household.

 

hahaha, i think I would be really flattered, and would unfortunately have to tell them no, but if somewhere down the line I realized I need to sell the doll, I'll at least know someone who will love them. I don't know... I personally would NEVER PM someone asking them for their doll [but I am never a foward person], but I don't see it as a huge transgression. If they were rude, and pushy then I would have problems...but who would be stupid enough to be rude and pushy while trying to coax someone to sell a doll they never thought about selling??? >_>;