Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

i think it would be rather awkward. and also very impolite.
But somehow i think they should refrain themselves cause its would be really weird for the owner.

 

I personally think that it's kind of rude to pester someone like that. If the owner wants to sell their doll, then they'll post so. Although, I CAN understand how a person could view these questions as compliments!
Would it not be flattering if someone started putting ridiculous prices on your dollie?

 

Ack, I've actually had the dog thing happen to me O___O I had some guy offer me like 500 USD for my 6 mo. old German Shepherd puppy and I was like "Uh...he's priceless? (Go Away You Creep?)" XDD

So, I think I would probably feel a similar way if I got a message like that for one of my dolls. I think that's impolite, definitely.

 

Well, between other collector friends we offer and say no all the time. Now a stranger, I wouldnt do it because I think it is pretty rude. ~Gus

 

I think it can be really presumptuous and arrogant to go up to anyone, for any reason, and ask to buy something of theirs. I doubt people mean to be that way (because they'd know they wouldn't get what they wanted!), but it sure feels that way for me when I'm asked. I don't have a BJD (yet?!) but it's happened to me with jewelry (that I was wearing at the time), with CDs, with my mp3 player, and a ton with my pets on virtual pet sites.

But one thing that can be nice, if written well, is something along the lines of, "I adore your ___! It's just fantastic and gorgeous and I admire the time you've put into it. If you ever planned to sell it on, please think of me." Only with genders instead of "it"s, if it's a doll and you hope to impress the person. ;D It's the same question, at the core, but the way it's presented can make such a difference. Hardly a guarantee, though, heh.

 

Hm. Well, I wouldn't PM a person about buying their doll, since that just seems to me just rude and quite childish.

I have randomly found persons who have dolls that I plan to buy also and have started conversation so that I can ask them how they like their doll, or if they would or would not recommend where they had purchased it (Not limiteds, I have really no desire for the hunt of ltds.). I make sure that the conversation is not solely on this, only because that is quite rude to pester someone just for the sole purpose of asking about the purchase of the doll. Something sincere like “I love your doll, I plan on getting one myself soon. [*****] Molds sure are beautiful aren’t they? How long have you had yours?” Often times the person will come back with where they got them and their pleasure or frustration with the company at hand. It’s actually rather nice.

I like hearing about the dolls, obviously enough to buy one myself. If they want to talk about their good qualities, so do I. If they want to say how bad their arm sockets look, I'll listen to that too. If they have characters they want to talk about I like to hear that and share interests too. But if they don't reply I wouldn't persist it. It's just nice to know someone else's opinions and see if you can exchange knowledge or interests with them. I try to be friendly to everyone, I like having friends, and what better way to do so than by sharing an interest in obvious looks and/or companies and makes of dolls?

Though, I guess that's not truly the same as asking to sell a doll. I have a very common doll, but if someone wanted to buy him I'd have to refuse. I'd be crushed without my little guy. He's so precious to me. I wouldn't ask for anyone to do that. It just simply sounds cruel to expect that your bond is greater than the current possessor’s . However, on the flip-side, if it where to happen to me, I could deal with it with only a simple "Sorry, but I am not currently selling him." If it persisted I'd just ignore it. No reason to get up into a fit about it.

 

I have never gone out and directly said "hey...I will give you X amount of bucks for your doll" I think that is completely rude.
Although I HAVE said that that I would love to take a doll off someones hands if they ever considered selling her, AFTER we had talked for a while ( it was not a PM)... and guess what! The person I talked to did decide to sell her and I was was the first person she contacted, and now I have her on layaway.

I just think it all depends on how you do it. Use tact and anything works.

 

If you have an interest in someone else's doll, I think it's perfectly fine for people to PM the owners and ask about them. I love it when I get positive comments about my doll, whether it's over DeviantArt or here on DoA! It always makes me feel happy when someone compliments my doll, so to have a PM showing interest would really make my day.

Asking the owner to sell the doll however is a little excessive, and I feel it is definately crossing the line. I think it's really rude, like Padirac said, to just contact someone and say "I would give you X amount for that doll, please sell him/her to me!" because of the attatchment some people have towards them!
Personally however, I still think it's rude to ask or hint even if you phrase it politely.

 

I think that PMing an owner to ask if they would be willing to sell the doll is crossing the line. Owners have a very strong bond with their dolls, so how could you ask someone to sell something so important to them? However, PMing an owner to say that their doll is good looking would be okay in my opinion. I don't know of anyone who doesn't like hearing compliments about their dolls.

 

I think it is wrong if the dolls in question is really rare. Most of the rare dolls are bought by persons who have been saving and saving a lot of money to be able to buy that special doll, so why on Earth and in Heavens name, would they want to sell it!?
I actually think it's a bit rude, like you are some kind of merchants selling rare goods for the people who asks for it.

 

Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?
Would you as an owner report the person, or have your own way of dealing with it?

I would actually agree with the part where it's a matter of how they phrase it >.<
i would actually be very angry if they just quoted a price and ask me to sell it
MY BOY IS NOT AN ITEM TwT

 

Well, I wouldn't bite your head off, but it's a rather rude thing to ask... I don't think I would report someone for doing that unless they refused to take 'no' for an answer and asked multiple times, and, of course, if it is clearly in fun and not a real request I would simply be flattered.
As a general rule: don't ask people if they'll sell the doll. No one appreciates it.

 

I would never ask someone if I could buy there doll if it was not listed in the marketplace. I think it's pretty easy to recreate a doll that you like.

 

i don't think it's ok to ask the owner to sell a doll that they had no intention to sell. to me, i guess it's kinda rude and there is a reason why the owner is not selling that particular doll. if the owner wants to sell it, he/she would have posted in the marketplace^^

 

i suppose it depends, i might be very flattered if someone really wanted one of my dolls if i had done the face up and customizing myself. i would simply reply, thank you so much for your interest, i am very flattered but i am not interested in selling my doll at this time.
that being said, it would be very, very annoying if everyone here was constantly PMing each other soliciting sales of their dolls. that would be horrible. like those annoying phone calls that you are not interested in.

 

Yes, as Miss Ally says, it would remind me of cold-calling I actually had no idea that this happened, and I don't like the idea of it at all! I mean, if you want a particular mold, can't you just put up a WTB in the market-place and hope for a response to that...?

I've had people PM me asking questions about my particular doll, but general questions (eye-size, etc.), which I was very happy to answer. I think that's very different from asking to buy someone's doll! O_O;

 

I think there's a huge difference between a PM that says "Sell me your doll, I'll pay you this much"

and a PM that says "If you ever consider selling this doll in the future, please think of me"

I have no problem with the second version, and I really don't think a person who does that is being rude or disrespectful at all... I've had that asked to me before, and I'm always willing to keep that person in mind.

But I've also had people say "Hey, I want your doll, for this price"... and that usually illicits a "Hah, no" reaction from me.

 

I've had it happen. here and at a different forum, as well as at anime conventions O__o;; But I usually just 'smile' and deny the offer. Of course, if they keep up the harassment, I'd report them--but if it was a one time thing I'm usually pretty kind about it.

of course, I'm laughing mentally--or behind the computer screen. Because they're my kids, and it's just like selling a kid...to one you've bonded with greatly, at least.

Wrong both ways...offering money or saying 'keep me in mind'...though the latter isn't as bad.

 

Asking someone if they're selling something when it is not up for sale is above and beyond rude and shows an utter lack of manners.

The only case where this has happened to me is on an avatar site where other users have asked to buy pixelated items I'm not selling. Since it's only pixels I only get mildly annoyed by their lack of tact and usually block them.

However, if anyone were to ever ask something that I spent a lot of time and money to obtain, I would definitely report them if there was that option. In real life, I would probably give a mini-lecture on manners.

 

I think it would be very rude! Especially with dolls who are versions of original characters, because it would be like selling your character to someone else, and I couldn't even imagine doing that (although I know there are people who sell the rights to their characters, such as in the case of making movies). As others have said, if someone PMed me to compliment me on my dolls, or even to say "if you ever considered selling, I would love to be first in line!" would be okay, but asking if I will sell and putting a monetary amount on the doll would make me very angry. It's a matter of respect. In the case of compliments or "please consider me if you ever decide to sell", they're showing respect to you and your dolls. They're saying "I admire what you've put together and want you to know." In the case of "please sell to me for XX dollars", there is no respect involved. They're treating it like going to Walmart and picking up a Barbie, they show no respect for the effort you've put into the doll or how you feel about the doll.