Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

Ditto, wee little faerie girl, DITT-OH.

I've gotten dolls this way and I've received PMs like this. It doesn't bother me when people are polite, accept your "oh thank you but she's not for sale!" and leave you alone, etc.

 

I think it's quite strange to ask such a question when one has shown no sign of will to sell his doll, but as long at it is asked politely, one should refuse politely ^^.

 

I can understand why someone would ask, in a nice way, that if you were to ever put a certain doll up for sale... they would be interested... that seems like a subtle way of letting someone know you're interested...

I think outright asking is rude... I wouldn't go over to someone's house and ask to buy something they didn't have for sale... I would say "Oh, GREAT painting... where'd you get it, whose the artist?" and look into things myself...

Similarly... I would HOPE people were polite enough to inquire without harassing... but obviously, that's not always so...

 

I would consider it rather rude if someone asked me if I wanted to sell my doll to them. If the person really like the model of the doll, I would on the other hand gladly tell them where they could buy one of their own.
Im actually rather parted in this question I must admit. I think it's okay if the person politely asked if I ever had any intention or though of selling my doll. But to just ask straight out "Can I buy your doll?" sounds to me rather careless. As someone referred to before, it would be like a random person walking up to you in the park and asking if he/she could buy your dog.
If a person asked me politely one time, and accepted my refuse, I wouldn't take much notice, but if the person it acting rude, is nagging on me and so on and don't seem to be able to take no for an answer, it would really piss me off. I would get even angrier if the person offered me a price, like: "Can I buy you doll? I'll give you 800$" or something.
Well, all in all my own reaction would depend a lot on in what type of manner the person is asking and how he/she behaves.

 

I look at it like this, you wouldn't see someone at the grocery store and offer to buy the food they just put into their cart, or meet people at a stop light and ask to buy their car, so why would you pm someone who isn't selling a doll to beg them into selling it to you. If anything its more likly to make them refuse to sell it to you if they decide to sell that doll in the future.

 

I think that it IS pretty rude to do so. If the person loves the doll just from possibly seeing pictures of the doll online, then think about how the original owner would feel about him/her. I wouldn't like if someone wanted to buy my boy from me. I would be flattered, yes, but i wouldn't like the thought of someone else possessing my boy. I just makes me feel uncomfortable. So yes, it is rude. Don't do it.

 

If somebody PM'ed me and said i'll give you $15,000 for your ....... .... I would not be insulted, offended or think them rude... on the contrary I would seriously consider the offer even if it was one of my favourite dolls... I would say thanks i'll think about it...

 

*waits for your PM*

 

I dont thinks its rude if put correctly, in fact I would take it as a compliment - an equally polite refusal is all that is needed (I hope)

 

I dont think its rude on any way. Besides if the post says something like "I want your doll! I will offer ____". Then I find it rude. But I find it okay to PM about things like "I really like your doll. I would love to own a doll like that someday.. blahblah" things like that.

I dont know it's sorta a mixed feeling. BUt I dont mind if people PM me and say they love my dolls.. I would be happy to hear that.

 

haha that made me laugh out loud I second that, as much as I like mine that's a pm I wouldn't ignore

 

I used to think that it was okay to do so. Now I do think it is rude. I compare that to walking into someone's house and asking them if they would sell you their dog. You just don't do it you know. It is indeed easy to ignore, but you shouldn't have to read it, particularly if you have no intention of selling a doll. If it is a friend, and you are comfortable saying that kind of stuff, then sure. But I would be very very careful, I would just suggest that I am looking to buy that particular mold. ~Gus

 

I've actually had people do that to me with my dog! It's a byproduct of living in hunting territory with a (seen through her mama's eyes) truly gorgeous and well-behaved beagle. I said no to them, and couldn't decide if I was offended, flattered, or amused. I imagine I'd feel the same way about my dolls.

On the other hand, if the money were good, I think I'd sell any of them except for Irina. I know I can rather easily replace my pukis, and I'm planning on selling Liliane anyway. :p

 

I can totally see your point... but wouldn't it be such a pain to HAVE to replace ones when they could just buy it themselves? I dunno... I guess if you were gonna turn a profit... then the effort might be worth it to replace... You deffinitely made me think though!

 

Wow, these folks are way less introverted than I am - I just ask "Where'd you get (fill in the blank)?"

 

Well said...

OT: It's rude, tasteless and tacky. Like a lot of others have said, it's a little about how you put it: "I love your doll, if you ever think about selling..." is more okey than "I love your doll, I'll pay you $xxx."... but I think that both are kind of inappropriate. You just don't ask that kind of a question to someone who didn't ask for it. And that isn't just in the doll world, either. I wouldn't appreciate if someone came up to me and said "Hey, I like your t-shirt, I'll give you $xxx for it."

 

I would feel a bit flattered that someone took interest in my doll. But my answer would be a flat out no. lol. As someone said somewhere on here (i think) it would be a bit "tasteless" and "unoriginal" for someone to do so.

 

If I never said I was selling my dolls, it means that I have no intention of doing so.

 

I don't think it's appropriate to PM someone and say, "Hey, I want to buy your dolls!" It's rather rude and presumptive, and, to me at least, it gives the impression that the doll is just any old possession that someone might be willing to give up for any amount of money. Some people may be willing to sell a doll for X amount of money if the price is right, even if they didn't previously intend to sell the doll. But there are many more people who have an emotional investment in their dolls, and those people are highly unlikely to sell their dolls for any price. Sending them a PM and demanding to buy their doll would be pretty rude, and I think it would offend me. That's essentially telling me that my doll is just any piece of plastic that means nothing to me, and you deserve it more than I.

If I were, however, going to PM an owner about their doll, I would rather ask them about the mold, who did the faceup, etc. and where I could get it done myself on my own cost. However, if I REALLY wanted that particular doll, it would be more tactful to mention to the owner that the doll is very beautiful and you'd like to be considered should the owner ever intend on selling it in the future. I still think that's rather presumptive, but it's more tactful than saying, "HAY I WANT UR DOLL HERE'S SOME MONEY!!"

So I'd say, no, it's not really "okay" to PM an owner about selling their doll.