Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

I am a new BJD owner so I haven't encounted this but I have in the blythe-world. I don't mind if someone pms and just tells me to consider them if I should ever sell a doll. I even did this to someone on TIB who had a blythe I loved...and about 6 months later got a pm asking if I still wanted her..... (The doll is now in my dollie family..) I think wording things the proper way makes a huge difference.

 

Well, I think it's kinda rude that a person would just PM asking for a doll that is special to you, and that you put so much time and money into. I don't see why someone would send a message like that, and you had no plans what-so-ever on selling your doll.

Now, I wouldn't report a person just because they asked could they buy my doll. I would try to handle the situation myself, but if it was a person who repeatedly begged to buy my doll, I think i would then have to take my actions a bit further.

 

I have to agree with you Stacy, while I think it's rude to ask. I certainly don't think it's something worth reporting someone over. There are far too many other things that are more serious and worth reporting than weather or not someone want's to buy my doll.

Christal

 

For me, if someone politely said "I really like your doll, if at some point you ever wanted to sell, please think of me" I wouldn't be upset, to me, it sounds like they're saying they'd be honored to own a doll that lovely. I'd respond to that with "I'm not planning on selling any time soon, but if I ever decide to, it's good to know there are takers ^^" Meanwhile, if someone came up and said "I like your doll, and I will pay you $X for it" I probably wouldn't get too angry, but I wouldn't be so polite, and I'd probably respond with "Make it $15,000, and it's yours." If they kept pestering me about it either way however, I'd report them, it's harassment, and downright annoying.

And kind of OT, it's rather frustrating to see these "It's just a doll, lighten up people!" comments. Yeah, there are some on one end of the spectrum who are simply in the hobby to collect pretty dolls, and then there are those on the opposite end who put their heart and soul in their dolls, and to them, it really is like asking to buy their babies, and then there's the broad range in between. I wish people wouldn't dismiss others' feelings just because they aren't their own ;_;

 

Honestly I'd be totally flattered if someone said "I'd love to give your___ a good home if you ever want to sell" I think that'd be so peachy that someone liked my doll enough to want to buy it! (Of course, as has been repeatedly stated, it'd have to be a nice offer- not some "Hey, I'll give you X amount for your___")

Coming from the other perspective though, I actually had noticed a doll in the gallery that I thought was really adorable. I pmed the owner saying "Can you tell me more about X because I saw that you had one in the gallery and I thought he was gorgeous!"
That was it- no offer to buy or anything- I just wanted to know more about the sculpt so that I might be able to see if I could get one.

three weeks or so later, she actually pmed me back again saying that she was thinking of selling him (now a her) and would I be interested. (Sadly, I had to buy stupid textbooks) But I was so thrilled and happy that she thought of me!

So my point is that you can express your admiration of a doll without making the owner feel like you have to have theirs- that's not okay and it's borderline harrassment. I got really lucky that the owner had decided on her own that she wanted to sell hers, as it were I'd only been expecting to hunt around ebay for the sculpt and see what would happen.

 

I am completely fine with someone asking me. I'd nicely state "no" and go about my way. I don't find it rude unless I'm told "Give me your doll, I'll give you 50 bucks"

Otherwise, just ignore, but that's just my opinion.

 

hi I've heard positive stories of people leaving notes at houses they love and saying if you ever decide to sell pls contact me first (positive because they actually did get the house)... I think it's okay for someone to tell you they admire your doll and to pls keep your name if you ever want or need to sell; but I also think those people should be prepared to pay well if they are ever contacted. it is advantageous for both parties if you as a seller have a database of interested people to contact if you need money for another doll or whatever. and the people that get contacted may get a nice surprise that day when the seller gets with them!

 

I think to comment on a doll in PM means someone really fall in love that doll and want to tell the owner, but PM about wanting to buy that doll is very rude, well that's my opinion.

 

If I were in a forum that wasn't DoA and had no rule against it, I think I would just ignore it.

I've had ruder, more tasteless PMs.

 

Absolutley not - not even if they were polite. I don't really post pictures of Ces anyway, but I'd just be downright annoyed if someone did this. If he was for sale, he'd be in the market place. Just seems very rude, you know?

 

I would have no problem with someone asking to buy one of my dolls- but more than once would be annoying. Though I belive it would be more constructive for the interested party to ask the owner how they went about getting their doll and where they got them rather than asking the owner if they are considering selling their doll-which can turn owners a bit hostal.

 

Ok this has actually happened to me. I had received an event head along with a doll I bought at Christmas and I had said openly that I was not keen on it and I wasn't sure what to do with it.
A girl PM'ed me saying that if I should decide to sell it she would like to buy it from me. Sadly I had already promised it to another buyer (who totally backed out at the last second ) and I didn't reply back (I feel terribly guilty about not replying but I was very busy and it slipped my mind).
I wasn't at all offended, in fact I was relieved that there was interest in the head.
As long as the person making the inquiry is polite and doesn't just assume your going to sell them something really cheap then I'm happy.

I think though I'd be more suspicious if they had PM'ed me asking after a doll that I really clearly didn't want to sell, but as long as they didn't keep bugging me about it I'd take it as a compliment and move on.

 

I don't think it's okay to bother an owner with such questions, but I would take a risk anyway! I would rather have someone I don't even know annoyed with me than lost a chance to buy my dream doll. But the situation HAD TO BE like Kuroraka-chan's -- I would only pm an owner, if I saw her/him mentioning that she/he is not all that keen on the doll. Also, I would ONLY pm an owner if I can offer a good price-- after all, I have in mind sold out limited dolls, so I assume I have to offer more than the doll's original cost (if the doll is not damaged) or at least the exact, or any other limited doll for trade. Actually, once I've pmed on owner, but the situation was slightly different-- the doll was in marketplace, but for trade. I didn't have the looking for doll, so I only could offer the money. I don't think the owner was annoyed with me, even though she didn't agree to sell the doll

 

There are some dolls I really, really like - and I would be happy if I could let their owners know that if they ever feel like parting with them, I'll be very willing... but no, I don't think it's a good idea all in all. It shouldn't be 'okay'. Never. Because imagine how many pms like that someone with a very popular doll would get! And not everyone is able to word their questions politely. And not everyone has an idea about prices. "Are you going to sell him? When are you going to sell him? I'll give you five hundred dollars for it, I think it's quite enough for a doll!" Ouch

 

Juxian, if someone can't word their question politely or has no idea about dolls and their prices... well, personally I wouldn't bother answering such questions. I can't really see your point here. Some people will be rude even when you sell your doll-- saying "I'll give you five hundred dollars for it, I think it's quite enough for a doll!". Does this mean that people should never dare to ask if it's possible to lower the price a little? I hope not, beause thanks to someone "not being too polite", I managed to sell my doll much faster!

 

That is not okay! I've had people PM me about dolls to say that they think my girls are pretty, and that is kind of sweet. But I would not like it /at all/ if I got a PM asking if I wanted to sell my dolls.

If I wanted to sell her- I would make a thread in the marketplace....

 

I'd like to share something quick because I've notcied it happening ALOT lately, I'll see a doll that is perfect on the forum one that Is completely out of reach and I have the money available to get it but it is someone else's. so instead I take my money and buy a bunch of clothes/props/wigs then right after doing that (or so it seems) a little bit down the line I see that same doll up in the marketplace....*dies inside*

and think oh no if only I knew! I have recieved pm's where someone says that they liked my doll if if I ever wanted to rehome please let them know, I have no problem with this because I been on the other side of the fence. I could understand it being wrong if the buyer demanded that you sell or if they were rude, but someone politely saying "please think of me if you ever decide to sell" is harmless.

 

i don't think this would be so wrong. it all depends from the way the person asks. it could be considered a compliment, an offer, or just a comment.
of course if someone PMd me in txt-tlk telling me how my doll is "kawaii" and if i want to sell her, i would get slightly annoyed... enought for the person who pmd me to get a very, very insulting answer.

 

Very Rude. I dont think thats polite at all.

 

as was iterated above, i believe the approach makes all the difference. on other non-BJD boards i frequent i have been approached with the same question and the ones that get me boiling are the individuals who feel that 'anyone can be bought' so they'll drop a terse, often rude, message and dollar amount.

when you're talking about something that you cherrish deeply, to have someone approach you flippantly in that way is pretty insulting.